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These thoughts on their Benedictine spirituality will help you prepare for a retreat. - [My Best Boston Marathon](https://www.soulshepherding.org/best-boston-marathon/) - Yesterday we saw images of last year's Boston marathon bombing. Next Monday we'll be praying for the safety of the runners and supporters at the 2014 Boston marathon. Two years ago I fulfilled a lifelong dream by qualifying for and completing the Boston Marathon, cheered on by Kristi. So you can see why we'd have a special - [Sabbath as Praying and Playing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sabbath-as-praying-and-playing/) - Eugene Peterson has been a spiritual mentor to me through his writings. Years ago in his book Working the Angles: the Shape of Pastoral Integrity I came across his penetrating words to pastors about Sabbath. I was convicted. Despite being a Christian leader for two decades I was not keeping a sabbath, other than going to - [Forgive and Be Set Free!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/forgive-and-be-set-free/) - “Forgive and forget,” some say. “Just let it go to God and move on,” urge others. Often it’s not that easy. Maybe you grew up in a family in which it wasn’t okay to express anger. Or the pain and violation seem too great. Or you’re not sure how to forgive. Read on and you’ll - [Spiritual Direction or Coaching? Choosing What’s Best For You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-direction-or-coaching-choosing-whats-best-for-you/) - Would meeting for spiritual direction or coaching better match your current needs and goals? What’s best for you in this season of your life in Christ? Coaches and spiritual directors are both trained to provide listening and guidance that can support your journey with Jesus. But depending on your specific goals, one approach may be - [Enjoy the Hospitality of the Trinity (with Rublev's Icon)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/enjoy-the-hospitality-of-the-trinity-with-rublevs-icon/) - Welcome to the embrace of the Trinity! I invite you to enjoy with me this beautiful ancient painting by Rublev and experience the hospitality of the Trinity. Let's enjoy the love of the Father, Son, and Spirit. Let's open our hearts to the Lord as we meditate on Rublev's icon... Yes, Lord, I want to - [With Jesus in the Storm: Rembrandt's Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/with-jesus-in-the-storm-on-the-sea-of-galilee-a-meditation-on-rembrandts-painting/) - Rembrandt’s famous painting helps us find our way into Jesus', "Peace! Be still." - [Jesus' Humility: The Beauty of Holiness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-humility-beauty-holiness/) - Recently Kristi and I were walking through a grove of ancient cedar trees in Montana. I stood next to this GIANT tree. Wow! For hundreds of years it's been stretching higher and higher into the heavens! I felt so small next to this huge and magnificent creation of God and yet at the same time - [Bible Verses to Run (or Walk) with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-to-run-with-jesus/) - One of the great movie clips of all time is the scene of Eric Liddle running his 1924 Olympic race in Chariots of Fire. He wins the gold medal, finishing way ahead of everyone else. As he runs he's clutching a piece of paper with a message from the Bible, looking up into the heavens, and laughing - [Breath Prayers From the Bible](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breath-prayers-from-the-bible/) - It's a blessing to meditate on beloved Bible verses as short Breath Prayers. Here are some examples that will help you experience God's peace and power. - [Chew your Cud on God's Word](https://www.soulshepherding.org/chew-your-cud-on-gods-word/) - To meditate on God's Word is to be like a cow chewing it's cud. As it lays in the field and as it stands or walks about it chews its cud. The cow savors the grass in its mouth before filling its stomach. Then it sits down in the meadow and quietly regurgitates it, re-working it - [Four Degrees of Love (Bernard of Clairvaux)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bernard-of-clairvauxs-four-degrees-of-love/) - "Love is the fountain of life, and the soul which does not drink from it cannot be called alive." These are the ancient words of Bernard of Clairvaux (1090 - 1153), a great lover of God and considered the last of the Church Fathers. Bernard was Cistercian monk and followed very strict disciplines. He chose to - [Life Without Lack: Dallas Willard’s Psalm 23 Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/life-without-lack-dallas-willards-psalm-23-prayer/) - We can live in the fullness of life in the presence of the risen Christ today — that’s the invitation of the Shepherd Psalm. But it begins with an audacious claim: “The Lord is my shepherd, he gives me life without lack.” Life without lack? You might question that. My life is full of lack - [Inner Healing Prayer with Psalm 46](https://www.soulshepherding.org/inne-healing-prayer-with-psalm-46/) - The "river that makes glad the city of God" flows here! - [John Wesley's Prayer of Consecration](https://www.soulshepherding.org/john-wesleys-prayer-consecration/) - One of the most helpful things I have done in life over the years is to take heart from the devotion of the great ones for Jesus. I found it to be true in my personal life and as a psychologist in my observations of people that living as a disciple of Jesus solves all - [Praying for Clarity From God?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/praying-clarity-god/) - I had a conversation a number of years ago with my good friend Bucky Dennis. We were taking a prayer walk together and I was wrestling with a decision; I was anxious about choosing the "right" path. Bucky listened with great compassion and when I ran out of words he told me a story he'd - [Psalm 23 Pictures to Pray](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-23-pictures-to-pray/) - This retreat we've led features pictures and paraphrases to help you follow Jesus. - [Psalm Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-prayers/) - I pray Psalms with Jesus -- not because I'm good at prayer, but because I'm learning to pray! These Psalm Prayers will encourage you! - [Why Sin is So Attractive](https://www.soulshepherding.org/why-sin-is-so-attractive/) - Bill Gaultiere's Notes from Dallas Willard’s Talk These are my notes from the talk that Dallas Willard gave at the Institute for Spiritual Formation at Talbot Seminary, Biola University, on September 27th, 2011. As best I can I have used Dallas’ wording, but this is not a transcript---some of what Dallas said I didn’t write - [The Jesus Prayer: The Anonymous Pilgrim's Story](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-jesus-prayer-the-anonymous-pilgrims-story/) - Do you know the story of the Anonymous Russian Pilgrim? It's a heart-warming and unforgettable story of how God brought healing and transformation to a lonely, depressed man. Through this simple man God changed the world! I have discovered that what was true for the Anonymous Pilgrim and so many others has been true for - [The Great Omission: Introduction and Quotes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-great-omission/) - Introduction If you've never read a book by Dallas Willard The Great Omission is a good place to start. The Great Omission refers to the fact that in most Christian circles we don't train people to do everything that Jesus taught even though it's at the center of Jesus' Great Comission for us as his followers. I - [Solitude and Silence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/solitude-and-silence/) - In our Soul Shepherding ministry to pastors, leaders, and other servants of the Lord we put high priority on practicing solitude and silence. Each day of our training in Soul Shepherding retreats, features extended solitude and silence, balanced with times of learning and sharing in community. Dallas Willard says that practicing solitude with silence are - [How God Can Help with Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/calm-your-anxious-mind/) - “Don’t worry. Be happy!” It’s not that easy! I know. I used to be plagued with anxiety and I've been helping anxious people since 1987. If so then even at night maybe you can’t seem to slow down and relax. Your mind just won’t let you rest. Why did I say that to him? …What - [Bible Verses on Perfectionism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-on-perfectionism/) - Are there Bible verses on perfectionism? What does Scripture teach us about the problem of perfectionism? Over the years I've talked with many people who struggle with perfectionism. I myself have had problems with it. In my own life and as I have helped other in psychotherapy and spiritual mentoring I have found that God's Word - [God Loves Like a Hurricane?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-loves-like-hurricane/) - Kristi and I have been praying for people who were impacted by the hurricanes. In church this week we sang: "He loves like a hurricane. I am a tree bending beneath the waves and winds of his mercy." (From "How He Loves" by John Mark McMillan) Is this true? Is this good to sing? It - [Top 50+ Christian Devotional Books: Reading Classic Devotionals](https://www.soulshepherding.org/reading-classic-devotional-books/) - Reading classic devotional books can renew your intimacy with Jesus. Here's how this discipline works and a list of recommended old books. - [When You Feel a Lack of Joy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/when-feel-lack-joy/) - We all want to experience more joy in life. Jesus prays this for us, asking the Father for us to have the fullness of his joy (John 15:11, 17:13). Fullness of joy! His joy! That's a lot of joy! What can we do if we're experiencing a lack of joy? How do we experience a - [Transforming Your Heart (Spirit or Will)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/transformation-heart-spirit-will/) - This is an updated version of a Bible study I did in 2006 on the role of the heart/spirit/will in spiritual formation in Christ. It is inspired by Dallas Willard's book, Renovation of the Heart. This article on the heart is part of a series from my class for counselors on "How People Change." (See my - [The Jesus Burn: a Blessed Experience of God's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-jesus-burn-a-blessed-experience-of-gods-presence/) - Many people write to me asking for help understanding their experience of the Jesus burn. I too feel this at times. Have you experienced the “Jesus burn”? Do you know what it’s like to feel God's presence in your body? Perhaps your heart has been warmed by God’s peace. Or on the back of your - [Relaxed](https://www.soulshepherding.org/relaxed/) - One day I was having lunch with Dallas Willard and he asked me, “If you had one word to describe Jesus what would it be?” How would you answer that question? If you could only use one word to describe Jesus what would it be? Words for Jesus started running through my mind and out my mouth: Love… Compassion… Holy… - [Praying the Psalms Morning, Noon, and Night Every Two Months](https://www.soulshepherding.org/praying-the-psalms-morning-noon-and-night-in-two-months/) - Many people have said they'd like to pray the Psalms in the way that I have been doing. I pray through all 150 Psalms in the Psalter every two months in sequence, starting with odd number months (January, March, etc.). This way I pray each Psalm at least six times a year (sometimes in addition - [One Anothers in Scripture](https://www.soulshepherding.org/one-anothers-in-scripture/) - There are 56 One Anothers in the New Testament of the Bible. Each expresses a different aspect of Jesus' command to "love one another." They especially refer to how believers in the Body of Christ are to treat one another, but they also can be applied to other people under the second half of Jesus' - [Jesus' Way of Submission](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-way-of-submission/) - Perhaps the most astonishing aspect of Jesus’ life on earth is that as the Son of God, and our Lord and Savior, he lived his life on earth by the discipline of submission. The King came to serve! How could we do anything less? But "submission" feels like a degrading word to many people. It's much - [Jesus’ Ministry As the Wonderful Counselor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-ministry-as-the-wonderful-counselor/) - As a Christian psychologist it’s been important for me to look to the Lord Jesus Christ as the perfect psychologist. I look to him as my counselor. I study him and his ways to learn how to be a better counselor. I rely on his Spirit present in my counseling office as I care for - [Immanuel Journaling Worksheet](https://www.soulshepherding.org/immanuel-journaling-worksheet/) - Have you heard of “Immanuel Journaling”? It’s spreading like wildfire across America and beyond! Kristi and I have found it to be a wonderful and powerful way to foster a greater awareness of God’s care. It’s a helpful tool for praying through your stress, hurt, intercessions, or whatever you’re experiencing, and appreciating God’s empathy and - [Identity in Christ Verses in the Bible](https://www.soulshepherding.org/identity-in-christ-verses-in-the-bible/) - Your fingerprint is unique to you -- it's a physical mark of your identity. What about your personal identity? What defines who you are? Imagine if the cross of Jesus Christ was the most dominant marking of your self-image? You'd know that you are so loved! You'd be so stable and confident! You'd be enthusiastically - [Hearing God's Voice: 12 Ways to Hear and Discern God's Voice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/methods-for-hearing-gods-voice/) - It seems like everyday I talk with someone who needs to hear God's voice. "How do I help my family in this situation?" people ask. Students and others in career transition pray, "Lord, are you calling me into ministry?" In the course of our lives we need to make choices about marriage, job, where to - [Giving Thanks in Trials](https://www.soulshepherding.org/giving-thanks-trials/) - Our Prince of Peace told us to expect troubles and to “take heart” from him and how he dealt with them (Matthew 9:22; Mark 6:50; John 16:33). The Apostles in their many persecutions and sufferings encouraged us to follow the Lord’s example: Paul taught, “Give thanks in all circumstances for this is God's will for - [Brother Lawrence Writings (His Story)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/brother-lawrence-writings-story/) - The heart of the Brother Lawrence writings, his letters and conversations, is his personal story of practicing God's presence. Here are a few of the best excerpts from "Practicing His Presence." - [Bible Verses on Food and Fitness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-on-food-and-fitness/) - Many people today are interested in food and fitness. In America are diets are very unhealthy and our lifestyles are overly sedentary. More and more people are overweight, out of shape, and in poor health, physically and emotionally (the two are connected!). Consider these key Bible verses on food and fitness. I developed this for - [Bible Study and Quotes on "Hearing God" by Dallas Willard](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-study-and-quotes-on-hearing-god-by-dallas-willard/) - Soul Shepherding helps pastors and leaders discern God's guidance is. This Bible study with quotes from "Hearing God" by Dallas Willard is a great resource. - [Be Angry and Sin Not](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-angry-and-sin-not/) - It's a common teaching in Christian circles today to advice people to go ahead and be angry. Be angry and sin not, we say, quoting Ephesians 4:26. This is a big mistake. Be Angry and Sin Not What does the Bible mean with these words? Paul is not exhorting us to get angry, as if this - [A Love Letter to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-love-letter-to-jesus/) - Just before Valentine's Day my heart was wonderfully warmed and filled with love for Jesus as I was reading one of my favorite Classics of Christian Devotion, The Imitation of Christ by Thomas a Kempis. I was inspired to compose a Love Letter to Jesus by paraphrasing some of his words on "Familiar Converse with Jesus." I share - [Interpreting Your Dreams: A Biblical Christian Approach](https://www.soulshepherding.org/interpreting-your-dreams/) - You’re not alone if you wake up after a dream and wonder, What was that about? Many Christians search for answers after having a vivid or confusing dream. You may be wondering what your dream meant, whether God was trying to tell you something, or how to know if a dream is from God or - [Count Your Blessings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/count-your-blessings/) - This meditation on a famous hymn will surprise and delight you! - [Breath Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breath-prayers/) - I teach Breath Prayer as a way to meditate on a beloved Bible verse while slowly breathing in and out. It's delightful and powerful! Like me, probably your mind wanders sometimes when you pray. Breathing a prayer to God is a simple way of using your body to engage your mind on the Word of - [Bible Verses on Solitude and Silence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-on-solitude-and-silence/) - Solitude is one of the most important disciplines for the spiritual life, especially for pastors and leaders who need help unhooking from ministry stress to experience God restoring their souls. There are many Bible verses on solitude to guide us in this practice. Kristi and I regularly practice solitude and silence and we encourage pastors, - [Contemplating God in the Beauty of Nature](https://www.soulshepherding.org/contemplating-god-beauty-nature/) - A primary way God nourishes our souls with his loving presence is through the beauty of nature. The face of the Lord shines on us in the sun. The moon and stars remind us that God's light and love shine to us even in the dark. The Lord is speaking to us and warming us - [Dallas Willard's Definitions and Quotes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willards-definitions/) - Dallas Willard is famous for his definitions of the way things are in reality, especially pertaining to our life in Christ. Listening to Dallas talk it seems he has a definition for everything! Quotes from Dallas Willard abound in sermons, books, and on the Internet. For my own study I decided to gather what I felt were the - [Jesus' Solitude and Silence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-solitude-and-silence/) - Many Bible students miss the importance of Jesus' solitude and silence. Every pastor, ministry leader, and caregiver -- any disciple of Jesus! -- needs to learn from Jesus' example of intimacy with God. I don't want to miss this! So I went back to the Gospel of Mark and did a Bible study on Jesus' - [Jesus' Way of Dealing with Anger](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-way-of-dealing-with-anger/) - What do we learn from Jesus about anger in the Bible? Jesus' way of dealing with anger is quite different than what we think today. If we learn to deal with anger in the way that Jesus taught and modeled we’ll find that we're living more and more in God’s peace. The way of Christ - [Women as Pastors, Elders, and Leaders in Bible-Based Churches](https://www.soulshepherding.org/women-pastors-elders-leaders-bible-based-christian-churches/) - My hope in this article is to show the Biblical support for women to serve as pastors, elders, and other church or ministry leaders (whether professional or lay) and that qualified women will be given more opportunities for Christian leadership. - ["Fear Not!" 365 Days a Year](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-not-365-days-a-year/) - How many "Fear nots" are in the Bible? More than 365! Everyday we need to be reminded to "Fear not" and trust the goodness of God to us in Jesus Christ. - [A-B-I-D-E: The Experience of Knowing Christ Today](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-b-i-d-e-the-experience-of-knowing-christ-today/) - What does it really mean to know Christ today? Knowing Christ is not mere head knowledge about the Bible and Christian doctrine. Nor is it just having emotions. To know the Lord Jesus Christ certainly includes intelligent thinking and having feelings, but it is primarily a spiritual experience with the reality of the living God. - [Biblical Blunders that Bruise and Confuse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/biblical-blunders-bruise-confuse/) - In my thirty years of ministry as a Christian psychologist I have talked to many people who have been spiritually harmed by their family or church community. Most commonly, they picked up a toxic faith with crazy Christian beliefs that were damaging to their relationship with God and their life. Others were abused by a - [A Sabbatical Guide For Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sabbatical-guide-pastors/) - Soul Shepherding’s Sabbatical Guide for Pastors has been downloaded over 30,000 times so far. We (Drs. Bill and Kristi Gaultiere) are thankful that pastors, leaders, and missionaries like you have found this resource helpful and then shared it with your church staff or ministry colleagues. At Soul Shepherding, we provide Sabbatical coaching to pastors from - [The Love Prayer of Jesus — This Will Ignite Your Heart!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-prayer-jesus-will-ignite-heart/) - Our greatest need is to be connected in loving relationships, but often we experience disconnects with people we were counting on. Rejection. Anger. Judgment. Being overlooked. These are examples of relational ruptures that hurt our heart and misshape our soul — especially in childhood. Increasingly as we grow up we contribute to the damage. (Relationships - [Fear Not in the Bible: 31 Days to Freedom from Fear](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-not-31-days-to-freedom-from-fear/) - If you train with Jesus to "Fear not" for 31 days then you will grow in his peace for 356 days a year! - [I was Lonely at Church](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-was-lonely-at-church/) - I know what it’s like to feel lonely. The worst thing is to be in a group of people and feel alone. I used to feel this way at church, especially out on the plaza after the service. I was lost in the middle of a sea of people. I'd see other people enjoying conversation, - [Secure and Insecure Attachment Styles](https://www.soulshepherding.org/secure-insecure-attachment-styles/) - We love the picture of Mary, Joseph, and baby Jesus absorbed in a flood of divine love. Here in the Holy Family God is showing us an example of the secure attachment that we all need. Jesus Christ lived a perfect life of love for God and people, died on the cross for us, and - [Jesus' Rhythm of Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-rhythm-of-life/) - Excerpted from Your Best Life In Jesus' Easy Yoke by Bill Gaultiere (updated edition in 2016). Jesus lived in a particular rhythm of life that was essential to his well-being, his own faith-life, and his ministry to others. He had a way of life with his Father, his holiness, and wholeness. As a human being he - [Submission to God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/submission-to-god/) - "Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand that he may lift you up in due time" (1 Peter 5:6). I consider submission to God a discipline of abstinence because its about denying ourselves the power or privilege we want. We're choosing not to make things happen for ourselves, not to control people or situations even - [Growing through a Dark Night of the Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/growing-through-a-dark-night-of-the-soul/) - The Dark Night of the Soul is one of the most important subjects that I teach to pastors, seminary students, and others. Very few Christians understand it or how to deal with the experience when they have it. Have you gone through a period of spiritual dryness or darkness when God seemed far away, no - [LIFE in CHRIST: Questions on Developmental Stages](https://www.soulshepherding.org/life-in-christ-questions-on-developmental-stages/) - This questionnaire assesses your spiritual and psychological journey using the LIFE in CHRIST developmental stages we teach on our TLC retreats for pastors. - [Mapping Your Spiritual Journey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/mapping-your-spiritual-journey/) - These right-brained approaches to understanding your spiritual journey are refreshing and helpful aids to Christian formation and spiritual direction. - [Jesus is Enough for Me!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-is-enough-for-me/) - “Jesus is enough for me!” Do you believe this? Probably you would say that you do. When you list out your life priorities I can imagine that you write “Love God” or “Follow Jesus Christ” at the top of your list. My question for you is: Have you organized your whole life around being devoted to - [The Lord is My Shepherd All Through the Bible](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walk-with-good-shepherd-through-the-bible/) - I lead a retreat called "A Walk with Good Shepherd." I developed this in 2004 and have used it many times since then, most recently with a group at the Prince of Peace Abbey. You can use this handout to guide you in a time of Scripture meditation and prayer for a personal retreat or - [Praying the Psalms](https://www.soulshepherding.org/praying-the-psalms/) - It used to be that praying the Psalms was something all Christians did every day. They did this privately and in church. Everyone learned to pray from the Psalms and in the process came to understand "the anatomy of the soul," as John Calvin called it. But Praying the Psalms is a lost discipline today. Rarely is - [The Wounded Healer as a Spiritual Guide (Henri Nouwen)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/wounded-healer-spiritual-guide-henri-nouwen/) - Henri Nouwen in his book The Wounded Healer laments that most Christian leaders are not prepared to be spiritual leaders for hurting people. "Our service will not be perceived as authentic," Nouwen warns, "unless it comes from a heart wounded by the suffering about which we speak. Thus, nothing can be written about ministry without a deeper understanding of - [Grow in Grace and Power for Daily Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/grow-in-grace-and-power-for-daily-life/) - Ask most Bible students what God's grace is and they'll answer, "undeserved favor." Indeed, the Bible teaches that despite our sinfulness (rejecting God's love and rule and failing to love people as God loves us), because of Christ's death we are forgiven and have a credit of righteousness on our account before God. We are now - [Unfair Expectations on the Pastor's Wife (Ministry Stress Statistics)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-pastors-wife/) - Perhaps the most unsung person in a church is the pastor's wife. Hers is a very difficult and stressful role. (When the pastor is a woman the same could be said for the pastor's husband, but this article focuses on the wives of male pastors.) Unfair Expectations on the Pastor's Wife So much is expected - [Ministry Begins With Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/ministry-begins-with-rest/) - We've been providing care, counsel, and prayer to pastors and other servants of Christ for a number of years. One of the most important things we do is help them to rest in God. Every pastor and ministry leader I (Bill) know -- starting with the one that looks back at me in the mirror! -- - [Bible Verses About the Father's Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-about-the-fathers-love/) - Imagine what your life would be like if you completely trusted God as your loving Father—these Bible verses on the Father's love will help! Jesus showed us that the Almighty God is our Abba Father! Our dear Papa! (Mark 14:36). The Holy Spirit lives in the heart of all of us who follow Jesus. The Spirit - [Statio: Pausing to Be Prayerful](https://www.soulshepherding.org/statio-pausing-to-be-prayerful/) - Your life is made up of moments to be enjoyed — moments of relating with people, working, doing ordinary activities, playing, and praying. Yet it’s easy to miss the blessings in the moments of our daily lives. Often we’re trying to do too much, rushing through the day, worried, distracted, and absorbing conflict. In fact, - [Transforming Your Social Dimension](https://www.soulshepherding.org/transforming-social-dimension/) - This is an updated version of a Bible study I did in 2006 on the role of the social part of the human being in spiritual formation in Christ. It is inspired by Dallas Willard's book, Renovation of the Heart. This article on our social connections is part of a series from my class for counselors on - [Transforming Your Body](https://www.soulshepherding.org/transforming-body/) - This is an updated version of a Bible study I did in 2006 on the role of the body in spiritual formation in Christ. It is inspired by Dallas Willard's book, Renovation of the Heart. This article on the body is part of a series from my class for counselors on "How People Change." (See my - [Transforming Your Feelings and Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/transforming-feelings-emotions/) - This is an updated version of a Bible study I did in 2006 on the role of feelings/emotions in spiritual formation in Christ. It is inspired by Dallas Willard's book, Renovation of the Heart. This article on feelings is part of a series from my class for counselors on "How People Change." (See my other articles - [Transforming Your Mind (Thoughts)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/transforming-mind-thoughts/) - This is an updated version of a Bible study I did in 2006 on the role of the mind (thoughts) in spiritual formation in Christ. It is inspired by Dallas Willard's book, Renovation of the Heart. This article on the mind (thoughts) is part of a series from my class for counselors on "How People Change." - [What is the Soul? Bible Verses to Care for Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-is-the-soul/) - "What is the soul?" I get asked this question a lot. It's hard for most people to describe the soul. Your soul can't be seen on an MRI, biopsied in surgery, or proved to exist in traditional scientific experiments. But over a century ago a doctor did an experiment claiming he had weight a patient's - [Experiencing the Depths of Jesus Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/experiencing-the-depths-of-jesus-christ/) - I want to share with you a portion of Experiencing the Depths of Jesus Christ, written by Jeanne Guyon in 1685. These are some of the most helpful and winsome words ever written on the subject of meditating on Scripture. Jeanne Guyon (1648-1717) was a French woman, widowed at the age of 28 after an unhappy marriage. - [4 Boundaries for Emotionally Safe Groups](https://www.soulshepherding.org/4-boundaries-for-emotionally-safe-groups/) - The most important job of a small group leader is to maintain healthy boundaries that keep the group emotionally safe for everyone. If the group is safe then people will confess their struggles, which opens the way for them to receive healing and strength from the Lord (James 5:16). What is it like to be - [Grateful to God in Trials](https://www.soulshepherding.org/grateful-god-trials/) - Whenever God allows suffering into our lives it’s because he has something better for us. Of course, we don't want to go through trials! But even in the midst of bad, painful circumstances when can choose to be thankful. Why? Because God "has blessed us in the heavenly realms with every spiritual blessing in Christ" (Ephesians - [Thankfulness: the Way of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/thankfulness-the-way-of-jesus/) - Jesus lived in thankfulness to God. And he expressed his thanks to God publicly for the benefit of others that they too might learn to be grateful to God (John 11:41-42). Jesus appreciated God as the Father who watched over all his creation, even the little sparrows thought to be of little value and the - [You Are What You Read](https://www.soulshepherding.org/you-are-what-you-read/) - Some people say, "You are what you eat." I think it's more true to say, "You are what you read." What do you spend your time reading? The Sports section? Novels? Fashion magazines? News or stock reports? These are okay. Certainly they are much better than gossipy or trashy options that are available. In fact, - [Sacred Pathways Survey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sacred-pathways-survey/) - This Sacred Pathways Survey will help you to understand the ways you best connect with God and how you can grow spiritually. Nine paths are explained. - [Pastor's Wife Scriptures](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastors-wife-scriptures/) - What does the Bible say about Pastor’s Wife Scriptures? Many people think the pastor’s wife is supposed to always look nice, smile, sit down in the front row of church, and agree with her husband. Her kids need to be model Christians. She needs to be ready to open her home to people in the - [In the Dark Night Remember God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/in-the-dark-night-remember-god/) - From time to time we all go through trials in which God's face is hidden from us. Our prayers seem to go unanswered. God's comfort is absent. Discouragement, worry, or exhaustion press in on us. We may lose heart completely. This is called the Dark Night of the Soul. The Dark Night of the Soul - [The Jesus Burn and the Dark Night](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-jesus-burn-and-the-dark-night/) - Have you experienced the “Jesus burn”? Do you know what it’s like to feel God's presence in your body? Perhaps your heart has been warmed by God’s peace. Or on the back of your neck and shoulders you've felt tingly with the Spirit's blessing or "anointing" when you were being prayed for or seeking - [The Other Side of Deep Darkness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/deep-darkness/) - What do you do when you've been mistreated and God doesn't seem to answer your prayers? How do you pray when God seems distant and unconcerned about your pain? You're Not Alone in a Dark Night of the Soul At one time or another we all are likely to go through the Dark Night of - [Jesus and the Sabbath](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-and-the-sabbath/) - There is much disagreement about Jesus and the Sabbath — did he follow the Sabbath, break the Sabbath, fulfill the Sabbath, or did Jesus come to do away with the Sabbath? And how does that relate to how you practice Sabbath today? Paul instructed the believers at Corinth to "Follow my example, as I follow - [God's Love Letter to You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gods-love-letter-to-you/) - If God were to write a letter to you, it would be a love letter! Have you read the Bible as God's love letter to you? That's what it is! I know you don't deserve it -- neither do I. That's the point. God's love is unconditional. I have put together this compilation of paraphrases from - [How to Lead Lectio Divina Groups: The Steps and Questions to Ask](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lectio-divina-groups/) - Many Christian leaders are interested in using Lectio Divina in their small group, class, or church service. But if you do this without being spiritually trained and mentored, it's likely to be a tough experience for you and the people you shepherd. That’s because many people need help to benefit from silent prayer and vulnerable - [How to Do Lectio Divina](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lectio-divina-guides/) - Our Lectio Divina Guides are one page handouts using key Bible passages. They're free, easy to use, and great for devotions, small groups, and retreats. - [Pastor Stress Statistics](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastors-under-stress/) - These are some of the stressors that pastors talk with us about. - [A. W. Tozer's Introduction to "The Christian Book of Mystical Verse"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/w-tozers-introduction-christian-book-mystical-verse/) - I'm often asked by pastors and others what I think about "mysticism." Usually someone in their church has encountered this and has expressed concern that it is not Biblical. I know pastors in conservative Bible churches who have been harshly criticized, even run out of their pulpit, for encouraging "contemplative prayer" or the reading of "spiritual - [How to Set Boundaries With Family for the Holidays](https://www.soulshepherding.org/boundaries-family-holiday/) - You may love the idea of being with family for the holidays — or maybe not! It can be stressful! And in some family relationships, it’s awkward or uncomfortable. Personalities don’t mesh, or there’s distance or unresolved conflicts. If you want to know how to set boundaries with family for the holidays, these four steps - [God Will Come to You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-will-come-to-you/) - Each year during the Advent season I pick a character from the nativity scene to spend some time reading about in scripture while praying and listening to the Lord. - [Alive to God, Content with Not Knowing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/alive-to-god-content-with-not-knowing/) - In making decisions we want to know what God's will for us is. Which job is the best one for you to take? Is that a good deal on that car or house you're looking at? What do you say to your loved one that you're not getting along with? Hearing God's voice (discerning his - [The Spirit of the Scriptures (Journal of George Fox, Part 2)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-spirit-of-the-scriptures-journal-of-george-fox-part-2/) - George Fox is known as the 17th Century English founder of the Religious Society of the Friends, better known as the Quakers. They lived up to being "Protestants," protesting not only the theology and practice of the "Popish" Catholics, but also the "steeple-house" Christianity of the first Protestant denominations (e.g., the Church of England, Presbyterians, and Baptists). Fox - [The Blessing of Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessing-of-emotions/) - Emotions get a bad rap in many circles today. They’re vulnerable and get broken. They’re messy and don’t look right. We prefer thinking, analysis, and three steps to a better life. “Believe and do what’s right,” is the typical message for how to grow spiritually. “Emotions are the caboose. They can’t be trusted.” Yes, some - [Your Emotions Matter to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-emotions-matter-to-jesus/) - We are all experiencing a myriad of intense emotions in this season. Did you know that Jesus, the Good Shepherd, wants to find and befriend your lost emotions? You probably know Jesus’ parable about the shepherd leaving the ninety-nine sheep to find the one that’s lost (Luke 15:1-7). But have you ever put yourself in - [Praying Your Emotions to Feel God's Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/praying-your-emotions-to-feel-gods-love/) - When I was in high school I didn’t fit in socially. My days were consumed with being an “A” student, working to save money for college, and being helpful to my parents and four younger siblings. Looking back I can see that my perfectionism and internalization of stress made me anxious and depressed all the - [Your Feelings Can Strengthen Your Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-feelings-can-strengthen-your-faith/) - Recently my dad died. I couldn’t see him or talk to him anymore. So I read his Bible that's filled with personal notes from cover to cover. I read his journal of prayers and messages he received from God. And I read my journals of conversations we’d had. When someone you love dies you want - [Two Words to Help You Succeed](https://www.soulshepherding.org/two-words-to-help-you-succeed/) - I miss the dad of my childhood. When I was a boy I wanted to be just like my father. He was strong, handsome, fun, affectionate, and he loved God and our family. Often I went to the hardware store with him — I didn’t like those stores, but I wanted to be with him - [How to Help Others According to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christians-helping-others/) - Is there a Soul Shepherd in You? Yes, according to Jesus! He blesses you and calls you into ministry: “You are the salt of the earth… You are the light of the world” (Matthew 5:13-14). We may think being salt and light means preaching sermons or trying to convert people to our faith. Actually, it’s - [Unforsaken: Your Greatest Need](https://www.soulshepherding.org/unforsaken-your-greatest-need/) - On the cross, Jesus shows that you are unforsaken by God. It’s your greatest need. It’s the greatest need of the people you care for, teach, or lead. It’s Good News for everyone in today’s COVID-19 global pandemic. Don’t fool yourself. You may think you’re strong, intellectual, or independent. You may think of some other - [Prayer: Our Hope in a Pandemic](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prayer-our-hope-in-a-pandemic/) - Dallas Willard taught me, “This world is a perfectly safe place to be — as long as you’re living with Jesus in the Kingdom of God.” (This is a paraphrase from The Divine Conspiracy, p. 66.) Do you believe that? Do you trust that you are safe in Jesus’ arms? Even in the Covid-19 global - [Prayer: Breaking Free in God’s World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prayer-breaking-free-in-gods-world/) - In once smoggy cities there is fresh air to breathe. The worldwide shut down to stop the spread of the Covid-19 virus has dramatically decreased pollution. For instance, for the first time in 30 years, people in northern India can see the Himalayan mountains from 100 miles away! Even in coronavirus times of quarantines, stay-at-home, - [7 Tips for Screen Fatigue](https://www.soulshepherding.org/7-tips-for-screen-fatigue/) - Many of us are feeling tired, stressed, or emotionally flat from shrinking our life down to screens on Zoom, Skype, or other video meetings. More than ever, due to social distancing in Covid-19 we’re staring at screens all day on our phone, tablet, or computer. We’re losing our sense of being human. We’re becoming like - [Dallas Willard on the Power of Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willard-on-the-power-of-prayer/) - “I’m too tired to read my Bible and pray,” a pastor shared with me, “but I need the Spirit’s anointing to preach this weekend.” In the eight weeks since the Covid-19 virus closed churches around the world, he’s had just three days off. He’s been overworking to lead his church into new media ministries and - [5 Steps to Reopen Church](https://www.soulshepherding.org/5-steps-to-reopen-church/) - “Pastoring these days feels like throwing with my left hand,” a pastor told me. “I’m a righty. I know how to do church in person, but I’ve had to do it online.” Another pastor chimed in, “After eight weeks of the Covid-19 pandemic, deciding when to reopen church is an even bigger challenge.” All the - [4 Steps that Helped My Depression](https://www.soulshepherding.org/4-steps-that-helped-my-depression/) - Years ago I battled depression. This was more than discouraged feelings—it was a dark depression that hung on me for many weeks. The worst time was early in college. I was a Pre-Med major and realized I hated biology and chemistry. My studies bored me and put me to sleep. I really knew I was - [How to Feel Your Emotions with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-feel-your-emotions-with-jesus/) - To become like Jesus we need to befriend his emotions. It’s important to appreciate that Jesus is a feeler who experiences and expresses deep and vivid emotions about many things in life. Jesus is a feeler? You may disagree with us. Most Christian leaders today seem to. Early in my life and ministry, I discounted - [Jesus’ Secret to a Better Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-secret-to-a-better-life/) - Why was Jesus able to deliver a demon without even saying a prayer? Why was he able to calm the storm? Why was he able to feed the 5,000+ with just five loaves and two fishes? Why was he able to walk on water and calm the second storm without even speaking a word? You’re - [How God Can Help with Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/calm-your-anxious-mind-2/) - “Don’t worry. Be happy!” It’s not that easy! I know. I used to be plagued with anxiety and I've been helping anxious people since 1987. Perhaps you struggle with anxiety or worry. If so then even at night maybe you can’t seem to slow down and relax. Your mind just won’t let you rest. Why did - [Christmas Breath Prayer: Breathe in the Miracle of Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christmas-breath-prayer/) - In the busyness of the season, a Christmas breath prayer can help your soul find rest and your mind return to Jesus' presence. In this article, we share a special breath prayer of submission inspired by Mary. Mary offered a prayer of faith to receive the birth of Christ and the world has never been - [Pursuing Your Dream With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pursuing-your-dream-with-jesus/) - Realizing a life dream or goal takes a lot of time — and prayer. I’ve found that the best gift of a dream is not in achieving it but in letting God change me in the process. Writing books that cultivate intimacy with Jesus has been a life dream for me since I was - [Healing Grace for Your Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/healing-grace-for-your-emotions/) - I was frozen in my chair, trembling with fear. The conference speaker had challenged us, “Stand up if you’re ready to surrender all to God!” People all around me were standing up, but to me it felt like surrendering to suffering. I was experiencing a trauma trigger from childhood. As a newborn baby I was - [4 Crazy Beliefs That Healthy Churches Correct](https://www.soulshepherding.org/4-crazy-beliefs-that-healthy-churches-correct-h-stage/) - The second stage of the CHRIST model in Journey of the Soul is the H Stage: Help in Discipleship. Here our faith in Jesus is growing through studying God’s Word, getting involved in church, and learning to practice spiritual disciplines. Commonly at the H Stage, our faith runs into a roadblock of misinterpreting Scripture. We need help in the form of good Bible teaching and a - [Real Faith Has Real Feelings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/real-faith-has-real-feelings/) - In my late 20’s I was like the woman of the old Enjoli perfume commercial who sings, “I can bring home the bacon, fry it up in a pan, and never, never let you forget you’re a man, ‘cause I’m a WOMAN!” And seductively she whispers, Enjoli! People looking at my life saw me as - [A Cup Running Over](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willard-on-a-cup-running-over/) - For your work or ministry to be most effective you need to experience satisfaction in Christ as you do it. We’re designed to live in the Psalm 23 journey in which we testify happily, “My cup overflows!” Dallas Willard showed us this. Kristi and I are so thankful for the spiritual mentor and friend that - [3 Ways a Spiritual Director Can Help You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/3-ways-a-spiritual-director-can-help-you/) - What do you do when you’re struggling to feel God’s love? Or prayer and spiritual disciplines aren’t “working” like they used to? Or you can’t hear God’s voice about a decision you need to make? Or serving the Lord has left you discouraged or over-stressed? These are important times to talk with a spiritual director. - [Empathy is Oxygen for Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/empathy-oxygen-for-your-soul/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [Three Steps to Bring Peace to Conflict in a Biblical Way](https://www.soulshepherding.org/resolving-conflict-biblically/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [Resting in God in a Restless World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/resting-in-god-in-a-restless-world/) - How do you feel when you think about resting in God? Is this something you’re already experiencing? Or does the idea of truly entering God’s rest seem unattainable in this rushing, restless world? When you have been laboring hard to shine a light for Christ, you can become emotionally parched and burned out. In this - [How Can Spiritual Direction Help Me?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/benefits-of-spiritual-direction/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [What is Spiritual Direction?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-is-a-spiritual-director/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [A Prayer to Strengthen Your Identity in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-prayer-to-strengthen-your-identity-in-christ-henri-nouwen/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [I Awoke at 4:30 am into a God-Adventure!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-awoke-at-430-am-into-a-god-adventure/) - It was 4:30 am and I couldn't get back to sleep. I tossed and turned. I meditated on Bible passages, but my heart wasn't engaging very well with God. The discouragement I felt the night before was still hanging on me -- I just wanted to go back to sleep. Then the day ahead started - [Abandoning Outcomes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/abandoning-outcomes/) - How do you react when things go wrong? Your social media gets hacked or people send you unkind messages... You're stuck in traffic and late for an important meeting... Your young child misbehaves in public or your adult child makes a choice that troubles you... You realize that the message you taught wasn't your best... - [The Apprentice Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-apprentice-prayer-blesses/) - A simple prayer of the heart propelled me into a great spiritual renewal when I was forty years old. It’s now many years later, and I’m continuing in this prayer! My friend Pastor Bucky Dennis, dubbed this “The Apprentice Prayer.” It’s brought me great peace and power. Thousands of people, even whole churches, have prayed - [COVID-19: “Fear Not.” With Jesus in the Coronavirus Pandemic](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-not-with-jesus-in-the-coronavirus-pandemic/) - Dear Friends, In light of everything happening, we wanted to send a message to you all. What does it mean to be like Jesus as the Coronavirus spreads. How do we respond to the fear of getting sick with the COVID-19 virus? This is a great time to be Christ’s ambassador, especially if you’re a pastor or - [COVID-19: Help for Grief](https://www.soulshepherding.org/covid-19-help-for-grief/) - It’s like there’s a dark cloud called COVID-19 hovering over us. It’s generating worry, irritableness, discouragement, and especially tiredness. What is this dark cloud? What is it that is sapping our energy and causing stress reactions? Author David Kessler calls it “anticipatory grief.” But probably we feel it as anticipatory anxiety. We worry and ruminate - [3 Steps to Calm Emotions in Trauma](https://www.soulshepherding.org/3-steps-to-calm-emotions-in-trauma/) - Waves of trauma have battered us in recent weeks. Just as we stand back up we get knocked down again. Without help your soul could drown. Covid-19, quarantine, divisive politics, racist killings, a white policeman murdering African American George Floyd, violent riots. There are so many emotions we might have. Shock. Outrage. Chaos. Fear. Guilt - [Stress Overload Inventory](https://www.soulshepherding.org/stress-overload-inventory/) - Pastors and other leaders are especially vulnerable to stress overload, as well as to burnout, because it's difficult to set boundaries when leading a ministry or caring for people in need. Research on pastors and pastor's wives have shown that they suffer from extreme stress, painful struggles, and often burnout. Stress Overload is from being chronically overstressed or going through - [Alert to God, Content with Not Knowing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/alert-god-content-knowing/) - In making decisions we want to know what God's will for us is. Which job is the best one for you to take? Is that a good deal on that car or house you're looking at? What do you say to your loved one that you're not getting along with? Hearing God's voice (discerning his - [Face Your Fears](https://www.soulshepherding.org/face-fears/) - We all want to experience more peace and we all go about it the wrong way: we withdraw from difficult things. But this weakens us. If you or someone you love struggles with anxiety then you know exactly how this works. When you keep avoiding a situation you're afraid or stressed by it provides momentary - [Relax With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/relax-jesus/) - For most of my life until about age 40 I struggled with anxiety. Almost nobody knew it because I hid it and because much of the time I was listening to them talk. But, inside my mind circled with worries, my stomach churned, and my bowels were irritated. Others did notice that I was really serious - [Stress in Your Body](https://www.soulshepherding.org/stress-in-your-body/) - Stress in my neck... Stress in my back... Stress in my chest... Stress in my jaw... Stress in my stomach... Probably you carry stress in your body somewhere. We usually think of stress as a bad thing, but actually it's a natural thing -- even a good thing. To face challenges and seek to overcome them - [To Please the Lord: Live by Grace, Not Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/to-please-the-lord/) - There are two integrated movements that define my life: meditating on Jesus and obeying his words. Meditating on God's Word is joyful intimacy with Jesus. Obeying the Lord is loving others. These are the inner and outer journeys of spiritual formation in Christ. Both movements please the Lord! But many things can divert me from - [Help For Anxiety and Panic Attacks](https://www.soulshepherding.org/help-anxiety-panic-attacks/) - Into my thirties I was under pressure to perform, be ideal, help everyone, and control outcomes. It added up to lots of anxiety! I needed a lot of empathy from others and retraining of my mind and body. I did deep soul work in my own psychotherapy. And I started learning how to actually live each - [“Do Not Be Anxious” — What it Really Means](https://www.soulshepherding.org/do-not-be-anxious-what-it-really-means/) - What do you feel when you read in the Bible, “Do not be anxious”? Many people feel, What’s wrong with me? I’m not a good Christian. I’m not supposed to be anxious, but often I am. Everyone feels anxious at times. Furthermore, in the US 31% of adults will develop an anxiety disorder at some - [Bible Verses for Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/anxiety-antidotes/) - Anxiety is overwhelming... Intrusive thoughts bounce around your brain like a pinball. Your stomach flutters and your head always hurts. You are “on edge” even when relaxing. These feelings can dominate your life, cripple you, and steal your peace and joy. So how can you overcome anxiety in apprenticeship to Jesus? Anxiety is caused by - [Enroll in Jesus' Master Classes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/enroll-in-jesus-master-classes/) - If only we would let Jesus enthrall our hearts! If only we would see that the opportunity of our lives is to be Jesus' beloved disciple! Right now -- at this very moment -- the resurrected Christ is smiling at you and I! His arms are open to us. The glorious Lord Almighty is our - [Feeling Dry? Here's How to Feel Your Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-feel-your-faith/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [3 Steps to Greater Intimacy With God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/intimacy-with-god/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [Prevent Burnout by Enjoying God in 4 Simple Ways](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-burnout/) - “I feel so distant from God,” Rev. Howard-John Wesley admitted in 2020. “One of the greatest mistakes of pastoring is to think that because you work for God, you’re close to God.” If you’re a pastor or ministry leader I’m especially writing to you. But whatever your work is and however you serve God, you - [Top Pastor Retreats to Avoid Burnout](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastor-burnout-retreats/) - The slippery slope to burnout for you as a pastor, missionary, or other leader serving God is not a mystery — it’s real and preventable. Barna found that one-third of pastors are burned out right now. In Christian work and ministry it’s hard not to over-work and get over-stressed. The expectations and needs of people - [Discover The Power of Ignatian Meditation to Engage with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/ignatian-meditation-guides/) - Some people miss out on spiritual nourishment because they don't know how to effectively use their imagination when they read the Bible and pray. Others are hesitant to do this because they're afraid that visualization is not trustworthy or too emotional. Some think using visualization in prayer is not Christian, because they associate it with - [Coaching for Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/coaching-for-pastors/) - Research studies on pastors have shown alarming rates of anxiety, depression, marriage problems, compulsive behavior, and burnout. An analysis of pastor stress studies connects pastors’ stress overload with not having close friends, not taking a Sabbath day, only studying the Bible to give sermons, and neglecting exercise. Pastors and ministry leaders can avoid burnout and - [I Expect You To Lead Me: Harriet Tubman (1822-1913)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/harriet-tubman/) - Harriet Tubman escaped from slavery and then returned to free hundreds of other slaves. She did this by listening to God’s voice and risking her life to free others who were enslaved. Tubman lived from 1822 to 1913. She was just 5 feet 3 inches tall but was strong and courageous. She came to - [A Fire Shut Up in Her Bones](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jarena-lee/) - In 1836, during the Second Great Awakening, Jarena Lee published the first spiritual autobiography written by an African American woman, The Religious Experience and Journal of Mrs. Jarena Lee. It sold like hotcakes. The words and spirit were fresh and struck right to the heart. With invigorating words, her memoir tells the story of - [The Spirit-Filled Life of Kaboo](https://www.soulshepherding.org/samuel-kaboo-morris/) - Samuel Kaboo Morris (1873-1893) The Early Life and Trials of Kaboo Kaboo (Samuel Morris) was born about 1873 as the son of the king of the Kru tribe, who were poor farmers in Western Africa. As a 16-year-old boy, Kaboo was taken prisoner in a conflict with the Grabos, a rival tribe. They - [The Prince of Preachers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/charles-tindley/) - “If you take Jesus for your guide, You’ll find Him more than all beside, Just do the things He bids you do, He’ll take you through, He’ll take you through.” - [Christian Spiritual Formation Retreats](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christian-spiritual-formation-retreats/) - Many of us long for deeper intimacy with Jesus. We pray to look more like him. Unfortunately busyness, spiritual dryness, and emotional struggles often leave us feeling stuck. So how do you grow in healthy apprenticeship to Jesus through the challenges of everyday life? Spiritual formation retreats help many Christians overcome stress and hurt in - [An Introduction to the Stations of the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/stations-of-the-cross/) - If you are feeling dry, distant, or weary, the Stations of the Cross are for you. Do you have a desire to experience a deeper relationship with Jesus? To understand and receive his unfathomable love for you in a way that fills you up and overflows to those around you? The Stations of the Cross - [7 Best Enneagram Books of 2023](https://www.soulshepherding.org/best-enneagram-books/) - We’ve assembled a list of the best Enneagram books — our go-to list of resources! Whether you’re just starting to explore the Enneagram, or you already know quite a lot about it, you’ll find books here to help you learn more and go deeper. The Enneagram is a great tool for exploring your personality and - [Transformative Coaching for Christian Leaders and Executives](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christian-leadership-coaching/) - “Relationally healthy leaders draw on Christ’s empathy, wisdom, and power to bring the activities of many people into coordination for a good purpose.” —Bill Gaultiere Being a leader is a high calling in Christ! Whether you lead in a church, corporate, government, business, community, or nonprofit setting, you have been gifted to enable others to - [Psychotherapy was a Gift of God's Grace to Me](https://www.soulshepherding.org/becoming-i/) - As a new parent, young ministry leader, and recently licensed Psychologist I was doing my best to serve Christ but I was struggling with anxiety and depression. God led me to move from the psychotherapist's chair to the client's couch. I sought help in my own psychotherapy. Ministry Leaders Need to be Led Being in - [7 Health Benefits of Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/7-health-benefits-of-meditation-based-on-the-bible-and-science/) - From ancient times God’s people have known that meditation on Scripture promotes health in body, soul, and relationships with God and others. More recently numerous scientific studies have validated specific ways that meditation improves our health and well-being. Of course, the main reason to meditate on Bible passages and pray is not for health — - [The Smile of Jesus Is Everywhere. Do You See It?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-smile-of-jesus-is-everywhere-do-you-see-it/) - Jesus smiles. Yes!!! Don't you love this picture of Jesus smiling warmly? It reminds us that Jesus delights in us! It's hidden from many people, but the smile of Jesus is everywhere in the Gospels. Jesus "rejoiced greatly in the Holy Spirit" (Luke 10:21, NASB). John shows us that Jesus prays for us to have - [7 Steps of Forgiveness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/7-steps-to-forgive-others-and-heal-your-soul/) - Forgiveness is more than a decision — it’s a process of praying, sharing feelings with a confidante, and adjusting attitudes—and these 7 steps of forgiveness can help begin the process. It’s like peeling back the layers of an onion to go deeper in God’s mercy for others. When we’re angry at an offender we need - [How to Rest in the Ocean of God's Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-rest-in-the-ocean-of-gods-love/) - As a Christian woman leader sometimes I have felt disrespected and unwanted. One time after this happened I heard a pastor say, “God’s love is like the ocean, but we come with a little cup, scoop it up, and walk away.” I realized that was true for me at that moment. I taught that God - [Play! Play!! Play!!! (Having Fun With Jesus)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/play-play-play-having-fun-with-jesus/) - “Play! Play!! Play!!!” that’s what our friend Papa Joe Johnson said to Kristi and I in our time of need. How do you play? When do you have fun? Do you know how to have fun with Jesus? This is an important question for your living and loving. Play rejuvenates us in the happy joy - [The Easy Yoke Gospel](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-easy-yoke-gospel/) - I was forty years old when I discovered the Gospel of Christ as an Easy Yoke and the Lord inflamed my heart with his love! I learned to live with the blessed awareness that the risen Christ is standing beside me, smiling and opening his arms to me! This is true for you, right now. - [Don't Feel Bad About Sin, Feel Sad](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dont-feel-bad/) - I often talk with pastors and other servants of the Lord who judge themselves harshly. I tell them, "Don't feel bad. Feel sad." God never wants you to linger with bad feelings about yourself -- even if you sin. This may be a new thought for you. It may sound like I'm contradicting the teaching - [31 Antidotes to Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/31-antidotes-to-anxiety/) - It seems like I talk to someone who is anxious almost everyday. I myself have suffered from anxiety for most of my adult life. Thankfully, for many years now I have been mostly free of anxiety. My own experience and my ministry to pastors, leaders, and others has proven to me that there is help - [Let God's Waves of Love Refresh You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/let-gods-waves-of-love-refresh-you/) - When was the last time you sat by the ocean, a lake, or a stream? It's a great place to meet God and breathe in deep as you appreciate his beauty and goodness that restores your soul. Kristi and will be leading 30 missionaries in a 3-day retreat at the ocean at a private hotel - [Following Jesus With Joy, Like St. Francis](https://www.soulshepherding.org/following-jesus-joy-like-st-francis/) - It seems everybody loves Saint Francis. But few really know him. We like our garden statues of a somber man holding a bird, but this is not the real Francis of Assisi from the 12th Century. Instead, picture an energetic and jovial little man, known in his day as “God’s Jongluer.” Before coming to Christ - [Warming Cold Hearts With God’s Love (As John Wesley Did)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/warming-cold-hearts-gods-love-john-wesley/) - Our great need right now is to have our hearts warmed by God’s love. This is what makes us happy and fruitful! Most everyday pastors seek my care and counsel. Is there a difference if I listen well or listen well with the love of God in my heart? Does it make a difference if - [The Fellowship of the Transfigured Face (Holy Obedience)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-fellowship-of-the-transfigured-face-holy-obedience/) - Thomas Kelly's words on holy obedience (excerpts from "A Testament of Devotion") invite us into a God-intoxicated life of joy, peace, and love for others. - [Jesus' Easy Yoke for Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-easy-yoke-for-pastors/) - Pastors today face tremendous pressure, heavy burdens, and stress overload. They're constantly pressured to improve in the A-B-C's of church success: Attendance, Buildings, and Cash. Their church's growth is measured by how many people attend their services, how big their buildings are, and how much money they can raise for their ministry. Many pastors we talk with feel - [Free to Love, Free from Lust](https://www.soulshepherding.org/free-to-love-free-from-lust/) - God is love. Jesus shows us this. The Bible spells this out. And everyday God shares His love with us in so many ways. Tragically, there are many people, who can’t seem to grasp God’s love because, as the pop song says, “They’re looking for love in all the wrong places.” They're in the grip - [12 Tips to Give a Life-Changing Message](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-give-a-life-changing-message/) - If you speak from a pulpit, classroom, blog, podcast, or small group you have a great opportunity to bless people. In my early 30’s I spoke to two thousand people in a church meeting and I was so panicky that I was sweating and tongue-tied. I vowed to never do that again! Like 75% of - [You Can Have Crazy Love -- Skip with Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/crazy-love-skip-jesus/) - If we let Jesus ravish our hearts will develop crazy love. A fun way to practice this is to skip and sing, "I'm the disciple Jesus loves!" Some people think I'm crazy but it's the most sane way to be. - [A Prayer of Consecration to Be Enthralled With Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-prayer-of-consecration-to-be-enthralled-with-jesus/) - Recently I was asked to lead a Soul Shepherding group for a team of pastors to facilitate their intimacy with Jesus. What do they need learn and experience? What would God want me to share with them? I listened for the Lord's wisdom. I knew the culture of this church well and I've led spiritual - [Soul Talk: Inviting God into your Conversations](https://www.soulshepherding.org/soul-talk-inviting-god-into-your-conversations/) - We long for soul talk with a friend that helps us experience God's presence. You can facilitate these life-giving spiritual conversations. I've been doing this for many years, not only in my ministry as a Psychologist and Spiritual Director, but also in my marriage and friendships. I love to elevate conversations into experiences of soul - [Floating on a Raft Taught me to Trust God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/floating-on-a-raft-taught-me-to-trust-god/) - When I was a girl I loved to float on a raft, soaking up the sunshine and resting on the water. I did this in our pool, but I especially loved to do it in the ocean where I could be immersed in the vastness of the sea and the sky and be carried along - [My Wild Ride On a Water Slide!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-wild-ride-on-a-water-slide/) - Much of my life I (Kristi) have struggled to Trust God fully. I’d read verses like Psalm 91:10, “No harm will befall you” and I’d think about the suffering in our world and in my life and conclude, “Those are nice words but they don’t seem to be always true.” Nine years ago I was really - [Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/soul-care/) - How do you care for your soul? Do you ever feel like a juice box that's been sucked dry by people sticking a straw into you?! This was the question I asked a 100 ministry leaders/caregivers, mothers, and pastors' wives at a church conference recently. When I come home from a day of caring for - [Is God Really Good and Loving?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/is-god-really-good-and-loving/) - I thought I really trusted God’s goodness and love. I could tell you God was loving and good, I could even teach a Bible study on it. But God wanted to grow me and so he showed me the true state of my soul, that actually I didn’t fully trust in his goodness and love. - [I Had Too Many Balls to Hit!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/many-balls-hit/) - We just took our youngest child to college and arrived home to an empty nest. I said to Bill, “I feel like a baseball batter who has had balls constantly being thrown to me, one after the other, and I keeping hitting them even if I don’t like the pitch!” I was emotionally spent and - [I Was Orbiting Around People](https://www.soulshepherding.org/orbiting-around-people/) - We all have a certain rhythm of life, our own pattern for how we relate to people and do our work. It can become like a rut that we slide into without realizing it. Perhaps we say that we want to be more peaceful or loving, or more like Jesus, but our rhythm of life - [A Cheerleader Gets in the Race](https://www.soulshepherding.org/cheerleader-gets-race/) - When Bill suggested our family run a 10K "Turkey Trot" race together on Thanksgiving morning I was surprised. Our youngest daughter Briana and I have been watching, supporting, and cheerleading Bill, David, and Jennie as they run marathons and do triathlons, but I never imagined nor desired to run even a 5K race. Then Bill - [Enjoying Cats in Our God-Bathed World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/enjoying-cats-god-bathed-world/) - A couple of nights ago Bill and I had just finished a 4-mile walk. Our cat Charlie had been napping and he woke up and started stretching too! He got up and was sniffing and playing around at my feet, reminding me of when he was a kitten (see his picture!). I found myself smiling - [With a Broken Foot I Jumped into Jesus’ Arms](https://www.soulshepherding.org/broken-foot-jumped-jesus-arms/) - As a girl I dreamed of being in ministry for Jesus with my husband one day. I had really admired the pastor and his wife at the church I grew up in. Also I saw my parents teach Sunday school together and I met other ministry couples that inspired me by the way that they - [Look Into Jesus' Eyes With a Wee, Little Man](https://www.soulshepherding.org/look-into-jesus-eyes-with-a-wee-little-man/) - “I grew with parents who considered themselves too intellectual for Christianity,” Vicki Paxton shared with our Soul Shepherding TLC community of pastors and leaders. “They told me the Bible was outdated and irrelevant. It was full of silly stories about an angry god that wanted people to praise him all the time.” But everything changed - [To Lead Like Jesus Lead With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/to-lead-like-jesus-lead-with-jesus/) - "Lead Like Jesus" has become a popular terminology for Christian leaders. Often it focuses on servant leadership. It's a great Bible teaching, but for some pastors and leaders it fails them because they lack the joy, wisdom, and power that are needed to sustain effective spiritual leadership. To lead like Jesus we need to lead with Jesus. - [Biblical Meditation: Using Imagination to Pray](https://www.soulshepherding.org/biblical-meditation-using-imagination-pray/) - What is Biblical meditation? Here are some key Bible verses on imagination and examples of Biblical meditation techniques for counseling, spiritual direction, small groups, soul care, prayer, and Christian discipleship. - [Humility is Not Thinking Less of Yourself](https://www.soulshepherding.org/humility-is-not-thinking-less-of-yourself/) - As Christians we may think we're being humble by disregarding our emotions and needs to focus on other people. It's not true and it doesn't work! Humility is not thinking less of yourself —it's thinking of yourself less. But what does that saying really mean? In actuality, "thinking of yourself less" may prove to be - [360 Degree Feedback for Pastors and Leaders](https://www.soulshepherding.org/360-degree-feedback-for-pastors-and-leaders/) - How do the people you lead experience your ministry? Have you ever asked them for feedback in order to learn how you might improve? Probably there are people who look to you as a Christian leader -- even if you don't think of yourself as a "leader." You don't have to preach to 1,000 people - [Servant Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/servant-leadership-2/) - The best and most helpful book you'll find on leadership has never been on a best-seller list. It was written way back 1896 by a famous South African pastor and teacher. It's only only 76 pages long, but it's chock full of inspiring Biblical wisdom. It trumps all the highly touted successful leadership strategies of our day -- - [Fear of the Dentist](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-of-the-dentist/) - Recently I was having tooth pain and needed dental work. Many people have a fear of the dentist. It's no wonder why. Our teeth and gums are super sensitive to pain. We sit down in the chair and then the doctor comes in behind us and picks up a knife or a drill! (Of course, dentists - [Remembering Ray Ortlund Sr.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/remembering-ray-ortlund-sr/) - Eight years ago today on July 22, 2007 Ray Ortlund, Sr. passed through the veil into the eternal world of the Father. Ray was the most enthusiastic, and devoted disciple of Jesus I’ve known. He was a dear friend and spiritual father to me. I miss him. One day when Ray was in his eighties - [Our First Sabbatical (Why Pastors Need This!)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/our-first-sabbatical-why-pastors-need-this/) - As you read this Kristi and I have just begun a Sabbatical together! Since starting Soul Shepherding in 2009 I’ve helped other pastors go on Sabbatical, but even though I was ordained as a pastor back in 1995 this is our first Sabbatical. We'd very much appreciate you supporting us by praying for God to bless - [Learning to Rest on Sabbatical](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bills-sabbatical-update-resisting-work-seeking-christ/) - Kristi and I are on Day Ten of our thirty day Sabbatical, which I described in the devotional I wrote just before we started: “Our First Sabbatical (Why Pastors Need This)”. With the help of our Administrative Assistant, I’m sharing with you an update, which for me is a simple journal entry. I hope God - [Kristi’s Sabbatical Update](https://www.soulshepherding.org/kristis-sabbatical-update/) - This is a journal update I would like to share from Kristi. My prayer is that it will minister to you as it has to me. I invite you to join me to keep Bill and Kristi in your prayers as they finish the last part of their Sabbatical. God Bless you! Michael Ann (Bill - [Chasing After God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/chasing-after-god/) - On our Sabbatical one of the things that Kristi and I prayed about was our longing for God. What we desire will ultimately tell the story of our life. When we visited the Big Sur Hermitage, a Christian monastery, I read a note from Brother Cassian that got my attention. He said that the reason - [Five Ideas for Pastor Appreciation Month](https://www.soulshepherding.org/five-ideas-for-pastor-appreciation-month/) - October is Pastor Appreciation Month. Yes, there is a “Pastor Appreciation Month!” I’m so glad there is! This is a month to practice what we need to be doing everyday throughout the year: saying thank you to the soul shepherds who serve us. But how can you bless your pastor(s)? What you can do to - [You're Not a Wallflower! (Appreciating a Pastor's Wife)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/youre-not-a-wallflower-appreciating-a-pastors-wife/) - Have you ever felt like a wallflower? I have and so have many of the pastors’ wives I talk with. (Whether or not you’re a pastor’s wife — even if you’re a man — you may relate. Or God may lead you to empathize and pray for a pastor’s wife you know.) I hear the - [Jesus: Our Model of Personal Development](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-our-model-of-personal-development/) - You long to experience the fullness of divine life and to share this with others. But you may not have a clear picture of what this looks like and how to become a fully alive person. I find that even most Christians don’t very well understand the stages of spiritual and psychological development. To become - [Healing Prayer For Harmful Images](https://www.soulshepherding.org/healing-prayer-for-harmful-images/) - Have you ever seen something that brought you distress or even traumatized you? Do you have any harmful images you’ve internalized that periodically come back to upset you? - [Itching For Jesus? (My Painful Reaction to Poison Oak)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/itching-for-jesus-my-reaction-to-poison-oak/) - Recently I was trail running in the hills during a private retreat at the Prince of Peace monastery. It was a beautiful day and I felt so alive and free as I was running with Jesus. Little did I know that I had brushed up against poison oak! A few days later the urushiol oil - [The Gentle Protector You Need](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-gentle-protector-you-need/) - In his book Joy Starts Here Jim Wilder says that every child and hurting person needs a Gentle Protector. A Gentle Protector is someone who has power and uses it to defend and care for those in need. I realized recently that the Gentle Protector you need (and me too!) is hidden in the Christmas story. He's - [1,000,000 Visits in 2015 -- What Are the Top Ten?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/1000000-visits-in-2015-what-are-the-top-ten/) - In 2015 SoulShepherding.org received just under one million visits! That's almost 3,000 page views per day. This is up 10% from 2014 and brings our total page views since January 1, 2010 to over three million. What are so many people reading and looking at? What are their top needs? The #1 reason that people sought - [Good Grief: A Process of Emotional Healing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/good-grief-a-process-of-emotional-healing/) - We have loved ones that die. We suffer losses that hurt. Do we grieve or repress our emotions? Here are the stages and process of good grief with insights from the Bible and psychotherapy. - [Inventory of Emotional Wounds From Your Mother or Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/inventory-of-emotional-wounds-from-your-mother-or-father/) - How were you cared for as a child? How well were your needs met? What were your early experiences in your relationships with your parents and your family? And how did this affect your personality, identity, and life going forward? Relational wounds are more damaging when we’re younger, they come from a beloved and trusted - [Healing Prayer: Praying For Physical or Emotional Healing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/praying-for-physical-or-emotional-healing/) - With Insights From Pastor Joe Johnson with Heart of the Father Ministries* Kristi and I were fortunate to receive instruction in healing and deliverance ministry in college. Many Christian pastors, counselors, and lay ministers today have not received this training and so they don't know how to use the authority that Jesus gave them to pray - [Letting Go of a Dream Can Bring Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/when-it-hurts-to-let-go-but-its-for-the-best/) - It hurts to let go a dream, but sometimes it's for the best. By the age of thirty I’d written three books with mainline Christian publishers that sold 40,000 copies in hard cover. I’d been a keynote speaker to large audiences and interviewed many times on radio and television. I was trying to ramp up - [Healing Prayer: Praying For Physical or Emotional Healing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/praying-for-physical-or-emotional-healing-2/) - Have you ever seen something that brought you distress or even traumatized you? Do you have any harmful images you’ve internalized that periodically come back to upset you? - [Elizabeth's Empathy Cured Mary's Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/elizabeths-empathy-cured-marys-shame/) - When we tell Mary’s part in the Christmas story it’s easy to idealize her. It’s as if she had such great faith in the word of the Lord, even as a young woman, that all she needed was God. It was Mary and God, alone in a world of people who scorned her — even - [Give Jesus Some Elbow Room](https://www.soulshepherding.org/give-jesus-some-elbow-room/) - I had just finished my Soul Shepherding meetings with pastors and ministry leaders and I had a few hours before the seminar I was leading that night. As I sat down at my desk I thought to myself, “I have too much to do: multiple talks to prepare, articles to write, ministry reports to complete, and - [Be Clothed in God's Sunshine](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-clothed-in-gods-sunshine/) - My heart goes out to people who get overcome by worry. It's a temptation we all face. It used to be a way of life for me 'till I was renewed spiritually and deepened by trusting in God's Word. As a psychologist, I help people with worry in therapy. I also provide spiritual care - [A Little Affection for our Great God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-little-affection-for-our-great-god/) - We say, "I love God." But do we say this with endearment? Delight? Affection? Maybe we're embarrassed to show affection for God, to let our heart hang out for him. Or maybe it's that as we go about our day we forget him -- we get distracted. If we're not careful the presence of - [Bloom Where You are Planted (a Benediction)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bloom-where-you-are-planted-a-benediction/) - I'd like to share with you the benediction I wrote to go with my sermon on Matthew 6:25-34, "Be God's Wildflower -- Be Worry Free." A benediction is a blessing from God that is pronounced by one person over another. This benediction is inspired by Jesus' words: "Why do you worry about how you - [Smile and Skip to Hear God's Voice!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/smile-and-skip-to-hear-gods-voice/) - In Psalm 29 David praises the God of glory whose voice thunders over the waters and flashes like lightning. Like the waves of the sea, God speaks with crashing authority and soothing gentleness at the same time. When God speaks proud cedars fall and little calves skip with joy. Skip with Joy in God's - [The Best Way to Support your Pastor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-best-way-to-support-your-pastor/) - I love it when people ask me, "How can I best support my pastor?" I love this question because caring for pastors and their spouses is the heartbeat of Soul Shepherding. My answer will surprise you: When you listen to the pastor's message don't critique it. Instead, ask yourself, "What is God saying to - [Songs of Joy!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/songs-of-joy/) - On a retreat at the Prince of Peace Abbey a few years ago I was taking a walk and praying from Psalm 65. Down the hill and across the ocean the sun was setting. Above my head the birds were singing and the breeze was rustling in the trees. Soon darkness descended and I was - [The Secret of Jesus' Easy Yoke](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-secret-of-jesus-easy-yoke/) - A friend of mine was quite late for his appointment with me. He finally arrived breathless as he explained to me that 24 hours in a day just wasn't enough! He was trying so hard to be a good pastor but he just couldn't accomplish all that his church required of him. Trying to - [The Power of Gratitude](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gratitude-research/) - In recent years scientific research has validated the ancient wisdom of the Bible: "Give thanks to the Lord, for He is good; His love endures forever." (This is the most repeated verse in the Bible. See Psalm 136 for instance.) Today there is a whole school of psychology called "Positive Psychology." (It's related to Cognitive-Behavioral Psychology.) - [Helping Women in Ministry is a Sacred Privilege](https://www.soulshepherding.org/helping-women-in-ministry-is-a-sacred-privilege/) - My friend Susan Baugh invited me to hear Kay Warren speak at Saddleback Church’s conference for pastors. We’re both pastors’ wives and women in ministry and Kay was sharing on her book that will be released in one year called Sacred Privilege. Kay has 40 years as a pastor’s wife, married to Rick Warren, Pastor - [How to Trust God When You Don’t Know What to Do](https://www.soulshepherding.org/trust-god-dont-know/) - What do you do when you’re at a crossroads and don’t know which way to go? I find myself there. It’s been quite emotional. Excitement and fear mingle. Pressure mounts and tears flow. The ministry of Soul Shepherding continues to grow and Bill and I find that our plates are overflowing, even with more helpers. - [When a Pastor’s Wife Suffers in Silence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastors-wife-suffers-silence/) - Tears welled up in my friend’s eyes, “Some of the elders disapprove of the book I’m reading. They don’t agree with the doctrine.” My friend is a pastor’s wife. While on vacation she was reading a book by a Christian author on being grateful to God. It was blessing and ministering to her and she - [Calming Emotional Triggers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/calming-emotional-triggers/) - Have you ever had a trauma from your past triggered? I have! “Trauma” may sound dramatic — I wasn’t in a war or abused. As an infant I required stomach surgery to survive. My mom wanted to be with me but wasn’t allowed, so it felt like abandonment. Recently, emotions I experienced as a baby - [Helping People Understand You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/helping-people-understand-communication-wheel/) - In a conflict situation it’s easy to get entangled in what the other person is doing that upsets me. But that’s not helpful — it only adds to my anger or shame and makes things worse. When there’s tension in my relationship with Bill or someone else I take out the Soul Talk Wheel. It - [God is Kind to a Little Bird and to You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-is-kind-to-a-little-bird-and-to-you/) - I was feeling discouraged and spiritually low. As I laid in bed I told the Lord I was really missing feelings of consolation and longing to feel his loving presence. Then in church I was feeling lonely and out of place and I was questioning if I was making a difference in my life. At - [You are Highly Favored!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/you-are-highly-favored/) - As a mother, I connect with Mary and the emotional ups and downs she experienced in caring for her child Jesus. To prepare for Advent I meditated on Mary’s story recently in my women’s small group. My friend Nancy shared the fruit of her meditation on Mary being “highly favored” by God (Luke 1:28). This - [Even When You Fail God Chooses You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/even-when-you-fail-god-chooses-you/) - God created us to think in images. If I tell you not to think of a red apple you will probably see a red apple. Jesus told us parables that inspire our imaginative thinking. When He calls God “Abba” we picture a little child’s relationship with a loving Dada or Papa. In the 16th Century, - [Come Alive in God’s Word](https://www.soulshepherding.org/come-alive-in-gods-word/) - There’s so much life in the Word of God that some people have sacrificed their lives to put a Bible in people’s hands. Bill and I have been inspired by the stories of men like Luther, Tyndale, and Wycliffe who translated the Bible. They treasured Scripture and endured terrible persecutions, even death, in order to - [Believing that God Heals](https://www.soulshepherding.org/believing-that-god-heals/) - When joining with the Spirit of Jesus to minister healing, it’s important to give yourself permission to be a learner. “Do not despise these small beginnings, for the LORD rejoices to see the work begin” (Zechariah 4:10). In all matters of faith, we learn by doing, by putting into practice what we learn from the - [Restore Your Soul for Advent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/restore-soul-advent/) - Each year during the Advent season I pick a character from the nativity scene to spend some time reading about in scripture while praying and listening to the Lord. - [A Tool to Improve Your Marriage](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-tool-to-improve-your-marriage/) - I share an embarrassing story from early in my marriage to Bill at the opening of our new book, Journey of the Soul: “You might as well divorce me and hire someone to cook and clean!” I screamed at Bill. “Don’t you ever use that word again!” he yelled back, and then he picked up - [What God's Voice Sounds Like](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-gods-voice-sounds-like/) - One night when we were in college, as Bill and I (Kristi) were eating basketfuls of tortilla chips at a restaurant, he shared about a wonderful vision of Jesus he had that summer. I was drawn to his spiritual experience, but it challenged me. Was Bill’s vision from God or his own mind? How would - [How to Be the Spiritually Healthy Person You Want to Be](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-be-the-spiritually-healthy-person-you-want-to-be/) - This week on the Soul Shepherding Blog our good friend Steve Carter lights the path to help you be the spiritually healthy person you want to be. ______________________________________________________________ When hearing about the moral downfalls of celebrities, pro athletes, government officials, pastors, or even neighbors, do you ever find yourself wondering aloud, “What were they thinking?” - [Is it Depression or a Dark Night of the Soul?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/depression-or-dark-night-of-the-soul/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [A Psalm of Thanks and Praise to God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-psalm-of-thanks-and-praise-to-god/) - The most repeated verse in the Bible is a favorite of mine: “Give thanks to the Lord for he is good. His love endures forever.” It’s repeated forty-four times in the Bible! (Sometimes the wording is slightly different and in twenty-six instances just the last half is provided, usually because it’s being used as a - [A Magnificat Advent Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-magnificat-advent-meditation/) - I’d like to share with you an Advent meditation that we used in the Soul Care Groups I lead for pastors. You may want to share it with your small group or you can use it in your personal devotions. An Advent Meditation on Mary's Magnificat For two thousand years Mary’s Magnificat has been - [The Conversation that Became Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-conversation-that-became-christmas/) - You've never heard the Christmas story told like this! This one is different and so important. Of course, we love Luke's version of the Christmas story with the angel visiting Mary, her Magnificat, the baby Jesus laid in a manger surrounded by animals, shepherds aglow, and angels singing, "Peace on earth!" We also love Matthew's - [Psalm 110: a Message in a Bottle](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-110-message-bottle/) - How did Jesus know he was the Messiah? When did he realize who he was? I invite you to ponder and pray on this question with me this Advent season. Some people seem to think that Jesus popped out of Mary's womb reciting Psalms and healing people! But as John Eldredge likes to say, - [Sing Praise to God!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sing-praise-god/) - “My soul glorifies the Lord and my spirit rejoices in God my Savior, for he has been mindful of the humble state of his servant… The Mighty One has done great things for me — holy is his name.” — Luke 1:46-49 Have you ever been so overjoyed that you burst out in song? - [How to Celebrate Advent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-celebrate-advent/) - The meaning of Advent has changed over the years. The word Advent comes from the Latin word adventus and means “coming.” In ancient times Christians focused their Advent prayers and meditations on the Second Coming of Christ. But over time the birth of Christ and surrounding events have been emphasized more, which is how - [What is Advent?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-is-advent/) - The Advent season is a time of spiritual preparation for celebrating the coming of Jesus Christ. For 24 days we anticipate the joy of Christmas Day. In Jesus, the Word, God became human as a vulnerable infant, born in a stable, and laid in a feeding trough (John 1:1-5, 14; Luke 2:6-7). Jesus’ mother - [Happy Christmas?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/happy-christmas/) - Christmas isn't all happy. Trying to make it that way actually diminishes our enjoyment and meaning of this sacred season. Consider the first Christmas. The backdrop is that God's people go four centuries without hearing a word from God. When God finally speaks, Zechariah (John the Baptist's father) refuses to believe it and is - [Lament Psalms: The Pit to the Heavens](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lament-psalms-the-pit-to-the-heavens/) - Praying the lament psalms with Jesus teaches us to reorient ourselves in God's kingdom where we're blessed, even if our circumstances remain bad. - [Spiritual Direction Certificate Reading List](https://www.soulshepherding.org/reading-list-spiritual-direction-certificate/) - Books Recommended by Bill & Kristi Gaultiere Sometimes a book opens our heart to heaven. Other times it offers us new, God-inspired paradigms for life and ministry with Jesus. Here are some books that we hope will do both for you! These books are part of our Soul Shepherding Institute, which includes the option of - [God is Fun!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-is-fun/) - The Christmas gospel shows us how very fun God is. Appreciating the Lord’s fun-natured personality can have a huge positive impact on our life and ministry to others. We expect God to be a judge, holy, all-powerful, all-knowing, everywhere present, eternal, and totally loving. But is God really fun? That sounds nice, but it seems - [Boston Marathon Explosions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/boston-marathon-explosions/) - In 2012 I realized a lifelong dream and finished the Boston Marathon. In 2013, tens of thousands of runners and over a million friends and family had their dream become a nightmare. The Boston Marathon Explosions Two bombs exploded near the finish line of the Boston Marathon at 2:50 pm, April 15, 2013, sending everyone - [Too Busy to Play?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastor-busy-play-children/) - "Everyday I can't finish my work so I have to bring it home," a young pastor named Eric shared in our group. "But my four-year old son wants to play with me. Most of the time I have to tell him no. I'm just too busy." "Thank you for your courage to be vulnerable with us," - [Top Christian Enneagram Books](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-christian-enneagram-books/) - There are so many Enneagram resources available these days, it can be hard to discern which will be most helpful! I’ve put together a list of the very best Christian Enneagram books along with brief descriptions so you can find the one that will be most helpful to you. Everything we learn in the world - [Seven Benefits of the Enneagram That Most People Miss](https://www.soulshepherding.org/seven-benefits-enneagram-most-people-miss/) - Are you familiar with the benefits of the Enneagram? While the Enneagram is the rage in some circles, most people don’t understand how to harness its benefits. In our coaching of pastors, leaders, and church groups in their personal growth and ministry effectiveness, the Enneagram is the best personality assessment tool we’ve seen. That’s why - [Is the Enneagram Christian?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/is-the-enneagram-christian/) - Is the Enneagram Christian? Some Christians are concerned that the Enneagram is New Age or Occult or only for Eastern religions. Because we use the Enneagram as one of our Soul Shepherding tools we’ve received some criticisms. I’m actually thankful for criticism. Of course, it doesn’t feel good, but often it includes feedback that I - [3 Steps to Hear God's Voice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/3-steps-to-hear-gods-voice/) - The most important experience of our lives is to “hear” God’s voice or sense a touch of blessing from the Holy Spirit. It’s how we become a Christian, discern God’s direction for our life, appreciate a gift of grace, or are moved to act with compassion for someone in need. There are many ways to - [How Church Can Hurt or Help Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/drawing-near-to-god/) - Without a friend who feels our hurt, stress, and longings with us our souls shrivel up and die. Giving and receiving empathy are key to life in Christ. - [Trying to Grow My Church Drained My Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/trying-to-grow-my-church-drained-my-soul/) - “As a senior pastor I was trying to be someone I was not,” writes Pete Scazzero. “I attended conferences and read books about growing a larger, healthier, more powerful church. If only I would be and do as their leaders, then our church would be equally large and prosperous.” Probably all of us in some - [Vicarious Trauma in Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/vicarious-trauma-in-ministry/) - If you’re caring for people that have been traumatized or are in crisis then you’re suffering with them vicariously. If you’re a pastor, you probably think you live in a nice city, but actually you’re in a spiritual and emotional war zone! Just being a tender-hearted person in our world today exposes you to vicarious - [God Image Questionnaire](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-image-questionnaire/) - Excerpted from Your Best Life in Jesus' Easy Yoke (Chapter 5) by Bill Gaultiere. I developed the God Image Questionnaire (GIQ) based on my Ph.D. dissertation in 1989. Since then I have revised some of the wording based on my clinical observations of helping many people in therapy and spiritual direction.The GIQ is meant to help you better understand - [Optimal Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/optimal-stress/) - Stress is part of life and it's certainly part of ministry to others. Most of the pastors, ministry leaders, and caregivers that we talk with have a lot of plates they're trying to keep spinning in the air! The statistics on Pastor Stress are alarming. For instance, one study showed that on average a pastor - [Caught in the Internet's Web](https://www.soulshepherding.org/caught-in-the-internets-web/) - Millions of people use the Internet compulsively. Internet Addiction Services estimates that 6 to 10% of Internet users are addicted. Addicted to the Internet? Yes.It's a New WorldToday we have so many ways to connect online: televisions, desktop computers, lap tops, tablets, and smart phones. It seems the Internet is everywhere we go. Within seconds we - [Responding to Abuse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/responding-to-abuse/) - What does the Bible teach about responding to abuse? There's a lot of confusion on this. God's wisdom is uncommon today. On the one extreme, some people suffer from depression, fear, and shame because they think that as Christians they should tolerate or even submit to abuse. This is a misunderstanding of the Bible! God does - [Come Away with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/come-away-with-jesus/) - “Because so many people were coming and going that they did not even have a chance to eat, [Jesus] said to [his disciples], ‘Come [away] with me by yourselves to a quiet place and get some rest.’ So they went away by themselves in a boat to a solitary place.” (Mark 6:31-32; "Come away" is - [See Jesus' Smiling Face in your Heart!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/smile-jesus-is-in-your-heart/) - Is your heart smiling? Are you appreciating that God is with you? The risen Christ is beside you as you read these words. You can see Jesus' smiling face in your heart! Smile with Jesus So take a deep breath to behold Christ in your heart... Smile as you breathe out! What joy it is - [Jesus is Our True Mother](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-true-mother/) - Happy Mother's Day to all of you who are mothers! For you and for all of our mothers -- and all women who, even if they are not biological mothers, are spiritual mothers -- I'd like to offer thanks and praise to our Lord Jesus Christ who has ministered God's love through you. Jesus alone is - [Sabbath](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sabbath/) - "Remember the Sabbath day by keeping it holy" (Exodus 20:8). Keeping a Sabbath day is more than a discipline, it's also one of the Ten Commandments. To keep a Sabbath is to set aside a 24-hour day in which you do no work to rest in God’s person and provision. Sabbath is a time to refrain - [The Joy of the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-joy-of-the-cross/) - At Lent, Good Friday, Easter, or really any time of the year, you can experience greater intimacy with Jesus by meditating on the joy of the cross. Of course, the cross itself is not joyful–it’s a brutal instrument of torture. Yet, Jesus Christ has brought us the joy of forgiveness, reconciliation with God, and abundant - [Comfort from the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/comfort-from-the-cross/) - Excerpted from Follow Jesus on the Stations of the Cross There is comfort for you in the cross of Christ if you seek it properly. Many people won't let themselves feel sad about what they should feel sad about. When they or a loved one suffer from a hurt, lose something important, or struggle with a - [Make a Soul Friend at the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/make-a-soul-friend-at-the-cross/) - Excerpted from Follow Jesus on the Stations of the Cross Everyone longs for a soul friend, but most don't know how to develop one. Come to the cross of Christ with me. Open your heart and together we'll experience resurrection life to share with others! This devotional continues my series of posts on the ancient Stations - [You're the Disciple Jesus Loves!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/youre-the-disciple-jesus-loves/) - In the darkness and torture of Good Friday's crucifixion, if we look carefully we see the light of Jesus dying so gracefully. Jesus' invisible source of love and life that overflowed to all, even his enemies, came from his being with the Father in the kingdom of God even as he hung on the cross. - [Fall into Abba's Arms with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fall-into-abbas-arms-with-jesus/) - What burden is weighing you down? Is there a struggle or sin that’s caused you to fall? Let Jesus teach you how to fall into Abba's arms of love. Bring your burden to Jesus as you watch and pray with him. - [Productivity Starts With Doing Nothing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/productivity-starts-with-doing-nothing/) - When I was too busy Dallas Willard advised me to set aside lots of time to do nothing. Being busy or overworking puts you in a stress mode that’s out of sync with God’s loving presence and the people around you. In the end, it’s actually less productive than scheduling time for rest, relationships, and - [A Prayer for Strength and Comfort](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-prayer-for-strength-and-comfort/) - God’s great ones are launched by prayers of devotion. It’s an essential form of prayer that brings surprising strength and comfort. A great example is the shepherd-king David who is described in the Bible as a man after God’s own heart. His prayers of devotion fill the Psalms and give us strength and comfort. Repeatedly - [Dallas Willard's Stages of Eternal Living (the Divine Conspiracy)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willards-stages-eternal-living/) - An understanding of how spiritual and psychological development generally progresses is crucial to personal faith and the ministries of spiritual direction, pastoral care, and Christian counseling. But many Christians, even pastors and leaders, have not studied this. In The Divine Conspiracy Dallas Willard shares some key thoughts on a developmental model of spiritual formation in - [Temptation and Spiritual Formation Stages](https://www.soulshepherding.org/temptation-spiritual-formation-stages/) - To grow spiritually and become more loving like Jesus Christ we need to understand the stages of our development and how to resist the temptations that thwart our progress. - [A Map For Your Journey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-map-for-your-journey/) - When our son David was eleven years old, I took him on a twelve-mile hike. It was a wonderful father-and-son adventure — till we headed down and got lost on the backside of the mountain. We were alone, with no map and no cell service. We’d eaten all our food, and it was getting dark - [Fuel For Your Journey With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fuel-for-your-journey-with-jesus/) - The teaching to “believe and do” typically ends in dead religion. There is so much more to life in God’s world! Jesus leads us on a journey of becoming fully alive. He is our model, our Living Blueprint. He is also the fuel for our journey. In our new book, Journey of the Soul, you - [Looking into Jesus' Face to Trust God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/looking-into-jesus-face-to-trust-god-c-stage/) - The CHRIST model in Journey of the Soul begins with the C Stage, Confidence in Christ. This is the place of discovering a brand-new-like-the-morning you. Your faith in God at this stage is experiential, relational, and imaginative—like a child’s faith would be. At the C Stage, our Shepherd offers us abundant and eternal life, while Satan vies to steal and destroy that life (John 10:10). We’re in a tug-of-war between the - [Refuting 3 Lies to Build Identity in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/refuting-3-lies-to-build-identity-in-christ/) - In the R Stage of Responsibilities in Ministry (the third of the CHRIST stages of faith), we’re ready to share with others the blessings we’ve received, the lessons we’ve learned, and the gifts God has given us. Any act of Christly kindness is a cup of water to the thirsty that brings God’s great reward (Matt. - [4 Steps to Your Breakthrough](https://www.soulshepherding.org/4-steps-to-your-breakthrough/) - When I (Bill) ran the Boston Marathon a few years ago, many challenges came against me—the heat and humidity rose into the 90s and runners dropped from leg cramps, dehydration, and heatstroke. I hit hard into The Wall that marathon runners dread: I was exhausted, my legs were like lead, and I had shooting pains radiating up - [Dallas Willard's Stages in the Journey of the Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willards-stages-in-the-journey-of-the-soul/) - Much of what I’ve learned about spiritual formation in the way of Jesus has come from studying Dallas Willard’s teachings and having personal conversations with him. As a psychologist and spiritual director, I’ve been especially interested in his methodology for life change. In The Divine Conspiracy (pp. 367-368) Dallas identifies five specific stages or dimensions - [5 Tips for a Healthy Small Group](https://www.soulshepherding.org/5-tips-for-a-healthy-small-group/) - No one grows spiritually alone — we need to be in community. That’s why it’s important for discipleship to Jesus to include participating in a small group or soul friendship. But small groups can be disappointing. I’ve been in Bible studies that were heady, relationally disconnected, and had little to do with daily life. I’ve - [Awakening Your Enneagram Centers of Intelligence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/awakening-your-enneagram-centers-of-intelligence/) - You have a spiritual IQ that is brilliant and powerful, but it’s largely hidden to you. By awakening your Enneagram centers of intelligence, you can grow in the grace of Christ (2 Peter 3:18). As we’ve been sharing in our series of blogs, podcasts, and our new book Healthy Feelings, Thriving Faith available for preorder - [Fasting](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fasting/) - While fasting Jesus said, “My food, is to do the will of him who sent me and to finish his work" (John 4:34). Fasting as a discipline for the spiritual life is a practice of abstinence or self-denial. Jesus taught us, "When you fast do not be somber, but be happy as you look to your Father in secret who - [Why Get Angry?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/why-get-angry/) - "Cease from anger" the Psalmist counsels us (Psalm 37:8). "Get rid of all anger" the New Testament echoes (Ephesians 4:31). Throughout the Bible we are cautioned about our anger. And many Psalms, particularly the Cursing Psalms, show us how to deal with anger in a wise and godly way. But it seems that few people - [My Top 5 Classics of Christian Devotion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-top-5-classics-of-christian-devotion/) - Many people ask me for book recommendations to help them to grow spiritually. I usually recommend one of the classics of Christian devotion that have influenced me so much. Here are my "Top 5" Classics of Christian Devotion with an appetizer from each. Right now you can be let the Holy Spirit use a short excerpt - [Top Soul Needs of 2018](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-soul-needs-of-2018/) - Your desire is to grow in trust in the Lord. That’s why the top article on Soul Shepherding’s website this year was Fear Not! 365 Days a Year with over 53,000 views. We had 975,000 page views in 2018! We are grateful to hear from pastors and leaders that our content is helping them grow in apprenticeship - [Top Soul Care Needs of 2016](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-soul-care-needs-2016/) - Happy New Year! It's surprising how many people search the Internet for help meeting soul care needs. In 2016 SoulShepherding.org received close to 1,000,000 page views. The #1 utilized resource was our "Spiritual Disciplines List" which was accessed 41,314 times. Other top Internet searches we received include "the Father's love," "fear not," "calming anxiety," "hearing God," "setting boundaries," - [Prevent Burnout: Renew Your Life in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prevent-burnout-renew-life-christ/) - Burnout is a huge problem for pastors and leaders. The way to prevent burnout is to draw life from God, not our own self. Then God overflows from our life, to our good works, to our ministry, to our job. We burnout when we rely on our own strength and abilities and give too much to our job and ministry. - [Sabbath in the New Testament: Rhythms of Loving Activity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sabbath-in-the-new-testament/) - What do the Scriptures reveal about Sabbath in the New Testament? Did Jesus practice the Sabbath? And how does that relate to how you might choose to keep the Sabbath today? Most people do not observe a Sabbath day — even committed Christians. They believe it’s an old law that’s not for today (Ex 20:8, - [Burned Out and Beaten Up Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/burned-beaten-pastors/) - Dave Rimoldi's Story “I felt so burned out before our meetings,” a pastor recalled to Dave. “The hectic pace of church ministry had drained me dry. I was day dreaming about becoming a barista at Starbucks!” “Now I’m excited to preach again and to serve the people in my church. I’ve learned a new pace - [Rest: The Other Side of Boredom](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rest-side-boredom/) - “I’m busy all the time,” a pastor told me. “And I love it!” But a few years later he blew out and lost his church. Then he let me inside the world of his soul. “Growing my church was like a drug,” he confessed. “I miss being the one in charge and on stage. I - [Notes From "An Unhurried Life"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/notes-from-an-unhurried-life/) - Readers of our Soul Shepherding Devotionals will know that being unhurried with Jesus is a theme I often write about. That's because hurry is such a problem for many of us. So I was thankful to have Alan Fadling, a friend and colleague of mine, give a talk for a group of pastors and leaders on his new book, An Unhurried Life: Following Jesus’ Rhythms of Work and Rest. Here are my notes. - [He Lost His Pulpit and Found His Heart](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lost-pulipit-found-heart/) - Empathy. Tender-hearted concern for our feelings. We all need it — especially when we’re hurting. But sometimes we lose touch with our heart’s need. “I was burned out and didn’t know it,” lead pastor Ken Baugh reflects. “I was so depleted of my own energy that I had just enough to get from weekend to - [Hard Work in an Easy Way](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hard-work-in-an-easy-way/) - “Am I burned out?” I (Bill) asked. I help pastors care for their soul and not burn out but now I was drained and dry. We’ve had COVID-19, quarantine, online church, racist killings, violent protests, and divisiveness in our communities. It’s been wave after wave of stress knocking us off our feet. Each time we - [Slowing Down for a Sabbath Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/slowing-down-for-a-sabbath-rest/) - “Hi. I’m Bill. I’m a workaholic and adrenaline addict in recovery.” Now you should say, “Hi Bill!” (That’s the way it goes in a 12 Step Group. There is grace for everyone!) How did I recover? How did I get free of adrenaline dependence and anxious overworking? By slowing down for a Sabbath rest. "Hurry Up - [My Rhythm of Life With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-rhythm-of-life-with-jesus/) - As God’s beloved child, you are invited to experience a life of freedom and joy in the Kingdom of the Heavens—a rhythm of life with Jesus in his easy yoke. Because you’ve been saved by grace, you do not need to earn your salvation by living under rules of religious requirement. It is for freedom - [A Hurried Pastor Connects with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hurried-pastor-connects-with-jesus/) - Let me tell you about a man I’ll call Eddie. Over the years I’ve talked with lots of people like him. Many of the pastors and leaders we help are like him. I used to be a lot like him myself! Eddie is a pastor with a doctorate degree in ministry. He’s a dynamic preacher - [Sabbath Rest on Vacation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/vacation-sabbath-rest/) - “Wave after wave of God’s love washes over me.” This little prayer inspired by Psalm 42:7 is a good summary of the ten days Kristi and I have been enjoying in Kauai. We’re thankful for our friends who provided for us to stay in their timeshare! As I write to you I’m sitting on the - [Joining Jesus' Sabbath Day](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sample-lectio-divina-jesus-sabbath-day/) - Lectio Divina is a delightful way to pray through a Bible passage. In our Soul Shepherding ministry, we use an especially refreshing and encouraging approach to this ancient discipline. The best way to understand Lectio Divina (Latin for "Divine Reading") is to experience it personally, especially with someone who is experienced with this quiet, reflective, - [Addicted to Public Productivity (A Case For Sabbatical)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/addicted-public-productivity-case-sabbatical/) - Last week on this blog I shared on “Megachurch Pastor Pete Wilson Burns Out.” What’s your response to this story? Sadly, some people are critical of Pete. The leader of one of America’s fastest growing churches admitted to the world he was “leading on empty.” The pastor who welcomed imperfect people to receive God’s grace - [Re-Soul: Don’t let Burnout Sneak up on You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/re-soul-dont-let-burnout-sneak-up-on-you/) - “I was burned out and didn’t know it,” lead pastor Ken Baugh recalls. It happens to so many pastors and other leaders and caregivers—but it doesn’t have to be your story. “I was so depleted of my own energy that I had just enough to get from weekend to weekend… I came to the point - [From Sabbath to Sabbatical](https://www.soulshepherding.org/from-sabbath-to-sabbatical/) - A Sabbatical of a few weeks or more helps you disconnect from your work and ministry to experience Sabbath rest and hear God's voice. Here are some ideas. - [No Condemnation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/no-condemnation/) - Today is Ash Wednesday which begins the period of Lent --- 40 days to prepare our hearts for Easter resurrection. This holy season is helpful for all Christians to appreciate the cross of Christ and their opportunity to take up their cross and follow Christ for the joy set before them. To help you open - [The Risen Christ Goes Before You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-risen-christ-goes-before-you/) - Christ is risen — wherever you go, the risen Christ goes before you! What does this mean to how you are living your life today? How are you interacting with the risen Christ as you do what you are doing? If we're not careful, we can go through a typical day relying on our own - [An Unforgettable Walk With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walk-with-jesus/) - Have you ever walked with Jesus and prayed through the Stations of the Cross at a retreat center? Or done a virtual “prayer walk” using the stories and prophecies of Christ’s passion that go with the ancient Stations? I have. Many times. It’s truly unforgettable. Divine mercy has flooded into my body and soul. The - [Days of Holy Week Devotional: Receiving Jesus' Empathy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/days-of-holy-week/) - The days of Holy Week are a special opportunity to draw on Jesus' empathy in new ways. You know that the last seven days of Christ's life changed the world, but you may not have thought of them as filled with empathy for your pain and brokenness. The drama of Holy Week begins with Palm - [Your Lent Journey of Grace and Blessing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-lent-journey-of-grace-and-blessing/) - You may think of Lent as hard, somber, or only for Catholics, but like more and more Christ-followers, you can find your Lent journey to be a blessing filled with God's abundant grace. My experience is that Lent is like the easy yoke of Jesus: It can seem hard to get into it, but once - [Fear Not at Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-not-at-christmas/) - At the first Christmas, God keeps saying, “Fear not!” It’s a message we still need to hear today, too. Let's explore how God encouraged those at the first advent to "Fear Not"... Fear Not's from the First Christmas Zechariah and Elizabeth were told that after decades of waiting they’d finally have a child in their - [Experience the Joy of Lent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/experience-the-joy-of-lent/) - Try this simple, inspiring discipline to live with the cross of Christ and empty tomb in your mind. It helps us turn from sin to Jesus. It's great for Lent. - [Advent Breath Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/advent-breath-prayers/) - To help you celebrate Advent, you can try asking God to lead you to one or two of these Advent Breath Prayers from the Bible (very short meditations based on a Bible verse). Each one is inspired by one of the characters in the Christmas story. This article will give you a brief background in - [Your Shadow Self and the Enneagram](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-shadow-self-and-the-enneagram/) - You have a hidden shadow self based on your Enneagram type that is undermining your health, success, joy, and love. It operates in stealth by denying your emotional needs and struggles. If you don't identify your shadow self, then it will sabotage the strengths of your Enneagram type and keep causing you pain and problems. - [Gratitude and Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gratitude-and-prayer/) - Prayer and gratitude can be combined to train your heart and mind to enjoy and appreciate God's presence in the ordinary moments of your days. Of all the virtues, gratitude is queen! Giving thanks to God is the most lovely virtue, and it's the mother of all that is good. That's because "every good and - [Bible Verses on Thankfulness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-on-thankfulness/) - What Bible verses on thankfulness are especially important for us to live by? I've made a study of gratitude Scriptures to grow in thanksgiving. We share these verses with family and friends around our table at mealtimes, especially on Thanksgiving. Meditating on Scripture can train your heart and mind to experience the Kingdom of God - [Guigo's Ladder of Monks](https://www.soulshepherding.org/guigos-ladder-of-monks/) - How wonderful it is to penetrate the depths of God's Word. O to "taste and see that the Lord is good" (Psalm 34:8) and his words of life are "sweeter than honey"! (Psalm 19:10, 119:103). What love, joy, peace, and fruitful living is ours when we learn to "let the word of Christ dwell in - [Codependency Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/codependency-test/) - Do you tend to rescue people from their problems or get enmeshed in dysfunctional relationships? Our free Codependency Test can help you to assess if you may need to work on strengthening your boundaries in your relationships. Many people we talk to have problems setting boundaries in their relationships. They may have problematic relationships with - [Anxiety Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/anxiety-test/) - Are you overwhelmed with anxiety, fear, or panic? Our free Anxiety Test can help you understand if you're internalizing your stress and need help. The questions for our Anxiety Test are organized in the acronym “A-N-X-I-E-T-Y.” This is a simple screening tool to identify key symptoms of anxiety disorders. Keep track of your “yes” answers, circling any of - [A Simple Solution to Stress From Dallas Willard](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-simple-solution-to-stress-from-dallas-willard/) - One day in the fall of 2007 when I was meeting with Dallas Willard at his USC office he asked me, “If you had one word to describe Jesus what would it be?” How would you answer that question? If you could only use one word to describe Jesus what would it be? You might pause to consider that - [Smile, Play, and Laugh with Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/smile-play-and-laugh-with-jesus/) - We developed this Scripture meditation for our Soul Care Groups. - [Spiritual Disciplines List](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-disciplines-list/) - Insights and Applications From The Spirit of the Disciplines by Dallas Willard This Spiritual Disciplines List features some main disciplines for life in Christ with concise definitions for each. We call these "spiritual disciplines," but the activities are physical, not spiritual. They are bodily activities that can engage and effect our whole person (Romans 12:1-2). So a more accurate - [Jesus, CEO of the World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-ceo-world/) - Who are the greatest entrepreneurs and leaders in history? What executive leader in business, government, or nonprofit has had the greatest impact on our world? In America we might think of names like Abraham Lincoln, Henry Ford, Martin Luther King, Jr., Steve Jobs, Walt Disney, John Rockefeller, or Estée Lauder. Many other world leaders might - [Assisting the Wonderful Counselor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/assisting-wonderful-counselor/) - Early in my graduate training to become a psychologist I offered counseling to a young female undergraduate student with my professor and class watching and listening behind a one way mirror. This was nerve-wracking! I was worried about how well I’d perform in front of my teacher and peers. I was so anxious that it - [How Can I Improve My Marriage?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-can-i-improve-my-marriage/) - My wife Kristi and I are invested in helping couples who serve others in ministry. Our heart is for pastors and their wives. As ministry leaders ourselves we know the dangers of being preoccupied and stressed with helping other people while neglecting our own marriage and our own souls. We have been counseling couples and - [Formation of the Whole Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/formation-of-the-whole-person/) - To understand the formation of the whole person and how we can become more like Jesus we need to understand each functional dimension of our personality from the inside out. The Psalms of the Bible help us with this. It is by praying the Psalms that we learn to come alive love the Lord and our - [Statement of Christian Faith and Doctrine](https://www.soulshepherding.org/statement-christian-faith-doctrine/) - Soul Shepherding and its founders, staff, and network members are guided by these core beliefs: God We believe in one God, Creator, and Lord of the Universe, the co-eternal Trinity of Father, Son, and Holy Spirit. God is all-powerful, all-knowing, eternal, everywhere present, totally holy and loving, shining in glory, and supremely happy. God is - [Christmas Devotional Experience](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christmas-devotional-experience/) - We'd like to share with you my favorite Christmas devotional experience that we use for Advent... - [Jesus and Abba at the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-and-abba-at-the-cross/) - Where was God the Father when Jesus was being crucified? Where is God when you and I are being mistreated? We know that Jesus cried out on the cross the prayer of David in Psalm 22:1: "My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?" On the cross, Jesus felt abandoned by the Father. He was - [What I Do When I Feel Stupid](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-i-do-when-i-feel-stupid/) - I feel stupid. Do you ever feel that way? People think I’m smart because I have a PhD in psychology and I’m blessed to have people like you listen to me. But in reality I often feel stupid. As far back as I can remember I’ve felt like I should know what to do and - [Hearing God at the Kitchen Table](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hearing-god-at-the-kitchen-table-martin-luther-king-jrs-spirituality/) - If ever we needed the message and legacy of Martin Luther King, Jr. (1929–1968) it’s today! Before he became a role model, he was an ordinary pastor from Atlanta, Georgia. King emerged from the Montgomery, Alabama, bus boycott of 1955 to 1956 as a national figure in America’s civil rights movement. He publicly denounced the injustices and inequalities that fellow African Americans were daily subjugated to simply because their skin color - [Bible Reading that Transforms Your Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-reading-transforms-life/) - Sadly, many people rarely read the Bible. For others Bible reading is a task to complete. Here are 4 uncommon and powerful ways to read the Bible! - [Christmas Bible Verses to Share](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christmas-bible-verses-to-share/) - There are many ways to re-tell the Christmas story from the Bible. This collection of Christmas Bible verses are a simple way of telling the story of God coming to earth in Jesus Christ. It leads us on a journey of key Bible verses in chronological order. We've used these Christmas Bible verses in our - ["Just Say the Word!"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/just-say-the-word/) - The Roman centurion in the Bible story said to Jesus, "Just say the word." He put faith in the power of Jesus' words and his servant was healed. - [Alone in a Crowd, I Need a Friend](https://www.soulshepherding.org/alone-in-a-crowd-i-need-a-friend/) - Walking into my high school cafeteria was one of the hardest things I’ve done in my life. I had my lunch bag in my hand and I was hungry, but as I looked for a place to sit I saw that everyone was already sitting at tables, eating their lunches and talking. It was really - [Sightless Among Miracles](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sightless-among-miracles/) - Look! God is Doing Miracles All Around You! Two days ago we came home from vacation I found our front door left unlocked. (The girl who cared for our cats forgot to lock it.) A wave of fear hit. Then I got really scared when I heard a phone message from the local police urging - [The Advent of Your God-Dream](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-advent-of-your-god-dream/) - Advent means “come.” At Christmastime we celebrate the miracle birth of “Immanuel,” God come to be with us. Jesus Christ was born to the virgin Mary to show us God in human flesh - this is God’s greatest dream and humankind’s greatest longing! God wants to birth a dream through you too! Mary is our - [An Advent Devotional Practice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/an-advent-devotional-practice/) - Each year at Advent I ask God to lead me to a Bible character from the Christmas story to help me prepare my heart for Christmas. This helps me to focus on a passage from the Gospel and go deeper with it in meditation, prayer, and application. I trust God to speak into my struggles - [Identifying Your Spiritual Gifts](https://www.soulshepherding.org/identifying-your-spiritual-gifts/) - What a blessing and honor it is when God gives us spiritual gifts and the opportunities to use them to minister to others and help them grow in Christ! Knowing the gifts God has given you -- and the ones he hasn't given you1 -- is essential to your ministry. It's important to realize that - [Eating Disorder Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/eating-disorder-test/) - Do you (or someone you know) have a problem with compulsive behaviors surrounding food? Has overeating, under-eating, or binge and purge cycles diminished your effectiveness in your relationships and your work? Take the A-N A-D-D-I-C-T Eating Disorder Test to see if you may have an eating disorder. Circle the numbers on the left if you answer yes - [A “Day” in the Life of Jesus (Mark 1:9-45)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-day-in-the-life-of-jesus-mark-19-45/) - Imagine spending a day with Jesus. You could observe how he spends his time and how he carries himself. You'd appreciate his generous love toward all people. And you'd see firsthand the secret of his power and grace. Prayerfully reading the Gospels helps us to do this. Some years ago I helped Howard Baker lead - [Discover the Secret of Jesus' Peace and Power](https://www.soulshepherding.org/discover-the-secret-of-jesus-peace-and-power/) - All true Christians and many other people from a great variety of religions and cultures would say that they want to be like Jesus. But most people don't make much progress. Why? How does someone love God and other people like Jesus shows us? How did Jesus become the man we see on the pages - [Blessed Are the Meek?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessed-are-the-meek/) - I don’t like to be meek. I like to be in control. I like to be right, independent, strong, organized, able to handle whatever happens to me, viewed positively by people and on top of my emotions. I am a “Gut” personality on the Enneagram. That includes Perfectionist 1’s (like me), Challenger 8’s, and Peacemaker 9’s. - [“You Will Be Great in Jesus!”](https://www.soulshepherding.org/you-will-be-great-in-jesus/) - One day when I was sixteen years old I was talking to my mom. I was depressed. I told her, “I don’t have any friends. With the guys who used to be my friends when we were younger, now it’s like I can’t relate to them or the things they talk about. They want to - [“Fear Not” Says an Alcoholic Ex-Priest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-not-says-an-alcoholic-ex-priest/) - Brennan Manning insisted “the God-revelation of Jesus” removes fear and worry. Yet, he also admitted to a fear of abandonment going back to his childhood. Worse, at the end of his life, in his memoir All is Grace, Manning confessed: “I’ve been a priest, then an ex-priest. Husband, then ex-husband. Amazed crowds one night and - [“Do Not Be Anxious.” Really?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/not-anxious-really/) - When I was a young adult, I read in the Bible, “Do not be anxious about anything”—and immediately I felt more anxious! Has that ever happened to you? I thought, What’s wrong with me? I’m a Christian, but clearly not a good Christian. I’m not supposed to be anxious — and I’m basically anxious all the - [Your Love, O Lord, is Better than Wine!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-love-o-lord-is-better-than-wine/) - I met Lisa (not her real name) because her husband insisted that she talk with me. He said she had a drinking problem. Of course, she thought he was crazy! Lisa was raised by a Baptist pastor. She was religious and she was also a good mother to her school-aged girls – except when she was - [Your Home in the Heavens](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-home-in-the-heavens-2/) - Jesus says, "Do not let your hearts be troubled... My Father's house has many rooms... I am going there to prepare a place for you... I will come back and take you to be with me." ( John 14:1-3) This is a wonderful promise! As Christ-followers we don't need to despair over death; we can - [Your Deep Need to Belong (This is Jesus’ Passion)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/deep-need-belong-jesus-passion/) - Jesus invites you into his belonging and this is the greatest blessing of your life! At times you may feel that you don’t really belong to a group of people who enjoy and appreciate you. Psychological studies show that without a secure sense of belonging we suffer from a loss of meaning, depression, and poor - [Your Care Brings Cure](https://www.soulshepherding.org/your-care-brings-cure/) - Jesus says of the Good Samaritan: “He went [to the injured man] and bandaged his wounds, pouring on oil and wine. Then he put the man on his own donkey, took him to an inn and took care of him.” (Luke 10: 34) In Jesus’ story a Jew had been beaten up, robbed, and left - [Yearning for God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/yearning-for-god/) - Longing for God is the breath of our souls! It is yearning for God with our heart that opens our souls to breathe in the Spirit of Christ and live for him alone. There’s nothing more important to our lives than longing for Jesus Christ. And the beauty of it is that when we seek - [You're Not Rejected at the Communion Table](https://www.soulshepherding.org/youre-not-rejected-at-the-communion-table/) - Sometimes I go to monasteries for spiritual retreats and attend some of the prayer services with the Catholic monks where they chant the Psalms. One time at Mass when I went up to the front for the Eucharist the priest shook his head and frowned, indicating that it was not okay for me as a - [You Are Unforsaken! (a Resource for Lent)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/unforsaken-resource-lent/) - The seven last words of Jesus cry out, “You are unforsaken by God!” But tragically we don’t hear them that way. We need a new vision of the cross of Christ. We need fresh wording for Jesus’ message of unfailing delight. Because if we’re not care-full the horrible suffering and darkness of the cross obscure - [You Are Enough!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/you-are-enough/) - During the fourteen years that I was fasting from publishing books, Kristi and I were on a retreat with a group of church leaders. As I was quiet and still before God, some inner emotions surfaced and I became aware of feeling inadequate and deficient. I felt I was not doing enough with my life: - [Yearning For Soul Talks With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/yearning-for-soul-talks-with-jesus/) - To help you deepen your intimacy with the Lord the people you live with and care for Kristi and I have started a new Podcast called “Soul Talks.” You can subscribe to these free, 20-minute conversations on iTunes. You can use the media player below to listen to our first broadcast of "Spiritual Hospitality"! Intimacy With Christ - [Worry Free Living](https://www.soulshepherding.org/worry-free-living/) - Anxiety is probably the most common problem that Kristi and I have helped people with over the last twenty-five years. In our therapy office, in churches, on retreats, and in soul care groups we’ve given care, counsel, and prayer to so many anxious people – including ourselves! Our Stressed Out Culture Is it any wonder - [Worried about Money? Meditate!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/230/) - The other day I was tempted to become worried and fearful. My income is way down this year and, with a son in college, our family expenses are way up. We've had to dip into savings to keep our heads above water. (Thank God for savings!) Most of my life in this situation I’ve gone - [Without Love I Am Nothing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/without-love-i-am-nothing/) - The famous love chapter in the Bible is often misunderstood. It's not about romance. It's not even about human love. If we read about the love that is described in 1 Corinthians 13 and then try to be more loving we're in trouble! That's a lot of pressure, guilt, and failure! In 1 Corinthians 13 - [With Jesus You are Unforsaken!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/with-jesus-you-are-unforsaken/) - The spiritual program that has most impacted my life may surprise you. It’s the Stations of the Cross. Over the years I’ve gathered Gospel meditations and written prayers to go with each of the fourteen stations. It’s a crosswalk that brings me up close and personal to Jesus. I call it Unforsaken because that’s the - [With Jesus I Can!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/with-jesus-i-can/) - Most of us are prone to make one of two mistakes: either we shrink back from challenges or we take on too much in our own strength. The key to life is to take courage from Jesus with us so that we can persevere in difficulties and serve God in all we do. A favorite - [William Law on "The Importance of Intention"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/william-law-importance-intention/) - William Law says that the best and happiest life is to seek to please God in all that we do. Sadly, many who identify with Christ do not intend this life. - [Why the Birds Don't Worry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/why-the-birds-dont-worry/) - Every week I talk with pastors, ministry leaders, and all kinds of people trying to make their way through life. Most of them struggle with worry. They stress over their problems and strategize how to solve them. Or they busy themselves with many activities, rushing from thing to thing, trying to do more than they - [Why Jesus Didn’t Burn Out](https://www.soulshepherding.org/why-jesus-didnt-burn-out/) - One thing that helped turn me around before I totally burned out was to look prayerfully at the life of Jesus. I studied the Gospels carefully and learned some surprising things that I hadn’t been taught in church. I saw Jesus setting boundaries repeatedly. I share the full results of this study into the confident - [Why I Did a Colonoscopy Without Sedation or Anesthesia](https://www.soulshepherding.org/why-i-did-a-colonoscopy-without-sedation-or-anesthesia/) - What do you do when you’re afraid? What helps you to face your fears and endure pain? Recently I faced fear and pain when I went through a colonoscopy without sedation or anesthesia. The nurses kept trying to talk me into letting them give me medicine. The doctor said the pain level would be close - [Why Does God Allow Suffering? (A Bible Study)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/why-does-god-allow-suffering/) - Why does God allow suffering? If he is all-good and all-powerful couldn't he stop injustice? We've all asked this question. For all of human history people have wrestled with question of why does God allow suffering. Much of the pain and suffering that we experience or see others going through is undeserved. It's hard to - [Where is God When it's Cold and Dark?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/where-is-god-when-its-cold-and-dark/) - What do you do when your spiritual fire dies down? What do you do when your soul is in a long, cold winter? I'm sure you've experienced this. But maybe you don't talk about it. Sooner or later every Christ-follower has to deal with times of coolness towards God: you don't feel like reading your - [When You Doubt the Power of Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/doubt-power-prayer/) - “God Doesn’t Answer Prayer.” That’s what my friend Pastor Jeff McCrory heard himself say to his small group Bible Study. “My hurt was talking,” he recalls. We know that the Bible says things like, “Call to me and I will answer…” (Jeremiah 33:3) But sometimes it feels like God is not responding to our prayers. “Why - [When You Don't Hear God's Voice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/when-you-dont-hear-gods-voice/) - Learning to discern God’s voice is vital to our life and ministry. But hearing God speak is not like using a vending machine! It's part of growing in a conversational relationship with him. All relationships have natural ebbs and flows. In our most important relationships we probably experience times of enjoying intimacy and times of - [When Love Hurts Let Christ Shine Out of Your Body](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-hurts-let-christ-shine-body/) - In an hour of solitude this morning I was praying for God to help me love someone who I've felt hurt by. This has been a wrestling for many months. Jesus teaches us, "Bless those who curse you... Give to those who ask of you... Be merciful [with others] just as your Father is merciful - [When Jesus Calls](https://www.soulshepherding.org/when-jesus-calls/) - Christ came to meet me in the garden of my soul, but I was busy. He was longing to share fragrances of love with me, but I was distracted tending to someone else’s garden. Maybe you know this experience? Maybe like me you are someone who cares for other people as a pastor, counselor, caregiver, - [When it Rains on Your Parade](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rains-parade/) - In 2006 our family was excited to go to the New Year’s Day Rose Parade with some friends, but when we got up early that morning it was raining and cold with 30 mph winds gusting. It hadn’t rained on the Rose Parade in 51 years! What do you do when it rains on your - [When it Hurts. How to Trust God?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hurts-trust-god/) - It seems that everyday either I have a hurt or I talk to someone who does. I’m sure it’s the same for you. That’s ministry! Here’s an excerpt from my book Your Best Life in Jesus’ Easy Yoke that helps us think about emotional pain and relying on God’s lovingkindness… Do you trust that God - [When Henri Nouwen Couldn’t Feel God’s Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/when-henri-nouwen-couldnt-feel-gods-love/) - The warmth of God’s presence can be elusive. In his secret journal, Henri Nouwen is vulnerable about a dark season in which he couldn’t feel God’s love. He’d helped millions of other people around the world into a more tender and intimate experience with God, but he was in a Dark Night of the Soul. - [What's it Like Inside Your Head?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/whats-it-like-inside-your-head/) - As a psychologist, my job is to get inside people's heads and understand what it's like to live in there. I can tell you that for many people it's very stressful inside their minds! Understanding the way we think and what we really believe is important work because, as Dallas Willard teaches, "We live at - [What We Love About Lent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-we-love-about-lent/) - How do you feel about Lent? Many Christ-followers are unsure about it. To some it feels somber, even dark or oppressive, and they’re afraid of it. But Catholics and mainline Protestant churches have been celebrating Lent for centuries. And in the last few years more and more Christians are participating. Pastors, including those at conservative - [What is the Gospel According to You?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gospel-according/) - “In your life and ministry what is the Gospel according to you? How do you convey the Good News of Jesus?” This is the question that Dallas Willard asked me and a group of twenty pastors in his Doctor of Ministry class. Most of the pastors there preached that Christ died for our sins so we could - [Walk with Jesus to Bible Statues](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walk-with-jesus-to-bible-statues/) - This devotional guide features Scripture meditations and prayers inspired by the Bible statues at Christ's Cathedral. Your visit can be a pilgrimage! - [We Took a Risk. Are You With Us?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/we-took-a-risk-are-you-with-us/) - “I’m afraid of failing,” Kristi said to me at the kitchen table. “You mean about our new Soul Talks Podcast,” I verified. She nodded. “It’s been a dream of mine. What if it doesn’t connect with people? What if I look foolish?” We volleyed our emotions and compassion back and forth. “This feels like a big - [We Fought for Our Lives Against the Riptides!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/we-fought-for-our-lives-against-the-riptides/) - It was a sunny day in Hawaii. Kristi and I found a remote beach with a bay that was perfect for floating on rafts. The waves were crashing thunderously on the ocean side of the reef, but inside the bay it was peaceful. We put out into the water and laid back on our rafts. - [We Belong in the Trinitarian Family!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/we-belong-in-the-trinitarian-family/) - We all feel left out at times. We may feel unwanted and alone. Maybe there's conflict in our family or our friends are busy. What to do? At times like this it's easy to feel sorry for yourself. Or to complain. Or to distract yourself by getting busy. I've done these things. But it's so - [Waves of Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/waves-of-prayer/) - I find it a great blessing to spend time at the ocean, a lake, or a river. Immersed in God's beauty, I relax. Surrounded by the sounds of flowing water it's easier for me to hear God's voice. I imagine you've experienced this. And if you bond with God at a body of water then - [Waves of Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/waves-of-love/) - Psalm 42 is a psalm of lament and longing for God. We pray it and feel God's waves of love, like a waterfall, wash over us, in us, and through us. It's the Spirit of Jesus. - [Waterways of Winsome Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/waterways-winsome-grace/) - As you may recall, for Lent I gave up judging others. Needless to say, it’s a grace-work in progress! Recently I was taking a prayer walk on the path around the lake and meditating on Jesus’ words “Do not judge…” Then I noticed a man in his late 20’s striding my way with bravado. I - [Watch and Pray Before you Slip](https://www.soulshepherding.org/watch-and-pray-before-you-slip/) - Thank you Lord that “By the word of your lips… My steps have held to your paths; my feet have not slipped” (Psalm 17:4-5). I experienced the truth of David’s words on a rainy morning earlier this week. The rain had stopped and the sun was shining so I got out my bike to do - [Walk with Good Shepherd in Psalm 23](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walking-with-good-shepherd-in-psalm-23/) - "The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want" so begins the journey of a lifetime! (Psalm 23:1). Yes, Psalm 23 is a spiritual journey -- a story that's over 3,000 years old and one that's being re-told in your life right now! We love Psalm 23 because God uses its images and scenes to - [Walk Where Jesus Walked in Israel (It's Not as Easy as you Think)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walk-where-jesus-walked-in-israel-its-not-as-easy-as-you-think/) - It's a blessing to go to Israel to walk where Jesus walked. But you might surprised to know that it's not easy to experience Jesus on a typical tour, even though you're on the trip of a lifetime in the land of the Bible! Some Challenges of Tours in Israel Most people when they go - [Walk through a Wall of Fear](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walk-through-a-wall-of-fear/) - Recently, I was awoken before three in the morning and I couldn’t sleep. (My body still thought it was in Greece where we led a “Steps of Paul” pilgrimage!) I thought, I need more sleep! But then I realized, Even more I need the Lord. This is an opportunity for me to meditate on his words to me. - [Walk in the Light of Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/walk-in-the-light-of-christ/) - In the Bible the Psalmist and the Apostle John urge us to "walk in the light" (Psalm 89:15, 1 John 1:7). Being attuned to God (or practicing God's presence) in this way is the key to a life of love, joy, and peace. In Paul's words this is to "pray without ceasing" or "keep in step with - [Waiting for Holy Fire](https://www.soulshepherding.org/waiting-for-holy-fire/) - "The Morning Psalm" of the Psalter has helped me to start my day in stillness, prayer and intercession many times. One morning, I stayed in silence with Psalm 5 most of the day: I lived in it and it in me. I waited before the Lord at my prayer altar and holy fire descended from - [Visions of Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/visions-of-christ/) - Have you ever meditated upon the visions of Christ in his glory recorded in the Bible? I invite you to join me in doing so now. The Lord Jesus Christ comes on the clouds of the heavens, not just in the painting on the left, but spiritually right now he comes with open arms to - [Use Your Christ Shield to Deal with Criticism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/use-your-christ-shield-to-deal-with-criticism/) - When you experience criticism are you defensive? Do you get angry? Maybe you internalize your anger and become discouraged? Many pastors and caregivers, and others I talk to have a hard time responding to criticism because they take it inside and feel bad or they protect themselves by shutting down emotionally, which leaves them isolated - [Unhurried on Uneven Steps with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/unhurried-on-uneven-steps-with-jesus/) - In Jerusalem I visited the site where the temple used to be and I walked the same south entry steps that Jesus walked on. As I climbed I noticed that the steps were irregular – they varied in length, some being long and others being short. I learned that this was done on purpose in order - [Trying to Get More Done in Less Time?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/trying-to-get-more-done-in-less-time/) - I was talking with a friend who likes to drive in the fast lane. He thrives on trying to get more done in less time in order to be successful. He's very productive... and stressed. He doesn't realize that he's continually recruiting adrenaline to give him the boost of energy and confidence that he feels - [Try a Breath Prayer -- it's Simple and Delightful!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breathe-a-prayer-its-simple-delightful/) - In my teaching, counseling, and leading of retreats I find that pastors, ministry leaders, and others greatly benefit from learning how to use a Breath Prayer approach to meditating on a phrase from the Bible. I'm not surprised because this has been so helpful to me personally. A Breath Prayer is Like a Smile to - [Trusting God’s Love When You’re Not Healed](https://www.soulshepherding.org/trusting-gods-love-when-youre-not-healed/) - God is lovingly caring for us — even if the healing we pray for doesn’t happen. “You might think if someone had the gift of healing they’d go to the hospital and heal everyone,” John Wimber remarked, “but Jesus didn’t do that. When he went to the Pool of Bethesda, the hospital of his day, - [Trust God as Abba in "The Return of the Prodigal Son"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/trust-god-as-abba-in-the-return-of-the-prodigal-son/) - The hospitality of God to us is so beautifully expressed in Jesus' Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). But most of us struggle to experience the heart-warming love of Abba Father that Jesus offers in this story. Rembrandt's famous 17th Century painting of Jesus' parable, "The Return of the Prodigal," is a great help. Linger with Rembrandt's - [True and Perfect Joy (by St Francis)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/true-perfect-joy-st-francis/) - St Francis experienced perfect joy. Many buy a statue of him, but few are prepared to imitate his devotion to Jesus Christ. Here's his story of perfect joy. - [Triangulating Hurts You and Your Loved Ones](https://www.soulshepherding.org/triangulating-hurts-you-and-your-loved-ones/) - Many families and groups are built on unhealthy “triangles” of three-way relationships that harm people and create dysfunction. It’s a simple concept, that once we understand, we can use to love one another better. The theory of triangles helps explain why being part of a family (also a small group, staff team, or church community) - [Top Ten Soul Shepherding Posts of 2014](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-ten-soul-shepherding-posts-2014/) - How can we connect you with Jesus? That's the question we ask pastors and other servants of the Lord. Here are the Top Ten needs for help from 2014. - [Top Ten Soul Shepherding Posts of 2013](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-ten-soul-shepherding-posts-2013/) - This year Soul Shepherding received 562,204 page views, including crossing the milestone of 1,000,000! (Since January 1st of 2010 we've received 1,281,230 page views.) What are people reading? Here's our Top Ten list. Most Popular Posts Viewed in 2013 Our four most viewed pages in 2013 were all written in previous years. (They're being picked - [Top Ten Soul Shepherding Posts of 2012](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-ten-soul-shepherding-posts-of-2012/) - As we start the New Year let's look back on Soul Shepherding in 2012. In the last year visitors connected with Jesus, the Shepherd of our souls, on 441,045 pages on Soul Sheppherding.org. What were the Top Ten posts that were especially helpful? Most Popular Posts Published in 2012 We added a lot of new - [Top Hits of 2017 For Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/top-hits-2017-soul/) - Your greatest hope is to know the Father of Jesus as your Father too. That's why the top article on SoulShepherding.org this year was "Bible Verses on the Father's Love" -- it had 44,000 views. In fact, we had over 1,000,000 page views in 2017! We continually hear from pastors and all kinds of people that - [To Love Yourself, Love God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-love-god/) - God delights to bless you — but maybe not in the way you think. This explains why many people are disappointed or frustrated with God. They believe the typical Christian answer to low self-esteem: “You are special to God so love yourself. He created your personality and gave you gifts so you can achieve great - [Tips from Dallas Willard’s Personal Devotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tips-from-dallas-willards-personal-devotions/) - Remembering Dallas Willard: September 4, 1935, to May 8, 2013 I heard Dallas Willard speak on prayer and spiritual disciplines many times. One time was in 2011 at my friend Bobby Schuller’s church and Bobby asked him, “What are your daily prayer rhythms? What do you do on normal days?” Many people in church that - [Thoughts as Incense](https://www.soulshepherding.org/thoughts-as-incense/) - Distracting thoughts are great enemies of prayer. They can be like buzzing bees that drive us crazy! Today I enjoyed Sabbath time with Jesus. With My Psalms Prayer Book in hand and candles lit at the altar in my prayer room I kneeled and prayed from Psalm 118. The Word of God helped inflame the - [Thirsty for Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/thirsty-for-jesus/) - I had too much to do today. But thank God I kept my Sabbath anyway to walk in the hills and go into quiet prayer. I set aside ministry opportunities, but they came with me in my head! So I kept setting aside all these good thoughts for the best thoughts. I let the beauty - [The Words we Need to Hear on 9-11](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-words-we-need-to-hear-on-9-11/) - There’s one thing you don’t hear on 9-11, and it’s the most important thing. Until you trust these words, you’re not in a position of strength to minister God’s comfort to the grieving and his justice to the oppressed and endangered. “This world is a perfectly safe place to be... as long as you’re in - [The Winning Shot](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-winning-shot/) - When I was boy I spent countless hours shooting baskets in my backyard. I liked to imagine that my team was behind by one point in the last seconds and I had the ball in my hands. I’d dribble, spin away from a defender, and shoot from twenty feet out. Time expired and the final - [The Way Jesus Died](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-way-jesus-died/) - What if while Jesus was being crucified he would've gotten angry at the people who tortured him? Imagine if he would've said things like, “Father, zap those soldiers with lighting!... Cause an earthquake to swallow up those Pharisees!... Look at these people who are mocking me even though I give my life to them in love – - [The Voice of Love to Overcome Self-Hatred](https://www.soulshepherding.org/voice-love-overcome-self-hatred/) - What do you hate the most about yourself? What is the thing about you that most frustrates and embarrasses you? The thing you wish you could change but can’t? At Soul Shepherding we care for pastors and recently they’ve confessed: “My ambition is causing me to neglect my wife.” “We keep pumping up our successes - [The Touch of Jesus Heals Hearts](https://www.soulshepherding.org/touch-jesus-will-heal-hearts/) - We were sitting in a chair on a Montana ranch at the edge of a forest surrounded by mountains. Kristi and I had just finished leading three days of Soul Shepherding training for a community of pastor couples. Now we were enjoying our own retreat time in a 100-year old cabin. Have you ever enjoyed - [The Three Words of Jesus You Need Most](https://www.soulshepherding.org/three-words-jesus-need/) - One Sunday morning Argentinian Pastor Juan Carlos Ortiz stood up to preach and looked out at his congregation of about a thousand people. He smiled, “Love one another… Love one another…” (John 13:34-35, 15:12) The best-selling author of Disciple made eye contact with the people throughout his church. Then he went back to his seat - [The Three Lights of Divine Guidance](https://www.soulshepherding.org/three-lights-divine-guidance/) - F. B. Meyer was a famous London pastor of the 19th Century who led the English speaking world into the "Deeper Life" in Christ. His book The Secret of Guidance is a classic of devotion to Christ. He writes, "So much of our power and peace consist in knowing where God would have us be and in - [The Sweet Song of Abandonment to Divine Providence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sweet-song-abandonment-divine-providence/) - The Lord sings a sweet song in Jean-Pierre de Caussade's classic, "Abandonment to Divine Providence." The path of peace is continual submission to God. "The only condition necessary for us is self-surrender to God in the present moment and then our soul becomes light as a feather, fluid as water, innocent as a child, and responds to every movement of grace like a floating balloon." - [The Surprising Advent of the Trinity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/surprising-advent-trinity/) - Advent is a celebration of the coming of Christ — and the whole Trinity! I wonder if you’ve ever meditated on the Trinity? This has been one of the most important practices in my life. What a blessing to see the way the Father, Son and Spirit love and honor one another — and us. - [The Story of My Spiritual Renewal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-story-of-my-spiritual-renewal/) - In 2002 had been living as a "Christian" for over 30 years, but I was depressed. Marriage, family, friendships, career, and ministry were all going well for me but there was still an emptiness in my soul. I had lost my enthusiasm for Christ and life years earlier and was going through the motions. I - [The Soul of Sex](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-soul-of-sex/) - “Sex” and “soul” are both very popular in our world today. But we have no idea how to put them together. Sex is everywhere in our society. To be sexy is the way to attract attention. It’s how we feel good. It’s how we bond — even with strangers. It’s how we sell things. The - [The Soul of a Leader Needs Shepherding](https://www.soulshepherding.org/what-is-the-need-for-soul-shepherding/) - When the shepherds in our churches and Christian organizations are depressed, overstressed, or struggling with compulsive behavior, then the sheep they care for suffer. If pastors are not growing in their own intimacy with Jesus, then their ministry to others is diminished. If ministry leaders are not setting aside ministry demands regularly to be still with - [The Rule of St. Benedict](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rule-st-benedict/) - The Rule was written by Benedict of Nursia circa 530 for a monastic community. 1,500 years later The Rule is still being followed by Benedictine monks and oblates and other Christian monastics. How can this ancient document for monks be relevant to "nonreligious" Christians today? We might think that a monastery is disconnected from society, but - [The Rise and Fall of a Hero](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-rise-and-fall-of-a-hero/) - There is a hero within us that wants to be recognized for making a positive difference in the lives of other people. That’s why when we do something good we say, “Look what I did!” The Hero Pastor We especially want to do something great for God! And be appreciated for this. That's why many - [The Precious Stone: a Story of Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-precious-stone-a-story-of-spiritual-direction/) - A holy and happy hermit came to the outskirts of a village and settled down under a tree for the night. He got out his Bible and was about to say his prayers, which he always prayed in Jesus’ name, when a villager suddenly came running up to him and exclaimed, "The stone! The stone! - [The Power to be Kind to Difficult People](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-power-to-be-kind-to-difficult-people/) - Most days we find ourselves up close to someone we'd rather not deal with. (And often it's a family member or friend!) Perhaps the person is critical of you or angry. Or he or she is in a bad mood and keeps complaining. Or maybe it's someone who is emotionally needy and seems to suck - [The Pastor of the Grocery Store](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-pastor-of-the-grocery-store-2/) - A young man named Johnny had Downs Syndrome and worked as a grocery store bagger. He didn’t feel that he had much to offer other people – till he was inspired to go beyond bagging customer’s groceries. His story shows us the surprising way that the kingdom of God works. Each day Johnny prepared and - [The One Benediction You (and Others!) Need](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-one-benediction-you-need/) - Answered prayer. Success. Victory. We all want to be blessed, to achieve great things, and to overcome our challenges. But when we reach for these desires, we can never quite grasp them. The pursuit of happiness never makes anyone happy. That's why years ago my spiritual father, Ray Ortlund, encouraged me to "Be all and only - [The Nazi Doctor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-nazi-doctor/) - One morning I awoke at 5:00 am from two upsetting dreams. In both cases the person that I was helping angrily interrupted me to say that I was being unloving. I couldn't get back to sleep. I remembered the story I heard Dr. Jim Wilder tell the day before at his "Heart and Soul" conference - [The Love You Long For](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-love-you-long-for/) - If you were asked, “What is love?” How would you answer? Most people define love by expressions of care or generosity, which are essential to love. Or worse, we define love by having desire or emotion. Very few of us would define love as the Apostle Paul did, beginning by saying: “Love is patient…” (1 - [The Lord Treasures You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-lord-treasures-you/) - Psalm 135:4 says: "The LORD has chosen Jacob to be his own, Israel to be his treasured possession." That's what it means to have the Lord as our Good Shepherd! Let's apply this great promise to our lives. Let's pause to ponder, paraphrase, and pray this verse. Let's take the words of the Lord deeper - [The Lord Jesus is my Soul Shepherd](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-lord-jesus-is-my-soul-shepherd/) - I awoke to the sound of rain early one morning, while it was still dark. I couldn't sleep. Instead of counting sheep as I lay in bed I talked to Jesus, the Good Shepherd. To the pitter patter of drops falling I recited Psalm 23 again and again. A Psalm 23 Paraphrase For three thousand years, - [The Lord is My Shield in Emotional Battles](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-lord-is-my-shield-in-emotional-battles/) - Praying a Psalm with Jesus is a powerful spiritual discipline. "The Lord is My Shield in Emotional Battles" has been a helpful exercise that I've used in many Soul Care Group meetings I lead. Introduction Jesus’ gospel is that we ought to re-think how we’re living our life in light of our opportunity, right now, - [The Lord is my Portion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-lord-is-my-portion/) - It’s ironic that the more we long for Jesus -- to know him intimately and love him fully -- the more we are deeply satisfied. Most things in life don’t work that way. If you cultivate a craving for chocolate you’re likely to keep eating it and gain weight or get sick to your stomach! - [The Lonely Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-lonely-leader/) - It can be lonely to be a leader for Jesus. Most Pastors Do Not have a Close Friend A survey found that 70% of pastors do not have a close friend. It's about the same for pastor's wives and other ministry leaders. Many leaders are lonely because they overwork. Some have relational brokenness that needs - [The Life-Changing Gospel of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-life-changing-gospel-of-jesus/) - “Gospel” means, “Good news!” Does the gospel you believe bring good news for the life you’re actually living today? For many Christians their good news is waiting for them in heaven when they die and in the meantime they’re just holding on. They’re missing out on God’s life today. If you wan’t to go to - [The Kingdom of the Heavens is Open to You Now!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-kingdom-of-the-heavens-is-open-to-you-now/) - We'd like to share with you an eye-opening exercise that we've done with groups of pastors and ministry leaders. We pass out a two-sided sheet of paper to everyone with all the Scripture references from Matthew's Gospel of Jesus' "Gospel of the Kingdom." Fifty-one times the Good News that Matthew presents is that the "Kingdom - [The Kingdom of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-kingdom-of-god/) - In his Doctor of Ministry class for pastors Dallas Willard teaches that “The Gospel is a spiritual reality about a spiritual reality... the availability of life under the rule of the heavens.” Over 100 times in the Gospels Jesus preaches that he is making the Kingdom of the Heavens available. In his master key parable - [The Joy of Jesus in Us!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-joy-of-jesus-in-us/) - "Joy in Jesus!" That was the theme of the retreat that Kristi and I led for a church staff earlier this week. We'd like to invite you into the afterglow of this retreat by sharing a short Scripture meditation with you. Imagine you and I are standing in a vineyard with Jesus and his disciples. - [The Hidden Hero You Need](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hidden-hero-need/) - There's a hero hidden in your community who can inspire you to praise God and become more like Jesus. Here are some examples of hero pastors ready to offer the care of Christ to you and your family. - [The Interruptible Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-interruptible-jesus/) - Much of Jesus' ministry consists of interruptions. When people interrupt him he shows us that love is patient. Here's how we can be more like Jesus. - [The Helmet of Salvation for You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-helmet-of-salvation-for-you/) - No matter what happens, you have control over your thoughts. Your mind is the battleground of your life. It is because of your thinking that you may become depressed or anxious, give over control of your life to a demanding person or to alcohol, or be oppressed by Satan and his demons. We talk with - [The Happiest Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/happiest-life/) - What is so important to you that if you go days without doing it you start feeling depressed? For some people it's earning money, having their favorite drink of alcohol, or receiving praise from other people. But the happiest life is having Jesus so central in our daily functioning that if we neglect to engage - [The Examen of Consciousness to Practice God's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-examen-of-consciousness-to-practice-gods-presence/) - An ancient tool for helping us learn to practice God's presence and grow in a more intimate relationship with the Lord is called the Examen of Consciousness or simply "The Examen." The Examen? If you're not familiar with it then it probably doesn't sound appealing! The idea of being examined is something most of us want to - [The Emotionally Smart Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/emotionally-smart-leader/) - Sadly, we’ve all seen Christian leaders fail because they lacked emotional wholeness. Our godly intentions can be overrun by our personal shortcomings. Angry reactions, lustful impulses, conflict avoidance, emotional distance, prideful self-reliance, power plays, or the inability to work well with other people sabotage godly purposes and lead to failure. Usually when leaders fail or - [The Disciple's Ambition to Please Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/disciples-ambition-please-christ/) - Featuring excerpts from The Joy of Following Jesus by J. Oswald Sanders Paul says, “It is my constant ambition to please Christ.” (2 Corinthians 5:9) Or “I make it a point of honor to please Christ.” My heart leaps in response! Yes, me too! I want to please the Lord in all I do! Recently, - [The Day I “Stole” Kristi’s Heart](https://www.soulshepherding.org/day-stole-kristis-heart/) - When I “stole” Kristi’s heart in college during a Valentine’s Day game I had no idea how God would bless me! My story is not as much about romance as genuine love. True love is the will-good-for-others kind of love; it’s the love of deep-spirited friendship; it’s 1 Corinthians 13 love that’s patient and kind; - [The Curb of Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-curb-of-shame/) - “There's your curb of shame Bill!” My friend riding on the bike next to me laughed as he pointed to the spot on the street where a few weeks earlier I had fallen off my bike and sprained my wrist. My friend is a pastor -- he saves his compassion for other people! All teasing - [The Cross Sang in Lela's Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-cross-sang-in-lelas-soul-2/) - As a girl Lela sang praises to God while her mother played the church organ and her father played the viola. But the music stopped for Lela the day her mother was committed to a state hospital as a schizophrenic. Of course, Lela was very sad. She hated being alone. Fear gripped her heart. What - [The Courage to Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-courage-to-hope/) - As we approach the end of 2020 and the beginning of a New Year full of uncertainty, it’s a powerful time to choose hope. But you may be afraid to hope and be let down again. 2020 was a year full of disappointment: canceled events, lockdowns, loss of normalcy, racism, social unrest, financial strain, fear - [The Best Fort Ever!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-best-fort-ever/) - One year when I was a boy a bad tornado was approaching our home in suburban Chicago. I was watching the weather reports on television with my parents and younger sisters. This was something we were used to doing in the spring or summer. But I realized that this time was different when my Dad - [Thanksgiving Turkey and Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/turkey-and-prayer/) - "Let us come before the Lord with thanksgiving" (Psalm 95:2). At your Thanksgiving meal you have an opportunity to go beyond "saying grace" and "please pass the turkey" -- you can celebrate the spirit of the Thanksgiving holiday in a special way that unites family and friends in a celebration of God's generosity. Some years - [Thankfulness: The Way to Holiness and Happiness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/thankfulness-the-way-to-holiness-and-happiness/) - The Lord Jesus Christ is holy and happy and so are his students. Holiness and happiness go together. In the Bible we read, "The disciples were full of joy and of the Holy Spirit" (Acts 13:52; see also Luke 10:21, Romans 14:17, 1 Thessalonians 1:6). Holiness without happiness is stuffy and impersonal. Happiness without holiness is shallow - [Take Heart from an Author Mentor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/take-heart-for-christ/) - Jesus said, “Take heart! I have overcome the world” (John 16:33) Most of us when we read a Christian book we read to get through it. We feel a sense of accomplishment when we’ve finished reading a chapter. But the secret to spiritual learning is not to read more, but to go deeper. Go deeper - [Take Courage: Dive in and Face your Fear!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/take-courage-dive-in-and-face-your-fear/) - A few months ago David, my 19-year old son, asked me to run a triathlon with him, which is a race in which you swim, bike, and run in that order. I immediately said yes because I wanted to share this experience with him and because I like exercise. I was in good shape from - [Take a Shower of Living Water](https://www.soulshepherding.org/solitude/) - Kristi and I are leading a five-day long TLC ("To Love Christ") retreat/training this week for a group of pastors and wives. (I wrote and scheduled this devotional ahead so I can keep a technology fast.) Often when people go on Christian "retreats" what that means to them is great speakers, dynamic worship bands, and - [Swimming Through Codependency](https://www.soulshepherding.org/swimming-codependency/) - We learn in the Bible that "Without a vision people perish" (Proverbs 29:18). This is true for you and I today. In 1952 Florence Chadwick wanted to be the first woman to swim the 26 miles from Catalina island to San Pedro on mainland California. She’d already been the first woman to swim the English - [Sweet Words of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sweet-words-of-jesus/) - One day I got up before sunrise to walk and pray in the quiet. I prayed Psalm 119:103 over and over: “How sweet are your words to my taste, [O Lord Jesus,] sweeter than honey to my mouth” (Psalm 119:103). The Holy Spirit brought to my mind paraphrases of some of the sweet words of - [Sweet Nectar For Your Soul (Praying the Lord's Prayer with Jeanne Guyon)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sweet-nectar-soul-praying-lords-prayer-jeanne-guyon/) - Let’s admit it. At times we all feel like prayer is a duty. We know we should pray more than we do, but sometimes it feels like a chore that wearies us. But prayer can be drinking in an unceasing flow of divine life! Madame Jeanne Guyon says this is true in seasons of consolation - [Surprising, Sweet Intimacy with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/surprising-sweet-intimacy-with-jesus/) - One of the most touching parts of Jesus' passion is the scene in which Simon of Cyrene helps Jesus to carry his cross. Do you and I love Jesus enough to help him carry his cross? I'm continuing the series of Scripture reflections and prayers that go back to the ancient Stations of the Cross. - [Surprising Lessons on Leadership From Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/surprising-lessons-on-leadership-from-jesus-2/) - A few years ago I (Bill) read a leadership book by a Christian author and publisher that made no mention of Jesus. Not one. Yet most people in the world respect Jesus and are open to learning from him. In our Soul Shepherding Institute in Spiritual Formation and Soul Care, we teach that the Lord - [Suggestions for Solitude and Silence with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/suggestions-for-solitude-with-jesus/) - One of our Soul Shepherding ministries is to guide pastors, pastors' spouses, and other leaders and caregivers in the practice of solitude and silence with Jesus. Today it's probably the most important discipline we could practice to grow in our intimacy with Jesus and our capacity to love God and other people. We call this - [Success is Facing Your Fear of Failure With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/success-is-facing-your-fear-of-failure-with-jesus/) - It was a defining moment when I faced my fear of failing and looking foolish in the most important purpose of my life. Before I tell you that story let’s chat a bit about success and failure. We all want to be a success. We want to make a positive difference for God and for - [Success in the Eyes of a Child](https://www.soulshepherding.org/success-in-the-eyes-of-a-child/) - Recently I became a “Papa”! This is me looking into the eyes our first grandchild Juliet Bella! What a heart-pumping and face-illuminating joy this is for Kristi and me! Yet, it’s not easy for us to make space in our calendars and to save energy in our bodies to give quality care to her. This - [Step Out of the Cycle of Addiction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/step-out-of-the-cycle-of-addiction/) - Over the years I've talked with many people, including pastors and ministry leaders, who are caught in the snares of a compulsive behavior. They keep trying to stop but can't. No matter how guilty they feel or how hard they try they haven't been able to get free. Hope for Struggling Pastors The ministry of - [Stay in the Shadow of the Great Tree](https://www.soulshepherding.org/stay-in-the-shadow-of-the-great-tree/) - Hiking in a remote forest Lake Arrowhead, CA a few days ago I saw a great pine tree that's over 100 years old and just to the side of it was a much smaller pine tree. I heard a still small voice in my mind, "Stay in the shadow of the great tree." I knew - [Stability (Staying in Community)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/stability-staying-in-community/) - Stability is the discipline of staying or sticking with people. It means not leaving your group, not backing out on a commitment, not giving up when the going gets tough. It's a virtue that's increasing hard to find in our culture. Jesus' Stability Jesus chose to come into our flesh and world as our Messiah - [St Francis’ Prayer Inspired By The Our Father (His Version of the Lord's Prayer)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/st-francis-prayer-inspired-father/) - "St Francis' Prayer Inspired By the Our Father" is one of his best writings, but it's little known. It's based on his meditation of the Lord's Prayer. - [Spiritual Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-leadership/) - You may not think of yourself as a "leader" but if you serve God and care for others then you are a Christian leader, a spokesperson for Christ. Spiritual leadership is not just for the church or ministry -- it's also for the family, community, and business. The people in your sphere of influence, those - [Spiritual Leaders for Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-leaders-for-christ/) - The people around you need a spiritual leader who helps them connect with Christ. In our TLC retreat program we teach this to pastors and ministry leaders. - [Spiritual Growth Survey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-growth-survey/) - How do you know if growing spiritually? Most people mistakenly measure behavior or their emotions. This Spiritual Growth Survey asks twelve critical questions to help you look at if you're being changed on the inside to become more like Christ. Disciples of Jesus are continually drawing closer to God and becoming more like Jesus. More - [Spiritual Friendship: Aelred and Ivo's Example](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-friendship-aelred-ivos-example/) - We all long for soul talk and spiritual friendship. To feel fully alive we need to participate in personal relationships that are based in empathy and draw us closer to Christ. Empathy is listening to another's emotions, especially their hurt and need, and communicating warm-hearted care. Infants and children need empathy like they need oxygen, food, and water. - [Spiritual Formation in the Pandemic](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-formation-in-the-pandemic/) - In this pandemic, we’ve seen racist police officers kill innocent Black men — thinking they’re doing their job of public service. We’ve seen raging protestors loot stores, burn buildings, and kill innocent police officers and others — doing this in the name of social justice. In both cases, people’s beliefs and commitments to do good - [Spiritual Formation (Reflection Paper)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-formation-reflection-paper/) - This pastor's wife didn't feel safe in church but Soul Shepherding's TLC spiritual formation retreats helped her share intimacy with Jesus among friends. - [Spiritual Disciplines for Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-disciplines-for-your-soul/) - The disciplines for the spiritual life that help us to be with Jesus in order to become like him. We may call these "spiritual disciplines" but really they are activities we do with our bodies and all the parts of our person for spiritual purposes. There are many disciplines for our life in Christ. In fact, - [Spiritual Disciplines Are Dung!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-disciplines-dung/) - Putrid smelling dung — that’s what spiritual disciplines become without love. My comment surprised the pastor I was coaching. But I heard Dallas Willard say on a few occasions something like, “The disciplines for life in Christ are not what is important. We make too big a deal about them.” He was concerned about legalism, - [Spiritual Direction Verbatim](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-direction-verbatim/) - TLC3: Spiritual Direction Verbatim This spiritual direction verbatim was originally written on March 4, 2005 for a "Christ’s Ambassadors Spiritual Formation Group" I was leading. It is an example of how to write up a word-for-word (as best as you can recall!) account of a spiritual direction session. This is a common tool for spiritual directors - [Spilling Oatmeal and Seeking Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spilling-oatmeal-and-seeking-jesus/) - A freezing winter wind was blowing through the doors of the hotel into the lobby where Wes was having his breakfast. He decided to take his breakfast up to the warmth of his room. So he loaded up his hands and arms with his bowl of oatmeal, plate of scrambled eggs, and cup of tea - [Speaking the Truth in Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/speak-the-truth-in-love/) - Conflict. It’s inevitable in marriage and our other close relationships. When you love someone you’ll have misunderstandings, disagreements, and hurt feelings in that relationship. This is true for all kinds of people, including pastors and other Christian leaders and caregivers. As it relates to conflict the mistake that we’re most prone to make is to - [Soul Satisfaction in Psalm 23](https://www.soulshepherding.org/soul-satisfaction-psalm-23/) - Recently at our TLC retreat for pastors, leaders, and caregivers Kristi and led the group through one of our most popular Soul Shepherding experiences: "Psalm 23 Pictures to Pray." To set up this "Visio Divina" exercise Kristi led us in a verse-by-verse meditation on Psalm 23. For many of us our attention was drawn to - [Soul Care for Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/soul-care-for-pastors/) - If you search a bookstore or the Internet for resources to help pastors most of what you'll find will be strategies and methods to be more successful as a pastor, preacher, or leader. Of course, these things are important but the source of our ministry as pastors and our effectiveness as leaders is our own intimacy with - [Soul Care for Food Addiction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/soul-care-for-food-addiction/) - Recently Gallup reported that 80% of American adults over age 25 are overweight and most of them are trying unsuccessfully to lose weight. Ladies Home Journal found that 71% of the women they surveyed think about their weight at least once per day and 40% have failed at a diet in the past year. And - [Solitude and Community](https://www.soulshepherding.org/solitude-and-community/) - Jesus’ life flowed in a wonderful rhythm between time alone with God and time with friends and people he ministered to. He found joy by going off by himself for hours, days, or even weeks at a time and also by walking and talking with his closest friends or attending parties he was invited to. - [Solitude](https://www.soulshepherding.org/solitude-2/) - Solitude is a main discipline of abstinence in which we refrain from interacting with other people for a few hours or some days in order to be alone with God and be found by him. For solitude to be effective it needs to be completed by silence. We read in the Gospels that, "Jesus often - [Smile in Your Storm](https://www.soulshepherding.org/smile-in-your-storm-2/) - Dark storm clouds pelted torrents of freezing rain on Jesus and the disciples, gale winds whipped their boat in circles, and wave after wave splashed into them and was swamping their boat. The disciples were rowing and rowing as hard and fast as they could to get out of the furious squall and make it - [Small Beginnings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/small-beginnings/) - What makes for a "good day"? For me it starts with prayer. This morning I awoke early. My thoughts started down the path of planning all I had to do and I started to feel anxious... How easy it is for me at that point to get out of bed and go to work! Instead, - [Small and BIG](https://www.soulshepherding.org/small-big/) - "There are people who would want to help you if you'd let them." That's what I sensed God say to me in 2009 when Kristi and I were praying about starting Soul Shepherding as a 501c3 nonprofit ministry to pastors, leaders, caregivers, and other servants of the Lord. How are you at letting people help - [Six Unhurried Words](https://www.soulshepherding.org/six-unhurried-words-2/) - I had more work to do than time to complete it: ministry events to prepare for, people calling me for therapy or spiritual mentoring, letters and articles to write. My time alone would slip away fast and then I’d be with my family again. But I had set aside this day for Sabbath rest with - [Six Surprising Ways to Hear God’s Voice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/six-uncommon-methods-to-hear-gods-voice/) - We all want to discern what God may be saying to us. Here are some uncommon, but proven methods for hearing God. To be sure, these methods for hearing God are not a mechanical sort of process in which we put our prayers into the vending machine and out comes the answer we want! But - [Sing with the Trinity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sing-with-the-trinity/) - Recently I was hiking up in the hills near my house and I was drawn to pray the opening of Psalm 121: “I lift my eyes up to the hills –- where does my help come from? My help comes from the Lord, the Maker of heaven and earth.” Then I heard "the sound of - [Simple Prayers of the Heart](https://www.soulshepherding.org/simple-prayers-of-the-heart/) - It hits you as soon as you open your mailbox -- information overload! It's everywhere. Not just your physical mailbox, but especially your e-mail, Facebook, and... Information overload is stressing you on your To-Do List. It's in cluttering your closet and garage. It's heating up your hand when you hold a remote control or a smartphone. - [Silence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/silence/) - "The Lord is in his holy temple; let all the earth be silent before him" (Habakkuk 2:20). Sadly silence is rare in our word today, including our Christian culture, but it is an essential discipline for the spiritual life in Christ. When was the last time you experienced even just one minute of silent worship - [Shhhh! Silent Prayer in Church](https://www.soulshepherding.org/shhhh-silent-prayer-church/) - The prophet urges us, “The Lord is in his holy temple; let all the earth be silent before him” (Habakkuk 1:13). The Psalmist invites us to "Be still and know" the Lord, to worship the holy God with him (Psalm 46:10). The Lord showed Elijah and us that to sense his presence and hear his message - [Shaping Your Child’s Image of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/shaping-your-childs-image-of-god/) - As I prayed and pondered the beautiful life growing in my daughter’s womb so much began to well up in me! So many things I wanted to share about my Abba and his care for her! So I began to write Letters From Papa. The nurture and love of both of our parents set the - [Sex Addiction Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sex-addiction-test/) - Do you (or someone you know) have a problem with compulsive sexual behavior? Has your sexual behavior become a compulsion that has been hurtful to God, a loved one, yourself, or your effectiveness at work? Our free Sex Addict Test can help you understand your problem: Sex Addiction Test Our screening test for sexual addiction - [Set Aside your Best Gift for a Better Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-better-love/) - "The Word became flesh and made his dwelling among us" (John 1:14). Last night some dear friends took Kristi and I to a Christmas concert with Michael W. Smith and the Pacific Symphony Orchestra. We were so excited to hear our favorite musician sing! But out of about twenty songs he performed from the piano - [Serve What You're Cooking](https://www.soulshepherding.org/serve-youre-cooking/) - The number one problem that pastors and ministry leaders have is neglecting the care of their own souls under God. My analysis of the many research studies on "Pastor Stress Statistics" is that when pastors suffer from emotional pain, burnout, or diminished effectiveness in their ministry it's because they haven't invested wisely in their own - [Selah for a Busy Pastor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/selah-for-a-busy-pastor/) - Kent was ten minutes late for his meeting with me again. He tried to make a joke of it, “I’m sorry. I guess I need 25 hours in my day!” Invariably he ran late for meetings and events because he was always trying to squeeze one more thing into his day. Kent complained about having - [Self-Esteem Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/self-esteem-test/) - Many people I talk with struggle with a negative view of themselves. Some are besieged by feelings of guilt and shame. How about you? Are you self-critical? How much has God's grace and truth permeated your self-image? Try our free Self-Esteem Test to see the ways you need to experience God's love. Answer each question below - [See the Smile of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/see-the-smile-of-god-father-son-and-spirit-shine-on-you/) - Nothing restores our souls like the smile of God upon us! When you look up do you see God smiling warmly at you? Asaph does. And in Psalm 80 he prays for us that we too would look up into the heavens and appreciate the joyful sunshine of God’s smile over us. It's just a - [Secrecy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/secrecy/) - Have you ever practiced the discipline of secrecy? You may not have thought of this as a discipline. The discipline of secrecy, as Jesus taught and modeled it, is intentionally hiding your prayers or good deeds to please only your Father in heaven, "who is in secret"; it's the practice of denying ourselves the attention - [Scripture Memory](https://www.soulshepherding.org/scripture-memory/) - We are transformed to be more like Christ through the renewing of our minds in God's Word (Romans 12:1-2). Scripture memory is an indispensable aid for the the Christian. Consider the example of Jesus and how he interacted with Scripture: “As often as possible Jesus withdrew to out-of-the-way places for prayer” (Luke 5:16, MSG). And - [Satisfy Your Soul in a Moment](https://www.soulshepherding.org/satisfy-soul/) - In this season, you may forget that it only takes a moment to satisfy your soul in your Savior. In the temptations of our life, we may struggle to find happiness. But our joy is in Jesus right now! This morning I took a prayer walk along the lake, among the flowers, and under the - [Sabbath Rest is a Soul Anchor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sabbath-rest-is-a-soul-anchor/) - I've been working long hours re-doing the organization and presentation of the content on our website to make it easier for you to experience the intimacy with Jesus that you long for -- and invite others to join you. But now it's time for me to take some Sabbath days with Jesus and Kristi! How about - [Ruthlessly Eliminate Hurry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/ruthlessly-eliminate-hurry/) - An over-stressed executive of a nonprofit ministry asked me, “How can I be spiritually healthy? What can I do to be a better leader for Christ?” “Don’t hurry,” I replied. Repeating words that my mentor Dallas Willard said to me in a seminary class, I said, “You need to ruthlessly eliminate hurry from your life.” - [Running Barefoot on Holy Ground](https://www.soulshepherding.org/running-barefoot-on-holy-ground/) - “What shall we do together Jesus?” I asked. He smiled, “Let’s go running barefoot!” Surprised, because normally I run in my jogging shoes, my heart leaped, “Yes!” That sense of surprise, along with the calm authority of the words and the delight I felt in my heart, suggested that it likely was the still, small - [Run with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/run-with-jesus/) - It was fun for me last year to win a medal for finishing the “Surf City” marathon in Huntington Beach, CA and to do this with my family watching me. I thank God that he helped me to run the 26.2 miles in under 4 hours. It was actually the 5th marathon that I’ve completed and - [Run Through Your Wall](https://www.soulshepherding.org/run-through-your-wall/) - On April 16th I’m running the Boston Marathon. This is a lifetime dream come true for me! How I did it is a great lesson to help you in your life. As a young man I dreamed about running the world’s elite 26.2 mile race. I ran a marathon as fast as I could, but - [Run Easy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/run-easy/) - "You make it look easy" a neighbor said as I ran by. "Thanks! I'm having fun," I replied. "Have a great day!" I was doing a training run for the Boston Marathon, which I'm running in on April 16th. I wish I had the opportunity to tell my neighbor what I'm about to tell you. - [Rest: Sabbath Makes a Church Successful](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rest-sabbath-makes-a-church-successful/) - If your church isn’t growing numerically or in spiritual depth or if it has been torn apart by conflict a major reason may be the neglect of Sabbath. It’s through continual Sabbath rest that we learn to trust God, waiting on his leadership and joining his work — rather than trying to control people and - [Rising to High Places with Christ (Psalm 18 Prayer)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rising-to-high-places-with-christ/) - David's Psalm 18 prayer (especially these favorite verses) helps us experience divine life and victory with Christ. It's true, "The glory of God is a person fully alive!" - [Room for Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/room-for-jesus/) - In the stress of the Christmas season, we can lose our sense of Christ Jesus and his joy. We’d like to share with you another simple Breath Prayer from the Bible for Advent called “Room for Jesus.” We constantly hear from people who appreciate our short, Scripture-inspired prayers of the heart. (See our resources Breath - [Renew Your Image of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/renew-your-image-of-god-2/) - What a joy it is when we truly know how greatly we are loved by God! But perhaps like many Christians I talk with you struggle to experience God’s love. Your image (or concept) of God may have some damaging distortions. It may need to be renewed. When we are truly convinced that the holy, - [Renew Your Mind in Romans 8](https://www.soulshepherding.org/renewing-your-mind-in-romans-8/) - What if your self-talk sounded like Romans 8? You'd be so alive with the Holy Spirit, full of grace, and free to be who God made you to be! Meditate on these verses we've gathered from Romans 8 and you'll be amazed at the results! Renewing your Mind What do you think about as you go - [Rest: Coming Off an Adrenaline High](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rest-coming-off-adrenaline-high/) - I love adrenaline and how it makes me feel energetic, confident, important, even elated. And I get more work done in less time! Adrenaline is one of the body’s natural antidepressants and anti-anxiety agents. It’s truly a wonder drug! Just writing this sentence I’d like to get a hit of that stuff now! It’s difficult - [Rest: Resting in Your Identity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rest-resting-identity/) - Your fingerprint is unique to you — it’s a physical mark of your identity. What about your personal identity? What defines who you are? Imagine if the cross of Jesus Christ was the most dominant marking of your self-image? You’d know that you are so loved! You’d be so stable and confident! I show you - [Relaxed. In December?!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/relaxed-in-december/) - As we celebrate the Prince of Peace we may get robbed of peace! What a tragic irony that would be! Let’s resist the cultural swirl of hurrying here and there and internalizing stress. We can relax… even in December! It’s all about how we react to stress. For instance, I had a conversation with Dallas - [Relaxing Your Monkey Brain](https://www.soulshepherding.org/relaxing-monkey-brain/) - Our thoughts can be “like monkeys jumping around in a banana tree,” Henri Nouwen writes. (The full quote is in our article on “Solitude and Silence”.) Have you noticed any monkeys jumping around in your brain? Do you find yourself over-stressed, distractible, irritable, judging yourself or others, or anxious? That’s the impish monkeys! They screech - [Remembering Robert H. Schuller](https://www.soulshepherding.org/remembering-robert-h-schuller/) - When I knew Robert H. Schuller from afar I judged him negatively. I was writing a thesis paper on integrating Christian spirituality and psychology and I criticized the "Self-Esteem Theology" of the famous television preacher and author. A few months before I finished that paper and graduated from college I was shocked to learn on my - [Rejoice in the Lord!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rejoice-in-the-lord/) - "Rejoice in the Lord!" "Rejoice in the Lord!" Again and again praises, prayers, prophecies, and principles in the Bible invite us to "Rejoice in the Lord!" Twelve times the exact phrase, "Rejoice in the Lord!" is used (Psalm 32:11, 35:9, 64:10, 97:12, 104:34; Isaiah 29:10, 41:16; Joel 2:23; Habakkuk 3:18; Zechariah 10:7; Philippians 3:1, 4:4). - [Rejoice! The Lord is Judge](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rejoice-the-lord-is-judge/) - As Christians today we talk a lot about the love and grace of God, but we don’t talk much about him being the holy Judge -- that seems scary or harsh to us. And yet repeatedly, the Psalmist rejoices that the Lord is the Judge. He approaches God’s judgment seat not with fear or shame, - [Rejoicing on a Mundane Monday!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/rejoicing-on-a-mundane-monday/) - Just another mundane Monday. Jesus Christ, the carpenter from Nazareth, understands -- and he knows how to help us find joy and peace in tedious work. Much of our lives includes ordinary work and chores. We all have to do tedious things that don't excite us -- at work, around the house or in running - [Relationship Satisfaction Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/relationship-satisfaction-test/) - Are you happy with your relationship with your spouse or significant other? Do you know your relationship strengths and weaknesses? With this free 35 item Relationship Satisfaction Test we developed you can assess the health of your relationship. We've used this in counseling married and engaged couples. Our Relationship Satisfaction Test will assess your relationship in seven - [Reflections on Dallas Willard's Ministry to Me](https://www.soulshepherding.org/reflections-on-dallas-willards-ministry-to-me/) - Many of the pastors and leaders that we work with in our Soul Shepherding ministry have heard my wife Kristi and I reference how Dallas Willard has helped us to follow and serve Jesus. They've asked us to share more about what God has taught us through our mentor. In this article I answer that - [Re-Soul: Less is More - Resisting Two Preacher Mistakes to “Be Jesus” With People](https://www.soulshepherding.org/re-soul-less-is-more-resisting-two-preacher-mistakes-to-be-jesus-with-people/) - It’s a grind to give a sermon every week. It can be similar for Bible study teachers, bloggers, podcasters, and other spokespersons for Christ. It can drain your soul. I feel compassion for pastors who stand up every week to preach but secretly the well of their own soul is dry. To be expected to - [Put it in the Father's Hands](https://www.soulshepherding.org/put-it-in-the-fathers-hands/) - On the cross Jesus let go of everything and abandoned all outcomes to the Father. To help him do this, he prayed a line from Psalm 31:5 to his Abba: “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit” (Luke 23:46). This is a prayer of submission to God that expresses how Jesus lived everyday of - [Raised with Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/raised-with-christ/) - For many of us experiencing pain brings fear. What’s wrong with my body? Will my pain get worse? Some time ago a friend of mine was having intermittent chest pains. The doctor said his heart was fine and the pain was from stress gripping his chest. I told him that he was caught in a - [Re-Mapping Your Brain and Soul in God's Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/re-mapping-your-brain-and-soul-in-gods-love/) - If God seems angry and unkind you may need to re-map your brain through loving relational engagements that improve your self-image. Scientific research shows that our gut-level beliefs about God change our brain circuits. When we worship the true God with our hearts it activates brain pathways and turns on higher brain regions that help - [Re-Soul: 4 Ways Emotions Help You Love and Lead Better (and Prevent Burnout)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/re-soul-4-ways-emotions-help-you-love-and-lead-better-and-prevent-burnout/) - If you keep negating your emotions you’ll hurt yourself and people you love. Eventually you’ll burnout. This is true for pastors and other workers seeking to serve God. It may seem like your feelings, desires, and needs diminish your productivity. But research on emotional intelligence proves the opposite to be the truth. Caring for your - [Re-Soul: Confessions of a Type A Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/re-soul-confessions-type-leader/) - “The reason I share my junk with you,” a pastor disclosed. “Is because you’re not a monkish spiritual formation guy. I can’t relate to the contemplative spiritual direction types.” I get Type A leaders. I understand being intense and driven to reach the goal. That’s putting it mildly — I’m a workaholic. I’ve been in - [Re-Soul: In a Hurry? 3 Ways to Add Margin and Peace (and Prevent Burnout)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/re-soul-in-a-hurry-3-ways-to-add-margin-and-peace-and-prevent-burnout/) - Adapted from Your Best Life in Jesus’ Easy Yoke by Bill Gaultiere. Often we hurry to be successful in ministry or just get through our responsibilities for the day. But the Bible’s great chapter on love begins with, “Love is unhurried…” (1 Corinthians 13:4, paraphrased). Putting unhurried margin (or soul space) in our schedule and - [Psalm 23 Outline of Your Journey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-23-outline-of-your-journey/) - "The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want." So begins the journey of a lifetime! (Psalm 23:1). But for the first years of my walk with Christ I didn't understand the journey of Psalm 23. I had not discovered it's deepest meanings and most important applications. I found the key to the treasure store in - [Psalm 23 Recovery Version](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-23-recovery-version/) - Psalm 23 is for people in recovery. It's not just alcoholics who need to get in recovery -- we're all sinners in need of recovery. We've all been damaged by sin -- our own and other people's -- and we need God to restore us to himself and his life. We're all learning not to - [Psalm 23 Translations, Hymns, and Poems](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-23-translations-hymns-and-poems/) - Psalm 23 is the most loved chapter in the Bible. It is probably the most famous poem ever composed. The only prayer that surpasses it is the Lord's prayer. Untold millions of people over the millennia have found comfort, healing, wisdom, and guidance from praying Psalm 23. How could David, a shepherd boy, put together - [Psalm 91 Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/psalm-91-meditation/) - What a treasure awaits us in Psalm 91! There's a reason why so many people consider it a favorite chapter and prayer in the Bible. As you'll see in my Psalm 91 Meditation this Psalm is an endearing story about a little chick finding safe refuge under the wing of it’s mother, prevailing in battles, - [Prevent Burnout: Be a Mary-nated Martha!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prevent-burnout-be-a-mary-nated-martha/) - "But Martha was distracted with much serving" (Luke 10:40, ESV). Do these words haunt you? They do me. Like Martha I have given my life to serve the Lord. My life is filled with acts of service that I do for Christ. I'm sure that you too are intentional about serving God by caring for - [Pre-Marital Blessing Service](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pre-marital-blessing-service/) - Where does a young couple go for support and guidance as they prepare for marriage? Some have the wisdom, courage, and resources to make use of pre-marital counseling. Others utilize relationship classes in churches, meet with marriage mentors, or complete workbooks. Many do nothing except perhaps an obligatory pre-wedding consult with the minister who is marrying them. - [Press On Into the Heavenly Kingdom (Thomas à Kempis)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/press-heavenly-kingdom-thomas-kempis/) - This paraphrase of Chapter 1 in "The Imitation of Christ" by Thomas à Kempis will help you live today from the spiritual reality of God's heavenly kingdom. - [Praying a Psalm in its Nature Setting](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pray-a-psalm-in-its-nature-setting/) - What a joyful and renewing experience it is to pray a Psalm in it's nature setting! Here are some examples to start a retreat with Jesus. Nature and the Psalms The beauty of God’s creation draws us to delight in God’s goodness and his loving presence in the moment. And the prayer of the Psalmist - [Prayer for Men in Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prayer-for-pastors-and-other-men/) - We call upon you, O Jesus, to be the Leader of the retreat Bill is leading this weekend at Palomar Christian Conference Center for 20 pastors and men from their churches, 150 men in all. Father, let your love pour through Bill. Help him to listen to you as you give him the mind of - [Prayer and Meditation for Addiction Recovery](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prayer-and-meditation-for-addiction-recovery-3/) - Recently I spoke on Prayer and Meditation to 350 people struggling with addictions (e.g., people struggling with alcohol abuse, drug addiction, compulsive sexual behavior, eating disorders, and codependency). The room also included dozens of ministry leaders who are serving Christ by caring for those in need of 12 Step recovery. I talked to them about - [Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prayer/) - "Abruptly Jesus broke into prayer" (Matthew 11:25, MSG). Prayer is a way of life in which we converse with God, at his initiative, so that we are "co-laboring" with him in all that we do to accomplish the good things that advance his Kingdom. For prayer to become a way of living intimately with the - [Pictures for Healing our Image of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pictures-for-healing-our-image-of-god/) - Your image of God is the most important aspect of your psychological makeup. Probably, like most people, you've picked up some damaging distortions in your heartfelt understanding of God. This especially happens when we experience emotional wounds or deficits in childhood and then project these onto God. We need the Word of God to wash - [Poured Out for Others, Yet Full of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/poured-out-for-others-yet-full-of-jesus/) - “My life is being poured out like a drink offering for you,” Paul wrote to a church he planted (Philippians 2:17, paraphrased). You know this feeling of emptying yourself if you minister to other people. I got a letter from Joe Chambers who pastors in Colorado. He’s been part of our Soul Shepherding community for - [Pray for the Success of Competitors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pray-success-competitors/) - F. B. Meyer was pastor at Christ Church in London, England late in the 19th Century when Charles Spurgeon came to town. Spurgeon’s crowds at Metropolitan Tabernacle grew larger and larger. The young story-telling preacher was so popular that his weekly sermons were printed in the paper on Mondays. Meyer became envious, which is a - [Personality Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/personality-test/) - We find the Myers' Briggs Type Indicator to be the most helpful personality test. There are many versions of the test to get your profile. We found one online that's free, check out the true colors personality test at the link! The Myers Briggs is a powerful tool for understanding your God-given personality and that - [Personal Reflections from Dallas Willard’s Funeral](https://www.soulshepherding.org/personal-reflections-from-dallas-willards-funeral/) - Kristi and I just returned from Dallas Willard's funeral which was on May 14, 2013. It was a small gathering for family and friends at his home church, Valley Vineyard in Reseda, CA. A large public Memorial Service for Dallas Willard will be held on May 25, 2013 at 10:30 am at Church on the Way - [Perfectionism Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/perfectionism-test/) - Many people have perfectionistic tendencies but for some perfectionism causes big problems. People who are earnestly seeking to follow Christ and serve him in ministry seem to be more prone to struggling with perfectionism. Perfectionism is a response to anxiety that can be damaging to your relationships and your performance. Our Perfectionism Test can help - [Perfect Grace for Closet Perfectionism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/perfect-grace-for-closet-perfectionism/) - After nearly two decades of toning down my perfectionism tendencies and learning to be happy and at peace being an imperfect person in an imperfect world I finally gave in. Enough is enough I decided! I indulged my irrational, dysfunctional desire for perfection and just gave in. I sought perfection in one part of my life – - [Peace! Be still.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/peace-be-still/) - Are you able to be calm in a storm? When a stressful situation blows into your life with thunder and pouring rain do you have peace? Jesus and his disciples were in their little fishing boat on the Sea of Galilee when a sudden and fierce storm threatened their lives. The disciples panicked, but Jesus - [Paul's Curriculum for Christlikeness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pauls-curriculum-christlikeness/) - Colossians was written by the Apostle Paul in AD 60 from Rome where he was under house arrest. He wrote this letter because the people in the church at Colosse were being misled from their faith in Jesus and devotion to God. They thought they could live by Jesus and legalism or Jesus and worldly - [Pastors Who Fall Safely](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastors-who-fall-safely/) - My former pastor Bill Hybels did not learn how to fall safely. We all fall down in life, but have we learned to fall safely? When pastors and leaders for Christ fall unsafely it hurts them, their families, and the people they serve. As a mega church pastor with worldwide influence, Bill Hybels’ recent fall - [Pastors Under Pressure](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastors-pressure/) - The biggest change that’s needed in your church is where you place your expectations. Imagine the church service like a play with three roles: Prompter, Performer, and Critic. The prompter is in the front row giving cues to the performers (actors) and there are critics who evaluate how the play went. Typically in our church - [Our Daughter Hid from the Gunman!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/our-daughter-hid-from-the-gunman/) - A couple of hours ago Kristi and I got a text message from one of our teenage daughters, "There's a shooting here at Fashion Island! PRAY!" Immediately we huddled and prayed, crying out the God of Angel Armies in Jesus' name to protect our daughter and thousands of other people from yet another crazy gunman. - [Overcoming Temptations in Christian Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/overcoming-temptations-in-christian-leadership/) - Every Christian leader needs to overcome three temptations in order to be truly successful. These relate to you if you are a pastor or a parent, a small group leader or an executive, or whatever your area of responsibility over people is. If you minister to other people you will be tempted to follow the way of - [Pain or Vision?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pain-or-vision/) - "Without a vision from God, people perish" (Proverbs 29:18, paraphrase). We say that we want to make changes. For instance, probably you'd like to de-clutter and get more organized or lose weight. Or maybe you think you need to get help with your depression, improve your marriage or a friendship, or grow spiritually. Sadly, most - [Only Read if You're Thirsty](https://www.soulshepherding.org/only-read-if-youre-thirsty/) - "All reading not intended for us by God is dangerous," wrote Jeane-Pierre de Caussade in his classic devotional book of the 18th Century. The French Jesuit Priest continued, "It is by doing the will of God and obeying His holy inspirations that we obtain grace, and this grace works in our hearts through our reading - [One Thing for the New Year](https://www.soulshepherding.org/one-thing/) - Have you ever made a New Year’s resolution? Have you given up on doing that? Perhaps in past years you’ve been through the cycle of optimism, trying hard, faltering, getting discouraged, and giving up. Indeed, most people who make a New Year’s Resolution have given up on their project by mid February. Many people discard - [Open Up to Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/open-up-to-christ/) - Everything in the spiritual life centers on the grace-movements of God’s Word made flesh in Christ, our Rock, the One whose name is honey-sweet! Our part in the spiritual life is to trust the Lord in all things with all of our self. Psalm 81 helps us to open our hands, ears, and mouth to - [Ouch! She Hit a Nerve!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/ouch-she-hit-a-nerve/) - The nurse hit a nerve in my hand! I screamed in pain and now my hand is withered. Will I view God by my bad circumstances or my circumstances by God's love? I went to the cross of Christ. - [O Lord, I Spread Out My Hands to You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/o-lord-i-spread-out-my-hands-to-you/) - Let's face it: we are distracted. We busy ourselves with many things. We get lost in our work and projects. We entertain ourselves with media or whatever. We allow ourselves to be carried along by the tide of what people want from us. And perhaps most of what we do is good -- but still, - [O Lord, Pour Down your Rain](https://www.soulshepherding.org/o-lord-pour-down-your-rain/) - "You gave abundant showers, O God; you refreshed your weary inheritance" (Psalm 68:9). I love the rain. During rainstorms when I was a boy, my dad and I would sit in chairs with the garage door open to watch and listen to the rainfall. Storms show us God's power. Rain reminds us of his love - [On the Outside Trying to Get Into Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/outside-trying-get-christmas/) - It’s an isolating feeling to be on the outside looking in. We’ve all felt it. Some of us especially feel this way at Christmastime. We might relate to Frank Abagnale in the movie “Catch Me If You Can.” As a teenager and an only child his parent's divorced. He goes back and forth between them - [One Thing (Psalm 27 Prayer)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/one-thing-psalm-27-prayer/) - In the Bible David is called a man after God's own heart (Acts 13:22). What does it mean that David had a heart for God? David longed to draw closer to the Lord. He devoted his whole heart to God. His Psalms are filled with this holy longing of his soul for more of God. - [No Pressure. No Guilt. Just Love.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/no-pressure-no-guilt-just-love/) - A few days ago Kristi and I were walking along Salt Creek Beach in Dana Point, CA, holding hands, listening to the ocean waves, and breathing in the fresh air on a sunny, cool evening. I asked her to recite 1 Corinthians 13, which she's memorized. "If I speak in the tongues of people and - [Nobody Showed Up!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/nobody-showed-up/) - I was looking forward to a spiritual formation meeting I was leading for a group of pastors. Facilitating for others a safe place for them to share honestly and experience intimacy with Jesus brings me such joy! For this meeting I had prayed about what to share with the pastors and believed that God gave - [Nonjudgmental Love Wins the Day](https://www.soulshepherding.org/nonjudgmental-love-wins-day/) - Because Jesus rose from the dead we can be free of judgment and condemnation! As I shared in my confession last week I’ve been working with Jesus on my log rather than judging other people’s specks. (Matthew 7:1-5) I’m thankful for Jesus’ carpentry of the soul in my life. In his workshop I found a gem - [O Lord Jesus Reign Over Me](https://www.soulshepherding.org/o-lord-jesus-reign-over-me/) - The most important thing that you can do is to submit to Jesus Christ as your Lord and King. And, learn to do this everyday! But there is something in me and in you that rises up and says: “I want to be in control!” And right there is the main source of our anxiety, anger, - [News: We’re Stepping Out of the Boat!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/news-were-stepping-out-of-the-boat/) - Effective December 31st, 2010 I have decided to leave my part time staff position at the Crystal Cathedral in Garden Grove, CA so that I can be full time in the ministry of Soul Shepherding that God has given to Kristi and I. This is a big step of faith for us. We feel like - [No Condemnation in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/no-condemnation-in-christ/) - Today, out of the blue, I received a harsh criticism from someone. It was like being slugged in the gut when I wasn't looking. Probably you know the feeling. Many people I talk to get discouraged if not depressed when they're criticized. Most of my life that's how I reacted too. No Condemnation in Christ I - [No More Wallowing in the Mud!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/no-more-wallowing-in-the-mud/) - Peter observed a dog returning to its vomit and a pig going back to wallow in the mud and God showed him that people can be like that! (2 Peter 2:22) It's easy to read Peter's words and start judging people who are foolish. Why does she keep struggling with that? What's the matter with - [No Notes? Sing a Psalm Anyway!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/no-notes-sing-a-psalm-anyway/) - When my dad was in sixth grade, his class was preparing to sing Christmas songs as part of a school musical. Everyone was excited to be a part of the Christmas celebration! To prepare for the event, the teacher listened to each child sing. When it was my dad’s turn, he sang out with joy, - [My VIM Plan for Teaching Like Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-vim-plan-for-teaching-like-jesus/) - TLC1: VIM Plan Years ago God gave me a corrective word about my teaching and preaching ministry: “Less is more.” I was inspired to begin learning to be more like Jesus in the way that I taught in seminars and groups. First I learned to speak slower, using more stories and pauses. I also practiced - [My Super Bowl Dad](https://www.soulshepherding.org/super-bowl-dad/) - Do you see a dominant running back when you look at me as a boy in my green football uniform? Neither did I. Nor did my junior high school football coach who saw a fumble waiting to happen! So he stuck me in the middle of the offensive line as a guard. He wanted me - [My All in All: Abba, Jesus, Parakletos](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-all-in-all/) - What wonderful life transformation begins to take place in us when we pray from our heart: "You are my Lord; apart from you I have no good thing" (Psalm 16:2). Worries fade. Irritations dissipate. Busyness ceases. Spirits are lifted. Time becomes holy. We are right where we need to be when our hearts cry out - [My Experience with John of the Cross' Dark Night of the Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-experience-with-john-of-the-cross-dark-night-of-the-soul/) - In the 16th Century in Spain there was a very poor and little man (just four feet and eleven inches tall!) who became a spiritual giant with incomparable heavenly riches. His name was John of the Cross. John of the Cross had an insatiable longing for Jesus, his Bridegroom and the Lover of his soul. - [My Favorite Trinity Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-favorite-trinity-prayer/) - "Trinity Sunday" is a day worth remembering. Of course, every day is a good day to pray to the Father, Son, and Spirit! Trinitarian Prayer greatly enriches our relationship with God, bringing out the distinct character of each member of the Godhead and the unique and wonderful way that each one relates to us. And - [My Horse Sense was Stinking Thinking!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-horse-sense-was-stinking-thinking/) - “Grin and bear it” we say to force a smile and push ourselves through to the end of a situation that is painful or stressful. But Jesus showed us that life with him in the Kingdom of the Heavens is much better than that horse sense. Shoveling Manure To pay for college I worked a - [My Joy and My Delight](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-joy-and-my-delight/) - What is your joy and delight in life? A good way to know is to see how you respond to trials. The Psalmist's Song in the Dark The Psalmist was in a time of darkness and desolation. His soul is downcast. He's been crying out to God, waiting for him to rescue him from deceitful - [My Little Girl Needed her Father's Blessing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-little-girl-needed-her-fathers-blessing/) - During our family devotions at dinner recently Briana (age seven) asked me a question I’ll never forget. It illustrates the importance of children receiving a father's blessing. Words of affirmation from someone you love and respect are powerful. Many people have not received this from their father. Much of who I am and who you - [My Mom Finds Joy In Pain](https://www.soulshepherding.org/mom-finds-joy-pain/) - When I was small my mother held me and cared for me. Of course, she didn’t love me perfectly. But along the way God has provided spiritual mothers and fathers to help me grow further in his grace. Over the years in my counseling office many people have told me how badly they were hurt - [Mexico Mission Trip](https://www.soulshepherding.org/mexico-mission-trip/) - “Turning to the Shepherd of our souls” (1 Peter 2:25) Our family just returned from our first Soul Shepherding mission trip to Mexico. Thank you so much for your prayers and support! We experienced firsthand how God exceeds our hopes when we venture out beyond our comfort zone into a new challenge with our confidence - [My Father's House](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fathers-house/) - Our youngest child is eighteen years old and in college! Where did the years go? Here's a journal entry I wrote eleven years ago when I was still "Daddy." It reminds us that the primary way we experience God's love, especially when we're children, is through people. When I woke up this morning I saw - [My Celiac Disease and How I Deal With It](https://www.soulshepherding.org/celiacs-disease-deal/) - It’s early Saturday morning and I’m running in the grass behind my house. It’s quiet. The blue sky is brightening and flowing over me like an ocean. I’m happy in Jesus as I’m meditating on Peter’s words on spiritual leadership and using them to inspire my prayers (1 Peter 5:1-12). Suddenly it feels like a - [More of Jesus... Less of Me](https://www.soulshepherding.org/more-of-jesus-less-of-me/) - Do you ever become jealous? Or get competitive? Most people do. These are problems of insecurity that come from trying to find our value in the things we have, the way we look, or what we do. This is the way of our culture which says, “Blessed are the rich, the good looking, and the - [More than Amazed by the Birth of Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/more-than-amazed-by-the-birth-of-christ/) - It’s easy for us to be amazed by Jesus. People have always been amazed by him -- until something else catches their fancy. That’s the way it was 2,000 years ago when Jesus was born. Angels appeared in the sky to shepherds radiating with God’s glory and singing his praises. They announced that the Messiah, - [Morning and Evening Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/morning-and-evening-prayer/) - In Psalm 65 David sings out to the Lord, "Where morning dawns and evening fades you call forth songs of joy" (verse 8). Where does his joy come from? Not his circumstances -- he's rejoicing in the Lord! "Your river in the heavens brims over to us!" David exclaims (verse 9, paraphrased). Don't you love - [Megachurch Pastor Pete Wilson Burns Out](https://www.soulshepherding.org/megachurch-pastor-pete-wilson-burns/) - It would seem that Pastor Pete Wilson had a great life. Look at his family. Look at his church. He planted Cross Point in Nashville, TN in 2002 and it grew to six campuses and 7,500 people. It’s one of the fastest growing churches in America. He launched innovative ministries, sharing the love of Christ - [Meditating on a Tattoo](https://www.soulshepherding.org/meditating-on-a-tattoo/) - Recently I was in a conversation with an older, conservative pastor and he was explaining why he thought it wasn't good to put tattoos on our bodies that are meant to be temples for the Holy Spirit. Granted some tattooing is excessive and unappealing, but still I was uncomfortable with him making that judgment. I - [Marriage Needs List Survey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/marriage-needs-list-survey/) - This Marriage Needs List is a free survey to help grow your relationship in love. It identifies twelve desires that are important to most husbands and wives. It helps you to rank your priorities for how you desire your spouse to show you the love and respect that you need. We use it in marriage counseling, - [Marketplace Christians](https://www.soulshepherding.org/marketplace-christians/) - Probably you do your work outside of a Christian church or nonprofit. This is the case for 97% of Christians. Sadly, Christian workers who are not in professional ministry often feel like their work is less important than that of pastors. My daughter Jennie was sharing these thoughts with me today from a book she's - [Lust No More](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lust-no-more/) - We talk with a lot of people who struggle with sexual lust and most of them are committed Christians, even pastors and ministry leaders. And it's not just men --- women also struggle with lust, though usually in a different way. It seems that lust is everywhere in our society. It's become normal to us. - [Magnify Your Ministry!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/magnify-your-ministry/) - Paul says of his pastoral ministry, “I magnify my office” (Romans 11:13, KJV). Pastor, do you magnify your office? Paul’s example and instruction is not just for professional church pastors—though it’s especially for them!—it’s for all of Christ’s ambassadors. So let me re-ask the question. Bible teacher, small group leader, marketplace worker, elder, counselor, leader, - [Make Room for Jesus this Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/make-room-for-jesus-this-christmas/) - “There was no room for Jesus in the Inn” (Luke 2:7). These are chilling words. And you and I must admit that often they are true of us – especially at Christmas time. We know that the reason for the season is to celebrate Christ’s birth and we say that this is what we want - [Making a Plan to Be Like Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-become-like-jesus/) - When you read about the fullness of life that Jesus and the other New Testament writers exemplify and talk about what do you think? Surely, you’re drawn to this beautiful way of life –- it is holy, peaceable, centered in God’s goodness, generous, and Spirit-empowered. What if you could grow in Christ to the point that - [Love is Unhurried](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-is-unhurried/) - If you were asked, “What is love?” How would you answer? Many people think love is a desire or a feeling and that’s why we say, “I love chocolate cake!” But really we just want to eat it! When love is degraded into mere desire it’s no wonder people “fall” in and out of love - [Love Languages Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-languages-test/) - This Love Languages Test is a free, simple tool we designed based on the concepts in Gary Chapman's best-selling book, Love Languages. It's meant to be completed by you and your spouse, family member, or friend and then discussed in order to help you better understand one another's preferred styles for giving and receiving care. The - [Love Much!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-much/) - Are you like the sinful woman crying at Jesus's feet, clinging to him for mercy? Am I? Do we know how desperate we are for Jesus? Do we abandon propriety to love our Lord with great affection? Or maybe we're more like Simon the Pharisee? He was a religious man, very proper and careful to - [Loving the Leaders Who Hurt You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/loving-leaders-hurt/) - Reconciling after a breach of relationship requires that you move toward the other with God’s love. This is true in all relationships, including if you were hurt by a parent, pastor, or other leader who should be the one to make the first move. My experience with repairing conflicts is that usually in retrospect both - [Lunch with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lunch-with-jesus/) - I want to introduce you to my friend Bob Sanders, President of Baja Christian Ministries (BCM). He has a story in the form of a prayer poem to share with you. It'll warm your heart. It'll bless you. It'll inspire you to draw closer to Jesus in the simplicity and eagerness of a child. First - [Lord, Bless the Man Who Keyed My Car](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lord-bless-man-keyed-car/) - I took Briana, age 18, on a "Daddy Date" to an Angels' baseball game. We got shut out, but we enjoyed being together. We shared a meal and snacks from our perch on the very top row behind home plate. We talked about all sorts of things and we reminisced on the fun times we had - [Lord, Make my Life a Miracle!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lord-make-my-life-a-miracle/) - I was restless and discouraged, so I turned to some words by Ray Ortlund Sr., the father of my spiritual renewal in Christ. These reflections became a prayer of consecration to Jesus Christ that blessed my soul! I believe they'll give your spirit a lift too. But first, let me explain why we need this - [Lost and Found](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lost-and-found/) - Have you ever been lost? Or lost one of your children? It's frightening! But how sweet it is to be found and to see the smile of the one you love. Being Lost One time I got lost leading my 11-year old son on a hike up a mountain. We were coming down the peak - [Love Can Woo You Out of Self-Hatred](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-can-woo-self-hatred/) - My daughter Briana is just home from college and I was watching her pick flowers in our garden to give to Kristi for Mother’s Day. She also made a lovely card with one of Kristi’s favorite Bible verses on it: “Look at [God]; give him your warmest smile. Never hide your true feelings from him.” - [Love for God Cures Our Shame! (St. Francis’ Prayer of Devotion)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/love-god-cures-shame-st-francis-prayer-devotion/) - “Those who look to the LORD are radiant; their faces are never covered with shame.” (Psalm 34:5) What a promise! As I shared on my Facebook Live Video (2 min) this week, it’s one of my favorite Bible verses. Because sometimes I feel judged myself and so do you. Shame is devastating. You hang your - [Living as a Bi-Habitational Being](https://www.soulshepherding.org/living-as-a-bi-habitational-being/) - I spent two weeks in a class with twenty pastors at a monastery, taught by Dallas Willard. The foundation of his teaching was on spiritual reality. Teaching that God is Spirit, that we’re eternal beings, and that the Kingdom of God is spiritual, might not sound like anything new. And yet, learning to really appreciate - [Living in Jesus' Spiritual Reality](https://www.soulshepherding.org/live-jesus-spiritual-reality/) - God’s great universe is not an ethereal, fog-like realm way off in the clouds as a place we access in heaven or, if we’re among the fortunate few, in rare mystical experiences. Nor is it just ideas and principles that are true. It’s the ground of reality. It’s a place to live, the most wonderful - [Like a Flower in the Father's Field](https://www.soulshepherding.org/like-a-flower-in-the-fathers-field/) - Life is precious and brief. How can we "redeem the time" before our days on earth slip away? (Ephesians 5:16). The ancient devotional masters were helped to live each day for Christ by meditating on their dead body being put into a tomb. Probably you haven't done that before! Most of us today try not - [Listen to God in Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/listen-to-god-in-prayer/) - It was Monday morning. I meditated on Scripture for a few minutes, sang a Psalm, and said some prayers. As I was finishing my breakfast I felt the pull to get going on my work. But I also sensed Jesus was calling to me: "Come to me in my garden of delights." So I stepped - [Listen to God with Joseph](https://www.soulshepherding.org/listen-to-god-with-joseph/) - Don't forget Joseph's part in the Nativity story. God may be speaking to you through his role... None of Joseph's words are recorded in the Bible. He was a man who listened. He listened to God through people, dreams, angels, and circumstances. He heard God's voice and obeyed him to protect his dream, the Word - [Listen to the Waves -- Listen to God's Voice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/listen-to-the-waves-listen-to-gods-voice/) - The ocean waves keep flowing in on the beach here at Ko Olina. (Thanks to an anniversary gift Kristi and I are in Hawaii!) I love to watch them roll in, one after the other, and come crashing into shore, splashing and spraying. I love to listen to them all day and night. Near the - [Live from the Center: Old Wisdom from Thomas Kelly for Today](https://www.soulshepherding.org/live-from-the-center-old-wisdom-from-thomas-kelley-for-today/) - Our lives today are cluttered and crowded. The list of responsibilities that we feel we must accomplish grows overnight like Jack’s beanstalk! We keep taking on more and more until before we know it we are bowed down with burdens, panting through a never-ending program of projects to complete, people to meet, and places to - [Life Without Lack: A Prayer by Dallas Willard](https://www.soulshepherding.org/life-without-lack-a-prayer-by-dallas-willard/) - You can experience life without lack right now. Remember Christ is here with you. That’s what I told myself a few minutes ago when I was buried under a stack of stress on my desk. Emails. Admin. Unfinished projects. Decisions and more decisions. My body was tense, my breathing was shallow, and my soul was - [Lift Up Your Head!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lift-your-head/) - This Christmas season maybe you need to appreciate that God bestows his favor on you personally? Maybe you’ve been feeling discouraged or insignificant and need to lift up your head to Christ? I did. So God led me to meditate on the shepherd’s place in the Christmas story as it’s recorded in the Bible (Luke 2:8-20). - [Light Posts for the Depressed](https://www.soulshepherding.org/light-posts-for-the-depressed/) - Pastors and their wives, along with other leaders and caregivers may struggle with depression. They give so much to others but may not care for their own souls under God. There are many Bible verses that offer us hope for overcoming depression. Anyone is a student of the Bible knows that the Bible offers tremendous - [Less is More](https://www.soulshepherding.org/less-is-more/) - Every pastor, leader, and caregiver tries to do too much. Lord, help us not to make this mistake! For us and the people around us it's the source of much anxiety and conflict --- also pride, envy, and feeling inadequate. Our main job is to remember that Jesus is the Leader. So make space for - [Life Events Stress Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/life-events-stress-test/) - How is your stress level? What changes have you gone through in the last year that may be affecting your health and well-being? The Life Events Stress Test can help you understand. At Soul Shepherding we care for pastors and other ministry leaders and find that they are especially vulnerable to stress overload and burnout. Parents and - [Learning to Obey Jesus’ Teachings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/learning-to-obey-jesus-teachings-in-the-sermon-on-the-mount/) - Excerpted from "Jesus' Greatest Teaching: Living the Sermon on the Mount Today" by Bill Gaultiere. Dallas Willard says that the "great omission" in Jesus’ Great Commission (Matthew 28:18-20) is learning to obey everything that Jesus taught. In most churches today we don’t teach people how to obey Jesus’ commands. As a case in point, when - [Leading from Liminal Space](https://www.soulshepherding.org/leading-liminal-space/) - Often in our leadership roles we're impatient to act. But to be a good pastor requires waiting to move forward on plans until you hear the wind of the Spirit marching in the tops of the trees (1 Chronicles 14:15). Loving parents and caregivers are "slow to speak and quick to listen" in order to offer - [Lean into the Rapids -- Rejoice in Trials](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lean-into-the-rapids-rejoice-in-trials/) - Last year I went whitewater rafting on the Kern River with my 11-year old son David and his by Boy Scout trip. What a thrilling adventure! And scary too! Driving on the highway along the river we saw a sign that said, “264 people have died in the Kern river since 1962.” Then when we - [Leap Over a Wall -- With Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/leap-over-a-wall-with-jesus/) - God gave David victory over Saul and all of his enemies and David sang in praise to the Lord, "With my God I can leap over a wall!" (Psalm 18:29, par) We love to leap over a wall! But what happens when we can't climb the wall or get around it? A sickness keeps us - [Learn from the Plumber](https://www.soulshepherding.org/learn-from-the-plumber/) - Discipleship to Jesus changes how we live. We gain a new perspective and new resources -- a new life takes over our life. We learn to do whatever we’re doing from within God’s kingdom of righteousness, peace, and joy (Romans 14:17). This changes our life and our work. What does this look like? Dallas Willard says - [Knowing Christ Today](https://www.soulshepherding.org/knowing-christ-today/) - People all around us today in our world and even in our churches “perish for lack of knowledge” (Hosea 4:6). Knowing Christ is what brings us real life today and into eternity. In the ministry of Soul Shepherding we refer to knowing Christ as "Intimacy with Jesus" and we believe it is the most important - [Laying Self-Condemnation at Jesus’ Feet](https://www.soulshepherding.org/laying-self-condemnation-jesus-feet/) - Normally, I love to write these devotionals and share them with you. But I’m discouraged. I’ve been judging myself about a talk I gave. My Critic jumped on me and hurled condemnations. No doubt some demons were piling on too. My spirits sank. So here I am and I’ve got nothing for you. Zilch. I’m - [Lead like Jesus: Be a Spiritual Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/lead-like-jesus-be-a-spiritual-leader/) - Where are the spiritual leaders in our churches, Christian organizations, and families? In your leadership role as a pastor, elder, counselor, group leader, supervisor, or parent are you leading in the way of the culture or the way of Jesus? To lead like Jesus means two things: be submitted to God and serve people. Spiritual Leaders Abandon - [Jesus’ “Easy Yoke” is Unhurried — Especially at Christmas!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-easy-yoke-unhurried-especially-christmas/) - As Christmas approaches it seems we have to go faster and faster! How can we be unhurried? The traffic keeps getting worse. The lines in the stores keep getting longer. We don’t want to miss out on special events, parties, and gathering with family and friends. We have presents to wrap and food to prepare. - [John Wesley's Meditations on the Lord's Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/john-wesleys-meditations-lords-prayer/) - John Wesley was known as a man of prayer. He began every day in prayer. He continued "instant in prayer" all day long. Prayer was his intimacy with God and his peace and power for daily living. People observed John Wesley coming out of his closet of prayer and glowing with the light of Christ! - [Joy as Happy-Sad Longing for God (C. S. Lewis and The Inklings)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/joy-happy-sad-longing-god-c-s-lewis-inklings/) - One of C. S. (“Jack”) Lewis’ greatest teachings is on Joy (with a capital “J”). It’s blessed me and I’m excited to share it with you! When Kristi and I vacationed in Europe with David and Bri (our son and his wife) we enjoyed a day on “The Happy Island” of Burano in Venice, Italy. - [Joyful, Thankful Bible Verses in Philippians](https://www.soulshepherding.org/joyful-thankful-bible-verses-philippians/) - Paul wrote these Thankful Bible Verses to the Philippians while in prison. They'll inspire you to be thankful to God and loving to all in your trials. - [King Jesus, My Joy!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/king-jesus-my-joy/) - In the stress of the Christmas season we can lose our sense of Christ Jesus and his joy. We’d like to share with you a simple Breath Prayer from the Bible for Advent called “King Jesus, My Joy.” We constantly hear from people who appreciate our short, Scripture-inspired prayers of the heart. (See our resources - [Kiss the Son of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/kiss-the-son-of-god/) - “Serve the Lord with fear,” says the second Psalm (verse 11). Some people wrongly think that to fear the Lord means to cower because he’s mean. No! God is never mean! To fear the Lord is to reverence our Creator and Judge. It’s to tremble before him as the One with the power of life - [Join a God-Adventure and You'll Sing a New Song!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/join-a-god-adventure-and-youll-sing-a-new-song/) - The start of the New Year is a great time to join a God-adventure and sing a new song! I was inspired along these lines when my son and I went to the theatre and watched The Hobbit. What a great movie this is! Play it Safe or Step Out on an Adventure? “I'm looking for someone - [Jesus, Our Immanuel](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-our-immanuel/) - What a joy it is to hold a newborn child - a miracle of God in your arms! It's an even greater joy to hold Christ in our hearts! Come. Appreciate anew the precious gift of God living in you - now and forevermore. Don't let this moment pass. I know you have so much - [Jesus, Psychotherapy Research, and Life Change](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-psychotherapy-research-life-change/) - Some people who seek help with personal struggles from a counselor get help resolving their problems while others do not. Some clients in psychotherapy overcome depression and anxiety. Some couples in marriage counseling resolve their differences. Some alcoholics in AA learn to live sober and healthy lives. Some people being discipled by their pastor learn - [Jesus’ Blessing For You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-blessing-for-you/) - Most Christians miss Jesus’ blessing in his beatitudes. I did for many years, even as a pastor and psychotherapist. When Jesus says, “Blessed are the poor in spirit, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven” (Matt. 5:3) we hear, “You’ll be blessed by God if you’re humble.” That’s generally true, but it’s not what Jesus - [Jesus, in Your Name I Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-in-your-name-i-hope/) - The way to life and freedom is to trust in the name of the Lord. The wise man says: "The name of the Lord is a strong tower; the righteous run to it and are safe" (Proverbs 18:12). But what does it mean to trust in the name of the Lord? In my personal life - [Jesus' Prodigal Father Loves You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-prodigal-father-loves-you/) - One day on retreat I had a deep experience of the Father's love and I want to share it with you. It's inspired by what may be the most compelling story about God in the Bible and the greatest short story ever told anywhere: Jesus' Parable of the Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32). I spent some quiet - [Jesus' Sermon on the Plain: 7 Minutes to Heaven!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-sermon-plain-7-minutes-heaven/) - It takes just seven minutes to read or listen to Jesus' Sermon on the Plain -- even less to read this Bible study summary on Luke 6. Wow! When was the last time you heard a seven minute sermon? You've never heard such a masterpiece as this one! If we give seven minutes to listen - [Jesus' Beatitudes for Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-beatitudes-pastors/) - Pastors today are under tremendous pressure to succeed. But what does it mean to succeed? The culture says, "You're blessed if your church has more and more people attending and if you have great buildings, dynamic services, and large offerings." Jesus teaches that anyone, rich or poor, who learns from him how to live in God's - [Jesus' Cure For Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-cure-shame/) - I'll never forget being in Israel and getting up before dawn one morning to sit on a rock beside the Sea of Galilee. As the waves gently lap at my feet I imagine Jesus calling the fishermen Peter, Andrew, James, and John at that very spot. "Come, follow me," Jesus says, "and I will make you fishers of men - [Jesus' Dark Night of the Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-dark-night-of-the-soul/) - Jesus hung on the cross, naked and disfigured from beatings, bleeding and suffocating to death. He cried out Psalm 22:1 for all to hear, “My God, my God, why have you forsaken me?” It was the darkest night ever (Matthew 27:45). Jesus felt abandoned by his Father. Many theologians say that because he took our - [Jesus' Gospel Changes Lives](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-gospel-changes-lives/) - “Gospel” means, “Good news!” Does the gospel you believe bring good news for the life you’re actually living today? Jesus' Gospel is the best news but few people today really understand it. For many Christians their good news is waiting for them in heaven when they die and in the meantime they’re just holding on. They’re - [Jesus Says Be Selfish](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-says-be-selfish/) - “I feel invisible,” Angelica’s face sunk with her words. “My husband doesn’t even see me. He’s so focused on his work, his ministry projects, what he wants to do. There’s no room for me in our relationship…” After listening to her awhile, I felt like she was invisible! Really. My office was filled with his - [Jesus Scorned Your Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-scorned-your-shame/) - At times we all feel inadequate, insignificant, less than, or unloved because of some deficiency, real or merely felt. We may fall into a pit of feeling bad about ourselves, even if we know better. We need fresh eyes and a soft heart. We need to become transfixed with Jesus’ glowing, pure face as we - [Jesus Shows Us Healthy Relational Boundaries](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-shows-us-healthy-relational-boundaries/) - When Jesus lived on earth, he never walked on eggshells around people, worried about upsetting them, clung to them for approval, or pushed to get them to do what they should. He was self-aware, secure, solid, purposeful, straightforward, loving. How did Jesus do this? How was he able to be so loving, even to difficult - [Jesus Will Walk Right Up to You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-will-walk-right-up-to-you/) - A college student came out of Dallas Willard’s office wide-eyed, “Do you think Jesus can walk up to you?” Like many students in philosophy classes at USC, he’d been drawn to the humble, wise, and radiant philosopher Willard. So he met with the professor for personal support and guidance. When the student asked about God, - [Jesus is My Heaven](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-heaven/) - Recently I read a line from Julian of Norwich's Revelations of Divine Love that so warmed my heart with a longing to be close to Jesus in the sweet embrace of his Father that I prayed it over and over. I've returned to it many times in the last two weeks... When I caught myself trying - [Jesus is My Refuge](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-is-my-refuge/) - On Palm Sunday, Jesus wept over Jerusalem because the people didn't recognize him (Luke 19:41). Later in Holy Week, Jesus cried out for us all: "O how I have longed to gather you as a hen gathers her chicks under her wings!" (Matthew 23:37, paraphrase). Do you desire to be that close to Christ? Can - [Jesus Jujitsu: The Power to Turn the Other Cheek](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-jujitsu-the-power-to-turn-the-other-cheek/) - "Turn the other cheek," Jesus taught. "If someone takes your shirt give him your coat. Bless those who curse you." (Matthew 5:39, Luke 6:29). Was Jesus crazy? Was he telling us to let ourselves be abused? To live in shame and in fear with no boundaries of self-protection? No! For most people the "Love your - [Jesus Makes You Good Enough!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-makes-good-enough/) - Do you feel “good enough”? When you see a younger, more attractive person? When you hear about someone who is having more success than you? When someone else’s Facebook page is more exciting than yours? Most of us are prone to compare our personal feelings and weaknesses with our idealized images of other people. That - [Jesus Helps Santa Claus Walk on Water!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-helps-santa-claus-walk-on-water/) - Have you ever played Telephone Pictionary? It’s a fun family game. Someone writes down a brief storyline. The next person draws a quick picture of that on a new sheet of paper. A third person describes what’s going on in the second picture, without seeing the original written storyline. Then a fourth person draws a - [Jesus in Psalm 19: God's Word to Me](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gods-word-to-me/) - What a blessing it is that our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, through sacrificing his perfect life on the cross for us and raising from the dead to conquer sin, death, and hell, has reconciled us to God our Father! Just the thought of this blessing out to fill our hearts with gratitude that our - [Jesus is Glad to See You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/jesus-is-glad-to-see-you/) - Do you know that the Lord Jesus is glad to see you? That when you walk into a room he notices you and his Spirit walks up to you with a beaming face and an enthusiastic hug? When you minister to people do they know that you are glad to be with them? We all - [Is Jesus Enough for You?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/is-jesus-enough-for-you/) - Is Jesus enough for you? Really? Is being close to Jesus what is most important to you? I ask myself this question all the time. One important way to connect with Jesus is by being child-like with him. Even responsible adults have an "inner child" that longs to know the "Abba" (Hebrew for "Papa") that - [Is God a “She”?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/is-god-a-she/) - Recently, a friend secretly prayed to God as his Mother. “My church wouldn’t understand,” he lamented. What do you think? Is it important to view God as Father? Do you appreciate femininity in God? Would you ever pray to God as "heavenly Mother”? My Ph.D. dissertation was on our image of God. I interviewed hundreds - [Internet Addiction Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/internet-addiction-test/) - We offer a free Internet Addiction Test to help you see if you (or a loved one) might have an Internet addiction and need help breaking free. I developed the acronym “A-N A-D-D-I-C-T” as a simple screening tool to identify compulsive behavior problems. Here it’s applied to Internet use, which refers to whatever you do online including - [In the Grip of a Great Happiness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/in-the-grip-of-a-great-happiness/) - How audacious to claim, “I have life without lack because the Lord is my shepherd.” That’s the point of Psalm 23 according to Dallas Willard in his new book Life Without Lack. But I feel many examples of lack in my life and so do you. Is the poet and singer of Psalm 23 living - [In Jesus' Shadow](https://www.soulshepherding.org/in-jesus-shadow/) - Do you remember when you were little and you always wanted to be with your daddy wherever he went? Or maybe it was your mom, big brother, or big sister? Toddlers are like little chicks following their mother around -- they just want to be close to her all the time! Imagine being like that with - [In Jesus' Name... Not my Strain...](https://www.soulshepherding.org/in-jesus-name-not-my-strain/) - I believe mightily in the power of little prayers offered in Jesus' name. They've changed my life -- my pace of life is slower, my way of life is more peaceful and joyful, my demeanor in stress is more ready to glorify God, my ability to love others is greater. I've seen the same effect - [In Christ Alone](https://www.soulshepherding.org/in-christ-alone/) - Your identity, worth, meaning, and joy are in Christ alone - not in your performance or what people think of you. This is why the Apostle Paul urges us to place ourselves “in Christ” 110 times in his New Testament letters. In Christ. What does it mean to be in Christ? Simply put, it is to - [In a Dark Night of the Soul I Saw Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/in-a-dark-night-of-the-soul-i-saw-jesus/) - The summer before my senior year of college I worked as an apprentice butcher. If you know me you’re laughing right now: Bill a butcher! But if you were in the meat market with me for those three months when I was 21 years old you would not have laughed -- you would’ve cried for me. It was - [Imagine Yourself in a Better Place!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/imagine-better-place/) - I’m not saying the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. That’s a spirit of discontent or jealousy. That kind of move usually leads you from one brown pasture to another. Because wherever you go — there you are! Most of our problems are less about our circumstances and more about our - [If You Feel Suicidal Talk to a Survivor of Suicide](https://www.soulshepherding.org/if-you-feel-suicidal-talk-to-a-survivor-of-suicide/) - Maybe you feel that no one really cares about what you’re going through or that there is no hope for things to get better for you. You don't have to remain in Depression. But maybe suicide feels like an escape from your pain. Please read on for real hope! There is at least one person - [If Jesus is Your Portion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/if-jesus-is-your-portion/) - We say, "The Lord is my shepherd I shall not want" (Psalm 23:1). But do we really mean it? Are we really prepared to say, "If all I have is Jesus, then I have all I need to be happy"? Praying Psalm 23 from my heart helps me to become the kind of person who - [I was "Strong but Stupid!" (Trying vs Training)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-was-strong-but-stupid-trying-vs-training/) - Two years ago I was riding 25 miles on my bike as fast as I could in my first Olympic Triathlon and I was soon to get one of the most important lessons of my life. I was still dripping wet from my one mile swim in Lake Mission Viejo. It took me about 40 - [I Felt Like a Son in Grief, Not a Pastor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-felt-like-a-son-in-grief-not-a-pastor/) - When my dad died my mom asked me to be the minister for his funeral. But I felt like a son in grief, not a pastor. I wanted to be a boy again and have my dad present in his prime to be strong for me. I also wanted to love my mom, family, and - [I Felt Inadequate. God Smiled, “Just Be My Wildflower!”](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-felt-inadequate-god-smiled-just-be-my-wildflower/) - I want to tell you about a time I was feeling inadequate. Because maybe sometimes you feel like you’re not ________ enough. Not pretty enough. Not smart enough. Not wealthy enough. Not popular enough. Not accomplishing enough. Not holy enough. You and I probably fill in the blank differently, but we all want to be enough. And - [I Fell into a Pit of Depression](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-fell-into-a-pit-of-depression/) - Last night I fell into a dark hole, a pit of depression. I didn't see it coming. This bad mood came out of nowhere and pulled me down into a dark discouragement. Have you ever felt this way? Yesterday was actually a good day. For instance, I began the day with an hour in solitude - [I Do What I Don't Want to Do](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-do-what-i-dont-want-to-do/) - Jess was in church on Sunday. He was singing praises to God, earnestly seeking to apply God’s word to his life, and friendly with people after the service. Then later that day he was driving with some friends to a restaurant and he got frustrated when a driver cut him off and drove slow. Jess - [I am in Trouble](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-am-in-trouble/) - I’ve heard it said: “I pray when I’m in trouble... I pray all the time!” I relate! I’m in trouble all the time! Realizing this is the secret to a great prayer life. When our circumstances are pleasant, it’s easy to forget that we’re in trouble: the world is vain, demons are near, temptations abound, - [I Am Because You Are the I AM](https://www.soulshepherding.org/i-am-because-you-are-the-i-am/) - I was driving on a long and lonely road to go backpacking with my son David in Mammoth. He was sleeping. It was quiet. And before me was a vast stretch of highway winding through the desert and heading into the sky. I was alone with my Creator in the quiet... I was reminded of - [Hurry with the Shepherds to the Birth of Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hurry-with-the-shepherds-to-the-birth-of-christ/) - For a number of years now as Christmas approaches I've been doing an Advent meditation that's a great blessing! I ask the Holy Spirit to help me pick a Bible character from the Christmas story to companion during advent. In addition to the Gospel accounts of the events surrounding the birth of Christ, I've used - [Hurry Up and Be Still!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hurry-up-and-be-still/) - “How are you?” my friend asked me on the phone. “Busy,” I replied. “What else is new?” he laughed. “Ever since we roomed together in college I’ve admired how disciplined and productive you are.” Years later, I still think about that exchange. Although it was opposite of my friend’s intention, I realized then that I - [Hurry to Spill Mercy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hurry-to-spill-mercy/) - I was coming down the stairs this morning with my arms full and heading out to an appointment that I was going to be late for, when I spilled my cup full of cereal all down the stairs and across the entry! This is a parable... Hurried & Overwhelmed Pastors Most pastors and leaders that - [Hungry Heart Scriptures](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hungry-heart-scriptures/) - We long for God’s loving presence far more than we realize! His heavenly manna is the only food that satisfies the longings of our souls. Realizing this affects the way we eat -- it completely changes our relationship with food. Yes, food! We were created to live in an interactive relationship with Christ in God's - [Hungry for the Fruit of the Spirit](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hungry-for-the-fruit-of-the-spirit/) - When we "eat" the Word of God what are we eating? We 're eating manna from heaven, God's words of abundant and eternal life, the fruit of the Spirit. "The fruit of the Spirit" is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control" (Galatians 5:22-24). That's fruit that is good for the soul! - [Humbled by Boston Marathon Heat](https://www.soulshepherding.org/humbled-by-boston-marathon-heat/) - I stood at the start line of the Boston Marathon poised and ready to go. I had dreamed of running this race since I ran my first marathon at age 18, over 30 years ago. It was finally here! I was one of 26,656 runners from around the world who had qualified and we were - [Hug Jesus' Shins](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hug-jesus-shins-2/) - A few weeks ago I helped my 14-year old daughter, Briana, watch our neighbor’s dogs Lucky and Spanky. She was dog sitting while they were on vacation. This wasn’t a fun job, as it included cleaning up the dogs’ messes in the utility room. So I got to help clean up pee and poop and - [How to Read the Sermon on the Mount](https://www.soulshepherding.org/read-sermon-mount/) - I was taught in seminary that the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5 to 7) wasn’t one sermon of Jesus’, but a collection of his sayings that Matthew assembled and that I was to obey. It was confusing to me. I saw the highest ideals of morality in attitude and behavior and the best advice - [How to Lead With Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-lead-with-hope/) - The hope you need is not in a vaccine, “back to normal” church, or anything visible — it’s in the presence of Jesus risen! The people you care for and lead are desperate for this hope today. When I was a Pastor of Spiritual Formation, Barbie, on my staff nicknamed me Eeyore. She smiled, “It’s - [How to Forgive Those Who’ve Hurt You: A 3 Step Guide to Reconciliation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-forgive-those-whove-hurt-you-a-3-step-guide-to-reconciliation/) - You don’t have to stay stuck in victim mode when you’ve been mistreated. We asked our friend Ken Baugh to share with you his story of forgiveness and reconciliation after being terminated from his church, despite ten years of faithful service as a pastor. I (Bill) was honored to be part of the process in which God healed his broken heart and reconciled him - [How to Expand Your Spiritual IQ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-expand-your-spiritual-iq/) - There is one soul care practice you especially need. Incorporating this spiritual discipline into your routine will bless you greatly and help your personality to flourish. You discover your key soul care exercise when you learn your Enneagram intelligence center or spiritual IQ (usually called your triad). Last week in our Soul Shepherding blog and podcast we talked about - [How to Begin Lectio Divina](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-begin-lectio-divina/) - Many people visit SoulShepherding.org to learn how to practice Lectio Divina in their private devotions or for leading a small group. I'm not surprised because of all the spiritual exercises that we use in our personal devotions and in our spiritual mentoring and retreats for others, Lectio Divina is one of the most helpful. The - [How Could it Be?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-could-it-be/) - Sometimes I'm just overwhelmed with appreciation for God's grace -- aren't you? The grace of God isn't just "unmerited favor" -- it's God acting in our lives with kindness and power. Praying a Psalm often warms my heart with a fresh realization of God's generosity and strength at work in my life. Because of God's - [How Many Birds are You Worth?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-many-birds-are-you-worth/) - How many birds are you worth? Really. Have you ever thought about pricing a person in terms of birds?! Jesus has such a delightful and humorous way to get our attention! (In Divine Conspiracy Dallas Willard presents this line of understanding Jesus' teaching on "Do not worry.") Two of the Good News writers, Matthew and Luke, show - [How Christian Psychotherapy Works](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-christian-psychotherapy-works/) - Kristi and I (Bill) have been offering Christian psychotherapy in Irvine, CA since 1987, Kristi as a Marriage and Family Therapist and myself as a Psychologist. In psychotherapy we help people to overcome depression, anxiety, compulsive behaviors, and relationship conflicts. As part of the therapy process we can help people to grow in the grace of - [How are You Experiencing God?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-are-you-experiencing-god/) - "How are you experiencing God?" This is what I asked a group of pastors and ministry leaders today. I wonder if you've thought about your experience of God today. (It helps to have someone you trust who checks in with you on this!) Experiencing God is not well understood by most people today. We tend - [How About Lunch with Jesus?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-about-lunch-with-jesus/) - What if Jesus asked you to lunch? I think you'd be excited! Actually, Jesus has already asked you. Remember he said, "Here I am! I stand at the door and knock. If anyone hears my voice and opens the door, I will come in and eat with him, and he with me" (Revelation 3:20). Lunch - [Hope for a Lonely Pastor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hope-for-a-lonely-pastor/) - Most pastors and ministry leaders/caregivers often find themselves alone, apart from the crowd. They may not say they're "lonely," but they'd probably say they feel separate from others in some ways. Charles Spurgeon tells a true story about a lonely pastor with a surprise ending that will inspire you to trust God in your trials. - [Holy! Hole-y! Whole-y!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/o-trinity/) - I love to meditate on the Trinity! What sweet prayers come from contemplating the Godhead! Holy! Holy! Holy! Father, Son, and Spirit. God is so powerful, so beautiful, so good. He is God! And yet he is humble. To see God’s humility and sacrificial love changes everything about how we see ourselves and how we - [Here and Now](https://www.soulshepherding.org/here-and-now/) - "Teach us to number our days aright," is Moses' prayer of wisdom for us. "Satisfy us in the morning with your unfailing love, that we may sing for joy and be glad all of our days" (Psalm 90:12, 14). Don't squander time. Don't regret the past and don't worry about the future. Live in this moment - [Her Solace Was in Wine More Than Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/solace-wine-jesus/) - “I’m here because my husband thinks I have a drinking problem,” said Lisa (not her real name). “And he’s crazy! I have my drinking under control.” But Lisa clearly displayed symptoms of addiction: Her alcohol intake had increased. She drank alone. She used wine to deal with stress. Her drinking caused family conflicts. She didn’t - [Henri Nouwen's Secret Journal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/henri-nouwens-secret-journal/) - In Henri Nouwen's Dark Night he received pastoral counseling and kept a secret journal. Shortly before he died this was published as "The Inner Voice of Love." Here are some quotes and insights for pastors and ministry leaders. - [Help Wanted in the Church: Spiritual Mentors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/help-wanted-in-the-church-spiritual-mentors/) - An anxious man asked one of the Desert Fathers of long ago for help in his prayer life. The wise mentor invited him first to unburden his soul: “Just as it is impossible for a man to see his face in troubled water, so too the soul, unless it be cleansed of alien thoughts, cannot - [Help for Unruly Emotions About the Election](https://www.soulshepherding.org/help-for-unruly-emotions-about-the-election/) - We have feelings about who will be the next US President, as well as the other offices and propositions on the ballot. When the election results are in, you and your neighbors will have emotions like fear or relief, confidence or anger, discouragement or hope, cynicism or apathy. The global pandemic of 2020 has stoked - [Help for Emotional Reactivity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/help-for-emotional-reactivity/) - I've talked with many people who struggle with emotional reactivity and mood swings. Some are Bi-Polar or Borderline. Most just get overwhelmed by their emotions. They say things they regret, have outbursts of tears, lose their temper, and act on their feelings before thinking clearly. To develop self-control they need to learn to think with - [Heaven’s Word to You: “Come!” (C. S. Lewis’ Story)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/heavens-word-come-c-s-lewis-story/) - “Be hospitable” the Bible teaches. You and the people around you need it — desperately (Romans 12:13, 1 Peter 4:9). Recently, Kristi and I were blessed to appreciate the hospitality of C. S. Lewis. You might not expect such a brilliant scholar to be warm-hearted. It started when we visited his home “The Kilns” in - [Heather was Paralyzed but Now She can Dance with Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/heather-was-paralyzed-but-now-she-can-dance-with-jesus/) - Heather was paralyzed for eight years after a car accident. But today she can walk with ease and dance with joy! Glory to God! Thanks and praise to Jesus Christ! Heather is one of the readers of the Soul Shepherding Devotional and she wants to share her story of healing with you. What a blessing - [Hearing God’s Voice to Bless and Heal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hearing-gods-voice-to-bless-and-heal/) - Jerry sat next to me (Bill) in church one Sunday in 2005. I didn’t know him, but he knew me as the Spiritual Formation Pastor. During the service he wrote me a note, “Can I set an appointment for spiritual direction to talk to you this week?” I learned Jerry was a retired pastor. “Imagine - [Hearing God's Voice Today](https://www.soulshepherding.org/hearing-gods-voice-today/) - Are you hearing God’s voice in your daily life? Do you believe that God still speaks to people today like he did in the Bible times? The Good Shepherd Talks to His Sheep Jesus described our relationship with him in John 10 as being like sheep that recognize the shepherd’s voice: "My sheep listen to - [Healing for the Abused](https://www.soulshepherding.org/healing-for-the-abused/) - Many ministry leaders and servants of Christ that we help have been abused in the past. Some were hit, yelled at, or called bad names. Others were sexually violated. Many suffered with harsh judgments from a parent. Tragically, survivors of abuse tend to perpetuate the pain of how they were mistreated with self-condemnation or destructive - [Healing Father Wounds](https://www.soulshepherding.org/healing-father-wounds/) - Recently I led a retreat for 18 pastors and their wives who serve at churches in Mexico. It was called, "Embrace Abba with Me." I'd like to share with you one of our times of reflection and prayer on the father wound that proved to be powerfully healing for everyone. There were many tears, hugs, - [Guiding the Lectio Divina Process](https://www.soulshepherding.org/guiding-the-lectio-divina-process/) - Maybe you've experienced meditating on a Bible passage using the spiritual discipline of Lectio Divina. Maybe you also have a small group or a friend that you meet with for prayer. Why not combine these two practices? What a blessing it is to open God's Word with soul friends so we can listen to the Lord together, - [Guarding Your Heart in Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/guarding-heart-ministry/) - “We love because God first loved us” (1 John 4:19). This is the Valentine’s Day message that Kristi wrote on the chalkboard in our powder room. It’s also the foundation of Gary Smalley’s talk on Guarding Your Heart in Ministry that we enjoyed together the day before Valentine’s Day. He taught on Jesus’ treasure principle: - [Gracias Dios Para Los Hormigas!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gracias-dios-para-los-hormigas/) - Three times a year we go to Mexico to care for pastors and wives. - [Gossip in Church Hurts](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gossip-in-the-church-hurts/) - A pastor's wife told me that she overheard an elder's wife and a newcomer to the church gossiping about her. The elder's wife said smugly, "We love our pastor, but his wife controls him. She told him to replace our women's luncheons with Bible studies." Gossip in church hurts. This was a knife that cut - [Good Shepherd is Looking for You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/good-shepherd-is-looking-for-you/) - You long to be pursued in love. So do I. "How are you... really? What do you need? What are you hoping for? How can I pray for you?" When someone expresses genuine personal interest in you, it is healing. When you open up to grace, it is life-giving. But somewhere along the line we - [Good News of Great Joy!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/good-news-of-great-joy/) - It's Christmastime! Are you celebrating Christ in your heart? Are you appreciating the incarnate Son of God, the King of kings, in your thoughts? It's easy too be distracted with busyness or worries - especially as Christmas approaches. Advent is a time to slow down and prepare for the coming of Christ to us. It's - [God’s Wildflower](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gods-wildflower/) - Do you ever feel insignificant? Compare yourself to others and come up short? Try hard to look or do better so you can stand out? I do. But then I pick up the inspired prayers of the Psalmist; I follow the rhythms of the ancient prayer masters. In solitude with my Lord I pray the Psalms - [God’s Love Makes Ogres Glorious!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gods-love-makes-ogres-glorious/) - Children and children at heart love the modern fairy tale of Shrek. It’s a love story with a surprising ending that can open our hearts to be healed by God’s love and grace. The Self-Esteem of an Ogre Shrek is a hideous green monster who falls in love with a princess named Fiona. Of course, - [God is Not Mean!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/when-god-seems-angry/) - You may feel like God is angry and mean when you read particular Bible passages. The story of Job in the Old Testament is designed to renew our heartfelt image of a loving God. Job was one of the most righteous people in history. It seems he’s especially blessed by God with health, wealth, and - [God Gives Second Chances](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-gives-second-chances/) - When I made a minor alteration on a marriage license I had to pay the price for second chances, but I didn't let this judgment dampen the joy of our son's wedding. Instead, I thanked God that Jesus paid he price for our sins! - [God Dawns on You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-dawns-on-you/) - Early one winter morning at the Prince of Peace Abbey I got up to pray. It was still dark. I stood at the edge of the hill and looked out over the valley below and the mountains in the distant horizon. As the birds chirped, I stood in the dark, shivering, and waiting for the - [God Cares for Your Emotions (Psalm 139)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/god-cares-for-your-emotions-psalm-139/) - Many Christians are stunted in their spiritual growth because they don’t understand or express their deep emotions and desires. As pastors, ministry leaders, caregivers, or parents we may get so busy or so focused on other people that we become disconnected from our own emotions and needs. But being self-aware is crucial to our abilities - [Giving Thanks for a Light in the Dark (Psalm 88)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/giving-thanks-light-dark-psalm-88/) - We all have times we don’t feel thankful. Maybe we’re depleted, detached, despairing. Maybe God feels far away. What do you do then? A pastor friend of mine is one of the wisest, most compassionate, and successful leaders I know. He has a large church of people who are so thankful for him, how he - [Getting the Gorilla of Guilt Off Your Back!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/getting-the-gorilla-of-guilt-off-your-back/) - At a coffee meeting, Pastor Sean lamented to me, “Another key leader left my church. I’ll probably never see him again.” “Why do you say that?” I asked. “I’ve been through this before. I can tell by the way he left. He just told me, ‘It’s time for us to move on.’ He wouldn’t elaborate.” “How - [Gasping for Air with Ray Ortlund Sr.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/gasping-for-air-with-ray-ortlund-sr/) - Much of who I am comes from my spiritual mentors. The same is true for you. The men or women who you have looked to as Christ’s Ambassadors are used by God to shape you and your ministry to others (2 Corinthians 5:20). Nurturing those relationships and memories is vital. Ray Ortlund Sr. was a - [Free of Quiet Time Guilt (Dallas Willard)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/free-of-quiet-time-guilt/) - “Good Christians do their daily devotions.” That teaching puts pressure and guilt on people! It also generates a bifurcated life in which I meet with God for a while and then I go off and live my life without God. We need to get free of “Quiet Time guilt” Dallas Willard says. Doing away with - [Free of Jealousy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/free-of-jealousy/) - Many years ago I was at a pastors’ retreat and a friend excitedly handed me his newly published book. I complimented him, but inside I flamed with jealousy. I was in the midst of an extended fast from writing books. It ended up being fourteen years! When Richard Foster relinquished “The Celebration of Discipline” his - [Frank Laubach's CIHU Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/frank-laubachs-cihu-prayer/) - In the later years of high school I learned about Brother Lawrence's classic book Practicing the Presence of God. Immediately I was won over to the beauty and goodness of a life devoted to praying without ceasing (1 Thessalonians 5:17). But he was a monk from the 17th Century! Could an ordinary person like me in the modern - [Following Jesus Immediately](https://www.soulshepherding.org/following-jesus-immediately/) - "Pray without ceasing," the Apostle Paul taught us (1 Thess. 5:17). He also said, “Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit” (Gal. 5:25). John Wesley referred to this as “continuing instant in prayer.” Probably you’re more familiar with the terminology of “practicing God’s presence.” Mark in his Gospel seeks to draw - [First Thoughts of the Morning](https://www.soulshepherding.org/first-thoughts-of-the-morning/) - Ten years ago at the end of one of my monthly spiritual direction meetings with Ray Ortlund Sr. he smiled brightly and urged me, as he so often did, "Bill, be all and only for Jesus!" Then Ray encouraged me to read Life Together by Dietrich Bonhoeffer. I should tell you that whenever Ray made a suggestion - [Finding Yourself in Narnia](https://www.soulshepherding.org/finding-yourself-in-narnia/) - One night as C. S. Lewis slept, a lion bounded into his dream. He wasn’t scared as much as he was blessed. Later, he named the lion “Aslan.” Then a wardrobe door opened into the wonderful world of Narnia — for 100 million people! You never know when a door to Narnia may open. “Jack” - [Feeling Left Out of the Holidays](https://www.soulshepherding.org/feeling-left-out-of-the-holidays/) - During the holiday season you may feel like the apple in a bowl of oranges. Thanksgiving, Christmas, and New Years are special occasions for families to gather and it seems that everyone else is with loved ones enjoying being together. If you are feeling left out or lonely you are not the only one around you - [Find Rest, O My Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/find-rest-o-my-soul/) - "Find rest, O my soul, in God alone," David prays in Psalm 62:5. Is your soul at rest? Are you living in Jesus' "easy yoke"? (Matthew 11:28-30). God's peace is elusive for most of us! We may struggle with worry, irritability, or jealousy. Or we may keep ourselves busy all the time. Control Issues Why - [Finding Your Value in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/finding-your-value-in-christ/) - It was so embarrassing. I had a PhD in psychology but I was working as a security guard! While I was completing my degree, I had been building my psychotherapy practice, but when I was done with my schooling my client load dropped from fifteen clients a week down to three and new referrals were not coming - [Finding the Lost Book to Treasure Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/finding-the-lost-book-to-treasure-jesus/) - Listen to Bill read this devotional: A Kogi tribe in Columbia had no Bible. It was a lost book. They didn’t know the name of Jesus. Sadly, we who know the Gospel of Jesus may lack it's enthusiasm. We who have a number of Bibles in our homes may treat it like a lost book. A few years ago - [Fear of Success is Good](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-success-good/) - We all want to succeed in some way. We strive to accomplish great things in our work or for our relationships to be healthier and happier. Or we may pursue more knowledge, attractiveness, or wealth. Often we seek success for God or others without realizing how much we're really trying to build up own ego. We'd be wise - [Fear Not the Ghosts and Goblins](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fear-not-the-ghosts-and-goblins/) - I went to Disneyland with my daughter Jennie. We were looking forward to some father-daughter time. She says she's "Daddy's girl" and I love that! The Scariest Place on Earth? I had forgotten that Halloween is coming, but we sure knew it when we walked inside Disneyland. “The Happiest Place on Earth” here in Orange - [Father Wounds and Longings Inventory](https://www.soulshepherding.org/father-wounds-and-longings/) - Many people carry father wounds. We all have a deep longing for a father's love. These reflection questions will help you on the path to healing. You have father wounds if your dad was abusive, harsh, absent, addicted, perfectionistic, unpredictable, or emotionally distant. These are some of the positive qualities that children need from their - [Fasting is Feasting Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fasting-is-feasting-prayer/) - Fasting is one of the most transforming spiritual disciplines that I have used. Jesus made important use of fasting and when we fast it is a special way to be with our Lord and become more like him. Using my "Fasting is Feasting Prayer" will help. Denying myself food for a period of time helps - [Fasting is Feasting](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fasting-is-feasting/) - I said to a ministry leader that fasting is feasting on God’s Word. He replied, "It's hard enough for me to quiet my mind when I'm not hungry! How can I learn to enjoy meditating on Scripture when I'm hungry? And why would I want to do this?" Fasting in the Bible and Today Fasting - [Family Map Survey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/family-map-survey/) - Healthy family systems are balanced in relational connecting and structure. Understanding your family dynamics in these areas is the first step to developing more loving and effective family relationships. You can use the Family Map Survey to help you understand your family of origin. If you have children you can also use the Family Map Survey - [False Beliefs That Prevent Healing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/false-beliefs-that-prevent-healing/) - To some people, “faith” in God is right doctrine or action. But actually faith is relational — it’s trusting God. As we keep seeking God with our heart, our beliefs and behavior come along. To strengthen our faith means we are developing greater trust and confidence in Holy Spirit’s presence with us and his power - [Falling in Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/falling-love/) - Kristi and I are still basking in the delightful glow of our son's wedding. This picture shows David carrying Brianne into the reception! Have you ever thought about your relationship with Jesus as being like "falling in love"? That may seem like infatuation or an inappropriate way to think of our relationship with God. But the - [Failing Into Arms of Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/failing-arms-grace/) - Most of us use our successes to hide our sense of failure. We’d be better to fail into Jesus’ arms of grace. Fail? Yes. Let me show you what it means to admit our failures and receive grace. I was a hero child. I was all about hitting home runs, getting straight A’s, and being - [Eyes of Purity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/eyes-of-prayer/) - Jesus said, "If your eyes are good, your whole body will be full of light" (Matthew 6:22). What we do with our eyes is really important! Continually in our world today "the lust of the eyes" tempts us (1 John 2:16) to take pleasure from looking upon someone or something that is not ours -- - [Even in Church We’re Not Safe From Gunmen?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/even-church-not-safe-gunmen/) - One Sunday in a small town church families are worshiping God together with children playing and dancing happily. The next Sunday a madman shoots half those people, killing 26. That was the scene at First Baptist Church in Sutherland Springs, Texas two days ago. November 5, 2017 marks the deadliest church shooting in US history. - [Experience More of Jesus’ Peace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/experience-more-of-jesus-peace/) - Jesus is with you in your storm. If you really see this you’ll experience the deep peace that guards your heart (Philippians 4:7). Here’s a Scripture meditation to help you experience Christ’s loving presence with you: Dark storm clouds pelted torrents of freezing rain on Jesus and the disciples, gale winds whipped their boat in - [Enthralled with Jesus to Become Like Him](https://www.soulshepherding.org/enthralled-jesus-become-like/) - Most people would say, "I want to be more like Jesus." I'm sure you would say that. But few of us know much about how to be genuinely transformed. The standard approaches to spiritual growth today aren't likely to work. Regular church attendance and quiet times just aren't enough -- even if you add in lots - [Emotionally Reluctant Person (Nicodemus in the Bible)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/emotionally-reluctant-person-nicodemus/) - I’m a Thinker. That’s a good thing. Jesus was a Thinker! But, unlike Jesus, I’ve gotten stuck in my head and needed help to learn how to engage my emotions. I want to share with you about being a Thinker who feels. But if you’re a Feeler, like my wife Kristi, I’m writing to you - [Emotional Rollercoaster Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/emotional-rollercoaster-test/) - Here’s a free Emotional Rollercoaster Test to help you identify if you (or a loved one) may have a problem with emotional reactivity. If you keep finding yourself on an emotional rollercoaster it probably means you need help with firming up your personal boundaries so that you don't enmesh with other people and get tied - [Emotional Intelligence Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/emotional-intelligence-test/) - Your emotional IQ (or EIQ) is key to your success in life and relationships. Here's a free Emotional Intelligence Test based on what I've learned from Daniel Goleman's research and theory. Your emotional intelligence is a hidden part of your personality, like the part of an iceberg that's underwater. It's not something the average person - [Embracing Abba Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/embracing-abba-father/) - Are you appreciating God as your Abba? Do you feel safe and encouraged in the love of your Heavenly Father? You may struggle to trust God as your Abba if you have some unhealed hurts from childhood, particularly your relationship (or lack of it) with your father. Through praying in Jesus' name you can begin - [Electric Bible Passages for Scripture Memory](https://www.soulshepherding.org/electric-passages-of-the-bible-to-memorize/) - Most Scripture memory programs focus on verses, but it's far more helpful to memorize longer portions of the Bible, focusing on special passages. The Benefits of Scripture Memory All of the Bible is inspired by God and authoritative to guide our lives under the Lordship of Christ. But some passages (like the ones below) are especially electric! These - [Eileen Needed a Fresh Touch from God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/eileen-needed-a-fresh-touch-from-god/) - We all long for a fresh touch of God in our souls. Often it comes when we hear someone share vulnerably about a personal struggle that we relate with and then we see how God showed up in that person’s life. Immediately we feel hope! Yes, Lord Jesus, I yearn to connect with you like - [Eight Words of Jesus to Transform your Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/eight-words-of-jesus-to-transform-your-life/) - Could eight words transform your life for God? Yes! They did for Jesus and they will for you if you pray them from your heart -- and keep praying them. Let me set the stage for these words of power and peace to live in you and I as they did in Jesus... Jesus' Way - [Dulces and Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dulces-and-jesus/) - “For you know the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ, that though he was rich, yet for your sakes he became poor, so that you through his poverty might become rich” (2 Corinthians 8:9). I met Alandro on the Saturday of Thanksgiving weekend, 2001. I was on a short-term mission trip to a small village - [Easy Yoke is an Oxymoron](https://www.soulshepherding.org/easy-yoke-is-an-oxymoron/) - In Jesus’ day, a rabbi’s teaching was called a yoke. The teaching-yoke of the religion scholars and priests was an endless list of laws, rules, traditions, and expectations that no one could measure up to — it was nobody’s best life! But Jesus offered to free the people, including the religious leaders, from this deadly - [Dysfunctional Family Roles as Spiritual Formations](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dysfunctional-family-roles-as-spiritual-formations/) - Today “spiritual formation” means many different things. Self-help. Learning Bible doctrines. Inner spirituality. Being like a monk. But Jesus’ idea is simply to “love one another” (John 13:34; 15:12, 17). This is why in our Soul Shepherding Institute we teach that your spiritual formation began in your family as a child. Your relationship with your - [Dynamic Leadership for Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dynamic-leadership-for-christ/) - The Apostle Paul was routinely criticized as being a boring speaker, especially compared to Apollos, and a second rate Apostle because he wasn’t part of the original group that was with Jesus during his days on earth. He was like a Rodney Dangerfield in his time, “I don’t get no respect!” It seems that people - [Drink from a Deep Well of Devotion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/drink-from-a-deep-well-of-devotion/) - What refreshment awaits you! What joy! All we have to do is to pause and appreciate Christ in our midst as we do whatever we're doing - like right now! Psalm 73 is a great help along these lines. This prayer of Asaph is a deep well that offers us Living Water for our thirsty souls. - [Don’t Climb the Ladder](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dont-climb-the-ladder/) - Did you know that 300 people in America die each year from climbing ladders? Whether you are using old rusty ones or even safe telescoping ladders, climbing one is still taking a risk of falling down. And far more people die spiritually from climbing ladders -- the corporate ladder, or ladders of money, taking charge - [Don't Worry - Listen to the Birds](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dont-worry-listen-to-the-birds/) - I was thinking of Jesus’ words: “Don’t worry. Look at the birds… Your Heavenly Father cares for them. Aren’t you much more valuable than them?” (Matthew 6:25-26, PAR). (The Psalmist had a similar meditation that Jesus may have drawn from, Psalm 104:12, 17, 27-30). And they inspired me to sit down and do some bird - [Don't Rush to Finish your "To Do List"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dont-rush-to-finish-your-to-do-list/) - It happens to most of us every day: we don't finish all that we set out to accomplish for that day. Often we have more work, projects, errands, people to meet, or ministry to do then there is time. Or we schedule our day without margin. So we hurry! hurry!! hurry!!! We've found that pastors and - [Don't be Nibbled to Death!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dont-be-nibbled-to-death/) - As pastors and ministry leaders, we're prone to give too much of ourselves, to do too much and try too hard. Its the same for parents and others who care for people in Jesus' name. We're called to be shepherds to the sheep God has entrusted to us. But what does this mean? How do - [Don't Be Discouraged by Your Faults](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dont-be-discouraged-by-your-faults/) - When you're discouraged about your faults it can lead to shame. Instead look to Jesus' hand of mercy. This excerpt from Francois Fenelon shows the way. - [Do You Love Your Neighbor? (Take this Self-Test to Find Out)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/do-you-love-your-neighbor-take-this-self-test-to-find-out/) - “Love your neighbor as yourself” is the “Royal Law” of Scripture (James 2:8-17). Learn by relying upon Christ to keep this law from your heart and everything else in life falls into place. Love God and love your neighbor as yourself -- the two sides of Jesus’ Greatest Commandment go together so that you can’t - [Do Nothing. Don't Try to Make Anything Happen.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/do-nothing-dont-try-to-make-anything-happen/) - Last week I was in Mexico leading a retreat and providing counseling for a leadership group of pastors. During our time of extended solitude with Jesus I hiked into the hills above the retreat center. I was laying down in the quiet watching hawks take turns riding on the wind currents when I noticed one - [Do Not Worry?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/do-not-worry/) - "Do not worry... Do not worry... Do not worry..." The Psalmist repeats his counsel three times in Psalm 37. (vv 1, 7, 8) Just like Jesus did in Matthew 6. (vv 25, 31, 34) "Do not worry." This is not the empty reassurance of "Don't worry. Be happy!" The Bible never advises denial of emotion. The - [Discouraged Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/discouraged-pastors/) - Over half of pastors are discouraged right now. It's similar for all kinds of ministry leaders. (You may not consider yourself a "ministry leader" but if you think about your relationships as a ministry of being salt and light for Jesus then I'm sure that you will relate to the problem of discouragement in ministry.) - [Digging Deeper in God's Word](https://www.soulshepherding.org/digging-deeper-gods-word/) - Probably you read the Bible often, but you may not know how to draw life from it. Most people who read the Bible, just read it like any other book. “The Bible is the book of your life,” Ray Ortlund, Sr. said to me. “You need to find yourself and your calling in God’s Word.” - [Devoted to You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/devoted-to-you/) - David is known as a man after God’s heart because of the way he prays. I so desire to be known as one who has a heart for God, don't you? You and I can grow to be more of a person after God’s heart! David shows us how in Psalm 86. In prayer dedicate - [Depression Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/depression-test/) - Here’s a short depression test to help you see if you (or a loved one) might be depressed. This is a simple screening tool to identify key symptoms of depression. I've grouped nine key symptoms under the acronym “D-E-P-R-E-S-S-E-D.” The Depression Test Answer each of the nine questions (symptoms), keeping track of your “yes” answers by circling - [Deep-Spirited Friendships](https://www.soulshepherding.org/deep-spirited-friendships/) - “Love each other, be deep-spirited friends” (Philippians 2:1, MSG). Most Christians I know have been in small group Bible studies or small group support groups (both of which are valuable), but few have been in an apprentice to Jesus group. What’s the difference? Let me illustrate by telling you about a small group that Kristi - [Dare to Hope BIG!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dare-hope-big/) - Often we are afraid to hope and be disappointed. But without hope we have nothing! All good things come from hope. Hope is the anticipation of God doing something good for you. The Bible says hope is the spring for faith and love (Colossians 1:5). Also, “Hope is an anchor for your soul” (Hebrews 6:19). - [Dance with the Trinity!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dance-trinity/) - Sometimes the Christian life feels like a “dogged, religious plod” rather than a “living, spirited dance!” (1 Thessalonians 4:1-2, MSG). What's gone wrong? Dallas Willard answers, “You need to arrange your life for deep contentment, confidence and joy in everyday life with God. This requires a great a vision of God.” (Shared by John Ortberg - [Dallas Willard's Disciplines For Workaholics](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willards-disciplines-for-workaholics/) - “If there were a blood test for workaholism I’m sure Dallas would come up positive.” That’s a comment Jane Willard made to Gary Moon for his new biography Becoming Dallas Willard. (p. 138) You may relate to Jane or to Dallas. Kristi and I do, as do many of the men and women in ministry - [Dallas Willard's Best Word: "God is Here!"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willards-best-word-god/) - Recently it was the third anniversary of Dallas Willard’s death so Kristi and I have been remembering him and thanking God for his influence in our lives. It’s easy to be impressed with Dallas’ great intellect and his achievements as a philosophy professor and Christian author. But of all the ways Dallas impacted me the - [Dallas Willard is in Heaven](https://www.soulshepherding.org/dallas-willard-is-in-heaven/) - My heart is heavy. I just got the news that Dallas Willard died today at 5:55 am. He had been battling pancreatic cancer for a number of months. He was 77 years old. He was born on September 4, 1935 and died on May 8, 2013. Dallas' passing was peaceful and gentle. He told his - [Crazy Fun With Jesus! (Like Chicago Cubs Fans)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/crazy-fun-jesus/) - What’s it like to have crazy fun with Jesus? Look at Chicago Cubs baseball fans this October and you’ll see! - [COVID-19: Feeling God’s Love Despite Social Distancing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/feeling-gods-love-despite-social-distancing/) - “My skin screams to be touched!” a single man cried to me. He’d been living alone and that’s how deeply he longed to feel close to someone. Research has shown that we all need hugs, handshakes, kisses, back rubs, or being present with a family member or friend to be healthy physically and emotionally. Without - [COVID-19: Coronavirus Fears and Emotionally Honest Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/caring-for-your-soul-time-of-coronavirus-fears/) - Everyone is stressed by the Coronavirus. And it’s not caring or helpful if someone tells you, “Don’t be afraid—have faith in God.” Unfortunately, great Bible verses are getting misused to say that. This leaves people feeling judged or like they need to put on a happy face. After the Coronavirus hit I started having stress - [Counting the Seconds till Daddy is Home](https://www.soulshepherding.org/counting-the-seconds-till-daddy-is-home/) - Some years ago I had a delightful experience that I’ll never forget. I was about to drive home from an appointment and I called home first. My youngest daughter, Briana, who was seven years old at the time, answered and I told her that I would be home in 5 minutes and that I had - [Couch Time for Couples](https://www.soulshepherding.org/couch-time-couples/) - At the beginning of our marriage, Kristi and I were both working full-time jobs and going to graduate schools in psychology. Obviously, we didn’t have a lot of free time to be together. But we were very much in love as you can see in this picture taken in 1985! When we did have time - [Coronavirus Bible Verses](https://www.soulshepherding.org/coronavirus-bible-verses/) - There's a lot of stress and fear with the spread of the coronavirus. We need the comfort, strength, and courage that God's Word brings. But some people unwittingly misuse Scripture to shut down emotions, shaming themselves or others for their weakness. This short Bible study encourages emotionally honest and courageous faith in Jesus. - [Content in a Swarm of Mosquitoes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/content-in-a-swarm-of-mosquitoes/) - I just returned from four days of backpacking in Yosemite with my son David. What beauty to be surrounded by mountains, walking along streams and wildflowers, listening to birds sing, and enjoying graceful deer prancing nearby. But perhaps the best gift God gave me came with swarms of mosquitoes! Mosquitoes? How did God use buzzing, - [Confessions of Sin](https://www.soulshepherding.org/confessions-sin/) - One of the most important spiritual exercises we can do is confessing our sins to God. To confess sin is to speak the truth to God and others that we have missed the mark of loving God and our neighbor in particular instances and that this tendency lives in us. Sins like unkindness, selfish ambition, - [Confessions of Longing for God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/confessions-longing-god/) - I often write about devotion to God, not because I'm devoted to God, but because I desire to be more so! I long to long for God more than I do. And I want this for you too. Yearning for God is how we grow spiritually. Of course, our desire for God doesn't start with - [Communicating Emotion to Invite Empathy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/communicating-emotion-invite-empathy/) - Often in marriage or another relationship, we think we have an intimacy problem when really it’s more about a boundary problem. Boundaries between people get blurred if either one tries to share their “feelings” by sharing their perceptions of the other person. This blurs boundaries and leads to conflict. Instead, if you share your personal - [Comfort for Loneliness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/comfort-for-loneliness/) - Many Christians feel lonely. Yet in reality they are never alone, never without the companionship and love that they need. The Bible offers special comfort for loneliness. The Word of God ministers God's grace and guidance for those who feel left out. As you see in the Bible teachings below, God's care comes in many different - [Comfort and Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/comfort-and-hope/) - This morning I opened up my Psalms prayerbook and read, "May the Lord answer you when you are in distress... May he send you help from the sanctuary" (Psalm 20:1-2). 3,000 years ago, with the help of the Holy Spirit, the Psalmist was interceding for our comfort. Believing that inspires me to pray. Instead of - [Come!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/come/) - When you're reading the Bible, do you ever just stop mid sentence to pray because your heart is warmed with appreciation for Jesus? This morning I was reading Psalm 95 and I stopped at the first word: "Come!" It stirred a sweet memory of praying on retreat and hearing the church bells ringing, calling me to - [Come Close to Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/come-close-to-christ/) - "[The Lord] raised up for his people [the Christ], the praise of... the people close to his heart" (Psalm 148:14). "People close to his heart." I am close to the Lord's heart! You are close to the Lord's heart! Doesn't this make your heart skip with joy? If you join me in this meditation and - [Come Away to Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/come-away-to-rest/) - Jesus invites you, “Come with me… to a quiet place and get some rest” (Mark 6:31). Most of us know the Lord wants to bless us but we struggle to make space. I (Bill) would like to share with you from my personal journal about a day I was too busy and too stressed and - [Come and See](https://www.soulshepherding.org/come-and-see/) - What do you want Jesus to do for you? It’s the most important question of your life. John and Andrew were introduced to Jesus by John the Baptist who said to them: "Look, the Lamb of God who takes away the sin of the world." They approached Jesus eagerly and he asked them the question: - [Codependency Recovery](https://www.soulshepherding.org/codependency-recovery/) - Many people we talk with are stuck in unhealthy patterns in their relationships. Tolerating mistreatment, rescuing, being afraid to say no, needing to please, and getting enmeshed emotionally are boundary problems. They may be symptoms of Codependency. God's wisdom in the Scriptures helps us to strengthen our boundaries and get free of codependency. (All Scriptures are - [Church Leaders Who Apologize](https://www.soulshepherding.org/church-leaders-apologize/) - “I was forced to resign from my church.” 78% of pastors say this. Often these pastors leave their church hurt and angry, afraid their career and calling are ruined. Ken Baugh, former lead pastor of Coast Hills Community Church felt this way two years ago. (In last week’s email devotional I told his story: “Finding - [Christmas Joy in a Crazy Year](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christmas-joy-in-a-crazy-year/) - Each year during the Advent season I pick a character from the nativity scene to spend some time reading about in scripture while praying and listening to the Lord. - [Christ the Inward Teacher (From the Journal of George Fox)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christ-inward-teacher-journal-george-fox/) - The Journal of George Fox tells how he came to know and teach that Christ is the Inward Teacher. Here are key excerpts and summaries from chapter 1 that tells the story of the Quaker founder's growing faith in Jesus that became the foundation for his ministry. - [Christ Can't be Stolen from Christmas!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christ-cant-be-stolen-from-christmas/) - A few days ago I was walking up our brick sidewalk under the twinkling of white Christmas lights strung up on our trees and house and I looked over at our brightly lit nativity scene: there were Mary and Joseph with the wise men, shepherds, and animals all huddled around and looking at… Baby Jesus was - [Chosen!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/chosen/) - The Lord Jesus says to you: "You are my friend... I have chosen you" (John 15:14, 16). What a precious promise this is for us! How loved we are by God! Do you know this to be true? Does God's love for you make you rejoice? Does it make hold your head high and serve - [Chasing a Rabbit](https://www.soulshepherding.org/chasing-a-rabbit/) - Have you heard about the greyhound races? Those dogs are fast! They run so fast because they’re chasing a mechanical rabbit. A friend told me that one day on a racetrack in Florida an interesting thing happened: the rabbit broke so the dogs caught it! Now you might think that it would make the dogs - [Caring for People who Cut Themselves (Help for Self-Injury)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/caring-for-people-who-cut-themselves-help-for-self-injury/) - Years ago I was responsible for training volunteer telephone counselors for an international Christian ministry. We were getting 150 calls a day from adults and teenagers who were in crisis, hurting in some other way, or needing prayer. Some of the young people who called were struggling with cutting themselves. This frightened some of our - [Can You Live Unhurried?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/can-you-live-unhurried/) - What if you never hurried? Could you live unhurried? Lots of work to do? No hurry. Late for an appointment? No hurry. Sightseeing on vacation? No hurry. House needs to be clean and company is coming over soon? No hurry. Climbing the corporate ladder? No hurry. Dealing with a difficult person? No hurry. Can’t seem to - [Bullied By Christian Leaders](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bullied-christian-leaders/) - Have you ever been bullied by a group? Or felt ganged up on? Maybe it wasn’t intended by them, but you felt abused? I have. So have some of the pastors and influencers we help. So has Jesus… Lord Jesus, I see you on your cross journey. A whole gang of soldiers is gathered around - [Build with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/build-with-jesus/) - You know the verse: “Unless the LORD builds the house, its builders labor in vain.” And probably you know the verse that comes later in the same Psalm: “Children are a reward from him.” But you may not know the verse that connects these two: “In vain you rise early and stay up late, toiling - [Breathe Your Way Into the New Year](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breathe-way-new-year/) - Like me, maybe you set aside much of your normal work for the Christmas break and this week you have a lot to do! There’s a gravitational pull to “Hurry and catch up!” But that’s not the best way. “Breathe. Walk it out in Jesus’ easy yoke.” That’s much better. So today, as I often - [Breathe with Jesus and Be Blessed](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breathe-with-jesus-and-be-blessed/) - The other day I was talking with Kevin, one of our ministry partners. He and his wife have two small children, he leads the marketing department for a company, and he volunteers in his church. He’s a busy guy! In our conversation, he was telling me how much our "Breath Prayer Guides" have helped him. He - [Breath Prayers with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breath-prayers-with-jesus/) - Maybe you've heard of the "Jesus Prayer." In the 3rd and 4th Centuries, the Desert Fathers learned to pray without ceasing by praying a Breath Prayer over and over, "Lord Jesus Christ have mercy on me." Here are some other prayers inspired by verses in the New Testament that you can use to pray the - [Breath Prayers from the Psalms](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breath-prayers-from-the-psalms/) - The Psalms are the Bible's prayerbook. It teaches all kinds of prayers for all kinds of situations. One type of prayer in the Psalms are short phrases repeated meditatively. I call these "Breath Prayers from the Bible." They're also "Prayers of the Heart," "Abiding Prayers," "Centering Prayers," or "Arrow Prayers." Here are some of the Breath - [Breaking Secret Agreements - Collusions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breaking-secret-agreements-collusions/) - Unconscious collusions in relationships harm people in families, friendships, church staffs, and work partnerships. In this case "collusion" does not refer to a conspiracy or illegal activity, but an unintended relational dynamic that develops over time. For instance, it’s uncanny how we can attach to people who are the polar opposite of us, not realizing - [Breaking Free of the Cycle of Abuse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/breaking-free-cycle-abuse/) - “I’ve never talked to a ca-counselor before,” Cassandra (not her real name) stuttered. She continued, “I’ve been living with my boyfriend the last couple of months. We’ve been dating almost a year. Well, two months ago my daughter and I moved in with him. Oh, how I regret that decision,” Cassandra started sobbing behind the - [Bored, Busy, or Blessed?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bored-busy-blessed/) - Right now you’re probably either bored, busy, or blessed. We were created for intimacy and adventure with God and to share this life with other people. Yet often we forget this! We get caught up in our stress. We live by other priorities. We get disconnected from God and his purposes. That’s why we get - [Blessed to Be a Blessing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessed-to-be-blessing/) - “I will bless you... so that you will be a blessing.” In Genesis 12:2 God spoke these words to Abraham and, in doing so, laid out a principle for those of us four thousand years later who have chosen to live with Jesus as our Shepherd. Think about blessings God has given you... and how - [Blessed In Christ!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessed-to-be-in-christ/) - Some years ago Kristi and I walked the streets of ancient Ephesus in modern day Turkey. In the ancient past, people came from miles in all directions to bring offerings of worship to the temple of Artemis, a false god. (The temple is pictured above.) Others in Ephesus worshiped the emperor Nero. Many, like Demetrius - [Blessed Are the Simple People?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessed-are-the-simple-people/) - If you’re an educated thinker, love to gather more knowledge, or thrive on multi-tasking, you might feel left out when Jesus says, “Blessed are the simple…” We’re more familiar with the beatitude as, “Blessed are the pure in heart, for they will see God.” (Matthew 5:8) But that’s come to mean, “Be like the nice - [Blessed Are the Peacemakers?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessed-are-the-peacemakers/) - We may (mis)use Jesus’ beatitude to be a people-pleaser, conflict-avoider, referee for other people’s conflicts, or fixer of problems. But in Matthew 5:8 Jesus is not saying, “Be a peacemaker and God will bless you.” As I explain in my booklet Jesus’ Greatest Teaching, in his beatitudes the divine Rabbi has something much better for - [Blessed Are the Merciful?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/blessed-are-the-merciful/) - Following Dallas Willard’s line of thinking in The Divine Conspiracy, we don’t believe Jesus is saying, “Be merciful and you will be blessed.” Rather, his idea is, “As a tender-hearted person you get stepped on and burdened by people’s pain, yet the Father of mercies is always delighting in you.” (Matthew 5:7, paraphrase) That is really good news! - [Bless My Enemies, O Lord](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bless-enemies-o-lord/) - How do you respond when a family member speaks harshly to you? When you're publicly criticized or slandered? When you're vandalized or abused? Often it's people we love or those we serve who mistreat us. We all suffer in these ways, especially pastors and others who serve the Lord in ministry. How are we to - [Bible Verses on Sexual Purity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-on-sexual-purity/) - Today we are desperate for God's wisdom on our sexuality. These Bible verses on sexual purity will get the conversation started on the right track. You don't need me to tell you that our world today is really messed up in it's understanding of sex. "Sex sells" so it's used everywhere in our society from - [Bible Verses on Baptism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-verses-on-baptism/) - What are the key Bible verses on baptism? If you or your child want to be baptized in water here are Bible verses on baptism to discuss. A Rite of Passage Kristi and I have each been water baptized to publicly identify ourselves with Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior. We are thankful that - [Bible Reading](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-reading/) - "Let the word of Christ dwell in your richly" (Colossians 3:16). Thank God for the Bible! What a treasure store it is -- inspired by the Holy Spirit, authoritative as our rule for life, and drawing us to our Lord and Savior Jesus Christ, it is filled with the words of life that we need - [Bible Prayers to Live Worry Free](https://www.soulshepherding.org/bible-prayers-to-live-worry-free/) - It is possible to learn to live worry free! The way into God's peace is by looking to Jesus as you pray Scripture from your heart. Praying Scripture helps us to rely on the presence of the Lord Jesus Christ and his kingdom in the midst of your daily life with its challenges. Of course, as - [Best Soul Care Tips of 2019](https://www.soulshepherding.org/best-soul-care-tips-of-2019/) - It’s a joy and honor for Kristi and me to offer Soul Shepherding to you, your church, and your friends! We’re thankful that in 2019 our content had 5,000,000 views! You want to thrive with Jesus in your life and work. We can do that together! Our resources and training guide you in how to - [Benedictine Spirituality Retreat](https://www.soulshepherding.org/benedictine-spirituality-retreat/) - A retreat at the Prince of Peace Abbey in Oceanside, CA is a blessing. These thoughts on their Benedictine spirituality will help you prepare for a retreat. - [Be Still as the Lake at Dawn](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-still-as-the-lake-at-dawn/) - Have you ever meditated on Scripture in the nature setting it describes? God reveals himself and his purposes for us in his Holy Bible and through his creation. The Psalms especially show us this. Praying a Psalm in its Nature Setting is a favorite spiritual practice of mine. For instance, many times in the early - [Be Still and Know Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-still-and-know-christ/) - I have a spiritual vitamin for you --- a little, power-packed prayer that's a Gospel of Jesus in miniature. It's based on a favorite Bible verse of mine that most Christians I talk to have difficulty practicing: "Be still and know that I am God" (Psalm 46:10, NIV84). First, let's meditate on these paraphrases of - [Be Quiet to Welcome Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-quiet-to-welcome-christmas/) - Christmastime can be so noisy and busy! Perhaps God is inviting you to make time for quiet prayer? Zechariah (John the Baptist’s father) waited in silence ten months for the first Christmas! We might do well to pray in quiet for ten minutes! Or an hour or two. Be still to anticipate Christ’s coming and - [Be Overshadowed by God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-overshadowed-by-god/) - As part of our Soul Shepherding ministry, I regularly lead spiritual formation and soul care groups for pastors and Kristi leads groups for pastors' wives. Let me share with you from my journal about one of my experiences... Today I was blessed to lead Lectio Divina for two groups of pastors. We shared in the Bible - [Be My Rock of Refuge](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-my-rock-of-refuge/) - Have you ever prayed in a cave? David did. Probably Jesus did. I have. A cave is a powerful experience and symbol that the Lord is our refuge -- not only in the silence and solitude of the desert or in church, but wherever we go. Meditating on this, I remind myself that Jesus is - [Be Like the Psalm 1 Man](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-like-the-psalm-1-man/) - Psalm 1 gives us a vibrant picture of what our life with God can be like. Do you know this Psalm that introduces the church's life of prayer? It begins, "Blessed is the man who..." The first thing we need to know when we begin the first of the 150 Psalms is that Jesus is - [Be Like Santa Claus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-like-santa-claus/) - The other day I did something I’ve never done before: I put on a Santa Claus outfit for a picture. When I dressed up as Santa I didn’t realize what I had done until I stepped outside and everything was different! People stopped whatever they were doing and looked at me. They exclaimed “Hi Santa!” - [Be Happy-Sad to Come Alive!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-happy-sad-to-come-alive/) - We all want to be happy, but that can depress us! A pastor in my counseling office forced a smile, “I’m happy to support our friends who left our church to help out at a new church.” Aaron sounded so mature, so loving. But I could see the disappointment in his eyes and discouragement in - [Be Free! Live in Jesus’ Easy Yoke!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-free-live-in-jesus-easy-yoke/) - Are you free – really free? Are you at peace being the person God created you to be and enjoying your life with him? Many people we talk to are wearing a heavy yoke. They’re working all the time. Or they’re worried about money or their health or their kids. Or they’re tired of trying - [Be Free of Your Inner Saboteur!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-free-of-your-inner-saboteur/) - There is a part of you that is determined to defeat you at every turn. You were born with this enemy and right now he may be hiding in the darkness of your unconscious experience, ready to ambush you when you least expect it. I’ve had to deal with this lurking enemy of my soul - [Be Devoted to Christ like Ray Ortlund Sr.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/be-devoted-to-christ-like-ray-ortlund-sr/) - Have you ever looked into the face of a man and seen the smile of Christ? Have you ever gotten close enough to a man’s heart that burns for Christ and had the fires of devotion for Christ kindled in your own heart? I have. The man’s name is Ray Ortlund Sr. (The picture of - [Be an Apple Blossom for Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/apple-blossom-jesus/) - One year ago early in the spring I enjoyed a day retreat with Jesus. This is what I wrote in my journal… It's the middle of a busy work week and crowds are pressing in on me. People with needs. Projects to work on and pressures to deal with. Piles on my desk call for - [Be a Leader -- Sit Down!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/sit-down/) - God says to us, “Sit down,” but a lot of us have trouble doing this! It’s especially difficult for those of us who are leaders, pastors, or care-givers. We race ahead to get things done. We stand up to take charge or to help people. But we don’t like to sit down and wait! We’re - [Battling Chronic Pain](https://www.soulshepherding.org/my-battle-with-chronic-pain/) - I talk with people who struggle with chronic pain. I'm in my fourth week of pain since having a nerve in my left hand injured by an IV treatment. (See "Ouch! She Hit a Nerve!") Four weeks isn't a long time. But it feels like a long time when you're in pain! (Medically, my pain is actually called - [Baruch's Leadership Lesson on Greatness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/baruchs-leadership-lesson-on-greatness/) - When I met with Ray Ortlund Sr. for spiritual direction I often talked with him about the difficulties of ministry and being discouraged that I hadn't experienced more success. He listened with compassion and he was so affirming of me. With a smile Ray told me how in his ministry struggles he had been helped - [At the Cross of Christ with Julian of Norwich](https://www.soulshepherding.org/cross-christ-julian-norwich/) - Julian of Norwich writes, "It seemed to me that I could feel the Passion of Christ strongly, but yet I longed by God's grace to feel it more intensely." This is my heartfelt prayer too -- I want to linger with love at the cross of Christ. Everything that is good in my life, starting - [Asking God to Heal is Loving](https://www.soulshepherding.org/asking-god-to-heal-is-loving/) - During graduate school, we attended the Vineyard in Anaheim, California where John Wimber was the pastor. Like David, Gideon, or Mary Magdalene, he was an unlikely leader. No one would’ve thought he’d be great for God. He grew up in rural Missouri in the 1930s and 40’s in a poor family that cursed and fought - [Ask Jesus to Lead the Meeting](https://www.soulshepherding.org/ask-jesus-to-lead-the-meeting/) - When you ask Jesus to lead the meeting you're in and remain submitted and attentive to his Spirit he transforms the community and outcome. - [Appreciating Holy Spirit on Pentecost Sunday](https://www.soulshepherding.org/appreciating-holy-spirit-pentecost-sunday/) - Pentecost means "the fiftieth day" and each it is celebrated fifty days after Easter Sunday. That's this Sunday! "Dear Holy Spirit, blow on us and breathe in us like a refreshing wind." Unfortunately, for many of us who are not part of a Christian liturgical tradition Pentecost Sunday may come and go without us even realizing it. - [Angry Prayers Can Bring Peace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/angry-prayers-can-bring-peace/) - People get angry in different ways. You may raise your voice. Or react with harsh words. Or gossip negatively about someone. Or carry resentment. Or stonewall someone who has offended you. Or get depressed. Or you can follow the example of the Psalmist and offer an angry prayer. The Psalmist shows us how to deal - [An Unhurried Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/an-unhurried-life/) - “I’m a recovering speed addict -- and I don’t mean the drug,” writes Alan Fadling in his new book, An Unhurried Life. “I’m talking about the inner pace of my life. I always seemed to be in a hurry. I was the guy who looked for the fastest-moving lane on the freeway, the shortest checkout - [An Arrow Prayer to Help you Listen](https://www.soulshepherding.org/an-arrow-prayer-to-help-you-listen/) - Listen! God is speaking. Sunshine after rain. It reminds me that when we slow down and look up to God, his bright thoughts can enter our minds to help us walk in his bright ways (Isaiah 55:9, paraphrase). Listening to God makes everything better---even if we at the time we don't hear specific words---because the - [Aelred of Rievaulx: Spiritual Friendship](https://www.soulshepherding.org/aelred-of-rievaulx-spiritual-friendship/) - This sample reading log on Spiritual Friendship by Aelred of Rievaulx is like the ones that participants complete in our Soul Shepherding TLC program. (A reading log is a simple and helpful tool for studying a book and recording your favorite quotes.) TLC stands for "To Love Christ" and is a two-year certificate training that Kristi and I lead - [Adult Attention Deficit Disorder Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/adult-attention-deficit-disorder-test/) - Here’s a free Adult Attention Deficit Disorder Test to help you see if you (or a loved one) might have Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD or ADD). I developed the acronym “D-I-S-T-R-A-C-T-E-D” as a simple screening tool to identify key symptoms of ADD, which is not the same as anxiety. Take the Adult Attention Deficit Disorder Test Keep track - [Adrenaline Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/adrenaline-test/) - Do you depend on adrenaline to feel alive, important, and productive? To manage daily stress? Many pastors and leaders to. Take this free Adrenaline Test to find out if you're taxing your body. Adrenaline is the body's drug of choice for many people today. Adrenaline feels good, but it causes problems. Relying too much on - [Adrenaline For Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/adrenaline-for-your-soul/) - How can you be energized and enthused? What helps you to enjoy God’s presence in your life and as you serve the Lord in your work or ministry? At times we all find ourselves flagging in our faith. We need to go back to the Gospel of Jesus to appreciate the story of his life, - [Addiction Test](https://www.soulshepherding.org/addiction-test/) - Are you (or someone you know) struggling with a compulsion or addiction? Take this free Addiction Test to identify if you have the symptoms of an addiction. The hope of recovery begins with an honest assessment of what's going on with you. Compulsive problems with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, and other behaviors share some symptoms - [Abruptly Break into Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/abruptly-break-into-prayer/) - “Abruptly Jesus broke into prayer: ‘Thank you, Father, Lord of heaven and earth. You’ve concealed your ways from sophisticates and know-it-alls, but spelled them out clearly to ordinary people. Yes, Father, that’s the way you like to work.’ “Jesus resumed talking to the people, but now tenderly.” (Matthew 11:25-27, MSG) A Praying Life Most of - [Abiding in Jesus and the Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/abiding-in-jesus-and-the-father/) - The Psalmist prophesied, “[The Lord] raised up for his people a horn [the Christ], the praise of... the people close to his heart” (Psalm 148:14, NIV84). I read this and my heart melts within me... "The people close to his heart." I am close to the Lord's heart! In Christ God draws close to me, - [Abide in Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/abide-in-prayer/) - Maybe people that we work with in spiritual direction/mentoring find it hard to be still with Jesus. When they get alone and quiet themselves for prayer they have trouble settling down. Their bodies are antsy. Their minds are restless and wander from one thought to another. Many distractions seize hold of their attention, sidetracking them - [Abba's Love for Addiction and Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/abbas-love-for-addiction-and-shame/) - Brennan Manning's relapse with alcohol left him in a gutter. The best-selling Christian author and retreat leader hit bottom again. His clothes were in tatters. His face was unshaven and his eyes were bloodshot. His belly was bloated. His body reeked with rancid odor. He was clutching his last ounces of vodka. “My marriage is - [Abba's Child](https://www.soulshepherding.org/abbas-child/) - Especially around Father's Day each year, I am thankful for my dad and my three kids. I also remember “the Father from whom all fatherhood derives it's name” (Ephesians 3:15). To appreciate God as your Father everyday is something we you can learn to do -- even if your relationship with your father was painful - [A Violent Man Gentled by Grace: Abba Moses the Black](https://www.soulshepherding.org/violent-man-gentled-grace-abba-moses-black/) - Gentled by grace. That’s the incredible and inspiring story of Abba Moses the Black. He was a violent thief who became a humble and kind monk and one of the great Desert Fathers who served the Lord Jesus Christ in the 4th Century. From his life we see an example of how we can overcome our - [A Sweet Aroma](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-sweet-aroma/) - Don't just read the Bible to get through it---let the Word of God read you and get through you. Learning to pray the Scriptures from your heart so that you long for more of God in your life and confess your sin, hurt, stress, and needs to him is a fundamental spiritual discipline for being - [A Surprising Portrait of Jesus to Bless You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-surprising-portrait-of-jesus-to-bless-you/) - The stories of Jesus are life changing! But some of them are hidden to us. Consider this inspiring and dignifying portrait of Jesus, excerpted from my new book Your Best Life In Jesus’ Easy Yoke. This is one of the many examples of brand new content in the updated edition. “Just a Tekton” Most of - [A Single Eye on Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-single-eye-on-jesus/) - To live with a single eye on Jesus we need to spend extended time with him in solitude and silence. Here's how I began my five day retreat. - [A Sinful Heart's Cry for Mercy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-sinful-hearts-cry-for-mercy/) - We think our heart is our feelings. So we contrast our head and heart to differentiate thinking and feeling. But in the Biblical understanding our heart is our will, our capacity for choice, the center of our being that is our orientation for life. Our heart is our spirit that animates our personality; it is - [A Simple Prayer to Set Boundaries and Breathe!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/simple-prayer-set-boundaries-breathe/) - Setting boundaries is more than a psychological tool — it’s really a spiritual discipline that helps to establish further your self-identity in Christ. - [A Simple Prayer to Increase Your Energy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-simple-prayer-to-increase-your-energy/) - It’s only 12 words, but it’s a powerful prayer. It can activate your emotional intelligence so you’re more loving and more effective in your work. The first century followers of Jesus prayed these words everyday in connection with Jesus’ model prayer and the results were amazing. I want to show you a simple yet life - [A Silent Night to Prepare for Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-silent-night-to-prepare-for-christmas/) - God has a funny way of doing things. Almost always it’s so different than how we would do them. Like his announcement that after many centuries of waiting for the prophecies to come true it was time: the Christ was finally coming! You would think that God would enlist legions and legions of his glorious angels - [A Secret Safe Place for You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-secret-safe-place-for-you/) - I know a secret safe place always available to you. When you feel guilty or sad, when you feel alone, no matter what is going on for you, there is a refuge for you in the arms of Jesus. His Spirit will encircle you. You can embrace the risen Christ right now. You can rest - [A Retreat With Brennan Manning](https://www.soulshepherding.org/retreat-brennan-manning/) - If I could have anyone lead me on a spiritual retreat with Jesus it’d be Brennan Manning. I wish I could do that and invite you to join me, but he died in 2013. But we can imagine what it’d be like to have Brennan guide us on retreat. That’s what we’ll do in this - [A Prayer of Devotion to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-prayer-of-devotion-to-jesus/) - I was rummaging through a draw full of papers with Bible passages I'd memorized and prayers I'd written. I came across a sweet prayer of devotion. As I read it I thought, "That's beautiful, but can I pray that from my heart today? I don't feel that devoted to the Lord right now." Then I - [A Pocket Lighter to Ignite Your Heart (Martin Luther and the Lord's Prayer)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-pocket-lighter-to-ignite-your-heart/) - Could a prayer change your life? This little one could ignite your heart for Christ as it has mine. The other day on my Sabbath, I sat on a rock by a stream for hours praying the Lord's Prayer with Martin Luther. His barber asked him how he prayed and he wrote him a letter - [A Prayer for You and Your Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/aprayerforyouandyourministry/) - What do you feel after you put yourself out there to minister to others? Many people struggle with self-doubt or self-criticism. Pastors may wonder if they preached a good sermon. Small group leaders may question their effectiveness. Counselors and caregivers might feel unsure they said the right thing. Anyone who serves others is likely to - [A Prayer for Peace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/prayer-for-peace/) - For most people I talk to, peace is elusive. What do you do to be at peace? Do you walk on eggshells to avoid upsetting someone? Have a couple of drinks to relax? Veg out for hours in front of the television? Try to solve your problems with more money? Escape into a novel? I’ve - [A Pastor Says, “My Prayers are Dull”](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-pastor-says-my-prayers-are-dull/) - Have you ever felt like prayer was unsatisfying? Do you relate to Peter and the disciples falling asleep when Jesus asked them to "Watch and pray" (Matthew 26:36-46). I think all of us, including pastors and other ministry leaders, have felt this. A pastor of a large church confessed that his own prayers had been - [A Pastor and Wife’s Divine Romance](https://www.soulshepherding.org/pastor-wifes-divine-romance/) - Ray and Anne Ortlund have been an inspiration to Kristi and I. They showed us what it looks like for busy pastors, busy ministry leaders, and busy Christian parents to live a romance with Jesus at the center! Recently I came across the sad statistic that 95% of pastors do not pray regularly with their - [A New Way to Run, A New Way to Live](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-new-way-to-run-a-new-way-to-live/) - What if there was a new way to live that would bring you and the people around you more ease, freedom, and joy than you've imagined possible? You'd want to learn about this! For the last decade, I've been learning a new way to live with Jesus. Jesus calls it his "easy yoke." In recent - [A New Name Means No Shame!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-new-name-means-no-shame/) - What do you say to yourself about yourself? Do you feel about yourself as our God of grace does? As a psychologist everyday I get inside the heads of people who are struggling. Here’s what I hear: I blew it. I’m a failure…. I’ve been abused. I’m a victim… I gave in again. I’m an addict…. - [A Meditation on Psalm 18](https://www.soulshepherding.org/meditation-on-psalm-18/) - Visualize yourself with Christ in this meditation on Psalm 18. Vibrant metaphors and pictures help you experience this Psalm of victory. Meditation on Art Similar to the way that we meditate on a Scripture passage we can meditate on a work of art, picture, or nature scene. I especially like to do this with images - [A Love Note to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-love-note-to-jesus/) - First thing every morning, as part of offering The Apprentice Prayer, I say, "I love you Jesus!" It's a simple prayer, but said with a smile from my heart it makes a big difference. It reminds me to make all that I say and do that day as an expression of love for my Lord - [A Little Bunny and A Big Peach](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-little-bunny-and-a-big-peach/) - We have a baby bunny that can fit in the palm of my hand. She’s a great pet. She costs nothing, requires little care, and gives us joy every day – she lives in our back yard! The other day Kristi put out a peach from our tree for the bunny. The bunny was munching - [A Little Bunny and a Big Hawk!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-little-bunny-and-a-big-hawk/) - In “A Little Bunny and a Big Peach” I shared the story about the baby bunny in our backyard and how much she enjoyed the fresh peach we fed her. I invited my readers to pray with me that we’d delight in Jesus like she delighted in the peach. So many people thanked me for - [A Little Bag for a Big Psalm 23](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-little-bag-for-a-big-psalm-23/) - When our son David was a little boy of about a year-and-a-half old he was trying to be like his daddy. For instance, he saw that everyday when I went to work I carried a bag with me (it was my lunch bag) and he decided that he needed a bag too! So he got - [A Kingdom of Cardboard and Spoils (Dieter Zander's Story)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-kingdom-of-cardboard-and-spoils-dieter-zanders-story/) - Do you feel that you need to perform well to be loved? Do you feel the pressure of living up to an ideal self? For Pastors the pressure of people’s expectations can be crushing. Other leaders, caregivers, and all kinds of people may feel the pressure to perform. Many of us “know” that God’s grace - [A Hidden Pastor Came Into the Light](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-hidden-pastor-came-into-the-light/) - “If we walk in the light, as [God] is in the light, then we have fellowship with one another, and the blood of Jesus, his Son, purifies us from all sin” (1 John 1:7). What does it mean for you and I to “walk in the light” of God? Nick is a pastor who is - [A Fresh Hearing of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/fresh-hearing-jesus/) - “The Sermon on the Mount is a collection of Jesus’ sayings,” my seminary professor said. “Matthew has arranged some pithy words of Jesus and put them into a sermon.” My heart sank. I thought it was Jesus’ sermon! This made it sound more like it was Matthew’s. There was no question about it being inspired - [A Free Gift! Jesus’ Abba For You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/free-gift-jesus-abba/) - In a few months, I’m going to be a “Papa!” Our daughter Jennie is pregnant with a baby girl! This is helping Kristi and me have a fresh and joyful celebration of the birth of Christ. The precious gift of a baby girl reminds me of Jesus’ free gift for you: God is your Abba - [A Family Devotional For Your Child's Identity in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/family-devotional-child-identity-christ/) - A family devotional time is a great tool to help your children put their trust in God and develop their identity in Christ. But it needs to be done in the context of loving and affirming relationship and with understanding about the process of discipleship to Christ. I believe that the primary purpose of Christian - [A Discernment Prayer to Know God's Will (John 17)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-discernment-prayer-to-know-gods-will-john-17/) - Jesus' John 17 prayer can used as a discernment prayer for Christian leaders and groups. This tool frames Jesus' petitions as six key discernment questions. If we make Jesus' holy prayer our prayer then we're sure to get in sync with God's will! - [A Deeper Life in Christ is Holy and Happy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/deeper-life-christ-holy-happy/) - Yesterday on my Sabbath day I read a little book by the early 19th Century Scottish preacher Robert Murray McCheyne, The Deeper Life. He died at the young age of 29, but he brought many souls to Christ in his short life and his words continue do so nearly two centuries later. His simple reading - [A Depressed Boy Follows a Monk](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-depressed-boy-follows-a-monk/) - When I was a teenager I used to go to the Christian bookstore with my mom. Why would an adolescent boy hang out with his mother? I was depressed and struggling to find my way in high school. I was longing for more of God and she was helping me to find my way. The - [A Different Kind of Monk](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-different-kind-of-monk/) - In my solitude with Jesus at a monastery I met a monk who taught me to listen to God. You might expect that. But this was a different kind of monk: a chipmunk! I met this chipmunk during a silent retreat that was part of a two-week seminary class taught by Dallas Willard. What a - [A Christ-Centered Board of Directors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christ-centered-board-directors/) - Today it’s common for cultural leadership models and motives to overtake our Christian churches and organizations so that the way we do what we do is not the way of Jesus and his Apostles. It breaks my heart when I see pastors (and other Christian leaders) lacking in confidence and calling from God when they - [A Christ Shield for St. Patrick's Day](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-christ-shield-for-st-patricks-day/) - A great way to celebrate St. Patrick's Day is to pray his Breastplate Prayer as a Christ Shield. - [A Caveman Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-caveman-prayer/) - Have you ever prayed in a cave? That's what I was doing in this picture. I went to pray in a special cave with a pastor for a day retreat at All Nations Prayer Mountain in San Bernardino, CA. I've noticed that some of David's best prayers were in a cave, like Psalms 57 and - [A Boston Marathon Kiss!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-boston-marathon-kiss/) - As I approached mile 13 of the Boston Marathon, I heard an incredible wall of sound. I couldn't see it because of the trees and the bend in the road. It was the girls from Wellesley College shrieking in high pitched voices, “Kiss me! Kiss me!” As I ran through the 1/4 mile long “Scream - [A Better Year Ahead?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/a-better-year-ahead/) - We all want this year to be better than last -- even if last year was a great year. How does that happen? Not by having better circumstances. (They always go up and down.) Not by keeping one of the typical New Year's resolutions. (They don't deal with personal character and besides, they fizzle out - [A & B Conflict Resolution Tool](https://www.soulshepherding.org/b-conflict-resolution-tool/) - Here's a little tool that offers BIG help for resolving conflicts in marriage and other relationships: "When You Do 'A' I Feel 'B.'" It's a method for "speaking the truth in love"(Ephesians 4:15). Kristi and I have used this approach for many years personally and in our marriage counseling with couples. (Also Henry Cloud and - [70 Happy Words](https://www.soulshepherding.org/70-happy-words/) - Paul uses 70 expressions of joy in his short letter to the Philippians! Seventy! Reading them infects us with his “good virus” of devotion to Jesus. To joy in Jesus is the best way to start our day and our New Year. It’s a surprising joy that Paul exudes. Outwardly, he has no reason to - [7 Spirit-Anointed Syllables](https://www.soulshepherding.org/7-spirit-anointed-syllables/) - This little prayer is anointed. It is powerful. It will bless you and others with God's peace. Why do I share it with you? Because you might need to pause right now and open yourself to the Spirit of God. Imagine yourself standing with Jesus at his baptism. 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Daniel Goleman identified five core capacities of Emotional Intelligence, three that are personal and two that - [4 Words to Change Your World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/4-words-to-change-your-world/) - Here are 4 life-changing truths that are missing in the world today. Why is there systemic racism in America? Why are there violent riots? Why can’t opposing leaders – or even some family members – be civil, agree to disagree, and work out a solution? These 4 truths are the answer. Jesus teaches them in his masterpiece - [4 Steps to Lead Like Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/4-steps-to-lead-like-jesus/) - I was scared when God called us to start a nonprofit ministry of soul care for pastors and leaders. One day I was hiking and praying about this and I heard a voice in my thoughts, “There are people who want to help you if you’ll let them.” I knew it was the Lord: it - ["The Little Way" of Service](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-little-way-of-service/) - Serving other people doesn't usually win you any awards, but it is the way of Jesus Christ and his followers. Serving people as unto Christ is an essential spiritual discipline and act of love. Service focuses us outward. It causes us to rely on God's grace and power to flow through us. It meets the - ["You Will Not Experience Death!"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/you-will-not-experience-death/) - Jesus promised that those who follow him, "Will not see death." They will not taste it. They won't even experience it! (John 8:51-52) Is Jesus crazy? Everybody knows that eventually people die. No. Dallas Willard (pictured on the left) explains that Jesus was standing in another world, the reality of the Kingdom of God. He - ["Christ the Answer" (Inspiration From Frank Laubach)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/christ-answer-inspiration-frank-laubach/) - Instead of a prayer life, seek a praying life. Frank Laubach's writing on "Christ the Answer" shows us how to cultivate Jesus' praying life and it's power. Here's an excerpt from Laubach's book, "Prayer: The Mightiest Force in the World." - ["No Sweat!"](https://www.soulshepherding.org/no-sweat/) - "It's no sweat!" we say when something is easy for us. What if we lived life without sweating? Without straining, hurrying, or worrying? That's how Adam and Eve lived in the Garden of Eden -- till they separated themselves from God. Ever since people have been working by the sweat of their brow. But we - [How to Lead a Lectio Divina Group](https://www.soulshepherding.org/how-to-lead-a-lectio-divina-group/) - This article features simple, step-by-step instructions on how to lead a Lectio Divina group. These instructions are meant to go along with Soul Shepherding’s Lectio Divina Guides. I’m assuming that you have some knowledge and experience with Benedict’s 6th Century way of reading and praying through a Bible text. If not, you can read my - [The Apprentice Prayer Will Bless You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/the-apprentice-prayer/) - This prayer of devotion to Christ brings spiritual renewal, peace, and power. - [Is There a Soul Shepherd in You?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/is-there-a-soul-shepherd-in-you/) - Yes, according to Jesus! He blesses you and calls you into ministry: “You are the salt of the earth… You are the light of the world” (Matthew 5:13-14). We may think being salt and light means preaching sermons or trying to convert people to our faith. Actually, it’s more like what we call “Soul Shepherding.” - [Institute Retreats for Pastors and Leaders](https://www.soulshepherding.org/institute-retreats-pastors-leaders/) - Spiritual Formation and Soul Care Retreats in Southern California! Led by Bill & Kristi Gaultiere Ministry wears most people out. Whether it's the grind of preaching every week, the weight of leadership, church conflicts, or compassion fatigue eventually we all feel it. We need TLC. The vision of Soul Shepherding's TLC program is “To Love Christ” - [Living Water for a Depressed Student](https://www.soulshepherding.org/living-water-for-a-depressed-student/) - I fell into a depression when I was a freshman in college. I had become despondent as a struggling pre-med student. I was chasing a fantasy of being a medical doctor and trying to make my family proud of me. But I hated biology and chemistry! I felt sick to my stomach when I dissected a ## Pages - [Soul Shepherding](https://www.soulshepherding.org/) - Get Healthy, Lead Healthy Go deeper with Jesus in emotional health and loving leadership Start Now Jesus-centered psychology Safe relationships Practical tools Imagine how your life and ministry would feel if you could get help for... Stress overload Discouragement Relational conflict Spiritual dryness Compassion fatigue Feeling alone as a leader Hitting a wall The health of - [Soul Shepherding Spiritual Director and Coach Directory](https://www.soulshepherding.org/spiritual-directors-directory/) - Talk with a spiritual director or coach View Directory View Directory When you are busy with your ministry, family, or work it can be hard to fit in caring for your soul. This can lead to stress overload, discouragement, relational conflict, spiritual dryness, or hitting a wall.The spiritual directors and coaches with Soul Shepherding have - [About Us](https://www.soulshepherding.org/about-us/) - Meet Our Staff Bill Gaultiere Founder & CEO Bill has a Ph.D. in psychology and is an ordained pastor who offers ministry to pastors and leaders through teaching, spiritual direction, and coaching. He and Kristi are the authors of Journey of the Soul, which was #1 on Amazon in Christian Counseling. He was personally mentored for - [Soul Shepherding Retreats](https://www.soulshepherding.org/institute/) - Five days that can change your life: At a Soul Shepherding retreat, you’ll step away from stress to rest in God’s presence, receive care and training, and be strengthened. 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The cultural way of growing your church or organization is - [Upcoming Soul Shepherding Institute Dates](https://www.soulshepherding.org/upcoming-soul-shepherding-institute-dates/) - Upcoming Soul Shepherding Institute Dates By Location Southern CaliforniaRelationally Healthy Leadership: July 13-17, 2026 (Malibu, CA) East CoastSoul Care Ministry: November 2-6, 2026 (St. Simons Island, GA)Relationally Healthy Leadership: April 5-9, 2027 (St. Simons Island, GA) Scottsdale, AZSpiritual & Psychological Development: October 19-23, 2026Soul Care Ministry: March 15-19, 2027Relationally Healthy Leadership: October 11-15, 2027 Bells, - [Recursos para Hispanohablantes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/recursos-para-hispanohablantes/) - Recursos Para Hispanohablantes Soul Shepherding capacita a pastores, misioneros y líderes para profundizar junto a Jesús en las áreas de salud emocional y el liderazgo centrado en el amor. 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Mark indicates on three separate occasions that Jesus healed - [God's Sabbath Rest for You Today](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/gods-sabbath-rest-for-you-today/) - Listen to Bill with Kristi share this message: “There is a Sabbath rest for the people of God... Make every effort to enter that rest” (Hebrews 4:9, 11). You and the people you touch can experience the rest of soul that Jesus brings! In this message we teach on seven words to help you experience God's - [Lectio Divina: Connecting to the Word of God with our Head and Heart](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/l-d-connecting-to-the-word-of-god-with-our-head-and-heart/) - Listen now to Lectio Divina: To meaningfully connect with the Word of God is to integrate the authoritative, inspired text of the Bible with the personal text of our lives. This means taking Scripture into our life in such a way that we listen to God and venture out with our confidence in him in all - [Step Into Jesus' Easy Yoke](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/step-jesus-easy-yoke/) - Listen to Bill with Kristi share this seminar: We strain and stress. We hurry and worry. We think it's normal. We say, "It's hard to be a Christian!" But Jesus says, "Come to me... My yoke is easy." Easy? Yes, easy! Jesus's easy yoke is, of course, a yoke. It means submitting to him and following - [With Jesus in the Storm](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/with-jesus-in-the-storms/) - Listen to Bill with Kristi present this seminar: We all experience storms in life. We all want Jesus to calm our storm, but often he waits. The fisherman-disciples panicked when Jesus didn't calm their storm at sea. Rembrandt masterfully paints the various reactions on the boat in the storm. Let's look in the Gospel story - [True Happiness is Practicing the Presence of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/true-happiness-is-practicing-the-presence-of-god/) - Listen to Bill share this message: Everyone wants to be happy. We think it an American right. But you can't be happy by pursuing happiness. The way to be happy is in practicing the presence of God. In Philippians, the most joyful book in the Bible, the Apostle Paul shows us how to do this and - [Be God's Wildflower -- Be Worry Free!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/be-gods-wildflower-be-worry-free/) - Listen to Bill share this message: We can't be stress free because stress is part of life. But we can be worry free! (For the most part.) Jesus teaches us to find peace (freedom from fear and anxiety) in his kingdom -- even in the midst of stressful situations. This is a sermon on Matthew 6:25-3 that I - [Jesus and a Woman's Heart](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/jesus-and-a-womans-heart/) - Listen to Bill share this message: "Jesus is anointed by a sinful woman" is an unlikely title for a worship service today. But it is this woman, not a religious person, who shows us that the heart of worship is adoration and affection for the Lord Jesus Christ. Bill gave this lesson on the heart of worship - [You Can Live in Jesus' Easy Yoke](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/you-can-live-in-jesus-easy-yoke/) - Listen to the audio lessons below: In the midst of your daily life with its challenges Jesus has an easy yoke for you to walk in. Following Jesus is meant to be a life of ease, delight, character growth, and adventure! Of course, there are challenges and pains to overcome but we can learn to - [Behold the Lord](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/behold-the-lord/) - Listen to Bill and Kristi share this message: Behold the Lord was the topic for this month's edition of Thirst! To behold the Lord is a special way of praying the Scripture that fosters ongoing intimacy with Jesus. We shared in an experience of meditating on Psalm 28 and Philippians 3:7-14. This message was given at Thirst! on 3/28/2012. You will love - [The Art of Longing for God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/the-art-of-longing-for-god/) - Listen to Bill share this message: Longing for God is the breath of the soul. If we sense God's goodness and beauty then we will long for more of him and draw closer. We can cultivate our appreciation of God through stories and art that depict his love. We meditated on Psalm 63:1 and paintings of Jesus. - [Grow in Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/grow-in-grace/) - Listen to Bill and Kristi share this message: Grow in Grace (Part 1) Grow in Grace (Part 2): Scripture Meditations on Jesus' Hand at Work Our concept of grace needs to be renewed. Grace is more than "unmerited favor" -- it's God acting in my life to do what I cannot do for myself. The Bible - [Listen and Live!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/listen-and-live/) - Listen to Bill give this message: From the Old Testament kings and prophets we learn that it's by listening to God that we live. To listen to God is not about hearing with our ears, but obeying with our heart. Usually God speaks in a whisper to our heart and if we're listening that's enough to - [The Kingdom of God for the Whole Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/the-kingdom-of-god-for-the-whole-person/) - Listen to Bill and Kristi give this presentation: I spent two weeks at the Mater Dolorosa monastery at a "Spirituality and Ministry" Doctor of Ministry class with Dallas Willard. In this interview and discussion I share some of the things I learned about bringing my whole person into the kingdom of God. Jesus taught me through - [Becoming a Good Person by Being in Jesus' Easy Yoke](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/becoming-a-good-person-by-being-in-jesus-easy-yoke/) - Listen to Bill present this message: In Jesus' easy yoke we obey God routinely, naturally. We become the kind of person who genuinely and consistently loves God, neighbors, and even enemies. In the Sermon on the Mount Jesus explains what a truly good (and happy!) person is like and how to become one. But most of us - [Prayer and Meditation: Step 11 of Recovery](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/prayer-and-meditation-step-11-of-recovery/) - Listen to Bill share this message: "Conscious contact with God" is what enables us to live in 12 Step Recovery. We achieve this through prayer and meditation. The result is that we grow in divine power and knowledge. This is what Step 11 teaches us. Yes, people with addictions, those who are anxious or depressed, and - [Praying Psalm 91 with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/praying-psalm-91-with-jesus/) - Listen to Bill with Kristi share this message: This meditation on Psalm 91 is delightful and powerful! It's the story of God as a Mother Hen and us as his little chicks that find refuge under his wings, walk in his shadow, and are miraculously empowered by God to overcome the lion and the cobra! - [Joy in Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/joy-in-jesus/) - Listen to Bill with Kristi share this message: Jesus wants us to have his joy and for our joy to be overflowing! (John 15:11) We talked about genuine joy, what it is and what it isn't, with the Apostle Paul being our prime example rejoicing in the Lord. He did this even when he was flogged and jailed - [Thank God for God!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/thank-god-for-god/) - Listen to Bill give this message: “Give thanks to the Lord for he is good. His love endures forever” (Psalm 136:1). You and the people you care for can learn to give thanks to God -- even in painful times. In this message we bring together the Bible and scientific research to teach on the - [Jesus Heals Anxious Hearts](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/jesus-heals-anxious-hearts/) - Listen to Bill lead this seminar: "Jesus Heals Anxious Hearts- Part 1" "Jesus Heals Anxious Hearts- Part 2" "Jesus Heals Anxious Hearts- Part 3" “God is our refuge and strength, an ever-present help in times of trouble" (Psalm 46:1). We began this five hour seminar (three parts) with a "Watch and Pray" exercise, using Psalm - [Disciplines for Life in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/disciplines-for-life-in-christ/) - Listen to Bill teach this series: "Solitude and Silence" "Fasting and Feasting on the Word of God" "Worship the Lord and Come Alive!" "Slow Down for a Sabbath Rest" Together, by interacting with God's grace, we can be with Jesus and become like him. Disciplines for the spiritual life help us "abide" in Jesus and bear - [The Cross and the Kingdom](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/the-cross-and-the-kingdom/) - Listen to Bill give the message: Jesus Christ's death on the cross provides not only our forgiveness of sins but also our eternal living in the Kingdom of the Heavens. The Bible text for this sermon is Luke's account of Jesus' death on the cross (Luke 23:26-49). If it wasn't for the way Jesus died on the cross for - [Carry the Message: Step 12](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/carry-message-step-12/) - Listen to Bill explain Step 12: Step 12 gives us a vision for our journey of recovery. It gives us hope that we could live spiritually awake to God, sober and alert, and carrying the message of recovery to others while continuing to practice the principles of the 12 Steps in daily life. Bill explains Step 12 - [Longing to Be Seen](https://www.soulshepherding.org/article/longing-seen/) - Listen to Kristi read this devotional: This past year, I spent some time looking at my life story working with some spiritual direction maps and then sharing them with a spiritual friend. It became glaringly obvious to me, as I looked at my story throughout the first couple decades of my life that the longings ## podcasts - [542 - Sabbath - The Spiritual Blessing We Don't Know How to Receive (Rest #2)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/542-sabbath-the-spiritual-blessing-we-dont-know-how-to-receive-rest-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks Sabbath rest is a gift that's talked about all over Scripture. Yet, we often interpret what God intended to be a blessing as a burden instead. Let's be honest: the idea of setting aside work to embrace a day of rest might feel unnecessary, intimidating, unattainable, legalistic, or just plain - [541 - Why Your Soul Needs Rest More Than a Vacation (Rest #1)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/541-why-your-soul-needs-rest-more-than-a-vacation-rest-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us long to experience the renewal of deep, soul-nourishing rest. Trying to rest through entertainment or "zoning out" often leaves us feeling more restless than before. Even some vacations are not truly restful. What does it look like to genuinely recover and recharge in body, mind, and spirit? - [540 - Forgiveness That Heals Your Soul — Forgive and Be Free, Part 3](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/540-forgiveness-that-heals-your-soul-forgive-and-be-free-part-3/) - This Week on Soul Talks Nobody wants to be in the position of needing to forgive another person for harming them. It's unsettling to feel angry or to realize we hurt someone. It’s worth the effort because forgiveness brings healing to us and others. ​Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and - [539 - What Forgiveness Is (and Is Not) — Forgive and Be Free, Part 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/539-what-forgiveness-is-and-is-not-forgive-and-be-free-part-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us have learned that forgiveness includes minimizing hurt or making superficial reconciliation. These misunderstandings hinder us from stepping into the freedom we long for. Yet the Bible paints a more holistic picture of forgiveness that helps us trust Jesus with our emotions and follow him into relational wisdom. - [538 - Why Forgiveness Is So Hard (And So Important) — Forgive and Be Free, Part 1](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/538-why-forgiveness-is-so-hard-and-so-important-forgive-and-be-free-part-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks Forgiving those who have wronged us is one of the most challenging things to do in apprenticeship to Jesus. It’s tempting to rush into surface-level forgiveness in effort to be a “good Christian.” Yet authentic forgiveness requires that we get into our hearts. Often it includes walking through a process - [537 - Balancing Self-Care and Love for Others (Mental Health Detox #5)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/537-balancing-self-care-and-love-for-others-mental-health-detox-5/) - This Week on Soul Talks God designed us to flourish in "love one another" relationships. That's why it's impossible to cultivate mental health in isolation. Yet all of us know that relationships can be a complicated blessing, with the temptation to keep our hearts hidden or take too much responsibility for others. Join us for - [536 - Decluttering Your Soul With Quiet Prayer (Mental Health Detox #4)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/536-decluttering-your-soul-with-quiet-prayer-mental-health-detox-4/) - This Week on Soul Talks Do you ever feel bombarded by noise, screens, or crowds? It can be impossible to go anywhere without “clutter” running in the background and building up in our souls. Sadly, living in a constant state of stimulation damages our mental health and makes us feel disconnected from God’s loving presence. - [535 - Purifying Your Heart by Watching and Praying (Mental Health Detox #3)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/535-purifying-your-heart-by-watching-and-praying-mental-health-detox-3/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's impossible to be loving and healthy like Jesus without a heart that's fully surrendered to the Lord. Yet, we often try to "fix" ourselves, slipping into behavior modification rather than genuine transformation of our whole self. Thankfully, we can learn to cultivate healthy heart habits that trust God to - [534 - Detoxing Your Body With Empathy (Mental Health Detox #2)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/534-detoxing-your-body-with-empathy-mental-health-detox-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks Have you ever felt exhausted without knowing why? Factors like internalized stress, relational conflict, unrealized grief, and suppressed emotions all ​get stored in our bodies to weigh us down and wear us out. Because physical health affects both our mental and spiritual well-being, an important part of apprenticeship to Jesus - [533 - Washing Your Mind With Truth (Mental Health Detox #1)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/533-washing-your-mind-with-truth-mental-health-detox-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us experience unhealthy "toxins" that shape our thinking and ultimately affect our mental health and apprenticeship to Jesus. These toxins seem to come from everywhere— culture and the media, internalized lies from childhood, misguided theological beliefs, and the effects of sin. To flourish in Jesus' peace means learning - [532 - A Christian Approach to Recovery From Porn Addiction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/532-a-christian-approach-to-recovery-from-porn-addiction/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us have experienced getting "stuck" when it comes to sin and struggles. It's disheartening when we so desperately desire freedom but keep falling into the same traps. Is there anything you can do when trying harder doesn't lead to the transformation you're longing to experience? Join us - [531 - Heaven Is Your Home (Jesus Welcomes You into His Father's House)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/531-heaven-is-your-home-jesus-welcomes-you-into-his-fathers-house/) - This Week on Soul Talks Most of us would say that heaven is good and a place we'll be glad to make our eternal home. But often there's a gap between our beliefs and the emotions we experience in our bodies. Natural survival instincts sometimes make factors like the fear of death or letting go - [530 - Returning to Harmony After a Conflict With a Loved One](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/530-returning-to-harmony-after-a-conflict-with-a-loved-one/) - This Week on Soul Talks You’ve likely experienced the messiness that comes with conflict in close relationships. All of us are human — meaning we each have unique hurts, emotions, needs, and perceptions that we bring to difficult conversations. It’s tempting to hide our hearts from each other for the sake of “moving on.” Yet - [529 - The Beauty and Blessing of Giving Yourself for Others (Taking Heart From Jesus on the Cross)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/529-the-beauty-and-blessing-of-giving-yourself-for-others-taking-heart-from-jesus-on-the-cross/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us experience times when the same grace that flows through us to others is hard to grasp for ourselves. Sadly our thoughts often slander us the same way religious bullies insulted Jesus: “You saved others but you can't save yourself” (Matthew 27:42 paraphrased). Thankfully we don't have to - [528 - Empathy Practices to Care for Your Soul (Mental Health Insights #3)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/528-empathy-practices-to-care-for-your-soul-mental-health-insights-3/) - This Week on Soul Talks You love the people around you and desire to support them — but your soul is also drained. It's common for those of us who are tender-hearted, sensitive, and attuned to others' needs to struggle with compassion fatigue. Thankfully we can learn to steward the gift of empathy Jesus has - [527 - How Empathy Heals Our Emotions (Mental Health Insights #2)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/527-how-empathy-heals-our-emotions-mental-health-insights-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's painful and overwhelming when stress, hurt, or trauma triggers us emotionally and affects our well-being. Often this leads us to pull away — judging our emotions, hiding our needs, and distancing ourselves from others. Sadly this keeps us from the empathy we desperately need to heal and recover. Join - [526 - How Empathy Helps Us Become Like Jesus (Mental Health Insights #1)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/526-how-empathy-helps-us-become-like-jesus-mental-health-insights-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us grew up in an empathy desert and missed out on being seen, known, and loved. Sadly, a lack of being understood and accepted often unintentionally creates emotional distance in our churches, friendships, and even our relationship with God. We might fail to realize that we can’t become - [525 - How a Retreat Can Transform Your Faith (Conversation with Ron Thompson)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/525-how-a-retreat-can-transform-your-faith-conversation-with-ron-thompson/) - This Week on Soul Talks The demands of life and ministry have taught most of us to prioritize doing over being. Yet eventually we realize that “trying harder” doesn’t satisfy our deepest longing for a flourishing relationship with Jesus. Thankfully the Good Shepherd meets us at “the end of ourselves” and invites us into spacious - [524 - The Joy of the Cross for Jesus and You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/524-the-joy-of-the-cross-for-jesus-and-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks Let’s be honest — we’re not always naturally drawn toward the suffering of Jesus and his death on the cross. Yet all of us know the experience of struggling through hardship, loss, and distress. Where can we turn to find comfort and strength when we feel crushed underneath the weight - [523 - On the Cross Jesus Bows His Head to Kiss You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/523-on-the-cross-jesus-bows-his-head-to-kiss-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us long to know with confidence the love and forgiveness that Jesus poured out at the cross. Yet we remain distant from this deeper experience of grace when we lose touch with our bottomless need for Christ or become paralyzed by shame. Thankfully Jesus doesn’t beat us over - [522 - Enjoying Life Without Lack (Dallas Willard's Best Teachings #6)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/522-enjoying-life-without-lack-dallas-willards-best-teachings-6/) - This Week on Soul Talks Dallas Willard taught us that Jesus offers us a life without lack in the Kingdom of God. But what do we do when experiencing the real pain of unmet needs, unhealed wounds, and unanswered prayers? You can learn to pause and pray — bringing your distresses and desires to Jesus - [521 - Do Your Best. But Don't Trust Your Best--Trust God (Dallas Willard's Best Teachings #5)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/521-do-your-best-but-dont-trust-your-best-trust-god-dallas-willards-best-teachings-5/) - This Week on Soul Talks It’s true that our best efforts are good and effective — we are beautifully and wonderfully created by God, after all. Yet it’s easy to slip into self-reliance and try to “make things happen” in our own strength. Instead, we can learn to keep watch with Jesus as we work, - [520 - Don't Try--Train (Dallas Willard's Best Teachings #4)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/520-dont-try-train-dallas-willards-best-teachings-4/) - This Week on Soul Talks How do we heal, grow, and change as apprentices of Jesus? Many of us have subscribed to the traditional Christian approach of “trying harder” to “believe and do what’s right,” only to find ourselves stuck and discouraged. Thankfully the vision Jesus casts for transformation shows us a different path forward. - [519 - Grace is Opposed to Earning--Not Effort (Dallas Willard's Best Teachings #3)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/519-grace-is-opposed-to-earning-not-effort-dallas-willards-best-teachings-3/) - This Week on Soul Talks Grace is central to our faith yet its meaning is often confused. Mixed messages can leave us in a tug-of-war between “doing nothing” and “trying harder” to earn God's favor. What is grace actually and how does it affect our daily apprenticeship to Jesus? Tune in for this episode of - [518 - The Kingdom of the Heavens is Open (Dallas Willard's Best Teachings #2)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/518-the-kingdom-of-the-heavens-is-open-dallas-willards-best-teachings-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks God is with us always — not only in “big” or “spiritual” moments but also during the ordinary challenges of day-to-day life. Yet it’s tempting to think we’re alone when experiencing stress at work, emotional hurt, or relational challenges. How can we become more aware of Jesus’ presence and live - [517 - Dallas Willard's 3 Steps to Change Your Prayer Life (Dallas Willard's Best Teachings #1)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/517-dallas-willards-3-steps-to-change-your-prayer-life-dallas-willards-best-teachings-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks If prayer is so foundational to our relationship with Jesus, why do many of us find it so challenging? Maybe you’ve experienced practicing prayer as dutiful — something you do only because you’re “supposed to.” Perhaps you feel discouraged, disoriented, and unsure if talking to God really makes a difference - [516 - When Being a Better Person Feels Out of Reach](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/516-when-being-a-better-person-feels-out-of-reach/) - This Week on Soul Talks Praying to become more like Jesus can seem out of reach or surface feelings of shame. Yet growing in Christlikeness is a lifelong journey that includes highs and lows, consolations and desolations, and a range of feelings. Regardless of your current spiritual terrain or emotional challenges, your life can become - [515 - Rejoice in the Greatest Gift](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/515-rejoice-in-the-greatest-gift/) - This Week on Soul Talks Let’s face it — the chaos of travel, family gatherings, and exchanging presents can cause us to forget the miracle of Christmas. It’s easy to become numb or distracted from the treasure of Jesus. Meditating on Scripture helps us reorient ourselves to the surprising arrival of Immanuel and the stunning - [514 - Drawing on Your Inner Storehouse of Love and Peace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/514-drawing-on-your-inner-storehouse-of-love-and-peace/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us long to know Jesus’ presence with us as we go about each day. Imagine sharing unbroken intimacy with the Good Shepherd during every mundane moment, challenging circumstance, and distressing emotion you experience. The good news is that Jesus desires to be with you always in the secret - [513 - "I'm a Basket of Emotions!" (Bill Helps Kristi Find the Flowers in Her Basket)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/513-im-a-basket-of-emotions-bill-helps-kristi-find-the-flowers-in-her-basket/) - This Week on Soul Talks Do you struggle to share your "big" emotions with God and others? Many of us are tempted to hide our feelings because we fear being "too much" or feel ashamed at some of the attitudes that lie underneath our hurts. Yet this keeps us from receiving the grace that all - [512 - Interpreting Your Dreams - A Surprisingly Easy and Helpful Method](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/512-interpreting-your-dreams-a-surprisingly-easy-and-helpful-method/) - This Week on Soul Talks Most of us experience our dreams as a collection of random events that leave us feeling confused or distressed. But what if your dreams were more than something to brush off? Inviting the Spirit of Jesus into your dreams can spark deep conversation with him and lead to emotional health. - [511 - Surprising Joy for Families at Christmastime (Conversation with Briana)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/511-surprising-joy-for-families-at-christmastime-conversation-with-briana/) - This Week on Soul Talks The birth of Jesus changed history forever, yet it might not feel very personal in your heart. Let's be honest — it's easy for Advent to become white noise. Thankfully you can have a fresh experience with Jesus when you enter the story through the eyes of a "soul friend" - [510 - How to Root Deeper in God's Love through Empathy Scriptures](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/510-how-to-root-deeper-in-gods-love-through-empathy-scriptures/) - This Week on Soul Talks What comes to mind when you think of God's posture toward you? All of us long to know for certain that Abba looks at us with eyes of love, but it's easy to project our own judgment and rejection onto his heart for us. Yet Jesus reconciles the love of - [509 - Relying on Love to Protect You From Self-Criticism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/509-relying-on-love-to-protect-you-from-self-criticism/) - This Week on Soul Talks You might be familiar with self-criticism that says, "Do better. Try harder. Stop making mistakes!" Listening to critical self-talk for too long can tempt us to react under pressure or retreat in shame. Thankfully God's voice of love sings a different song over us — the Lord desires to protect - [508 - Parenting with Empathy and Faith (Conversation with Briana)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/508-parenting-with-empathy-and-faith-conversation-with-briana/) - This Week on Soul Talks Parents have an amazing opportunity to reflect the nature of God to their children. Yet the thought of shaping the way our kids come to see and know him sometimes feels like an overwhelming responsibility. How could anybody represent what our loving Papa is like? Thankfully Jesus redeems our mistakes, - [507 - Growing Through Empathy Challenges in Parenting (Conversation with Briana)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/507-growing-through-empathy-challenges-in-parenting-conversation-with-briana/) - This Week on Soul Talks Those of us with children understand there is no parenting blueprint or path to “get it right” all the time. This can lead us to shy away from offering empathy as we become afraid of enabling poor behavior or stealing opportunities for them to build resilience. Yet it’s empathy - [506 - The Power of Empathy in Parenting (Conversation with Briana)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/506-the-power-of-empathy-in-parenting-conversation-with-briana/) - This Week on Soul Talks Empathy is valuable in all our relationships, but it's especially important when it comes to raising children. All of us long for our kids to love Jesus and fulfill his unique purposes for them. How can we help them get there? Empathy helps our children become secure and confident as - [505 - Landscapes of the Soul (Conversation with Cyd & Geoff Holsclaw)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/505-landscapes-of-the-soul-conversation-with-cyd-geoff-holsclaw/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us are quick learners when it comes to fear and trauma, and because of this, have developed strategies to survive the landscapes of our childhood. Some of us anxiously protect our relationships while others avoid connection and become self-reliant. Thankfully you can follow the Good Shepherd into a - [504 - Praying the Parables of Jesus (Conversation With Steve Macchia)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/504-praying-the-parables-of-jesus-conversation-with-steve-macchia/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us long to open the Bible and have a meaningful conversation with Jesus. But learning to be with God through his Word feels more challenging than ever in a fast-paced world where answers are always at our fingertips. Thankfully there are tested-and-true spiritual disciplines that can help us - [503 - Being a Safe Person, Not a Savior](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/503-being-a-safe-person-not-a-savior/) - This Week on Soul Talks You listen to people's hurts and needs and feel genuine compassion for them. Yet giving too much empathy to others drains you and creates a deficit in your own soul. Thankfully, you can learn how to trust Jesus when helping others instead of trying too hard to be Jesus for - [502 - How Empathy Supports Intimacy With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/502-how-empathy-supports-intimacy-with-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us long to have a flourishing relationship with Jesus — experiencing his bottomless love for us as we walk through life with him. Yet it's easy to get discouraged when going deeper with Christ doesn't look or feel like we assumed it would. Thankfully you can learn the - [501 - The Gift of Mirror Neurons](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/501-the-gift-of-mirror-neurons/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's easy to think that some people are empathetic while others are not. And it's true that empathy comes more instinctively to some than others. But did you know that Jesus created your brain for empathy? This means that all of us naturally long to share the experience of being - [500 - You Were Made for Deeper Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/500-you-were-made-for-deeper-love/) - This Week on Soul Talks Research shows that only 36% of people can identify their emotions as they're experiencing them. Yet learning to feel and share authentically is the path to closeness and connection. This means your emotions and experiences (even the painful ones) are actually invitations to be deeply loved by God and others. - [499 - Does Empathy Reinforce Sin?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/499-does-empathy-reinforce-sin/) - This Week on Soul Talks Some Christians are skeptical about empathy, mistakenly assuming that it coddles others and reinforces sinful behavior. Yet genuine empathy (even when we sin) helps us understand our struggles and strengthens us to grow in Christlikeness. Thankfully, loving and healthy empathy is modeled all over the Bible and not only comforts - [498 - From Detached to Deeply Loved](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/498-from-detached-to-deeply-loved/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many people are "thinkers" and "doers" whose natural tendency is to analyze their emotions and those of others. It's certainly true that reason and action are valuable parts of being human. But getting stuck in your head leaves you detached and lonely. Thankfully you can learn to feel and heal - [497 - From "Too Sensitive" to Deeply Loved (Why Being Misunderstood Hurts So Much)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/497-from-too-sensitive-to-deeply-loved-why-being-misunderstood-hurts-so-much/) - This Week on Soul Talks Are your big feelings misunderstood by others? All of us have tender parts of ourselves that long for a safe place to call home. Sadly, it's easy for sensitivity to get rejected as "too emotional" or "unbiblical." Yet Jesus the Feeler welcomes our emotions and cares for us in his - [496 - Being Immersed in the Beauty and Goodness of the Trinity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/496-being-immersed-in-the-beauty-and-goodness-of-the-trinity/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us can fall asleep to the reality of God's trinitarian presence and slip into making life happen on our own. Yet the Three-Person God shows us how deeply relational he is and invites us to fully immerse ourselves in intimate friendship with him. Tune in for this episode - [495 - Enjoying God Here and Now](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/495-enjoying-god-here-and-now/) - This Week on Soul Talks Most Christians know the importance of taking their faith seriously. But getting too serious when it comes to spiritual disciplines or ministry responsibilities can miss God's heart for relationship. Thankfully, our loving and joyful Papa wants to help us move from duty into sharing his delight. Join us for this - [494 - Loving Sacrifice or Codependent Guilt?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/494-loving-sacrifice-or-codependent-guilt/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many Christians share Jesus' big heart for others and desire to love people like him. But all of us can fall prey to caring for others in a way that's fueled by our own unrecognized needs or wounds. Even good intentions can drain our souls and leave us feeling resentful - [493 - Using One Responsibility to Avoid Another Neglects Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/493-using-one-responsibility-to-avoid-another-neglects-your-soul/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's easy for all of us to get swept away by the powerful current of "doing more." Although too many responsibilities stress us out, we often don't realize that unconscious emotions and unmet needs drive us toward giving too much of ourselves. Thankfully we can learn to care for our - [492 - Quieting Your Heart in a Turbulent World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/492-quieting-your-heart-in-a-turbulent-world/) - This Week on Soul Talks It can feel impossible to attune to Jesus' presence and hear his voice when so many stressors fight for our attention. Factors like health issues, relational tension, and the busyness of life and work make it challenging to genuinely sense Christ with us. Even still, Jesus speaks to the deepest - [491 - The Spiritually Healthy Leader (Conversation with Dave Wiedis)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/491-the-spiritually-healthy-leader-conversation-with-dave-wiedis/) - This Week on Soul Talks What are you most passionate about? Most Christians would respond by saying something like "loving Jesus" or "doing God's work." These are genuine expressions of devotion and warm Abba's heart. Yet it's true that all of us have hidden ruling passions (like loneliness, control, etc.) that can become the primary - [490 - The Power of Memory for Faith & Flourishing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/490-the-power-of-memory-for-faith-flourishing/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's likely you have memories that you wish you could forget. Remembering times of suffering or trauma can feel uncomfortable and often triggers distressing emotions like fear, shame, or grief. But inviting Jesus into your memories can transform places of pain into precious moments of healing with our Redeemer. Tune - [489 - The Key to Your Mental Health](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/489-the-key-to-your-mental-health/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us have left conversations feeling hurt because somebody hopped to a quick judgment or attempted to fix us instead of genuinely listening. This is not only damaging to your mental health but also opposes your formation in Christlikeness. Thankfully, learning to receive and give empathy helps you agree - [488 - What We Find in the Dark (Conversation with Aubrey Sampson)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/488-what-we-find-in-the-dark-conversation-with-aubrey-sampson/) - This Week on Soul Talks Where is God when nothing makes sense? It's easy to dance around tensions like this instead of getting honest about the disorientation and desolation we all experience in our relationship with Jesus. But questions aren't opposed to authentic faith — they're one of the most valuable pieces of our formation. - [487 - When Grief Comes Home (Conversation with Erin Nelson & Colleen Montague)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/487-when-grief-comes-home-conversation-with-erin-nelson-colleen-montague/) - This Week on Soul Talks Grieving the loss of a beloved person in your life is one of the most disorienting journeys you'll ever walk through. You deeply desire to support your children and loved ones but feel fragile and empty. It's okay to feel and heal with Jesus so you can lovingly hold others - [486 - Courage: Mental Health Attitude #5](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/486-courage-mental-health-attitude-5/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us know that courage is a virtuous quality and desire to live and love boldly like King Jesus. But it's easy to assume the path to operating more courageously looks like suppressing our fears and forcing ourselves into action. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as - [485 - Acceptance of Reality: Mental Health Attitude #4](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/485-acceptance-of-reality-mental-health-attitude-4/) - This Week on Soul Talks "Acceptance of reality" isn't an attitude often supported in Christian circles. In fact, being oriented around your physical reality can sometimes be viewed as "unspiritual" or "lacking faith." But the truth is that a healthy and mature acceptance of reality leads to authentic and vibrant faith. Join us for this - [484 - Trust: Mental Health Attitude #3](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/484-trust-mental-health-attitude-3/) - This Week on Soul Talks Do you have trust issues? All of us have experienced the pain of broken trust from people who were supposed to be safe — parents, coaches, pastors, siblings, or friends. Sadly, learning to live in mistrust of others leads to us distrusting God and erodes our mental health. Tune in - [483 - Hope: Mental Health Attitude #2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/483-hope-mental-health-attitude-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks Hope is more than wishful thinking — it’s the anticipation of good things from a good God who has redeemed us, loves us, and cares for us. This is why Jesus' followers have the most reason to be hopeful humans. Even still, all of us experience times when feelings of - [482 - Resilience: Mental Health Attitude #1](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/482-resilience-mental-health-attitude-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks A common misunderstanding in Christianity is that you won’t struggle with mental health issues if you read the Bible and pray. The reality is that we’re all human and factors like trauma, stress, and genetics can lead to wrestling with anxiety or depression. Part of apprenticeship to Jesus is engaging - [481 - The Adventure of Staying Where God Puts You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/481-the-adventure-of-staying-where-god-puts-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks Are you feeling bored or restless in your current season with the Lord? It's natural to pursue transition when you feel the itch for something new. Yet all of us know that changing our circumstances doesn't automatically change us. There's often a deeper work of formation and preparation that Jesus - [480 - Restoring Love and Joy After a Relational Cut Off](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/480-restoring-love-and-joy-after-a-relational-cut-off/) - This Week on Soul Talks Relationships are complex! All of us carry wounds from our past, get triggered, and unintentionally hurt others. This means that conflict is a normal part of life with others. Thankfully, the presence of Jesus is available to help us repair our hearts and relationships even when navigating complicated dynamics and - [479 - The Joy of God is Your Comfort and Strength](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/479-the-joy-of-god-is-your-comfort-and-strength/) - This Week on Soul Talks An important part of spiritual growth is learning to be comforted and strengthened by the joy of the Lord. Yet it can be challenging to experience joy in the midst of mundane life and human struggle. All of us can learn from Rabbi Jesus who teaches us to draw joy - [478 - Getting Out of a Shame Storm](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/478-getting-out-of-a-shame-storm/) - This Week on Soul Talks Have you ever been trapped in a shame storm? It’s tempting to isolate when feelings of judgment and rejection overwhelm us. But defending against our emotions only becomes a barrier to embracing our greatest need — to be fully seen, known, and loved by Jesus, often through one of his - [477 - The Intimacy and Self-Discovery of Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/477-the-intimacy-and-self-discovery-of-prayer/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's vulnerable to ask for what we need or desire. Opening our hearts to others cultivates connection and trust but also leaves us susceptible to rejection and disappointment. And it's no different in a relationship with Jesus — depending on him wholeheartedly always requires risk. Join us for this episode - [476 - Steps to Become New (Conversation with John Ortberg)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/476-steps-to-become-new-conversation-with-john-ortberg/) - This Week on Soul Talks The tension between our need for transformation and our inability to make it happen can leave us feeling helpless. Thankfully change doesn’t happen as a result of our own strength. It's through acknowledging our weakness that we develop a greater dependency on God's revolutionary love, care, and power. Join us - [475 - Your Child's Sacred Wound Draws Them to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/475-your-childs-sacred-wound-draws-them-to-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us experience grief when we fall short of caring for others the way the Good Shepherd perfectly tends to us. It can be especially distressing for parents of adult children to look back and realize how their own lack of wholeness wounded their kids. Thankfully, there's hope for - [474 - When Your Loved One Deconstructs Their Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/474-when-your-loved-one-deconstructs-their-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us likely know somebody whose relationship with Jesus seems to be collapsing like a house of cards. It’s difficult to trust God when a loved one deconstructs — we could find ourselves anxiously searching for solutions or lost in despair. Yet it brings comfort to remember that our - [473 - Totally Loved Forever at the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/473-totally-loved-forever-at-the-cross/) - This Week on Soul Talks Jesus’ suffering on the cross can make it seem like God is distant or mean. And it becomes hard to authentically trust God’s feelings toward us if we see him as someone who turned away from his own son. Thankfully, looking at the crucifixion with spiritual eyes shows us that - [472 - When Technology Interrupts Our Attachment to God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/472-when-technology-interrupts-our-attachment-to-god/) - This Week on Soul Talks Let’s be honest. It’s easy to trade attunement with Jesus and others for the low-hanging distraction of a screen. Smartphones aren’t sinful and digital devices aren’t all bad. But our compulsion to overuse technology says something about our souls — all of us long for loving connection with God and - [471 - Sacred Attachment (Conversation with Michael Cusick)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/471-sacred-attachment-conversation-with-michael-cusick/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us carry trauma or wounds that make us believe there’s no hope for secure attachment with God. But what if Jesus is already present in the parts of you that feel wounded and embarrassed? The good news is that brokenness is a bridge — not a barrier — - [470 - Warming Your Heart for Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/470-warming-your-heart-for-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us experience ups and downs in our devotion to Jesus. Sometimes we feel enthusiastic about our apprenticeship to him and burn with passion to share his love. But every season comes with unique challenges and it can feel discouraging when your heart isn’t fully throbbing for Christ. Tune - [469 - John Newton's Amazing Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/469-john-newtons-amazing-grace/) - This Week on Soul Talks It’s easy to assume God is absent when life gets chaotic or pain and hardship strike. But often the events we interpret as “useless” or “damaging” become the greatest blessings to our relationship with Jesus and formation in Christlikeness. That’s why we can take heart in the sovereign hand of - [468 - The Fix - A Surprising Path for Transformation (Conversation with Ian Cron)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/468-the-fix-a-surprising-path-for-transformation-conversation-with-ian-cron/) - This Week on Soul Talks Not everybody struggles with obvious addiction but all of us have a “fix.” The solutions we use to soothe our pain, meet our needs, and manage our lives apart from God seem to work temporarily but leave us with bigger problems. Thankfully, the brokenness of addiction serves as an invitation - [467 - A Pastor Displaced by LA Fires Shares His Experience and Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/467-a-pastor-displaced-by-la-fires-shares-his-experience-and-ministry/) - This Week on Soul Talks The wildfires in Los Angeles have destroyed thousands of homes and displaced even more people. Our hearts are devastated for everyone affected. We’re especially praying for the friends we’ve made through Soul Shepherding who find themselves both experiencing and ministering through trauma. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks - [466 - Sharing What You Know With Empathy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/466-sharing-what-you-know-with-empathy/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us find ourselves in conversations — with both Christians and those who don't know Jesus — who feel it's unloving, judgmental, and arrogant to share the truth of Christ with others. It's sad when somebody's belief system keeps them from trusting the Good Shepherd more deeply. We often - [465 - Resting in God's Providence Despite Difficulties](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/465-resting-in-gods-providence-despite-difficulties/) - This Week on Soul Talks Right now, there’s a war happening between darkness and God’s kingdom of light. Difficulties like financial hardship, sickness, loss, and relational tension can make it challenging to live in genuine peace. But all of us can train in Jesus’ easy yoke to experience the comfort of leaning into Abba’s providential - [464 - Reflecting and Rejoicing as You Start the New Year](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/464-reflecting-and-rejoicing-as-you-start-the-new-year/) - This Week on Soul Talks The new year is typically a time to “leave the old behind” and “look forward to the new.” But it’s easy to become so future-oriented that you miss Jesus’ presence with you here and now! That’s why it’s powerful to reflect and rejoice in Christ before you turn the page - [463 - Carrying the Joy and Power of God's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/463-carrying-the-joy-and-power-of-gods-presence/) - This Week on Soul Talks Followers of Jesus carry the joy and power of his presence everywhere they go! This means we can cheerfully spread his mighty love to others during ordinary moments of everyday life. But opposition like hurry, stress, or over-earnestness can cause us to miss Jesus’ warm smile toward us and those - [462 - Immersed in Jesus' Presence in Handel's Messiah](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/462-immersed-in-jesus-presence-in-handels-messiah/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us only skim the surface when it comes to spiritual growth because we don’t know how to relate to Jesus personally. Yet an under recognized and undervalued part of growth in Christlikeness is immersion in Jesus’ presence. Engaging your senses through spiritual practices like Gospel meditation helps you - [461 - You are Wanted by Jesus and his Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/461-you-are-wanted-by-jesus-and-his-father/) - This Week on Soul Talks It's easy to miss the many ways Papa God reveals his abundant love for us through Jesus. Focusing only on “major” themes when reading the Gospels (although this is good) can cause us to miss the “minor” yet meaningful ways Jesus expresses Abba’s heart. Thankfully, practicing slow and prayerful Scripture - [460 -Rediscovering Christmas (Conversation with A.J. Sherrill)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/460-rediscovering-christmas-conversation-with-a-j-sherrill/) - This Week on Soul Talks Do you feel disconnected from the Christmas Story? It’s easy to feel like Mary, Zechariah, or the Innkeeper are “characters” or “super saints” far removed from real life in God. But diving into the ancient context and practicing prayerful meditation will help us find our story within the Advent Story. - [459 - So Many Decisions and Responsibilities -- How to Trust God?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/459-so-many-decisions-and-responsibilities-how-to-trust-god/) - This Week on Soul Talks Does the responsibility of decision-making leave you feeling overwhelmed or anxious? As life and ministry move forward, all of us face the reality that there's too much to carry without Jesus. This is when we can learn to lean on Immanuel who wants to journey with us, help shoulder the - [458 - Playful and Trusting Like a Child with Jesus for the Holidays](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/458-playful-and-trusting-like-a-child-with-jesus-for-the-holidays/) - This Week on Soul Talks Did you know that Jesus delights in the little child inside of you? It might be hard for some of us to believe that he wants to make us smile and laugh like an elated youngster during the holidays. But our Savior continues to pursue us out of his deep - [457 - Loving Adult Children Who Disappoint You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/457-loving-adult-children-who-disappoint-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks Any close relationship can bring us pain or grief when those we love make choices that are opposite of what we desired. This is especially true for parents with adult children. Thankfully, we can learn to trust our Perfect Father to teach us how to transition into a new season - [456 - Putting Your Problems in the Light of Jesus' Smile](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/456-putting-your-problems-in-the-light-of-jesus-smile/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us know (maybe a little too well) that problems are everyday occurrences. Simultaneously, God's kingdom is always open to us and the risen Christ is present in every trial. Learning to put our problems in light of Jesus' smile helps us stay present to our Best Friend and - [455 - Jesus Runs to You With Open Arms](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/455-jesus-runs-to-you-with-open-arms/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us have an inner child who needs to be securely attached to God. But sometimes, hurts, wounds, and untrue belief systems complicate trusting his extravagant love for us. Thankfully, Jesus runs to us with open arms so we can find safety in Abba's delight. Tune in for this - [454 - Self-Talk for a Flourishing Life - It's Different Than You Think](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/454-self-talk-for-a-flourishing-life-its-different-than-you-think/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us talk to ourselves! Sometimes, the voices in our heads are holy and healthy while other times they’re shaming or critical. How do we cultivate self-talk that is truly helpful and draws us closer to God? Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi - [453 - Beyond Boredom Into Beauty, Intimacy, and Adventure](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/453-beyond-boredom-into-beauty-intimacy-and-adventure/) - This Week on Soul Talks Today's world of smartphones, streaming, and productivity keeps us from ever having to endure boredom. Plus, the restlessness that surfaces when left alone with our thoughts and feelings often reveals a discomfort we'd rather avoid. But constant distraction stops us from engaging in the meaningful spiritual work Jesus accomplishes when - [452 - Spiritual Growth in Marriage (Conversation with Briana Gaultiere)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/452-spiritual-growth-in-marriage-conversation-with-briana-gaultiere/) - This Week on Soul Talks The union of marriage is one way we experience Jesus — his affection, his formation, and his invitation to selfless love. But navigating both our relationship with Jesus and a spouse doesn’t come without challenges. How do we love each other well when walking through different spiritual seasons? Join us - [451 - Cultivating a Healthy Marriage (Conversation with Briana Gaultiere)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/451-cultivating-a-healthy-marriage-conversation-with-briana-gaultiere/) - This Week on Soul Talks Cultivating a marriage that is spiritually, emotionally, and physically healthy takes intentional work. Busy schedules, family dynamics, and personal woundedness (not to mention parenting kiddos) can make this challenging. But you and your spouse can grow closer together as you both grow in Jesus’ wholeness. Tune in for this - [450 - Smartphones and Spiritual Formation (Conversation with Briana Gaultiere)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/450-smartphones-and-spiritual-formation-conversation-with-briana-gaultiere/) - This Week on Soul Talks The average person spends four and a half hours on their smartphone every day! Between text and email notifications, social media, sports news, and “trending” videos — there’s a lot fighting for our attention. Maybe it’s time to pause and ask an important question: What are the spiritual consequences of - [449 - Grieve, Breathe, Receive (Conversation with Steve Carter)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/449-grieve-breathe-receive-conversation-with-steve-carter/) - This Week on Soul Talks Sorting through grief is never fast or easy! All the “what ifs” and messy emotions feel unsettling and challenging to engage. Thankfully, we don’t grieve without hope. Because Jesus’ tomb is empty, we can trust in God’s goodness as we process times of complicated change and painful loss with him. - [448 - Caring for Highly Sensitive People (Conversation with Briana Gaultiere)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/448-caring-for-highly-sensitive-people-conversation-with-briana-gaultiere/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us are in a relationship with somebody who is a highly sensitive person. Sensitivity comes with both unique needs and gifts in marriage, friendship, etc. Whether you are highly sensitive or know somebody who is — you can help support the journey toward spiritual and emotional health. Join - [447 - Emotional & Spiritual Growth for Highly Sensitive People (Conversation with Briana Gaultiere)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/447-emotional-spiritual-growth-for-highly-sensitive-people-conversation-with-briana-gaultiere/) - This Week on Soul Talks Highly sensitive people often relate to the world differently than others. They might be more easily overwhelmed by their environment, the emotions of others, and distressing movies or TV shows. If you are highly sensitive, this experience can present challenges! But embracing your sensitivity helps you care for your soul - [446 - What It Means to Be a Highly Sensitive Person (Conversation with Briana Gaultiere)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/446-what-it-means-to-be-a-highly-sensitive-person-conversation-with-briana-gaultiere/) - This Week on Soul Talks Does it feel like you are more sensitive to your environment, the subtleties of your surroundings, and the emotional climate around you more than others? It can feel confusing or disheartening when you feel different from those you love. But high sensitivity (or understanding someone who experiences this) can be - [445- Enneagram for Moms (Conversation with Beth McCord)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/445-enneagram-for-moms-conversation-with-beth-mccord/) - This Week on Soul Talks Personality affects the dynamics in all of our closest relationships—including our relationships with our kids. Unsurprisingly, we face relational challenges when caring for our dear children who are "different" from us. But we can learn to move toward them with the same understanding, empathy, and compassion Jesus has for us. - [444 - Trusting (and Hopefully Feeling) that God Works ALL Things for Your Good](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/444-trusting-and-hopefully-feeling-that-god-works-all-things-for-your-good/) - This Week on Soul Talks God is good in ALL things! But seeing his goodness can be challenging when we experience suffering, unjustness, or seasons of spiritual dryness. All of us need help to trust our Father’s loving care at times. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi teach you - [443 - When Being a Better Person Feels Out of Reach](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/443-when-being-a-better-person-feels-out-of-reach/) - This Week on Soul Talks Resolving to “try harder” doesn’t make us look more like Jesus. But the flip side of the coin is also true—falling into passivity doesn’t form us in Christlikeness. Yet Jesus casts a vision about living as whole-souled apprentices of love because he intends to help us become like him. Tune - [442 - Intrusive Thoughts, Spiritual Warfare, and Emotional Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/442-intrusive-thoughts-spiritual-warfare-and-emotional-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us experience intrusive thoughts that invade our minds and disturb our peace. The emotions attached to these thoughts can feel alarming and leave us looking for answers. But should we pray against spiritual warfare or seek inner healing and emotional care? Join us for this episode of Soul - [439 - When Following Christ Feels Dutiful](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/439-when-following-christ-feels-dutiful/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us have experienced times when serving Jesus feels like a burdensome duty instead of a joyful delight. This realization feels confusing and concerning—often leading us to rely more heavily on our own abilities and become irritable or exhausted. But Jesus uses the "walls" we hit to invite us - [441 - Simple Ways to Practice Sabbath](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/441-simple-ways-to-practice-sabbath/) - This Week on Soul Talks Keeping a Sabbath is one of the most talked about commandments in the Bible, but it might be the most overlooked. Many people shy away from this practice—they fear it's a legalistic rule or too heavy a burden. Yet the Sabbath is a discipline of delight designed to nourish your - [440 - Sabbath for Families](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/440-sabbath-for-families/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us long for the rest and rhythm of Sabbath. But setting aside an entire day can feel overwhelming and unattainable—especially if you are a parent with young kids. Yet Abba’s heart is that Sabbath would bring blessing into your life instead of adding more burden. Tune in for - [438 - Resilient Leadership Pt 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/438-resilient-leadership-pt-2/) - This Week on Soul Talks A growing apprentice of Jesus walks through many stages in their journey with him. Following our Good Shepherd through change is necessary to know Jesus deeply and become more like him. But wanting to move forward doesn’t always help us get there—it can be unclear where we need to go - [437 - Resilient Leadership Pt 1](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/437-resilient-leadership-pt-1/) - This Week on Soul Talks We don’t sign up to go through trials or crises in our faith, life, or leadership—they just happen! This can leave us feeling dry, worn out, and stuck. Hitting this kind of wall can be dangerous, but it’s also an opportunity to go deeper with Jesus in emotional health and - [436 - Is Self-Love Selfish? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/436-is-self-love-selfish-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us neglect to receive the love and care we need from Jesus because our picture of self-love has been distorted. The Bible’s teachings about selflessness can be easily misunderstood and misapplied. Plus, culture promotes a type of self-love that is detached from Jesus and leads to a fractured - [435 - Is it Codependent to Keep Forgiving? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/435-is-it-codependent-to-keep-forgiving-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Jesus freely forgives our sins and instructs us not to limit the forgiveness we give others. But forgiveness can turn into a codependent relationship when we neglect to express how we really feel and overfunction to help others. This is why learning to handle relational conflict wisely is an important - [305 - Resolving Conflicts with Empathy and Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/305-resolving-conflicts-with-empathy-and-grace/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all experience conflict in our close relationships. When misunderstandings, disagreements, and hurt feelings arise, how do we resolve them? The mistake that we’re most prone to make is to avoid or deflect our emotions. But this only leads to prolonged resentment, anger, and disconnection in relationships. In this Soul - [434 - Is Shame Helpful to Resist Sin? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/434-is-shame-helpful-to-resist-sin-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks It is confusing to hear "shame on you" after doing something wrong. Agreeing with shame seems like it will motivate us in the battle against sin, but it only reinforces the lie that we are "bad people" and leads to more temptation. Thankfully, Jesus forms us to be and act - [433 - Is Addiction Sinful? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/433-is-addiction-sinful-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Those dealing with addiction can get categorized as bad people. Addiction certainly leads to sinful behavior, but to say those struggling are “just sinners” is a gross oversimplification. It is more accurate to call addiction a disease because most people don’t want to be addicted—they are formed with deep, habitual - [432 - Is Depression a Lack of Faith? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/432-is-depression-a-lack-of-faith-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Depression makes us feel like we are walking around in a heavy darkness that will never get better. Judging our faith—or receiving criticism from others—only worsens the suffocating pit of sadness and grief. Thankfully, our Good Shepherd knows how to lead us through the darkest valleys. Tune in for this - [254-Immanuel Journaling - A Soul Talk With Sungshim Loppnow](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/254-immanuel-journaling-a-soul-talk-with-sungshim-loppnow/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: God’s presence is real and active, but we don’t always experience it like we want to in the midst of life’s painful moments. Immanuel journaling is a spiritual practice that invites you to experience God’s empathy and nearness. Kristi sits down with Sungshim Loppnow, creator of Immanuel Journaling,… - [431 - Is Anxiety a Lack of Faith? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/431-is-anxiety-a-lack-of-faith-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us are familiar with the “control disease” called anxiety. Some of us attempt to rule over outcomes while others try to manage their image. But anxiety isn’t a conscious choice—it happens when we deny our emotions brewing under the surface and get overloaded. Join us for this episode - [430 - Is Fear a Lack of Faith? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/430-is-fear-a-lack-of-faith-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Sadly, many of us have been taught that fear is wrong or even a sin. A faulty or incomplete interpretation of certain scriptures can lead us to stuff our fears, force ourselves to think positively, and try hard to muster up faith. Rest assured, there is a better route to - [429 - Is Church Good for Mental Health? (Mental Health & Faith)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/429-is-church-good-for-mental-health-mental-health-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks For many, church has had both helpful and harmful effects on mental health. Sadly, church hurt leads some to give up completely on Jesus’ body. However, studies show that church is positive overall for mental health as God uses his family to bring healing and growth to his beloved children. - [428 - The Benefits of Caring for Your Body as God’s Temple](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/428-the-benefits-of-caring-for-your-body-as-gods-temple/) - This Week on Soul Talks It’s common to think life with Jesus should be centered only around activities perceived as “spiritual”—devotions, prayer, going to church, etc. But healthy and whole apprenticeship to Jesus is an integrated life in Christ! This includes engaging and caring for our physical bodies to love God, ourselves, and others like - [427 - Sacrificing Too Much? Let God's Love Woo You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/427-sacrificing-too-much-let-gods-love-woo-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks The idea of abandoning ourselves to God can feel scary. Our broken and wounded parts unconsciously hesitate to surrender, unsure how safe it is to trust the Lord with everything. Thankfully, Abba leads the way! He sacrificially abandoned himself to us in love by giving his One and Only Son. - [426 - How to Resist the Quicksand of a Bad Mood](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/426-how-to-resist-the-quicksand-of-a-bad-mood/) - This Week on Soul Talks It’s easy to sink deeper into negative feelings until a bad mood becomes a lousy day or depressing season. Plus, our melancholy moods can drag others into the quicksand with us! Thankfully, Jesus extends his strong and gentle hand to pull us out of this destructive downward spiral. Join us - [425 - The Spiritual Practice of Storytelling (A Conversation with Dr. Barbara Peacock)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/425-the-spiritual-practice-of-storytelling-a-conversation-with-dr-barbara-peacock/) - This Week on Soul Talks Jesus told powerful stories! He invites us, also, to draw closer to God through the practice of storytelling. It can feel scary to uncover past wounds and questions as we attempt to make sense of our journey. But our Redeemer desires to restore us by helping us see God’s story - [424 - The Benefits of Setting Your Imagination on Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/424-the-benefits-of-setting-your-imagination-on-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all know the harm our imaginations can do when we live into stories that fall short of God’s best for our lives. But creative thinking can also be a powerful tool in your apprenticeship to Christ. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi - [423 - Is Jesus' Incarnation as Big a Suffering as His Cross?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/423-is-jesus-incarnation-as-big-a-suffering-as-his-cross/) - This Week on Soul Talks God is reaching out to us in innumerable ways, but the greatest demonstration of his love is through the Incarnation. We often reflect on Jesus’ suffering on the cross but may overlook the suffering he also endured living among us. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [422 - For Type A Leaders and the Spouses Who Love Them](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/422-for-type-a-leaders-and-the-spouses-who-love-them/) - This Week on Soul Talks Type A and Type B leaders can be on different wavelengths with opposing priorities and needs. While this may often result in conflict, there is also deeply important work to be done to learn and grow from these differences. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and - [421 - Surprised by Grace in Hard Times](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/421-surprised-by-grace-in-hard-times/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all face difficult circumstances at some point in our lives. Even though they may not be what we would choose, they provide us the opportunity for deeper formation in Christlikeness. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss enduring discipline. While we may - [157 - Enneagram: What You Don’t See in Your Personality](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/157-enneagram-what-you-dont-see-in-your-personality/) - The Enneagram is a tool that can help us see our dysfunction, sin, and unhealthy coping mechanisms. God wants to show us the truth about ourselves and look at the parts of ourselves that is sinful so that we can repent and experience true freedom. Join Bill and Kristi as they further unpack each types’ “signature sin” and the pathway to repentance. - [420 - Real Community is Possible for You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/420-real-community-is-possible-for-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks Real community is critical for the care of our souls. When you press into Jesus with your needs and join with others doing the same, your intimacy with Jesus grows and you find space for your soul to rest. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [419 - Surprising Sweetness in Suffering](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/419-surprising-sweetness-in-suffering/) - This Week on Soul Talks Suffering is hard. When we face an unexpected stretch of illness or other difficult circumstances, we may feel disoriented and lost. Yet in the pause from our normal rhythm of life, God is doing a deep work. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi - [418 - The Enneagram & Marriage - A Conversation with Jackie Brewster](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/418-the-enneagram-marriage-a-conversation-with-jackie-brewster/) - This Week on Soul Talks How can the Enneagram help your marriage? The Enneagram is a beautiful tool for growth when it’s used in the right way. Increasing your understanding of yourself and your spouse strengthens your relationship so you can grow together. Tune in to Soul Talks as Kristi interviews author, Enneagram coach, podcast - [417 - Lessons From an Old Russian Spiritual Director](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/417-lessons-from-an-old-russian-spiritual-director/) - This Week on Soul Talks Older devotional classics enliven our hunger for God and help us recognize our desperation for Jesus. Reading stories of average people powerfully transformed and used by God encourages our faith and deepens our intimacy with Jesus. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi share insights - [416 - Q&A on Earning a Certificate in Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/416-qa-on-earning-a-certificate-in-spiritual-direction/) - This Week on Soul Talks Are you longing to go deeper with Jesus in emotional health and loving leadership? Joyful, anointed by God, overflow ministry goes beyond techniques. It’s a rhythm of life and a way of being with God and others in relationship. Tune in to this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and - [415 - What it's Like to Earn a Certificate in Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/415-what-its-like-to-earn-a-certificate-in-spiritual-direction/) - This Week on Soul Talks Do you long for more in your relationship with God and from your relationships in ministry? Spiritual direction can foster your formation in intimacy with Jesus, and out of the overflow of your own growth, help others experience the same thing. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as - [414 - The Joy of Living in Perpetual Wonder](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/414-the-joy-of-living-in-perpetual-wonder/) - This Week on Soul Talks In life, the journey is as important as the destination. While goals and resolutions are important, focusing so much on outcomes can cause us to lose sight of God’s work around us. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss the joy of living in - [413 - Real Hope for a Better Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/413-real-hope-for-a-better-life/) - This Week on Soul Talks In a culture full of wishes for a better life, true hope is much more than wishful thinking. Robust, Biblical hope is the anticipation of the goodness and truth of God in our lives. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore the impact of - [412 - How to Care for the Soul of a Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/412-how-to-care-for-the-soul-of-a-leader/) - This Week on Soul Talks God entrusts us with an eternal soul and we need to strengthen our souls in the Lord. To serve out of the overflow of God’s grace to us rather than our own strength, we need to cultivate our intimacy with God and pursue cycles of spiritual renewal. Join us for - [411 - Advent and the End Times - Jesus' Empathy and Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/411-advent-and-the-end-times-jesus-empathy-and-hope/) - This Week on Soul Talks Advent is a time of looking back at Jesus’ first coming and ahead to his second coming. But some aspects of the end times may feel frightening when we consider possible future suffering or lack of control. How do we draw on Jesus’ empathy and hope? Tune in to this - [410 - A Very Present Help - Amy Carmichael](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/410-a-very-present-help-amy-carmichael/) - This Week on Soul Talks Seasons of unanswered prayers, difficulty, and confusion can feel like walking through the mist of an unknown future. But joy, peace, love, meaning, and purposefulness are possible even when our future is unclear if we center our confidence in Jesus. Tune in to this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [409 — Returning to Joy and Peace in Holiday Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/409-returning-to-joy-and-peace-in-holiday-stress/) - This Week on Soul Talks The pace of our modern world is constant hurry and excitement. But rhythms of both high stimulation in joy and returning to quieter times of peace, safety, and rest are crucial for shalom. We get more joy from doing less. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [408 — Expectations and Hopes in Holiday Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/408-expectations-and-hopes-in-holiday-stress/) - This Week on Soul Talks The holidays are full of expectations and hopes, but we may not even be aware of some of our expectations until they aren’t met. During this season of heightened activity and stress, it is possible to keep our hopes fixed firmly on Jesus. Join us for this episode of - [407 — Limits and Love in Holiday Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/407-limits-and-love-in-holiday-stress/) - This Week on Soul Talks “More” is often the theme of this season — more gatherings, more celebrations, more shopping, and more activities! But too much of a good thing can be stressful, and setting limits is key. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss boundaries around the holidays. - [406 -Enjoying Advent—Even in the Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/406-enjoying-advent-even-in-the-stress/) - This Week on Soul Talks During Advent, we love celebrating with friends and family while also enjoying silence and solitude. You can experience greater depth and intimacy with Jesus during Advent by meditating on the biblical accounts of Christ’s birth even during stressful circumstances. Join us as we revisit this episode of Soul Talks as - [405 — Emotional Enmeshment, Boundaries, and Compassion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/405-emotional-enmeshment-boundaries-and-compassion/) - This Week on Soul Talks As soul shepherds, we can lose ourselves while caring for others. Maintaining our identity and boundaries and avoiding enabling, rescuing, and co-dependence is crucial for healthy relationships. Tune in to this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss enmeshment and boundaries. Growing in emotional intelligence helps you create - [404 — Grief Reactions, Repressed Emotions, and Empathy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/404-grief-reactions-repressed-emotions-and-empathy/) - This Week on Soul Talks Powerful emotions like grief can feel overwhelming, especially if you are not used to recognizing or processing your feelings. But you don’t have to stay stuck in painful emotions! You can learn to have your emotions serve you rather than control you. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks - [403 — Come Alive in Spiritual Direction: Enneagram Nine Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/403-come-alive-in-spiritual-direction-enneagram-nine-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks Peacemakers who tune into the needs of others have a vision for bringing harmony and collaboration to their relationships. But sometimes the desire for peace can cause you to fall asleep to your own needs and avoid stress and conflict. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [402 — Enjoying Spiritual Friendship: Enneagram Eight Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/402-enjoying-spiritual-friendship-enneagram-eight-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks Energetic and dynamic personalities who are confident and bold influence and impact others as leaders. Yet you may resist vulnerability, using your strength to protect yourself. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore soul care for Enneagram Eights — spiritual friendship. If you are - [401 — Quiet Prayer for Deeper Joy - Surprising Soul Care for Sevens and Everyone](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/401-quiet-prayer-for-deeper-joy-enneagram-seven-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks Joyful enthusiasts are exceptional at creating and spreading happiness and fun among those they love. Yet you may also misuse enthusiasm and charisma to avoid anxiety, pain, and conflict. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss soul care for Enneagram Sevens — quiet prayer. - [400 — Peace for Your Busy Brain: Enneagram Six Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/400-peace-for-your-busy-brain-enneagram-six-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks Practical thinkers who are effective multitaskers look out for the well-being of others. Yet underneath, you may struggle with fear and worry, looking for security and safety nets. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore soul care practices to quiet the busy brain of - [399 — Bible Study as Worship: Enneagram Five Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/399-bible-study-as-worship-enneagram-five-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks Thinkers and analyzers are often keen observers who ask insightful questions. However, approaching your life primarily through analysis without emotional awareness can be an unhealthy way of coping with anxiety. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi unpack soul care for Enneagram Fives — Bible - [398 — The Blessing of Thankfulness: Enneagram Four Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/398-the-blessing-of-thankfulness-enneagram-four-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks If you are a deep feeler, sometimes living in melancholy emotions can cause you to lose sight of your positive emotions. Being able to find words for emotions is a gift, but our own deep emotions are not the only thing that is authentic about us. Join us for this - [397 — Being Real to Grow in Grace: Enneagram Three Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/397-being-real-to-grow-in-grace-enneagram-three-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks Being successful and winning appeals to all of us, but when this becomes a measure of our worth we are imprisoned by our false self. Living up to conditions of worth can suffocate your soul and lead to burnout. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and - [396 — Solitude Supports Self-Esteem- Enneagram Two Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/396-solitude-supports-self-esteem-enneagram-two-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all need to be loved. For Enneagram Twos, the deep core belief that you aren’t loved or wanted can drive you to secure love from others by focusing on meeting their needs while denying your own. If you are a Two or connect to Two through a wing, line, - [395 — Letting Go Fosters Joy: Enneagram One Soul Care](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/395-letting-go-fosters-joy-enneagram-one-soul-care/) - This Week on Soul Talks As leaders and soul shepherds, we seek to be responsible and do our best. But the wisdom of God is to do your best, but don’t trust your best! Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss abandoning outcomes to God, the primary soul care - [394 — The Blessing of Immersive Retreats for All Enneagram Types](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/394-the-blessing-of-immersive-retreats-for-all-enneagram-types/) - This Week on Soul Talks Stepping outside of our normal routines and habits of life to draw close to the Lord in retreat fosters incredible healing, growth, and life change. These extended windows of time allow you to explore your hurts, hopes, dysfunctions, and needs. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [393 — Devotion to Jesus in Your Enneagram Type](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/393-devotion-to-jesus-in-your-enneagram-type/) - This Week on Soul Talks Reading the classics of devotion to Jesus is an incredible source of encouragement for our faith. When a devotional classic highlights lessons and struggles by someone with our Enneagram type, the impact is even more profound. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore a - [392 — Appreciating Jesus in Your Enneagram Type](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/392-appreciating-jesus-in-your-enneagram-type/) - This Week on Soul Talks Cultivating our enthrallment with Jesus is so important because we are shaped by what we love. For all nine Enneagram types, the Gospels show us Jesus as the healthy and holy perfection of our type. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi reveal Jesus as - [391 — Waking Up to the Emotional Alarm of Your Enneagram Type](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/391-waking-up-to-the-emotional-alarm-of-your-enneagram-type/) - This Week on Soul Talks Each Enneagram type has a unique emotional alarm that is an unconscious behavior pattern. This alarm helps us identify the lie from the enemy that we have believed in the area we are most vulnerable. Tune into this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi discuss the power of - [390 — Don't Be Charmed to Death by Your Enneagram Type](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/390-dont-be-charmed-to-death-by-your-enneagram-type/) - This Week on Soul Talks Our personality can charm us when we only focus on its positive aspects and remain unaware of our needs and the unconscious areas where we are broken or dysfunctional. These ways of coping work for a while, but ultimately limit our growth and health in Jesus. Join us for this - [389 — Your Enneagram Map to Accepting Your Needs](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/389-your-enneagram-map-to-accepting-your-needs/) - This Week on Soul Talks We each have habitual approaches to securing ourselves that come out of our unhealthy selves. When we learn to recognize these false messages operating in the background of our activities, we grow in awareness of our own needs and emotions. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill - [388 — Your Enneagram Map to Greater Joy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/388-your-enneagram-map-to-greater-joy/) - This Week on Soul Talks Much of our personalities are unconscious and habitual defense mechanisms and coping patterns for dealing with pain, problems, and sin, causing us to miss God’s love and grace. The power of the Enneagram as a tool is to help us grow in self-awareness so we can receive God’s grace in - [387- Enneagram for Intimacy with Jesus and Emotional Health](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/387-enneagram-for-intimacy-with-jesus-and-emotional-health/) - This Week on Soul Talks Our journey of self-awareness is intertwined with our journey of knowing God. Having language to describe our experiences and understand ourselves and others helps us to love God and love our neighbor as ourselves. This knowledge opens the door for repentance and personal growth. Tune in for this episode of - [386 - Is the Enneagram Safe for Christians?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/386-is-the-enneagram-safe-for-christians/) - This Week on Soul Talks Perhaps you have been curious about the Enneagram, but wonder about its origins and symbol. As Christians we ask questions of any tool we use — is this consistent with the teachings and values of the Bible? Is it helping me in my relationship with God? Is this helping me - [151 - Enneagram: Expressing Your True Self (Peacemaker Type)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/151-enneagram-expressing-your-true-self-peacemaker-type/) - Do you resonate with the Peacemaker type or know someone who does? Join Bill and Kristi as they have an engaging dialogue with their daughter, Briana, on how the Enneagram has helped her to grow in her self awareness and in her intimacy with Jesus. - [152 - Enneagram: Dealing with Conflict (Peacemaker Type)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/152-enneagram-dealing-with-conflict-peacemaker-type/) - Peacemaker types are gifted at recognizing how others see the world but may have difficulty seeing their own needs and wants. Join Bill and Kristi as they continue to draw from their daughter Briana and how the Enneagram has helped her identify areas of growth and stress points. - [153 - Enneagram: Self-Acceptance (Heart Types)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/153-enneagram-self-acceptance-heart-types/) - Many pastors, helpers, and care givers may resonate with the heart types. They are good at tuning into other people’s emotions while being sensitive to their own emotions. Kristi shares her journey as a “helper” type and how the enneagram has helped her process shame and find acceptance in God. - [154 - Enneagram: Relaxing Your Control (Gut Types)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/154-enneagram-relaxing-your-control-gut-types/) - The basic emotional posture for the gut type is anger. Depending on your specific type, it may come out as aggression, passive-aggressive, or resentment. Bill shares how the enneagram has helped him to process anger as an indicator of stress and find pathways for relaxation. - [155 - Enneagram: Quieting Your Mind (Head Types)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/155-enneagram-quieting-your-mind-head-types/) - Anxiety is the basic emotional posture of the head types. Some of us may rely on getting more information, or finding the right people, or simply get distracted with pleasures in order to avoid the feeling of anxiety. Join Bill and Kristi as they identify the unique challenges of each type and share how they can take their anxiety to Jesus. - [159 - Enneagram: Anger & Love (Challenger Type)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/159-enneagram-anger-love-challenger-type/) - Challenger types (#8) on the Enneagram tend to be vocal and thrive on making impact as leaders. David in the Bible could be an 8 as he challenged Goliath and became King while learning to become vulnerable in his weaknesses (Ps. 51). Join Bill and special guest Bobby Schuller, from the Hour of Power, as they unpack the growth and stress points of the challenger type. - [160 - Enneagram: You Are Beloved](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/160-enneagram-you-are-beloved/) - This is part 2 of our conversation with Bobby Schuller. Join us as Bill and Bobby continue to unpack how the Enneagram can help us live into our identity as the Beloved. - [385 - Hold That Thought: Conversation With Gem Fadling to Find the Voice of Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/385-hold-that-thought-conversation-with-gem-fadling-to-find-the-voice-of-love/) - This Week on Soul Talks Our thoughts influence how we feel and act, and some of the thoughts in our heads can keep us from fully embracing God’s life and love for us. Allowing all of these narratives to remain unchecked can hinder our growth, but there is hope for us to quiet the noise - [384 - Good & Beautiful & Kind: Conversation With Rich Villodas on Becoming Whole in a Fractured World](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/384-good-beautiful-kind-conversation-with-rich-villodas-on-becoming-whole-in-a-fractured-world/) - This Week on Soul Talks Our stories are powerful. We make sense of our own soul stories as we find ourselves in God and his story becomes our story. Living reflectively, engaging curiosity, and cultivating a calm presence requires slowing down in our ordinary, day to day existence, so our story is woven together with - [383 - What to Do for Real Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/383-what-to-do-for-real-rest/) - This Week on Soul Talks Weariness, compassion fatigue, and burnout are the natural result of statistics like these: 44% of pastors are not taking a regular day off, let alone a sabbath day, 63% are not getting enough exercise based on the recommended minimum, 31% get no exercise at all, and 85% of pastors have - [382 - Mental Health Benefits of Real Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/382-mental-health-benefits-of-real-rest/) - This Week on Soul Talks Spiritual rest in God’s presence is so important for our mental health. Yet sometimes we avoid true rest because we fear the influx of unprocessed emotional distress that rises up when we create space to slow down. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi examine - [381 - Should I See a Therapist or Spiritual Director?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/381-should-i-see-a-therapist-or-spiritual-director/) - This Week on Soul Talks How is therapy different from spiritual direction? How do I know which one I need? Understanding the difference is important, especially when there are not enough professionals to meet the growing mental health need. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi explore the distinctives and - [380 - Mental Health Benefits of Spiritual Disciplines](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/380-metal-health-benefits-of-spiritual-disciplines/) - This Week on Soul Talks We can use spiritual disciplines in ways that are healing and helpful or in ways that are ineffective and toxic for our mental health. If we deny or negate our emotions, disciplines are not helpful because they disconnect our deeper self from God and from other people. Tune in for - [379 - Caring for Anxiety & Panic Attacks](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/379-caring-for-anxiety-panic-attacks/) - This Week on Soul Talks When anxiety grips us, it can feel like the walls are closing in. Anxiety disorders affect 31% of Americans, and all of us will experience anxiety and stress overload at some point in our lives. Even though this feels like an inescapable part of life, it is possible to experience - [378 - Understanding Depression](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/378-understanding-depression/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many Christians are told their depression is a lack of faith, and if they only think differently and trust God their depression will go away. This sort of shaming holds us back from getting the help we need. Mental health conditions affect our ability to access our insight, intelligence, and - [377 - Is Suicide a Sin? Offering Compassion and Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/377-is-suicide-a-sin-offering-compassion-and-hope/) - This Week on Soul Talks Suicide is an issue that isn’t often discussed in church. Yet it is the 12th leading cause of death in the US and the 3rd leading cause of death for ages 10-19. As soul shepherds, we have an opportunity to compassionately love those struggling with mental health challenges, and most - [376 — Finding Shelter From the Enemy in Jesus’ Face](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/376-finding-shelter-from-the-enemy-in-jesus-face/) - This Week on Soul Talks When you picture Jesus looking at you, do you see a smile? Many of us find we project a frown or a distant look on the face of God. But Jesus’ shining face is looking at you with a smile of love, and you can learn to see it! Join - [375 - Refuting Half Truths From the Enemy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/375-refuting-half-truths-from-the-enemy/) - This Week on Soul Talks Areas of stress are opportunities for the enemy to drive us down. The father of lies takes something that is true and twists it into a half-truth with a lie embedded in it, hitting us right in the most vulnerable parts of our personality. Yet, with God as our shield, - [374 - Resisting the Enemy's Accusations](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/374-resisting-the-enemys-accusations/) - This Week on Soul Talks Each day we experience the accusations and lies of the enemy that target our specific areas of weakness and bury us in fear, anxiety, resentment, shame, and isolation. Yet scripture tells us we are safe when we submit to God Almighty, our Creator and Redeemer, and resist the devil. Join - [373 — Loving & Leading With the Risen Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/373-loving-leading-with-the-risen-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks You don’t have to be perfect. God often does his best work of grace telling the story of Jesus through our brokenness. As he meets us right where we are, we can learn to move from the cycle of works to the cycle of grace. Join us for this episode - [372—A Life-Changing Journey For You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/372-a-life-changing-journey-for-you/) - This Week on Soul Talks Have you ever wondered if your current experience of spiritual life is all there is? Seasons of feeling distant and dry can be reframed as opportunities for a journey of deeper intimacy with God as you come to understand the stages of spiritual growth. Tune in for this episode of - [371 - Living Immersed in God's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/371-living-immersed-in-gods-presence/) - This Week on Soul Talks As Jesus’ apprentices, we have an invitation to live a life that is immersed in God’s presence. But sometimes we default to serving him out of our own strength or trying to earn his love without realizing it. When we focus on our enthrallment with Jesus, we return to live - [370 - Loving Others By Loving Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/370-loving-others-by-loving-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks We tend to focus our attention and effort on our skills in ministry and the needs of those around us. Yet there is another way to encourage others to draw close to the Lord — through cultivating our own devotion to Jesus. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks - [369 — Jesus Feels For You at the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/369-jesus-feels-for-you-at-the-cross/) - This Week on Soul Talks Shame has many colors, variations, and related emotions. We see in Jesus' cross journey that he is unforsaken by God and we are unforsaken by God in our sin and shame. He invites us to bring all of our needs to him because he is our shame-taker. Join us for - [368 — Jesus' Cross is For You Everyday](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/368-jesus-cross-is-for-you-everyday/) - This Week on Soul Talks When we think about Jesus on the cross, we may only feel pain and shame for our sin and inadequacies. Yet Jesus chose to draw close to us in his humanity to reveal his great love for us! Tune into this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi unpack - [104 - Rest: The Importance of Rest for Healthy Identity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-importance-rest-healthy-identity/) - If our identity is rooted in what we do for Jesus rather than our relationship with him, we are tempted to be discouraged, overwhelmed, overworked and self-reliant. How do we allow ourselves to be real, vulnerable, honest with ourselves, with Jesus and with others and receive the rest we were designed for. Join Bill & Kristi in a beautifully honest conversation about our identity as Jesus invites us to rest in him. - [314 - Taking Courage to Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/314-taking-courage-to-hope/) - This Week on Soul Talks It can be scary and intimidating to hope. In fact, we often shrink ourselves and our lives in fear of disappointment. If we hope and things don’t turn out well, we can feel lost, sad, or like our faith isn’t strong enough. But in the waiting, God is doing great - [330 - Suffering, Empathy, and Returning Joy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/330-suffering-empathy-and-returning-joy/) - This Week on Soul Talks Some of us are enduring chronic pain or suffering that can be exhausting. We may struggle to accept our own grief, loss, and lament around difficult circumstances that drain us of life and joy. But even in the midst of these trials, sharing our true emotions with soul friends can - [320 - The Power of Vulnerable Communication](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/320-the-power-of-vulnerable-communication/) - This Week on Soul Talks Being open and honest in sharing our thoughts and emotions takes courage, and can be intimidating. But Jesus is calling us out of our comfort zones and into this vulnerable space through safe relationships, because ultimately it leads us into greater intimacy with him! Join Bill and Kristi for this Soul - [311 - How to Help Others Who Are Doubting Their Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/311-help-others-doubting-their-faith/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many who deconstruct their faith do so because they feel it's not working for them, or it's not working for the people that they see; They’ve experienced a trial, been hurt, or had upheaval in their lives. Maybe you know someone going through this. Maybe, it’s you. To have doubts, - [315 - Is Faith Real if You Don't Feel It?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/315-is-faith-real-if-you-dont-feel-it/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us have experienced times in our lives that we have not felt God’s love and presence as deeply or as apparently as other times. It can leave us discombobulated and discouraged, asking ourselves, “Is my faith real if I don’t feel it?” In these times of doubt, the - [263 - Great Joy in Each Stage With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/263-great-joy-in-each-stage-with-jesus/) - In Jesus' divinity and humanity, he journeyed with the Father through stages of faith. He is our model. In this episode, Bill and Kristi walk through the ways that Jesus journeyed through each of the CHRIST stages. Grow in your faith as you see more deeply how Jesus engaged his human life with joy and trust in the Father! - [323 - The Blessing of Spirit-Led Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/323-the-blessing-of-spirit-led-ministry/) - This Week on Soul Talks When we're serving God with our gifts, it can be easier than we think to become overly dependent on our own abilities and energy without realizing it. In his graciousness, the Lord then often uses periods of trials or waiting to draw us into deeper intimacy with him and to - [262 - Grace for All People's Journey](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/262-grace-for-all-peoples-journey/) - Bill and Kristi's new book, Journey of the Soul, helps you name where you are in your relationship with God, whose love for you is unconditional. Their model of spiritual growth seeks to show God's goodness and grace, which is for everyone! Listen in and take your next step on the journey. - [267 - Journey of the Soul (The Wall)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/267-journey-of-the-soul-the-wall/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi discuss the painful experience of the Wall, where God seems distant and it can be difficult to trust his presence in our lives. Bill and Kristi are well-acquainted with this stage of the spiritual journey and offer great compassion, encouragement, and insight into the sacred… - [176 - Imagine: Bible Reading that Blesses Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/176-imagine-bible-reading-that-blesses-your-soul/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: God has given us a vivid and powerful imagination! Many years ago, Ignatius was led to read the Gospel stories with his own imagination. Through this, God completely transformed Ignatius’ heart and used Him to impact many people with his method of reading the Scriptures. Bill and - [175- If God is Angry it’s Loving](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/175-if-god-is-angry-its-loving/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: What does it look like to have anger that is governed by love? Jesus models for us healthy anger that is not reactive. His anger is always rooted in love and compassion. Jesus' loving anger leads him to defend those around Him that are being mistreated. Join - [174 - Is God Angry?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/174-is-god-angry/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: What do you do with anger? Many of us have misconceptions about anger, that can lead us to a place of shame. Join Bill & Kristi as they have an honest conversation that explores the importance of processing our anger, and what it looks like when anger - [173 - Re-Form: Jesus Therapy For Addiction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/173-re-form-jesus-therapy-for-addiction/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: God wants to meet us wherever we are at. He wants us to experience healing from what we are struggling with. Bill shares a story he talked about at the Soul Shepherding Institute. He shares of his time working with a pastor who had come to him - [172 - Re-Form: Repairing Emotions, Relationships, & Habits](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/172-re-form-repairing-emotions-relationships-habits/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Join Bill and Kristi as they share a great excerpt of teaching from the Soul Shepherding Institute. Spiritual Formation is relational and personal. The way we respond and react to even the small, daily experiences in our lives affect our formation. Bill and Kristi each share how - [171 - Re-Form: Emotional Growth is Spiritual](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/171-re-form-emotional-growth-is-spiritual/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: It is important to give ourselves space to think and process our life and Jesus’ teachings but it also important to understand our emotions connected to it. Join Bill and Kristi as they talk about the power of emotions and how valuable they are in our formation - [170 - Re-Form: Empowered by Grace, Free of Straining](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/170-re-form-empowered-by-grace-free-of-straining/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Do you feel worn out and exhausted trying to perform and please? Jesus does not ask us to perform for Him, He asks us to take up His easy yoke that He has perfectly designed for us. Join Bill and Kristi as they share their personal stories - [169 - Re-Form: Easy Yoke Disciplines](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/169-re-form-easy-yoke-disciplines/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks In this episode Bill and Kristi share more about the Soul Shepherding Institute and their heart behind why they do it. They also share an excerpt of the teaching from the Institute on discipleship. This teaching dives into what it truly means to be a disciple of - [168 - Re-Form: The Jesus Mentor (Dallas Willard’s Influence)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/168-re-form-the-jesus-mentor-dallas-willards-influence/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks In the Bible, the apostle Paul said to the people in his day, ‘Follow me as I follow Christ.’ We all need people in our lives that are clearly living out the true love and ministry of Jesus. We need a mentor to walk through life with - [167 - E-Soul: Your Face of Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/167-e-soul-your-face-of-christ/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Do you want to daily reflect Christ and point others to Him? Bill and Kristi talk about reflecting the face of Christ in our everyday lives. The challenge can sometimes be the broken areas of our personalities that get in the way, but God's beautiful grace helps - [166 - E-Soul: How to Thrive in Your Intelligence Center](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/25426/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We are each so uniquely made by God. Do you often wonder about how you can better connect with God and others in a healthy and loving way? God wants to meet us where we're at and in the unique way he made each of us. Bill - [119 - Courage: Success is Not Sufficient](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/119-courage-success-is-not-sufficient/) - We all want to be a success, but we often lose track of what that really means. Jesus has a different definition of success. When we exchange our definition for his, it brings relief, freedom and joy! In this episode, Bill & Kristi explore significance of letting go and receiving Jesus easy yoke, and the true success of ministering out of the overflow of Jesus love for us! - [118 - Courage: Failure is Not Fatal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/118-courage-failure-is-not-fatal/) - In their ministry to pastors and leaders, Bill & Kristi have been amazed how many find themselves feeling like they are failing in ministry and in life! Whether we are “feeling” as though we failed, or we have in fact failed at something, in Christ, failure is not fatal! Join Bill & Kristi in a vulnerable, honest conversation on what it means to receive empathy from Jesus and how beautiful the redemption is when we trust him. - [117 - DALLAS WILLARD: Wounded Healer For Criticism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dallas-willard-wounded-healer-for-criticism/) - Bill & Kristi continue their conversation about Dallas Willard a wounded healer, focusing on the pain of criticism. Criticism will easily give way to condemnation, but “There is therefore now no condemnation in Christ Jesus!” Dallas’ life was a loving example of how to respond and turn criticism from others into compassion, becoming a conduit of the healing love of Christ! - [116 - DALLAS WILLARD: Wounded Healer For Rejection](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dallas-willard-wounded-healer-for-rejection/) - You might be surprised to hear that Dallas Willard was a wounded healer. In this episode Bill & Kristi look to the life of their beloved mentor, and the brokenness and humanity that formed him as a wounded healer. Dallas’ life demonstrates how a broken life surrendered is an opportunity for the love of God to manifest to those around us. - [115 - Selah: Life Without Lack Psalm 23](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/selah-life-without-lack-psalm-23/) - Sit back, relax, and join Bill & Kristin in a prayer meditation on Psalm 23 taken from Dallas Willard’s meditation in his book Life Without Lack. - [114 - DALLAS WILLARD: When Ministry-aholics Relax With Jesus Part 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dallas-willard-when-ministry-aholics-relax-with-jesus-part-2/) - The anticipated conclusion of Bill & Kristi’s vulnerable conversation reflecting on their own journey in ministry and the challenges of finding balance in the pursuit of Jesus and the work of the ministry. This is part 2 of a 2 part conversation inspired by Dallas Willard’s new book, Life Without Lack: Living in the Fullness of Psalm 23. - [113 - DALLAS WILLARD: When Ministry-aholics Relax With Jesus Part 1](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dallas-willard-when-ministry-aholics-relax-with-jesus-part-1/) - Have you wrestled with an addiction to ministry? Bill & Kristi have a vulnerable conversation reflecting on their own journey in ministry and the challenges of finding balance in the pursuit of Jesus and the work of the ministry. This is part 1 of a 2 part conversation inspired by Dallas Willard’s new book, Life Without Lack: Living in the Fullness of Psalm 23. - [112 - Selah: Psalm 23](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/selah-psalm-23/) - Take a moment and receive this loving, soul refreshing meditation on Psalm 23 led by Kristi. - [111 - Dallas Willard - Life Without Lack](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dallas-willard-life-without-lack/) - “The nearness of God is my good!” (Psalm 73:28) This is the message in Dallas Willard’s new book, Life Without Lack: Living in the Fullness of Psalm 23. Join Bill & Kristi in this new series, as they share life lessons from their beloved mentor Dallas. Today’s episode we are reminded that through Christ, we have all that we need! - [110 - Living Into Your Resurrection](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/living-into-your-resurrection/) - After seeing the movie I Can Only Imagine, Bill & Kristi unpack the powerful and honest journey portrayed. The miraculous takes place when we allow the light of Jesus into the dark and difficult places in our lives. There is freedom and healing that comes when we trust Christ and his ambassadors in our lives to help us to fully receive his love and redemption. - [109 - Shame-Free at the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/shame-free-at-the-cross/) - As we head into holy week and reflect on Jesus death on the cross, it is easy to find ourselves in a place of guilt and shame over our sin. Jesus knows us intimately and he never shames us! Join Bill & Kristi as they explore the miraculous love of Christ and lead us to fix our eyes on Jesus! - [108 - Immanuel Journaling](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/immanuel-journaling/) - “I’m fine,” we say. Men especially do this to be “strong” — much to the disappointment of family and friends (especially women!) who want more connection. Burying emotions is actually a weakness that disrupts life and ministry. Bill Gaultiere and John Loppnow, fellow pastors and counselors, share how they connect with their emotions and with God. John introduces “Immanuel Journaling” as a tool for self-awareness and prayer. - [107 - When Unconscious Trauma Causes Conflict](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/when-unconscious-trauma-causes-conflict/) - Emotion is an big part of who we are and how we relate to God and one another. Making the connection between ourself, our experiences our hurts today and those we encountered as a child is critical. Our willingness to recognize those connections can be life changing. Bill & Kristi share the power recognizing the impact of emotional trauma has in bringing wholeness and healing. - [106 - Feeling Inadequate at Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/feeling-inadequate-prayer/) - Have you ever found yourself feeling that you are falling short in your prayer life? It’s so easy to end up in a place of self-condemnation and discouragement. Bill & Kristi lead us to discover the beauty of surrendering to the Lord in prayer, allowing him to be our shepherd, and leaning into our dependance on Him. - [105 - Rest: When Rest Doesn’t Feel Restful!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-rest-doesnt-feel-restful/) - When we try to rest, it is so easy to be overwhelmed with the things in our life that feel undone! We begin to judge ourselves and feel guilty for even trying to rest, and are tempted to get busy to make ourselves feel better. Join Bill and Kristi in a honesty conversation on the challenges we all face when learning to enter into real rest. - [103 - Lent Is Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/lent-is-love/) - On the cross God is not rejecting Jesus! The Father is not looking away with disgust as Jesus bears our sin. Love is not defeated by evil. The eternal attitude of God toward Jesus is: “You are my beloved son and in you I am well pleased!” Matt 3:17, 17:5.) Because of Christ you can know God’s lavishly generous attitude toward you and every person on the planet: “You are my lovely daughter and I delight in you! You are my true son and I am so proud of you!” What a miraculous gift! - [102 - Selah: Praying With the Psalmist](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/selah-praying-psalmist/) - This meditation and prayer from Psalm 116 will help you offer your stress or hurt to the Lord. Your soul will be at rest once more. - [101 - Rest: What Is Sabbatical](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-what-is-sabbatical/) - As Christians we all have probably heard the term “sabbatical”, but not many of us really know what it means. How many men & women in ministry can confidently say they are ministering out of an overflow? In this episode of Soul Talks, Bill & Kristi explore the spiritual, emotional and physical gift we find in the biblical practice of sabbatical. Learn how significant it will be for yourself, your family and those you minister to. - [100 - Rest: Pray & Play With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-pray-play-jesus/) - Like many Christians today, Jesus’ disciples didn’t understand his playfulness at first. They were shooing away the children because they thought Jesus was too busy for them, but the Lord rebuked his stuffy friends! The way we perceive and experience God has a direct impact on our ability to rest and enjoy God’s presence. Join Bill & Kristi as they look at Jesus the joy giver and his intimate connection with his Daddy… free of burden, free of anticipation, full of joy! Jesus is inviting us to play! - [99 - Rest: Permission to Stop](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-permission-stop/) - Hebrews 4:11 says, “Let us make every effort to enter God’s rest.” Men and women in ministry can be so caught up in serving the Lord that it’s difficult to give ourselves permission to rest. When we rest we can enjoy sweet communion with Jesus, deep healing and restoration. Join Bill & Kristi in an honest conversation about rest and our natural resistance to stop our work and busyness. - [98 - Selah: Breathing Selah](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/selah-breathing-selah/) - Selah is a sacred word used for prayer repeatedly in the Psalms. It’s refreshing and empowering pray “Say-lah” as a Breath Prayer. - [97 - Rest: Catching a Breath in Your Everyday Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-catching-breath-everyday-life/) - What does it mean to be still in God’s presence? Bill and Kristi show us how to find time to quiet ourselves in God’s presence each day. How to still our body, still our thoughts… How to listen. Let’s catch a breath to experience the presence of Christ in the midst of stress in our lives and ministry. In addition Bill & Kristi share an exciting new addition to the Soul Talks podcast! - [96 - Rest: Sabbath the Misunderstood Gift](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/rest-sabbath-misunderstood-gift/) - Sabbath is not a legalistic ritual, nor is it simply a day off… Sabbath is a journey towards intimacy with Jesus! It’s an invitation to make space for our souls to rest and appreciate God’s presence. It’s in that place of rest and safety, we get space to process, to feel, to be heard, to hear and to receive. What a Gift! Join Bill and Kristi for an inspiring conversation about rest. - [95 - Joy In Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/joy-in-jesus/) - The Apostle Paul captivates us with Christ! Let’s draw on his incredible life story and winsome words from Philippians to be satisfied in the sweet sufficiency of Jesus with Paul. In this episode Bill and Kristi draw you into their conversation, meditations, and especially their joy and laughter of delighting in the Lord Jesus! Get ready to be blessed! - [120 - Courage: The Courage to Feel](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/120-courage-the-courage-to-feel/) - Many of us were taught growing up, that to be courageous we need to repress our feelings and deny our emotions. Jesus teaches us how to have the courage to feel. Join Bill & Kristi in an honest conversation about what it means to acknowledge our feelings, to be heard and find freedom and strength. - [121 - When You Don’t Feel God’s Love Anymore](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/121-when-you-dont-feel-gods-love-anymore/) - Have you ever felt separated from God’s love? All of us will experience seasons when we feel distant from God…when it feels as though his presence is far from us. In this episode of Soul Talks, Bill & Kristi share the story of Darren. A pastor who Bill had the privilege of walking with as he navigated such a season. Listen to Darren’s story and the hope and freedom he encountered. - [367— The Cross Heals Your Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/367-the-cross-heals-your-shame/) - This Week on Soul Talks Shame can leave us feeling worthless and isolated, disconnected from God’s loving presence and the support of friends. We may feel unable to access God’s best gifts and the abilities and capacities he has given us through his grace. Yet the cross of Jesus has the answers for our sin - [94 - Jesus’ Abba Delights in You! (Your Best Christmas Gift!)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/jesus-abba-delights-best-christmas-gift/) - Living in a broken world we so often have a distorted view of God our Father, but Jesus demonstrates that our Abba Father delights in us. What a beautiful gift! God the Father sees you and delights in you as a precious daughter or son! Let’s join Bill and Kristi and receive the love of Abba with open hearts. Their closing meditation will help you jump into Jesus’ arms to experience Abba’s love, grace, and healing! - [93 - Unhurried With Jesus — Even at Christmastime!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/unhurried-with-jesus/) - In the craziness of this season, we often find ourselves hurried and stressed. When we are overwhelmed, it becomes difficult to take care of ourselves and love those around us. Jesus was never in a hurry! In this episode, Bill and Kristi remind us that Jesus is inviting us to rest with him. Take a moment to slow down and rest in Abba’s presence, as Bill leads us through a meditation to remember Jesus’s “easy yoke”. - [92 - Healthy Boundaries for the Holidays](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/healthy-boundaries-holidays/) - Jesus accepted his personal limits and this helped him enjoy life and be loving. In John 7 we see an example of our Lord setting a boundary on a holiday. We discuss this and other Biblical examples of how “less is more” — for Advent and for daily life. Saying no helps you say yes when it’s most important! - [91 - Advent: Relaxed and Fruitful With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/advent-relaxed-fruitful-jesus/) - Let’s appreciate the coming of Christ this Advent season! To do that, we invite you into a fun Nativity meditation that fosters soul talk with friends. Also we discuss examples of Jesus inviting us into his “easy yoke” to be relaxed and fruitful in stressful times — like the busyness of the Christmas season! - [90 - The Surprising “Be-Gratefuls” of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/surprising-gratefuls-jesus/) - Jesus has a blessing for you in the midst of your challenging situation. In each of his famous beatitudes our Lord is welcoming us into his Father’s world, the Kingdom of the Heavens. This conversation will help your soul to smile! - [89 - Finding a Blessing in Conflict](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/finding-blessing-conflict/) - We all deal with conflict in our close relationships. Surprisingly, Jesus says, “Blessed are the peacemakers for they’ll be called children of God.” Most people misunderstand this beatitude and look for the blessing in making peace rather than in being a loved child of God. Bill and Kristi share their stress and pain from a conflict and show how the Prince of Peace helped them repair it. - [88 - Is it Good to Vent Emotions?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/good-vent-emotions/) - Dumping on people it’s not helpful! Effective listening enables people to feel cared for and to take personal personal responsibility — it doesn’t “fragilize” them. We discuss an example in parenting. Bill’s Bible study and reflective meditation from Habakkuk helps us be strengthened in faith through venting emotion wisely. - [87 - Don’t Just “Grin and Bear it”](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dont-just-grin-bear/) - A pastor shares, “I thought it was wrong to vent emotions. I didn’t want to name negative emotions and make them more real so I just kept them inside.” Repressing emotions puts them in your body and diminishes your capacity to love and lead well. Kristi helps Bill process his feelings about Brennan Manning’s memoir confessions of ongoing alcoholism and deceit during his ministry. - [86 - Perfect Love Removes Fear](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/perfect-love-removes-fear/) - When the Lord in his Word says, “Fear not” he’s not judging us for having worries or fears! He’s actually inviting us to feel, talk, and pray. He’s opening his arms to us in love. We share a meditation on Luke 12:32 to experience the love of Christ and the Father. - [85 - Enjoying Scripture Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/enjoying-scripture-meditation/) - Do you enjoy reading the Bible? You can! We talk about the blessing of “Digging Deeper in God’s Word” and Kristi leads a short “Lectio Divina” meditation on Psalm 138. We’re thankful for Jon Firey of FFH band for the music. - [84 - I Desperately Want Communion With God!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/desperately-want-communion-god/) - This is the cry of “J. P.’s” heart. We share his story of not feeling God’s presence, struggling with depression and alcohol, being judged. His earnest faith, spiritual disciplines, and service in church aren’t helping. He asks, “Bill and Kristi, what would you say to me?” If you or someone you know relates to J. P., tune in for empathy, affirmation, and spiritual formation coaching. - [122 - Letter’s From Papa](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/122-letters-from-papa/) - As Bill & Kristi have been enjoying becoming grandparents, Bill was led to write letters to his daughter Jenny and her baby girl Juliette. In these intimate letters of love from papa Bill is able to pour out the love and delight that he has received from his Abba Father to his beautiful daughter and precious granddaughter. In this episode of Soul Talks Bill shares two of his Letters From Papa. - [123 - Family: Grief Leads to Joy!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/123-family-grief-leads-to-joy/) - In a new series titled Family, Bill & Kristi address 5 threats to harmony in your family, beginning with unresolved grief. Do you find yourself pretending, avoiding being honest with your family about how you are doing and how the difficult things in life are affecting you? After all, you are a ministry leader! You need to appear strong, un-phased by the ups and downs of life! It is our hope you are encouraged by this powerful conversation. - [124 - Family: Healthy Boundaries](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/124-family-healthy-boundaries/) - Compassion fatigue is real! It is significant and will take a toll on your family, your marriage and your soul! Not having boundaries can take a toll that has a ripple effect through all of our relationships. Join Bill & Kristi in a honest, grace filled conversation about healthy boundaries in life and ministry. - [125 - Family: People Pleasing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/125-family-people-pleasing/) - Trying to please everyone can get exhausting, wearing you out and hurting the people you're trying to please! As pastors and leaders in ministry, it is easy to slip into this well intentioned but unhealthy pattern. Join Bill & Kristi as they vulnerably share from their own experience identifying and correcting this threat to harmony in their family. - [126 - Family: De-Enmeshing with Meta-communication](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/126-family-de-enmeshing-with-meta-communication/) - Pastors and leaders often struggle with setting healthy boundaries in relationships. Their best intentions can lead to unintentional pain for themselves and those they love. In the process they end up stressed out and exhausted! Join Bill & Kristi as they go deeper on the subject of boundaries and enmeshed relationships. - [127 - Family: Confessions of a Perfectionist](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/127-family-confessions-of-a-perfectionist/) - Pastors, ministry leaders, and others who are strongly committed to following Christ seem to be the most susceptible to perfectionism. We can help ourselves by being honest about the ways that our perfectionism has gotten out of control. Join us as Bill shares stories about his “perfectionism” and how Kristi helped him to process and find freedom in Christ. - [128 - Family: De-Triangulate into the Circle of Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/128-family-de-triangulate-into-the-circle-of-love/) - When there is unresolved conflict in a relationship, there will be a tendency to “triangle in” a third person which can weaken the bond of the primary relationship. Join Bill and Kristi as they explore how this works in real life and what the Bible teaches us about conflict resolution. - [129 - Family: Ministry as a Single Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/129-family-ministry-as-a-single-person/) - The Apostle Paul says that being single is better because it allows one to be fully devoted to the Lord. How does one deal with feelings of loneliness? Is there a difference between loneliness and solitude? Join Bill and Kristi as they explore what Paul said and other challenging questions that come up surrounding the life of ministry as a single person. - [130 - Emotions: Befriending Our Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/130-emotions-befriending-our-emotions/) - When Jesus says, “Come to me” he’s inviting us bring our emotions to him. That’s where apprenticeship to Jesus starts because we live in our emotions, whether we feel them consciously or not. Listen to Bill and Kristi unpack more on Jesus’ heart to shepherd our emotions. - [131 - Emotions: Befriending Our Anger](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/131-emotions-befriending-our-anger/) - It’s always helpful to be aware of all our emotions, including anger. If you have trouble feeling angry then that is a problem just as much being easily angered or resentful is a problem. The key is how we deal with our anger. Listen to Bill and Kristi share on the importance of processing our anger and bringing it to God. - [132 - Selah: Be Still](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/132-selah-be-still/) - “Be still” is one of the most famous but least practiced Bible verses. Here’s an inspiring, unforgettable, and easy way to pray Psalm 46:10 at any moment in your day. - [133 - Emotions: Befriending Our Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/133-emotions-befriending-our-anxiety/) - Did you know that anxiety disorders are the most common mental illness in the US, affecting 40 million adults? The good news is we can invite the peace of Christ into our lives! Learn from Bill and Kristi as they share how they were able to find help from Jesus during times of anxiety and stress. - [134 - Emotions: Befriending Our Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/134-emotions-befriending-our-shame/) - Sometimes shame makes us want to isolate and hide. But God never wants us to feel shame. Praise God for the gift of grace that he has for us! As we look to Jesus we are increasingly set free from shame. Join Bill and Kristi as they unpack the remedy to shame. - [135 - Emotions: Befriending Our Shame Pt. 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/135-emotions-befriending-our-shame-pt-2/) - Sometimes as pastors and leaders, we can carry hidden shame that only very few people know about. In this episode, Bill shares a story of a pastor who was struggling with doubts about his own personal relationship with Jesus. Join in on the conversation as Bill & Kristi further unpack this pastor's journey from feeling shame to discovering peace in Christ. - [136 - Emotions: Befriending Our Sadness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/136-emotions-befriending-our-sadness/) - Sadness is an emotion many of us struggle to get in touch with. It can be difficult to open up our hearts to feel the deeper hurts and be honest about our needs. Bill and Kristi share their process with sadness and the healing pathway that helped them to experience restoration, growth, and reconnection with the God of grace and comfort. - [137 - When Pastors Fall](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/137-when-pastors-fall/) - Church scandals can create growing pain and disillusionment with fallen leaders and systems. A pastor asked Bill, “How can we stay hopeful and healthy and non-judgmental while also processing the sadness, anger and diminished trust?” Join in on the conversation as Bill and Kristi address this difficult topic. - [138 - PA: Ministry Begins With Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/138-pa-ministry-begins-with-rest/) - The Bible teaches us to work at resting (Heb. 4:11). What a paradox! In today’s fast-paced, get more done culture, it seems impossible and counter intuitive to rest before working. Join Bill and Kristi as they explore the different rhythms of life and share from their own journey. - [139 - PA: Finding Joy When Ministry is Hard](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/139-pa-finding-joy-when-ministry-is-hard/) - Sometimes when you are in relationship with people and pouring into them, they have the power to hurt you, and it can feel like a betrayal. During times like this, it’s helpful to share with someone who can give you empathy and objectivity. Bill and Kristi share from their own experiences and their search for true joy during times of trial. - [140 - PA: Ministry in the Smile of the Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/140-pa-ministry-in-the-smile-of-the-father/) - Most of us in ministry can be tempted to try too hard. We tend to put too much time, worry, and stress to make people happy. This can get exhausting and turn into burn-out. Over-preparing is a way that we deal with the anxiety. Join Bill and Kristi as they share a blessing of prayer and affirmation for leaders and share their journey of learning to depend on the Lord in ministry settings. - [141 - PA: Women in Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/141-pa-women-in-ministry/) - Women bring a spiritual depth, relational skill, integrative thinking, and tender-courage that often are lacking in all male leadership groups. Sadly, many women have been disrespected and excluded by Christian men in authority in the Church. Join this crucial conversation as Bill and Kristi unpack what the Bible teaches and how they have experienced the powerful model of shared male and female leadership. - [142: Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/142-spiritual-direction/) - In today’s world it’s becoming increasingly difficult to make space and give our attention and energy into organic relationships. Into deep, face to face connecting with people. Spiritual Direction relationships help to stir up conversations that are prayerful, authentic, meaningful, and encourage us in our discipleship to Jesus and our service to others. Bill and Kristi share an example of a chance encounter that turned into an organic spiritual direction conversation. - [143 - Intimacy with Jesus in Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/143-intimacy-jesus-leadership/) - Leadership in the way of Christ is very different and dramatically more impactful than cultural leadership in the way of our world and people’s natural abilities. True spiritual leadership begins with our intimacy with Jesus. Join Bill and Kristi as they share from their own experiences in life and ministry. - [144 - Unexpected Blessings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/144-unexpected-blessings/) - The psalms tell us to enter into his gates with thanksgiving and praise. However, sometimes it’s not always easy to give thanks. Especially if we are going through tragedies, trials, and conflict. Join Bill and Kristi as they share on how we can find the goodness of the Lord in the midst of life’s challenges and unwanted circumstances. - [145 - Come: Jesus is Glad to See You!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/145-come-jesus-is-glad-to-see-you/) - The light of God on the face of Jesus is what warms our hearts. This is the joy and energy of our lives! Advent is the season to renew and cultivate this vision for Jesus. Kristi shares on how she has been experiencing Jesus’s delight by journeying with Mary and her Magnificat. Join the conversation as Bill unpacks Kristi’s upcoming devotional. - [146 - Come: Jesus Feels Your Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/146-jesus-feels-your-emotions/) - We can imagine Jesus as a thinker, a teacher, or a leader, but have you ever thought of Jesus being a “feeler”? Jesus felt many emotions that we do including: fear, worry, and even shame. This allows him to enter into our life experiences with us and feel what we feel with empathy and compassion. Join this conversation as Bill and Kristi unpack what it means to see Jesus as a feeler and how that helps us experience greater intimacy with him. - [147 - Come: Jesus Speaks Truth to You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/147-come-jesus-speaks-truth-to-you/) - Jesus comes to us with sensitivity to our feelings but he also comes to us with truth. We want to give people grace, empathy, and safety when they have doubt but we don’t want them stuck in doubt. Jesus comes to us with truth. In this episode, Kristi shares her past crises with doubt. Join the conversation, as Bill and Kristi share authentically and model what it looks to give grace and feedback to one another as soul friends. - [148 - Come: Jesus is Vulnerable For You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/148-come-jesus-is-vulnerable-for-you/) - There is vulnerability when we offer our hearts and gifts to others. We can take heart from Jesus who became vulnerable for us. We can celebrate Jesus’ vulnerability as he showed us a new way to lead with humility and service. Join Bill and Kristi as they explore Jesus’ vulnerability and how that helps us in our journey. - [149 - Come: Jesus is Playful with You](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/149-come-jesus-is-playful-with-you/) - Can God be fun? Is Jesus really playful? Yes! Jesus takes great joy in us enjoying his creation and in us delighting in one another. Listen to Bill and Kristi share on Jesus’ playful interaction with his disciples and others as they take us through the Gospels with a fresh perspective. - [150 - How the Enneagram Has Helped Us](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/150-enneagram/) - The Enneagram can help us befriend our emotions. It can be a tool to delve into our emotions so that we can be more aware of ours selves, our personalities, and our relationship with the Lord. Join the conversation as Bill and Kristi share how the Enneagram has helped them in their life and ministry. - [156 - Enneagram: Your Identity (Triads)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/156-enneagram-your-identity-triads/) - The Enneagram is a great tool that can help us become conscious of some deeply held internal beliefs, emotions, and attitudes. As we become aware of them, we can grow beyond them. Join Bill and Kristi as they unpack how each triad has specific wounds that can shape our sense of identity and point to our need for Jesus. - [158 - Surprised by Jesus’ Joy at the Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/158-surprised-by-jesus-joy-at-the-cross/) - Looking at the cross of Jesus can be painful and frightening. The writer of Hebrews tells us that there is joy on the cross journey. Join Bill and Kristi as they unpack the cross journey and how it has helped them to see joy in suffering. - [161 - Enneagram: Marriage & Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/161-enneagram-marriage-ministry/) - The Enneagram is a powerful tool for relationships and loving well. It can even give us words to articulate our experience in marriage. Join Kristi and special guest, Hannah Schuller from Shepherd’s Grove Church and the Hour of Power, as they share how the Enneagram has helped them in their marriage. - [162 - E-Soul: Step Out of Stress (All 9 Types)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/162-e-soul-step-out-of-stress-all-9-types/) - To become our best personality, we need to become aware of our stress points and reactions. Join Bill and Kristi as they continue exploring the Enneagram and how spiritual disciplines can help us reconnect to God and tune in to the Spirit. - [163 - E-Soul: Repairing a Hurt or Conflict](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/163-e-soul-repairing-a-hurt-or-conflict/) - What happens when our own insecurities surface as our personality types bump up against each other in life and ministry? In a powerfully vulnerable conversation, Bill & Kristi share their own recent journey processing pain points and loving one another with empathy and grace. We hope this transparent conversation brings you encouragement and grace in your own journey in life and ministry! - [164 - E-Soul: How Jesus Blesses Your Personality](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/164-e-soul-how-jesus-blesses-your-personality/) - Join Bill and Kristi as they continue their talk about the Enneagram and discuss the theory of the three triads. They talk about the basic emotional postures and how it relates to our personalities and how God so graciously blesses us through them. Kristi shares a recent story of her personal experience in this. - [165 - Come Alive with Jesus!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/165-come-alive-with-jesus/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: As we move closer to Easter, do you find yourself rushing past the pain of the cross to celebrate Jesus' miraculous resurrection? In this episode Bill shares about writing his book Unforsaken on the stations of the cross. This honest conversation reminds us of the profound gravity - [366 - Keys to Relationship Satisfaction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/366-keys-to-relationship-satisfaction/) - This Week on Soul Talks Intimacy, communication, and understanding are so important to healthy relationships. We work out the practicalities of our discipleship with God in the context of our human relationships, and we all need at least one soul friendship where we can share vulnerably and be understood. Join us for this episode of - [365 - A Problem Well Defined is Half Solved](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/365-a-problem-well-defined-is-half-solved/) - This Week on Soul Talks Assessments for our mental, emotional, and spiritual health can give us language to describe our particular experience unique to our personality, stage in life, and situation. A problem well defined is half solved, and assessments are a powerful tool to help us identify problem areas. Join us for this episode - [364 - Whole Life Discipleship to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/364-whole-life-discipleship-to-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks What is discipleship? Often our understanding of discipleship separates our spiritual health from the other aspects of our life which can leave us disintegrated and soul sick. Our first call is to be a disciple of Jesus — ahead of the specific work of our ministry — so we learn - [363 - Flourishing in Life by Practicing Solitude & Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/363-flourishing-in-life-by-practicing-solitude-spiritual-direction/) - This Week on Soul Talks Solitude and silence are essential for deeper submission, trust, and intimacy with the Lord. While our experience of these disciplines may change through different stages of our faith, they remain foundational for us to flourish in life. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi share - [362 - Sensing God’s Presence and Leading](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/362-sensing-gods-presence-and-leading/) - This Week on Soul Talks How can we know we are hearing God’s voice? We may hear a call from the Lord, but often there will be decades between receiving a word or promise and its fulfillment. How do we hold on to faith so we don’t lose heart and give in to doubt among - [361 - Staying Encouraged That God's Call for You Will Prosper](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/361-staying-encouraged-that-gods-call-for-you-will-prosper/) - This Week on Soul Talks We may feel called by God to use our gifts, yet experience confusion during seasons of deep discouragement or setback. David, Joseph, and Moses also walked through years of waiting and mystery, wondering about their dreams and calling. Tune in to this episode of Soul Talks as Kristi and Bill - [360 - A Year of Slowing Down (Conversation With Alan Fadling)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/360-a-year-of-slowing-down-conversation-with-alan-fadling/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us have an incredibly strong work ethic, but we don’t have an equally robust rest ethic. The biblical vision of rest as sabbath is the very fabric of creation. Resting is a gift from God just as surely work is a gift from God, so how can we - [359 - Disentangling From Codependent Relationships](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/359-disentangling-from-codependent-relationships/) - This Week on Soul Talks It is a challenge to be present to someone’s emotions with empathy while balancing our own emotions and needs. Patterns of codependency often result when we are unaware of our own unmet needs, unresolved disappointments, or stresses. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi continue - [358 - Empathy or Codependency?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/358-empathy-or-codependency/) - This Week on Soul Talks What is the difference between empathy and codependency? Sometimes our empathy for loved ones can cross over into codependency, rescuing, and trying to protect them from consequences of their choices that are necessary for their growth and maturity. Tune in for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi - [357 - Help For Anticipatory Grief](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/357-help-for-anticipatory-grief/) - This Week on Soul Talks Anticipatory grief is often triggered by our own aging, or a loss or grief we know is coming in the future. While these emotions can be robbers that steal the joy of the moment, they can also open us to receive more of God’s grace. Join us for this episode - [356 - Calming an Anger Allergy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/356-calming-an-anger-allergy/) - This Week on Soul Talks Some circumstances we encounter can trigger an “anger allergy”—a strong reaction that may connect to deeper feelings below the surface. Angry emotions are painful and we often want to avoid them, but they are actually a form of intelligence that can help us to grow. Tune in for this episode - [355 - How to Benefit From Empathy and Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/355-how-to-benefit-from-empathy-and-spiritual-direction/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all need a safe place to be completely authentic, free from the pressure to manage our reputations. We are blessed when we have a person in our life who knows us, listens to us, and seeks the Lord on our behalf. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks - [354 - Cultivating Grateful Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/354-cultivating-grateful-emotions/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us would like to become more thankful, but how do we cultivate grateful emotions? Research has shown the tremendous value of gratitude for our mental health and physical well-being, but in spite of simply trying to think the right thoughts, we may have emotions that could block our - [353 -Enjoying Advent—Even in the Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/353-enjoying-advent-even-in-the-stress/) - This Week on Soul Talks In the coming season of Advent, we love to celebrate together with friends and family and in times of silence and solitude. You can experience greater depth and intimacy with Jesus during advent by meditating on the biblical accounts of Christ’s birth even in the midst of stressful circumstances. Join - [352 -Distracted? How to Wake Up to God's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/352-distracted-how-to-wake-up-to-gods-presence/) - This Week on Soul Talks Our lives are full of distractions— from both the world around us and from our own choices. Seeking to numb out as a medication for worry, fatigue, sadness, or overload robs us of true rest. Jesus invites us to join him in every moment of our day to find true - [351 - Earth Filled with Heaven (A Conversation with Aaron Damiani)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/351-earth-filled-with-heaven-a-conversation-with-aaron-damiani/) - This Week on Soul Talks We may wonder how we find God when our emotions, thoughts, and service are running dry. A season of hitting the Wall might feel like failure, but can actually be God’s means of grace in our lives. We find rest in Jesus’ easy yoke — through practices and sacraments that - [350 - A Prayer to Put Stress in the Father's Hands](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/350-a-prayer-to-put-stress-in-the-fathers-hands/) - This Week on Soul Talks When we combine God’s word, simple breathing, and a specific need, we discover an effective, engaging, and powerful way to pray— forming a habit that will fill small moments throughout our day with meaningful spots of prayer. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks as Bill and Kristi share - [349 - Leadership as Suffering—Yet, There is Joy in Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/349-leadership-as-suffering-yet-there-is-joy-in-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks In leadership we experience different kinds of suffering, including loneliness, opposition, and spiritual attacks. Shepherding others involves following Christ into his way of blessing and also his suffering. Yet our Risen Savior walks with us through our trials, comforting us with his empathy, presence, and purpose. Tune in to this - [348 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/348-breaking-the-cycle-of-abuse/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us have experienced emotional, physical, or sexual abuse ourselves, or care for people who have these wounds. The cycle of abuse can be emotionally and relationally trapping, but the good news is that it can be reversed. Join us for this episode of Soul Talks where Bill and - [347 - Encouragement for Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/347-encouragement-for-pastors/) - This Week on Soul Talks We are blessed by our pastors who faithfully serve—loving us well, visiting hospitals and homes, counseling, teaching, and preaching. It’s a challenging time to represent Christ formally as a pastor. Often pastors carry the weight of expectations and responsibilities that many of us don’t see or understand. Tune in for - [346 - Healing Hidden Hurts with Evan & Jenny Owens](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/346-healing-hidden-hurts-with-evan-jenny-owens/) - This Week on Soul Talks Trauma can come in many forms, and all of us have experienced soul wounds. Masking our trauma under addictions—to include busyness— denies and delays the healing the Lord can bring us. We can find courage to face our trauma through connectedness with one another, and connectedness with the redemptive heart - [345 - Best of Soul Talks: The Energy You Need](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/345-best-of-soul-talks-the-energy-you-need/) - This Week on Soul Talks What is your source of motivation? Our culture tells us to focus on self-motivation, but Jesus tells us the ultimate power and purpose for our lives comes from our connection with God. Join us for Best Soul Talks as Soul Shepherding’s Director of Operations and Programs, Jessica Stong, shares one - [344- Best Soul Talks: How to Love and Lead WITH JESUS](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/344-best-soul-talks-how-to-love-and-lead-with-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks So much of our lives focus on what we do for God. Yet burnout in ministry is common when we depend on our own strengths, natural gifts, and abilities instead of depending on Jesus. While this often leaves us feeling distant from God, there is hope! Join us for Best - [343- Best Soul Talks: The Unbusy Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/343-best-soul-talks-the-unbusy-person/) - This Week on Soul Talks Workaholism and people-pleasing are well-worn paths that inevitably lead to burnout. Jesus offers a different way! Being overly busy can steal your peace and joy, and it affects those around you. But following Jesus’ way of working brings renewed peace and strength when we set aside time for what is - [299 - The Unbusy Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/299-the-unbusy-person/) - This Week in Soul Talks Workaholism and people-pleasing are well-worn paths that inevitably lead to burnout. Jesus offers a different way! Being overly busy steals your peace and joy, and affects those around you. But following Jesus’ way of working brings renewed peace and strength even in the midst of hard things. Bill & Kristi… - [342 - Best Soul Talks: Failure is not Fatal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/342-best-soul-talks-failure-is-not-fatal/) - This Week on Soul Talks Feelings of failure in ministry and life are far more common than we may realize. Whether we are “feeling” as though we failed, or we have in fact failed at something, in Christ, failure is not fatal! Join us for Best Soul Talks this week as Dave Rimoldi shares one - [212 - EQ: Increasing Your Emotional Intelligence (SMART Love)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/212-eq-increasing-your-emotional-intelligence-smart-love/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Grow in your emotional intelligence in this new series! We are often tempted to detach from our challenging emotions, but they are a part of what it means to be made in the image of God. Effective ministry leadership is increased by our empathy towards others, but it starts first with - [213 - “Fear Not” the Coronavirus? Empathy and Courage are Needed](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/213-fear-not-the-coronavirus-empathy-and-courage-are-needed/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Here is a special message from Bill and Kristi in this season as we are dealing with the Coronavirus. Episode Notes: Here are a couple of free resources we want to offer you. Included is an article encouraging you to not let fear take over and two breath prayers to help refocus - [214 - COVID-19: Coronavirus Fears and Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/214-coronavirus-fears-and-faith/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: As we face the realities of Coronavirus, each of us has a different response to the stress. We can be sure of this: God wants to care for us, whatever our emotions. Naming our emotions with others and with God ultimately orients and strengthens us. In this - [215 - COVID-19: Turning Social Distancing into Solitude with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/215-turning-social-distancing-into-solitude-with-jesus/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: It can be tempting to fill the time we have these days with distractions, but this is a significant opportunity to draw closer to Jesus. Solitude surfaces our needs, emotions, and sin so that we can bring it into Jesus' presence. Catch a vision for solitude in - [216 - COVID-19: The Tiredness You Feel is Grief](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/216-covid-19-the-tiredness-you-feel-is-grief/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: The losses we're experiencing in this coronavirus season can leave us feeling weary and heavy. The grief is real and needs care. In this candid conversation, Bill and Kristi unpack the stages of grief and what it looks like to grow towards deeper integration and connection with - [217- Reflections of Jesus’ Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/217-reflections-of-jesus-cross/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi process through each of the Stations of the Cross, which is available as Unforsaken, a free resource from Soul Shepherding. You'll hear how each station is impacting them personally, especially in the midst of this global pandemic. Draw closer to Jesus as you walk - [218 - Prayer: Safe From Covid-19](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/218-prayer-safe-from-covid-19/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: What does it mean to be safe with God when we're living in a season with danger? This is an important question to wrestle with while we're in God's presence. In prayer, we express our honest and raw emotions to God and receive empathy from him. It - [219 - Prayer: Enjoying a Spacious Place](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/219-prayer-enjoying-a-spacious-place/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: This season is creating limitations and distress. You may be feeling stuck or constricted while you remain at home and learn to minister in a new context. What's also real is that we live in the kingdom of God, which is spacious--and open to you! Prayer creates an - [220 - Help for Screen Fatigue](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/220-help-for-screen-fatigue/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Technology is a gift in this season of social distancing, but it can also cause physical, emotional, and spiritual challenges. God made us to connect in embodied ways and even though you can be doing good spiritual work over your screen, it takes a toll on our soul. Bill - [221 - Dallas Willard’s Personal Devotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/221-dallas-willards-personal-devotions/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: To honor the life of Dallas Willard, Bill and Kristi pause to reflect on his contributions each May. Once Dallas was asked how he practiced his daily devotions and he offered several important insights. In this episode, Bill and Kristi break down each one. This conversation will - [202 - Re-Soul in The Apprentice Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/202-re-soul-in-the-apprentice-prayer/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: God wants to do good things in your life in this new year! In this episode, Bill and Kristi share "The Apprentice Prayer," an intentional prayer that has made a powerful impact on their lives. Through the challenges of work, family, and ministry, this prayer can help - [203 - Jesus’ Easy Way to Do Hard Things: Part 1](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/203-jesus-easy-way-to-do-hard-things-part-1/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi sit down with pastors from Saddleback Church for a conversation on how to do hard things in an easy way. In the first of this three-part series, you'll hear about the Biblical anchors of Jesus' easy yoke, gain a picture of what his easy yoke - [204 - Jesus’ Easy Way to Do Hard Things: Part 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/204-jesus-easy-way-to-do-hard-things-part-2/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Gain a vision for training with Jesus for greater joy and productivity. In this episode, Bill and Kristi, along with pastors from Saddleback Church will help you develop a vision for stepping into Jesus' easy yoke and seeing development in all areas of your life. Jesus brings ease - [205 - Jesus’ Easy Way to Do Hard Things: Part 3](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/205-jesus-easy-way-to-do-hard-things-part-3/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: This week, Bill and Kristi partner with the Doable Discipleship Podcast from Saddleback Church for a conversation on Sabbath. Sabbath takes practice! We can be tempted to abandon it, but it is an important practice to rest in God's power. And it can be learned over time. Bill - [206 - Re-Soul: Preventing 5 Hidden Causes of Ministry Burnout](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/206-preventing-5-hidden-causes-of-ministry-burnout/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We would appreciate your feedback! Please take a moment to fill out our survey here. All of us struggle with feeling tired and discouraged. To prevent burnout, we must be proactive and intentional. In this new series, Bill and Kristi will uncover five hidden culprits that lead - [208 - Re-Soul: How to Be a Non-Anxious Presence for Others](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/208-how-to-be-a-non-anxious-presence-for-others/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We would appreciate your feedback! Please take a moment to fill out our survey here. A hidden contributor to burnout is internalizing stress. As leaders, we offer God's grace through our presence in others' lives as we listen and offer empathy from a non-anxious place. We - [207 - Re-Soul: How to Love and Lead WITH Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/207-how-to-love-and-lead-with-jesus/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We would appreciate your feedback! Please take a moment to fill out our survey here. Pastors and ministry leaders can get so caught up in working for God, that they begin to feel distant from God. Burnout from working and serving is all too common among pastors, - [209 - Re-Soul: 4 Ways Emotions Help You Excel](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/209-4-ways-emotions-help-you-excel/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Denying our emotions leaves us functioning inauthentically and can ultimately lead to burnout. Serving God with wholeness and health includes paying attention to our emotions. In this episode, hear from Bill and Kristi and the stories of others of how discovering deeper emotions allows God to heal - [210 - Re-Soul: 3 Ways to Add Margin in Your Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/210-re-soul-3-ways-to-add-margin-in-your-ministry/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Our greatest productivity does not come from how quickly we can move through life, but through being present. Learn from Jesus how to serve from a place of margin. In this episode, Bill and Kristi share what it's been like to expose their soul-hurry and step towards - [211 - Re-soul: Less is More - 4 Keys to Thrive in Your Mission](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/211-less-is-more-4-keys-to-thrive-in-your-mission/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We often believe that more productivity, accomplishment, and ideas lead us to greater fruitfulness, but it ultimately leads us into anxiety, stress, and hurry. But in the way of Jesus, less is more. In this episode, Bill and Kristi offer four ways to help you lean into Jesus' easy - [192 - Words as Soul Touches](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/192-words-as-soul-touches/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In this episode, Bill and Kristi share from the heart about what life in Jesus' easy yoke has looked like for them this week. Listening and sharing with one another are critical pieces of our journey with Christ. May your soul be touched by this conversation! - [193 - Non-Jealous Leaders](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/193-non-jealous-leaders/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: What tempts you to be jealous? The Spirit invites us to get underneath even our difficult emotions and see the invitations for apprenticeship with Jesus. In this episode, Bill shares a personal story of a time he experienced jealousy and how a spiritual practice helped reveal what God was - [194 - Tips For Speakers & Bloggers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/194-tips-for-speakers-bloggers/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Our series “Relationally Healthy Leadership” from our Institute continues in this episode focused on communicators. Listen in for helpful perspectives and strategies to communicate with authenticity, vulnerability, and trust in Jesus! - [195 - Your Ministry is Needed!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/195-your-ministry-is-needed/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Drawing on teaching from the Soul Shepherding Institute, Bill and Kristi will inspire you to see your significant purpose in God's Kingdom. Take hold of your calling and increase your confidence in God's calling, equipping, and anointing on your life. - [196 - Simplify Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/196-simplify-your-soul/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Life is full of distractions, worries, and conflicts. Breath prayers are a simple and powerful way to reorient our souls back to the Kingdom of God. In this episode, Bill and Kristi share how breath prayers make a significant difference in the midst of their everyday. Listen - [197 - Simplify Daily Life with Thankfulness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/197-simplify-daily-life-with-thankfulness/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Walk with Jesus all day long using breath prayers! Experience new depths of thankfulness with this life-changing “on the go” practice. In this episode, Bill and Kristi teach you how to integrate this practice in your daily life, so that you can walk with Jesus in his - [198 - De-Stress and Delight in Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/198-de-stress-and-delight-in-jesus/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In the midst of a hectic season, it's easy to become disconnected with one another and from God. In this episode, Bill and Kristi share vulnerably and authentically about a recent time they reconnected with each other and with God in the midst of stress. Listen in - [199 - Appreciating Your Blessing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/199-appreciating-your-blessing/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Spend time with Bill and Kristi reflecting on the beauty and grace found in Mary's prayer in Luke 1. In the midst of this Advent season, be encouraged and inspired by God's cloud of blessing! - [200 - Your Greatest Pleasure!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/200-your-greatest-pleasure/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: This is our 200th episode! We want to thank you for being a part of the Soul Talks community. In this episode, Bill and Kristi unpack another breath prayer for this Advent season. Learn how to train your body to increase your reliance on the Lord. Wholly - [201 - Make Room For Jesus in Real Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/201-make-room-for-jesus-in-real-life/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: This time of year brings an abundance of activity that can end up as distractions. Unless we intentionally set aside time to attune to the presence of Jesus, we risk not hearing his voice. In this episode, take a moment to make room for Jesus with a simple, - [182 - Healing Prayer: The Courage to Pray for Healing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/182-healing-prayer-the-courage-to-pray-for-healing/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: God is still a healer today! Bill and Kristi talk about their new book, Healing Prayer: For Emotional & Physical Wholeness. Healing can sometimes be a controversial topic. Join in as they discuss the hesitancies and fears we can have going into praying for healing and how - [183 - Healing Prayer: Unblock Your Prayers for Healing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/183-healing-prayer-unblock-your-prayers-for-healing/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: It’s easy for us to get a mistaken idea about God when we are hurting or sick, projecting our pain onto him. But God is not the source of our pain, he wants to heal and restore us! Join Bill and Kristi as they talk about the - [184 - Healing Prayer: You Can Experience Divine Health](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/184-healing-prayer-you-can-experience-divine-health/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Did you know God wills wholeness and healing for us? God is a good Father and we can have confidence when we pray! In this episode Bill & Kristi talk about what it looks like for us to build faith and boldness for emotional & physical healing, - [185 - Healing Prayer: Your Path to Emotional Wholeness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/185-healing-prayer-your-path-to-emotional-wholeness/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Healing prayer is not just for physical healing. God intends for us to have an emotionally and relationally healthy life! In this episode Bill & Kristi share openly about their own individual journeys of emotional and relational healing and the abundant life that is available for each - [186 - Healing Prayer: When God Does Not Heal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/186-healing-prayer-when-god-does-not-heal/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: God doesn't always answer our prayers for healing the way we want him to. What does it look like to trust in God's healing power and abandon outcomes to him? In this episode, Bill and Kristi open up Scripture and their personal stories to wrestle with keeping - [187 - Jesus as CEO of Your Life and Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/187-jesus-as-ceo-of-your-life-and-leadership/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In this episode, listen in on one of Bill’s sessions during the Soul Shepherding Institute entitled Jesus as CEO. Leadership can be discouraging when we do it in our own strength. But Kingdom leadership is an invitation to Jesus’ easy yoke--to live in adventurous expectance of how - [188 - Hearing God to Lead Well](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/188-hearing-god-to-lead-well/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Hearing God is something we can do right now, wherever we are! This episode features teaching from The Soul Shepherding Institute on Relationally Healthy Leadership. Kristi explores Scripture and her personal story to help us evaluate our assumptions and motives in hearing God. You’ll leave this episode - [189 - You Can Finish Well (Christly Leadership)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/189-you-can-finish-well-christly-leadership/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We've all seen Christian leaders fall. Few finish well. How can we be one of those? This episode features a portion of a Soul Shepherding Institute session called "Christly vs. Cultural Leadership." Sit in with this group of leaders to be challenged and inspired! Bill and Kristi - [190 - Burnout is Optional](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/190-burnout-is-optional/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Ministry can lead to burnout, but that doesn’t have to be the end of the story! Tune into this teaching of the Soul Shepherding Institute on preventing burnout as a part of the Emotionally Healthy Leadership retreat. Learn to identify burnout and step back into Jesus' easy - [191 - Emotionally Healthy Leaders](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/191-emotionally-healthy-leaders/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In this week's episode, hear from Bill as he teaches about SMART leadership in a session from the Soul Shepherding Institute. Learn how to increase your emotional intelligence, which is necessary for Christly character! Bill and Kristi follow up this teaching with a helpful and perspective-shifting discussion - [177 - Imagine: See Yourself With Jesus to be Free of Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/177-imagine-see-yourself-with-jesus-to-be-free-of-shame/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi share their initial experience with the Ignatian Meditation Guide. They discuss how meditating on the words of the Bible deepened their relationship with the Lord. Kristi relates how this practice opened her eyes and gave her a new perspective in a way she wasn’t - [178 - Imagine: Jesus Looks at You With Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/178-imagine-jesus-looks-at-you-with-love/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Jesus is eager to speak to you! Ignatian Meditation is a wonderful tool that helps us engage deeper with our Lord. Meditation is not as mysterious as we might think. It is not much different from remembering a loved one and remembering the things they said to - [179 - Listen: Be Energized in the Word](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/179-listen-be-energized-in-the-word/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: All of us have had moments of feeling confused or even discourage when reading the bible. In this episode, Bill and Kristi share how you can be energized and encouraged by praying Scripture through Lectio Divina! This beautiful practice will help you meditate on God's word and - [180 - Listen: Feel Your Emotions in the Word](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/180-listen-feel-your-emotions-in-the-word/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Meditating on Scripture can guide our hearts to the words God is speaking over us, especially during trying and discouraging times. In this episode, Bill and Kristi share how using Lectio Divina with Mark chapter 1, brought the encouragement and intimacy with Jesus they were longing for. Listen - [181 - Listen: Rest in the Word of Encouragement](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/181-listen-rest-in-the-word-of-encouragement/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In this episode, Bill opens up about his personal challenges during a recent Sabbath. Rest is difficult for many of us and can often times stir things up in our hearts that we have pushed away. Bill honestly shares his journey with rest and how the practice - [82 - Alcohol & the Holy Spirit](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/alcohol-holy-spirit/) - Kristi asks Bill, “How are you feeling?” He shares he feel’s sad for Jesus. Because a group of Christians regularly go from a church meeting to social meeting in which they drink too much and have unwholesome conversation. It’s like two different lives. Their is great joy and blessing in being with Jesus in all that we do. This is our best witness to the world. - [83 - Enjoying Ministry to Others](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/enjoying-ministry-others/) - Jesus says, “Give and it will be given back to you.” (Luke 6:38) But often when we serve, care, or lead in ministry we’re weighed down with burdens, overstressed, or discouraged. We’re missing the joy of Jesus! Bill and Kristi share their struggles and renewals to encourage you. - [72 - The Unbusy Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/the-unbusy-leader/) - “How are you?” Whatever our work, or even if we’re retired, often we answer, “Busy!” But CS Lewis taught, “Only lazy people are busy!” How can this be? The most effective and fruitful leadership is born out of rest, prayer, and discernment — it’s not just working hard, it’s working SMART! - [73 - Emotional Healing For a Trauma Trigger](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/emotional-healing-trauma-trigger/) - Kristi shares her “trauma trigger” and how the Lord ministered his shining face of love on her through empathy and words of blessing. We all have “implicit memories” of childhood distress that need divine compassion. Kristi shows us how a deep hurt offered to the Lord can become a “sacred wound” that heals others. - [74 - A Hope That Won’t Disappoint](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/hope-wont-disappoint/) - Bill Gaultiere and Bobby Schuller (pastor of the Hour of Power) talk about how they find hope in challenging times. All of us at times don’t feel hope. We may be afraid to hope and be disappointed. When we put our hope in God and the eternal good he is bringing we have an anchor for our soul. - [75 - Help For Hidden Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/help-hidden-emotions/) - Probably we all have hidden emotions. Some of us feel emotionally lost, locked up, even numb. A listener who was abused as a child and shut down her feelings asks for pointers on re-learning how to feel. We help her and you not to judge yourself but to seek grace from God, through prayer and supportive people. - [76 - Boundaries For Tender Hearts](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/boundaries-tender-hearts/) - A listener asks, “Kristi, how do you carry your tender heart into relationships that are not so safe?” Kristi and Bill share on the characteristics of an emotionally safe person, how to be vulnerable and yet “contained”, and how to receive empathy from God and his ambassadors. - [77 - The Pressure to Please](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/the-pressure-to-please/) - A pastor is caught in a church “worship war”. Speakers are criticized. Kristi is judged for teaching men in church. Bill is caught in the crossfires of mediating a church leader conflict. Probably you feel pressure to please people too. Empathy, the Word of God, and affirmation of Christ’s call give us courage to please the Lord in all things. - [79 - When You’re Stuck in Your Head](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/youre-stuck-head/) - Like some ministry leaders today Nicodemus was stuck in his head and emotionally reluctant. Jesus offers masterful empathy to help him re-think — and re-feel! — his life to be “born from above” in the Kingdom of God. Here’s an insightful Bible study on John 3:1-17 put into the format of a refreshing empathy-based conversation. - [80 - Hurricanes & Hearts of Empathy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/hurricanes-hearts-empathy/) - What’s God doing when hurricane’s hit? How do we deal with hardships? We go to Jesus together. We validate the emotions and offer empathy. We may need to re-think our perspective and faith and do some training to learn how to live and react to trials from within the spiritual reality of the Kingdom of God. - [81 - When Listening Triggers Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/listening-triggers-anxiety/) - A Soul Talks listener asks, “How do I give empathy when what’s shared makes me feel anxious? I lose patience and just want to fix it.” We talk about repressed emotions, enmeshment, abandoning outcomes to God, and the need for mutuality with loved ones. - [62 - Through a Dark Valley With Your Spouse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/dark-valley-spouse/) - Pastor’s wife Susan Baugh shares her story of feeling alone, confused, and afraid when her lead pastor husband was opposed by church leaders and lost his pulpit. - [63 - Repairing a Relational Wound](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/repairing-relational-wound/) - In real time Bill and Kristi process a conflict and demonstrate the power of empathy for emotional healing, reconciliation, and learning to amend problem behavior. - [64 - Emotional Cut Offs Hurt](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/emotional-cut-offs-hurt/) - Bill and Kristi had an emotionally upsetting conversation. Each was tempted to “cut off” and avoid working through the mess, but God helped them they stay with it. - [65 - Imagining Yourself In a Gospel Adventure](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/imagining-gospel-adventure/) - Ignatius’ ancient approach of visualizing ourselves in a Gospel story helps us to actually experience and feel God’s grace — and then to live it out in our work and ministry. - [66 - Following a Saint, Feeling Like a Failure](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/following-saint-feeling-like-failure/) - When we read about a great saint’s experiences with God it’s tempting to compare ourselves negatively. Here’s the help you need to stay out of shame and glean all the good that can come from a classic of Christian devotion. - [67 - Healing a Father Wound](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/healing-father-wound/) - Bill shares about his relationship with his dad: blessings he appreciates, wounds he’s forgiven, and his journey of emotional healing. - [68 - Free of Shame, Full of Joy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/free-shame-full-joy/) - What do you do when you feel discouraged, inadequate, guilty, or ashamed? We may deny our emotions or escape into compulsive behavior. St Francis shows us that following the footprints of Christ is the path of great joy. - [69 - Letting Grace Warm Your Heart](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/letting-grace-warm-heart/) - The most important thing about our life, relationships, work, and ministry is having our heart warm with God’s love. Without this, we become tired, discouraged, and see little fruit. - [70 - Hospitality From C. S. Lewis](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/hospitality-c-s-lewis/) - You’ll enjoy Bill and Kristi’s spiritual friendship as they share their experience of visiting C. S. Lewis’ home, “The Kilns” in Oxford, England. They share fascinating stories from this great Christian thinker. - [71 - When God Breaks Through](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/joy-c-s-lewis/) - God is always present loving us and inviting us to join the wonderful things he’s doing. C.S. Lewis calls this “Narnia.” But if we’re “checked out” emotionally we miss out. To help you experience the in-breaking of Christ and his Kingdom of the Heavens Bill tells the story of an alcoholic pastor he helped into recovery. - [52 - You’re Not Alone With Your Burdens](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/youre-not-alone-burdens/) - We continue the Lent journey of “Unforsaken.” Under the weight of the cross Jesus falls — into his Abba’s arms of love! - [53 - Helping Jesus Helps Us](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/helping-jesus-helps-us/) - In pain it’s tempting to isolate and feel sorry for ourselves, but on his crosswalk Jesus shows us the way into the graces of companionship and kindness. - [54 - When You Feel Bad Look Into Jesus' Face](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/feel-bad-look-jesus-face/) - When we feel depressed or ashamed, Jesus helps us carry these burdens and shows us the better way of reaching up to take hold of God's hand of grace. - [55 - Falling and Rising Again](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/falling-and-rising-again/) - Looking to Jesus together, heart to heart, we can recover from discouragement, even depression and abuse. We can forgive. - [56 - Trusting God When You Feel Forsaken](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/trusting-god-feel-forsaken/) - It’s in times of pain and distress that we’re most likely to feel alone. Yet, that’s when we most need care and help! On the cross Jesus shows us how to trust God when we feel abandoned. - [57 - Resting in God’s Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/resting-gods-grace/) - Grace comes to nourish and empower us as we pray Jesus’ cross prayer of abandonment, “Father, into your hands I commit my spirit.” - [58 - Finding Christ Risen in Your Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/finding-christ-risen-life/) - Joy! Joy! Joy! Christ is risen! This is history and it’s the great opportunity of each day to appreciate that the Spirit of Jesus is resurrected, alive in our midst. - [59 - Becoming a Wounded Healer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/becoming-wounded-healer/) - Ken Baugh reflects on being a lead pastor and shares his story of stress overload, church conflict, fear, shame, anger, and how God used this to call him into a new and deeper ministry of being a wounded healer to disciple people to Jesus. - [60 - Leading With Vulnerability](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/leading-with-vulnerability/) - “Excuse me, Lord, why should I go the elders and apologize? They wronged me!” That’s how Ken Baugh felt after being terminated as lead pastor. But having receiving empathy and emotional healing, now he took ownership of his part of the leadership conflict. - [61 - Emotionally Healthy Community](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/emotionally-healthy-community/) - Pastor Ken and Susan Baugh share with Bill and Kristi as we continue our series on “Repairing Torn Hearts and Relationships.” Here’s what it looks like to heal, forgive, bless, and love those who hurt us in our church or family. - [44 - Renew Your Life in the Apprentice Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/renew-life-apprentice-prayer/) - This two-minute prayer has propelled spiritual renewal for many servants of the Lord. You’ll be inspired to pray it over and over and watch what God will do in your life and ministry! - [42 - Basking in the Light on the Longest Night](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/basking-light-longest-night/) - In the darkness of winter (including Seasonal Affective Disorder) and in holiday stress our body and soul long for the light and warmth of Christ. He comes to us! - [43 - The Blessing of Breath Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/blessing-breath-prayers/) - Bill and Kristi share specific Breath Prayers From the Bible and guide you in how to use them to refresh and renew in God’s Word and to intercede for other people. - [45 - Converting Distress Into Joyful Apprenticeship to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/converting-distress-joyful-apprenticeship-jesus/) - Bill and Kristi share how “The Apprentice Prayer” helps them find joy in the spiritual presence of Christ welcoming us into his Father’s world — even in emotional distress and intrusive frustrations. - [46 - Faith and Feelings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/faith-and-feelings/) - Often we try to fix our feelings with good advice or cheery reassurance. The truth and grace of the Bible brings comfort and help to troubled emotions. - [47 - Delighting in the Streams of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/delighting-streams-god/) - Join us as we drink in from the happy river of Psalm 46! We can bring our stress, family conflict, loneliness, or busyness into the loving presence of God and find refuge. - [48 - True Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/true-love/) - We may equate love with desire or romance, but authentic love is to will good for other people. It’s 1 Corinthians 13 love. - [49 - A Love Letter to Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/love-letter-jesus/) - Kristi asks Bill to share his intimate, affectionate love letter to Jesus. It’ll warm your heart for God. - [50 - The Emotionally Sensitive Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/emotionally-sensitive-person/) - It’s very difficult to be a Feeler surrounded by thinkers and doers! Bill offers empathy for Kristi’s tender heart and draws out her emotional intelligence to benefit us all. - [51 - You Are Unforsaken! (The Message of Lent)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/unforsaken-message-lent/) - We begin a special Lent series in which we journey with Jesus as he carries his cross out of love for us. Through his cross our Lord and Savior invites us into the Kingdom of God. - [32 - Finding Yourself in Jesus’ Eyes](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/finding-jesus-eyes/) - We don’t really know our true selves until we look in Jesus’ eyes of love. That’s a grace-based relationship in which we’re empathized with, known, forgiven, and eternally loved! You long for this with God and safe people. The people around you need this from you. - [33 - When Ministry Engulfs Your Marriage](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/ministry-engulfs-marriage/) - Caring for others spiritually is so compelling that it can swallow up your marriage. It’s great to partner with our spouse in God’s work but not at the expense of intimacy and fun in our marriage. - [34 - Serve What You're Cooking](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/serve-youre-cooking/) - If we don't care for our own souls under God as pastors, people-helpers and Christian workers we will get depleted. Bill and Kristi share about some practical ways to care for our souls in ministry. - [35 - The Busy Leader](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/the-busy-leader/) - If you struggle with busyness you’re not alone! Let’s talk about how to prioritize the life of our soul in Christ. - [36 - A Storm of Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/a-storm-of-emotions/) - Bill has an emotional day and for someone who has historically been a strong thinker and an active do-er this is news! Kristi talks with him about when he used to repress his emotions versus feeling and expressing them now. The benefits are greater friendship and peace. - [37 - Nurturing Your Marriage to Bless Your Children](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/nurturing-marriage-bless-children/) - Bill and Kristi talk about effective parenting and putting priority on your marriage as a way to love your children drawing from Psalm 127 which calls us to be a family that rests in the Lord. - [38 - Setting Boundaries to Bless Your Children](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/setting-boundaries-bless-children/) - Children need care to learn to bond in relationship and to develop boundaries. Parents need to have limits with their children for their own relationship with God. This looks different for infants, pre-schoolers, school-aged, and young adults. Bill and Kristi share some practical strategies. - [39 - A Special Journey With Christ in Advent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/special-journey-christ-advent/) - Bill and Kristi share an advent devotional practice that facilitates heart-warming spiritual conversation with friends and family (even school-aged children). - [40 - Advent Brings Hope of Resurrection](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/advent-brings-hope-resurrection/) - The great hope of our lives is meeting Jesus face to face in heaven. The Bible teaches that we’re sowing our bodily lives like seeds that will blossom as resurrection bodies in heaven. This hope can sustains us through discouragement, stress, and grief. It’s our source of faith, love, joy and peace. - [41 - “I Am Pleased With You!”](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/i-am-pleased-with-you/) - Bill and Kristi talk about what it’s like to receive and trust God’s loving affirmation and to fight off Satan’s accusations. - [22 - God is at Work in Your Life Story!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/god-work-life-story/) - When we all feel disconnected from God or insignificant, God can encourage us through the supernatural ways he works through others, including mundane things and brokenness in our own lives. - [23 - Overcoming Discouragement in Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/overcoming-discouragement-ministry/) - 50% of pastors are discouraged right now. Whatever your ministry is, let's talk about your stress and burdens and find encouragement in the Lord. - [25 - Join Jesus' Intimacy With His Father (TLC Time)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/join-jesus-intimacy-with-his-father-tlc-time/) - The TLC you desire is available through extended quiet time “To Love Christ”. Our Lord invites us to find new joy and power for life and ministry. - [26 - Making Your Mind New](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/making-mind-new/) - A pastor and Soul Talks listener asks us how we use "Electric Scriptures" to renew our minds and turn on God’s power. - [27 - Resting in Jesus as Enough](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/resting-jesus-enough/) - Praying a psalm or verse of Scripture helps us to embrace Christ. Using Psalm 131 helps us release ambitions and worries while finding delight and peace in drawing close to Jesus and his Father. - [28 - Intimacy With Jesus Online](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/intimacy-jesus-online/) - Bill and Kristi introduce the new Soul Shepherding website which invites people into a closer walk with Jesus. They share from their own inward journey with the Lord, a kind of online library that Jesus provides out of an overflow of intimacy with Him. - [29 - Porn, Sex and True Intimacy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/porn-sex-true-intimacy/) - Bill and Kristi talk about the X-rated advice a man received from a secular therapist, and what really helped him. Pornography and other compulsive behaviors deaden the soul and hurt loved ones. Real life, love, joy and peace come through intimate relationships with God and people. - [21 - Who Carries the Emotion in Your Relationship?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/carries-emotion-relationship/) - In relationships there’s often a dynamic called “collusion.” Bill and Kristi share how the Lord Jesus shows us what healthy, loving collusion looks like. - [3 - Good Enough](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/good-enough-2/) - In this episode Bill shares that despite an abundance of positive feedback in response to the recent launch of this "Soul Talks" podcast he has battled with releasing “imperfect” episodes. Kristi also shares about her issues with perfectionism. They invite you to join them in relying on God's grace! - [4 - Trusting the Risen Christ in Trials](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/trusting-risen-christ-trials/) - Kristi shares with us that her sensitive heart absorbs the pain of others, including that of Christ on the cross. We explore how to trust the risen Christ with us in pain and difficulty. - [5 - The Loneliness of Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/the-loneliness-of-leadership/) - Most Christian leaders say they don’t have a close friend. There’s a certain aloneness and feeling of being unappreciated that goes with ministry. You carry others’ burdens but who carries yours? Bill and Kristi feel the struggle and invite you to join their conversation. - [6 - The Loneliness of Leadership, Part 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/loneliness-leadership-part-2/) - For pastors and ministry leaders yearning for deeper intimacy with Jesus. - [7 - The Blessings of Mentoring Relationships](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/blessings-mentoring-relationships/) - Officiating a wedding together for a ministry couple has Bill and Kristi reminiscing on life lessons they’ve learned from their spiritual mentors. They share wisdom for marriage and all relationships and inspire you to shine your light and pass on the blessing of spiritual mentoring. - [8 - Wrapped Around the Lord](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/wrapped-around-lord/) - Most of us don't like to wait. But in a time of praying Psalm 27 Kristi discovers that waiting is "wrapping herself around her loving Lord!" This is not a burden -- it's a delight! Bill and Kristi help you experience greater intimacy with God in your prayers for yourself and others. - [9 - Loving the Child In You and Others](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/loving-child-others/) - Bill and Kristi help you connect with the vulnerable child in you and in others. They share examples from their lives and their ministry to help you more fully trust in Jesus and grow up in the Father’s love. Kristi uses Psalm 131 to show you how to pray for yourself and others: “Jesus is Enough.” - [10 - Mother's Day: Gratitudes and Griefs](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/mothers-day-gratitudes-griefs/) - Kristi shares that being a mother is the hardest and most rewarding thing she's done and shares with Bill how we all have gratitudes and griefs to express to God, our perfectly loving mother (Isaiah 66:10-13). - [11 - Sharing Emotions Without Dumping](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/sharing-emotions-without-dumping/) - Do your emotions help or hinder your life and your relationships? Being vulnerable is different than dumping on people. Caring for people is different than rescuing them. Bill and Kristi share wisdom for processing emotions and maintaining objectivity in conflicts. - [1 - Spiritual Hospitality](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/spiritual-hospitality-podcast-001/) - The hospitality of Christ begins with a demeanor and actions that say, "I'm glad to see you!" It deepens as we offer empathy — “stepping into another’s skin to feel for them” — and prayer. (1 Peter 4:8-9) - [Following in the Faith of the Patriarchs](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/following-in-the-faith-of-the-patriarchs/) - The Bible stories of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob model for us the journey of faith. Also the struggle and redemption of faith. - [78 - The Emotionally Reluctant Person](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/emotionally-reluctant-person/) - A woman asks, “How can I help my husband share his feelings?” We all have family members or friends who are reluctant to share emotions. Maybe you are too! Here’s how to invite people to be emotionally vulnerable and draw them into the grace of Christ. In a replay of a conversation from the past, Kristi uses empathy to draw out Bill when he was an emotionally reluctant husband. - [31 - Calming Down Distress (Going Numb vs Praying)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/calming-distress-going-numb-vs-praying/) - When recovering from a major surgery a pastor realizes that he’s been using pain pills to cope with emotional distress. This is one of many unhealthy ways to “calm down” negative emotions. But denying feelings separates us from experiencing the love of God and of friends. - [30 - Feeling Your Emotions in a Relationship](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/feeling-emotions-relationship/) - Kristi and Bill talk about what it was like earlier in their marriage when he wasn’t aware of his emotions. Kristi felt disconnected from him and he felt pressured by her. They share how they grew in emotional differentiation, self-awareness, and true intimacy with one another and God. - [24 - When Empathy is Not Enough](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/empathy-not-enough/) - Sometimes giving empathy is exhausting and it may be that you need to speak the truth in love to the person sharing. Here's what that looks like. - [20 - Loving and Letting Go](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/loving-letting-go/) - Releasing our children to be their own persons is part of loving them. It starts when they’re little and continues all through life! - [19 - Cross the Border: Your Mission with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/cross-border-mission-jesus/) - Drawing on Jesus’ commission of the 72 disciples in Luke, Bill and Kristi share the challenges and fruits of caring for pastors from poor villages in Mexico. - [18 - Vacation Blessings and Trials](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/vacation-blessings-trials/) - Bill and Kristi invite Jesus into their time away and find renewal, not only in rest and play, but also in sharing their emotional struggles and seeking the Lord apart and together. - [17 - Play and Process Together](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/play-process-together/) - You need spontaneous fun in your life. You also need to verbalize and understand your emotional distress. Bill and Kristi model this in their conversation about the pros and cons of an Abbey’s “rule of life” to not say anything bad about someone that you wouldn’t tell them directly. - [16 - Sexual Intimacy in Marriage](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/sexual-intimacy-marriage/) - We tend to separate sexuality and spirituality, but God put them together. God’s plan is for husbands and wives is to enjoy sex in the context of emotional and spiritual intimacy. - [15 - Sharing Words of Affirmation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/sharing-words-affirmation/) - Many people are uncomfortable looking someone in the eye and saying something they appreciate and admire about that person. Ideas on giving and receiving affirmations so that it’s truly a blessing! - [14 - Christly Leadership: Lessons From Dallas Willard](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/christly-leadership-lessons-dallas-willard/) - Dallas Willard's best counter-cultural leadership lessons that have shaped the “Soul Shepherding” ministry to pastors and leaders. - [13 - Good Grief: Seeking Comfort When You Feel Sad](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/good-grief-seeking-comfort-feel-sad/) - Asking for emotional comfort is different than complaining or wallowing in self-pity — it’s the path of regaining energy for life and ministry. - [12 - Kristi's Cat Charlie Teaches Us to Trust God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/kristis-cat-charlie-teaches-us-trust-god/) - Kristi's cat, Charlie, follows her around all day and purrs in her lap. But he’s scared of cleanings and needs a “severe mercy”! Bill and Kristi draw out lessons from their cat and the Bible on trusting God. - [2 - When It's Good to Fail](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/when-its-good-to-fail/) - This conversation on "When It's Good to Fail" starts at our kitchen table. It's about our fear of launching this Podcast and failing! We draw out each others feelings and offer empathy. Then I (Bill) make a comment that surprises both of us: "Failure can be good!" - [341 - Best Soul Talks: Is Faith Real If You Don't Feel It?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/341-best-soul-talks-is-faith-real-if-you-dont-feel-it/) - This Week on Soul Talks All of us have likely experienced times in our lives when we may not be feeling God’s love and presence as deeply, and it may lead us to ask, “Is my faith real if I don’t feel it?” In these times of doubt, the Lord offers us an invitation for - [340 - Best Soul Talks: Psalm 23 Meditation to Renew Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/340-best-soul-talks-psalm-23-meditation-to-renew-your-soul/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all need time to slow down and re-center in the middle of overly-full lives. When we shift our focus back to Jesus, we can rest in his peace regardless of our circumstances. Come step into the reality of the Kingdom of the Heavens with Jesus, our Good Shepherd! Join - [339 - Best Soul Talks: When You’re Stuck in Your Head](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/339-best-soul-talks-when-youre-stuck-in-your-head/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us have been taught that if we can only change our thinking, we’ll change our lives. Yet, this often leaves us with a disconnection between our head knowledge and our emotions. Jesus invites us to spiritual authenticity through experiencing both our emotions and our thoughts resulting in lasting - [338 - Emotional and Spiritual Recovery After Trauma](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/338-emotional-and-spiritual-recovery-after-trauma/) - This Week on Soul Talks If you are a survivor of abuse, our Shepherd Jesus sees you. He feels your pain and fear and wants to comfort you and help you experience healing, freedom from shame, and new courage. We want to help you heal and be restored in the care of Jesus. In this - [337 - Best Soul Talks: Emotional Healing for a Trauma Trigger](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/337-best-soul-talks-emotional-healing-for-a-trauma-trigger/) - This Week on Soul Talks We all have “implicit memories” of childhood distress that need divine compassion. The Lord is near to bring his consolation and healing to us. Thankfully, a deep hurt offered to the Lord can become a “sacred wound” that heals others. Join us for the Best of Soul Talks series, where - [336 - Is That Voice in my Head God?](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/336-is-that-voice-in-my-head-god/) - This Week on Soul Talks Hearing God is a central part of growing in relationship with the Lord. Yet many of us struggle to hear God and to distinguish his voice from our own thoughts. Be encouraged! Through learning to hear his voice, we will become convinced of his goodness, his love, and his good - [335 - Seeking God (A Soul Talk with Trevor Hudson)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/335-seeking-god-a-soul-talk-with-trevor-hudson/) - This Week on Soul Talks Sometimes we seek to avoid vulnerability and distract ourselves from areas where we may feel dependent. Yet in vulnerability there is a wonderful invitation into a different kind of life! Jesus has a tender way of meeting us in our places of deepest need and bringing us his joy. Listen - [334 - The Discerning Leader (A Soul Talk With Steve Macchia)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/334-the-discerning-leader-a-soul-talk-with-steve-macchia/) - This Week on Soul Talks Discernment isn’t just learning God’s will for our lives. We may have limited our understanding of discernment in the past, missing the opportunity to walk with and notice God in a deeper way through life and leadership. Take heart — we can grow in our intimacy with Jesus, receiving his - [333 - Empathy is Not Coddling](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/333-empathy-is-not-coddling/) - This Week on Soul Talks Sometimes considered weakness or coddling, empathy is often misunderstood. We may not think we need empathy, and we may underestimate its value in our relationships. Yet empathy is a major key to our growth, our intimacy with Christ, and our ministry with others. In this episode of Soul Talks, Bill - [332 - A Relaxed and Fruitful Life With Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/332-a-relaxed-and-fruitful-life-with-jesus/) - This Week on Soul Talks We know that Jesus is loving, holy, compassionate, and powerful. On closer examination of his life in the book of Mark, we see he repeatedly handles stressful situations with a relaxed approach. We may struggle with stress and anxiety both in relationships and ministry. Yet our relaxed and loving Lord - [331 - Living With a Perfectionist](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/331-living-with-a-perfectionist/) - This Week on Soul Talks Almost all of us live with a perfectionist, either the one inside our own heads, or someone in our lives. In addition to experiencing the criticism of others, our own internal dialogue can be harsh and demanding. The voice of our Risen Savior speaks a different story to us, one - [325 - Caring for Anxiety and Mental Health](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/325-caring-for-anxiety-and-mental-health/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many people are held back in their lives by anxiety. Problems with anxiety are the most common mental-emotional disorder for American adults today. But here’s the good news: there is hope for people who are struggling with anxiety! Jesus heals anxious hearts. Tune into this episode of Soul Talks, where - [329 - Post Traumatic Growth](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/329-post-traumatic-growth/) - This Week on Soul Talks Post-traumatic stress is a frequent topic of discussion in our culture today. Sometimes we may experience trials and are unable to see hope for our future. But there is another, less well-known side of trauma that is accessible to us as we lean in with our Risen Lord — post-traumatic - [328 - Recovery From Spiritual Abuse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/328-recovery-from-spiritual-abuse/) - This Week on Soul Talks Some of us may have been impacted by spiritual abuse or church hurt. Many of us have hit a wall spiritually and experienced prolonged desert seasons. This doesn’t have to be the ending of our story—there is hope for healing, restoration, and freedom as we discover the hidden treasure of - [327 - Care for Depression](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/327-care-for-depression/) - This Week on Soul Talks As we go through various trials in life, we may experience different types of depression. This can cause us to turn our anger inward, judging and shaming ourselves into loneliness and isolation. But friends, our Risen Savior goes ahead of us always, and we are not alone. One of the - [326 - Help for Addiction and Compulsive Behavior](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/326-help-for-addiction-and-compulsive-behavior/) - This Week on Soul Talks Many of us have either personally experienced mental health issues like addiction, or we know and love people who have. These struggles are a normal part of our humanity, and there is no shame in these experiences. We have access to God’s healing power in the Kingdom of the Heavens - [324 - How to Be a Spirit-Led Speaker](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/324-how-to-be-a-spirit-led-speaker/) - This Week on Soul Talks When we are leading conversations, preaching, or speaking to others, it can be tempting to rely solely on our own strength — on our own preparation, experiences, and knowledge. But the Lord has given us his Spirit that dwells in us and intercedes on our behalf in the Kingdom of - [322 - Returning to Joy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/322-returning-to-joy/) - This Week on Soul Talks As Christ followers, how can we find true joy that mingles with the sorrow, stress, and other negative emotions that we experience in our lives? We know that the Risen Lord was a man of great joy! And just like Jesus, we can learn how to care for all of - [317 - Intimacy with Jesus for Thinkers and Doers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/317-intimacy-with-jesus-for-thinkers-and-doers/) - This Week on Soul Talks Empathy and Intimacy with Jesus can be difficult experiences for those of us who are not bent toward emotion or are not naturally “feelers”. The Stations of the Cross is an enriching journey that the Lord has used for centuries in the lives of Christ followers to deepen our empathy - [316 - Strength for Tender Hearts at Jesus' Cross](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/316-strength-for-tender-hearts-at-jesus-cross/) - This Week on Soul Talks It can be overwhelming and even painful to journey with Jesus as he takes up his cross and endures unimaginable suffering. Oftentimes, this can lead to feelings of guilt or shame and make it difficult for us to receive the gift of love that the Lord offers through this journey. - [318 - Aging Faithfully](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/318-aging-faithfully/) - This Week on Soul Talks As we age, we can find ourselves grieving the loss of our younger selves, including physical capabilities and energy we might no longer have. But there is so much bright hope in knowing that our Sovereign Lord intended these very experiences of aging for us, and he desires to walk - [319 - Renewing Your Inner Person as You Age](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/319-renewing-your-inner-person-as-you-age/) - This Week on Soul Talks As we get older, sometimes we wish those numbers would go in the other direction! We might even be feeling discouraged in a culture that idolizes youth. But when we lean in, we see that this is actually contradictory to what Scripture says about the eternal and the abundant life - [321 - Soul Care for the Overly Responsible](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/321-soul-care-for-the-overly-responsible/) - This Week on Soul Talks When we feel overly-responsible for our own emotions and needs, we often carry anxiety, shame, or self-condemnation. It can be difficult to treat ourselves with the gentleness and kindness of Christ as we work through our struggles. But the truth is that our Risen Lord offers us patience and compassion - [312 - Help for Doubt](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/312-help-for-doubt/) - This Week on Soul Talks Are you, a close friend, or a family member experiencing feelings of doubt? The truth is, we all have emotional experiences in life that can seem contrary to our faith. What do we do with those when they happen? Simply trying not to doubt isn’t enough. Thinking the right thoughts and doing the right - [302 - Gratitude and Emotional Honesty](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/302-gratitude-and-emotional-honesty/) - This Week on Soul Talks How can we be thankful if we’re in a season where we don’t feel thankful? We may even be experiencing trials or grief and feeling downright bad! Being thankful and experiencing feelings of grief, anger, or dissatisfaction are not opposed to each other. We don’t have to deny our pain… - [304 - Spiritual Disciplines for Couples & Families](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/304-spiritual-disciplines-for-couples-and-families/) - This Week on Soul Talks In the midst of the chaos of life, work, or parenting it can be challenging to stay connected in your relationships and with the Lord. In this Soul Talk, Bill and Kristi walk us through seven practical spiritual disciplines that have helped them experience more bonding and empathy with God, - [294 - Don't Let Depression Cause Shame & Isolation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/294-dont-let-depression-cause-shame-isolation/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: What do you do if you feel down and depressed? Sharing your struggles with close friends as well as a counselor or spiritual director can make all the difference. Bill & Kristi sit down with friend Gary Kinnaman, pastor and author of Leaders That Last and Seeing… - [295 - Practicing Sabbath Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/295-practicing-sabbath-rest/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Sabbath rest is one of God’s greatest gifts to us, but it always doesn’t come easy to us. In this episode Bill & Kristi share a powerful and vulnerable soul talk exploring what gets in the way of experiencing Sabbath rest and ways we can learn to be… - [296 - Recovery From Trauma](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/296-recovery-from-trauma/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: When you empathize with others who have experienced emotional trauma, such as church conflicts, family betrayals, or significant loss, you might experience what is called vicarious trauma. Bill & Kristi offer vulnerable personal stories to help us normalize and name the reality of vicarious trauma in our lives.… - [297 - Soul Care to Get Unstuck](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/297-soul-care-to-get-unstuck/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: There are many ways in our lives, work, relationships, and even in our ministry that we may feel stuck. Hitting this wall can lead to depression, anger, and ultimately, burnout. But, there is hope. In this episode, Bill and Kristi share from their own experiences how easy it… - [298 - Leading From a Rested Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/298-leading-from-a-rested-soul/) - This Week in Soul Talks Leading from a rested soul is good for you! When we overwork ourselves to the point of exhaustion, it not only harms us but it leaves a mark on those around us. Bill knows this well as a ‘workaholic in recovery’ who over the years has learned to live in… - [308 - Dallas Willard's 3 Steps to Change Your Prayer Life](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/308-dallas-willards-3-steps-to-change-your-prayer-life/) - This Week on Soul Talks Prayer makes it possible for us to live like Christ. Through prayer, we can shine the light of the risen Jesus — a warmth that we and those around us so desperately need! In this episode of Soul Talks, Bill and Kristi unpack 3 of Dallas Willard’s paradigm-shifting insights on - [300 - Raising Kids With Healthy Faith & Feelings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/300-raising-kids-with-healthy-faith-feelings/) - This Week on Soul Talks Let’s face it: family relationships and parenting aren’t always easy! Bill and Kristi know firsthand what this is like in their 30 years of raising three kids. In this Soul Talk, they share from their personal experience and offer psychological and spiritual insight for how we can raise our children… - [307 - A Prayer of Renewal for the New Year](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/307-a-prayer-of-renewal-for-the-new-year/) - This Week on Soul Talks God wants to do good things in your life this New Year! Whatever it is that you're going through — be it anxiety, relational conflicts, a stressful situation at work, depression, etc. — there’s an invitation for you to walk through it with Jesus. When we enter our daily lives - [306 - Real Life, Real Talk in Christ's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/306-real-life-real-talk-in-christs-presence/) - This Week on Soul Talks It’s tempting to look to what you accomplish or what people say about you for personal meaning or security. But then we miss the smile of Jesus glowing over us! Colossians 3 offers a wonderful promise that’s sadly elusive for most of us: “For you died, and your life is - [313 - Having Hope When You Fear Disappointment](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/313-having-hope-when-you-fear-disappointment/) - This Week on Soul Talks Often we are afraid to hope and be disappointed. The emotional let down of disappointment is painful and lonely. So naturally, we’re prone to guard against the pain by letting down our hopes. But without hope we have nothing! All good things come from hope. The Bible says it’s the - [301 - How to Adjust Expectations in Relationships](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/301-adjusting-expectations/) - This Week on Soul Talks Have you ever been disappointed by a family member? We all have expectations for our families, but sometimes those expectations aren’t met. When that happens, it can be stressful and hurtful. In this episode, Bill and Kristi will give you a roadmap to navigating family expectations. They also share some… - [303 - Christmas Traditions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/303-christmas-traditions/) - This Week on Soul Talks Have you ever felt like you’ve missed Jesus in the busyness of the Christmas season? Christmastime is often full of festivities, shopping, distractions, and pressures. In the midst of the hustle and bustle of the Christmas season, it can be easy to miss out on moments of enjoyment, relationship, prayer, - [309 - Known and Named by God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/309-known-and-named-by-god/) - This Week on Soul Talks When we experience seasons of suffering, our faith is tested. We often experience doubt and we long to feel God’s presence. But the best news and unwavering truth is that the Lord Jesus hears us. He sees us. He is near to us. And he has known us long before - [310 - A Passion to Share God's Peace (Like Martin Luther King Jr.)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/310-a-passion-to-share-gods-peace/) - This Week on Soul Talks Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. continues to be an encouraging and inspiring example for us all. He was, first and foremost, a disciple of Jesus Christ and a preacher of the Gospel. He was a truth-teller dealing with injustice, but did so with great love and gentleness. He embodied the - [233 - 1st Love: Joining Jesus’ Intimacy with his Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/233-1st-love-joining-jesus-intimacy-with-his-father/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Reflecting and quieting your soul with Jesus in what Bill and Kristi call “TLC” time is an invitation to experience deeper intimacy with Christ. Extended time allows you to experience increased giving and receiving of God’s love. Just as Jesus withdrew from ministry to be along with… - [234 - 1st Love: Jesus Feels Your Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/234-1st-love-jesus-feels-your-emotions/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We can imagine Jesus as a thinker, a teacher, or a leader, but have you ever thought of Jesus being a “feeler”? Jesus felt many emotions that we do including fear, worry, and even shame. This allows him to enter into our life experiences with us and feel… - [235 - 1st Love: When You Don’t Feel God’s Love Anymore](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/235-1st-love-when-you-dont-feel-gods-love-anymore/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Have you ever felt as though God’s presence is far from you? All of us experience seasons when we feel distant from God, and hope and freedom are available in the midst of them. In this episode, Bill shares the story of a pastor he supported who experienced… - [236 - 1st Love: Faith and Feelings](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/236-1st-love-faith-and-feelings/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Often we try to fix our negative feelings with good advice or cheery reassurance. We do this same thing to other people, too. It’s what we call one of the “Biblical Blunders That Bruise and Confuse.” Real-life is a lot messier than the old dictum to get on… - [237 - 1st Love: Intimacy with Jesus in Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/237-1st-love-intimacy-with-jesus-in-leadership/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Leadership in the way of Christ is very different and dramatically more impactful than cultural leadership in the way of our world and people’s natural abilities. True spiritual leadership begins with our intimacy with Jesus. Reflect on your own leadership and intimacy with Jesus as Bill and Kristi… - [238 - 1st Love: Ministry in the Smile of the Father](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/238-1st-love-ministry-in-the-smile-of-the-father/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Most of us in ministry can be tempted to try too hard. We tend to put too much time, worry, and stress into making people happy. This can get exhausting and turn into burn-out! Join Bill and Kristi as they share a blessing of prayer and affirmation for… - [239 - Jesus’ Easy Way to Do Hard Things: Part 1](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/239-jesus-easy-way-to-do-hard-things-part-1/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi sit down with pastors from Saddleback Church for a conversation on how to do hard things in an easy way. In the first of this three-part series, you’ll hear about the Biblical anchors of Jesus’ easy yoke, gain a picture of what his easy yoke looks… - [240 - Jesus' Easy Way to Do Hard Things Part 2](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/240-jesus-easy-way-to-do-hard-things-part-2/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Gain a vision for training with Jesus for greater joy and productivity. In this episode, Bill and Kristi, along with pastors from Saddleback Church will help you develop a vision for stepping into Jesus’ easy yoke and seeing development in all areas of your life. Jesus brings ease into… - [241 - Jesus' Easy Way to Do Hard Things Part 3](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/241-jesus-easy-way-to-do-hard-things-part-3/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: This week, Bill and Kristi partner with the Doable Discipleship Podcast from Saddleback Church for a conversation on Sabbath. Sabbath takes practice! We can be tempted to abandon it, but it is an important practice to rest in God’s power. And it can be learned over time. Bill and… - [242 - Family Dynamics: Dysfunctional Roles](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/242-family-dynamics-dysfunctional-roles/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Our family formation is a part of our spiritual formation. Bill and Kristi begin this new series by exploring family roles. As you explore the role you played in your family of origin, you can more deeply take on your identity in Christ, so that you can ultimately… - [243 - Great Hope in Divisive Times](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/243-great-hope-in-divisive-times/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Listen in as Bill and Kristi consider four key perspectives for living with hope in these challenging times. They invite you to consider the ways you can use your influence to pray for and practice the way of God’s kingdom, even when surrounded by turmoil. Episode Notes: … - [244 - Family Dynamics: Enmeshment to Healthy Relationships](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/244-family-dynamics-enmeshment-to-healthy-relationships/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In these unusual times, families are together more than ever. Investigating unconscious dynamics around enmeshment within our families and those we lead is necessary for growth. Jesus modeled healthy relationships so let’s learn from him. This conversation is full of transformative insight for your life and leadership! Episode… - [245 - Family Dynamics: Isolation to Healthy Relationships](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/245-family-dynamics-isolation-to-healthy-relationships/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: These stressful times have increased isolation. And for many, isolation is already a frequent experience due to childhood pain. Let Bill and Kristi’s conversation shed light on the ways that isolation plays out in your family and relationships, keeping you from experiencing intimacy. It will help you grow… - [246 - Family Dynamics: Secret Agreements - Collusion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/246-family-dynamics-secret-agreements-collusion/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In our relationships, we can become stuck and stifled in unconscious patterns, called collusions. Bill and Kristi examine the ways these painful collusions show up in our important relationships so that we can learn to better “communicate about how we communicate.” We can override these patterns by the power… - [247 - Family Dynamics: Conflict (Triangulating)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/247-family-dynamics-conflict-triangulating/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Family formation is central to spiritual formation. Three-way relationships, known as triangles, keep you from experiencing healthy connection and intimacy within your family. Instead of experiencing division, you can grow in your awareness of how these triangles are affecting you and experience a change with God’s help. With… - [248 - Family Dynamics: Repairing Conflicts](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/248-family-dynamics-repairing-conflicts/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Conflict is inevitable in relationships, so the most important part is the repair afterward. What does repair look and sound and feel like? Find out as Bill and Kristi talk candidly about a recent conflict and repair they processed through together. Learn how to better offer and receive… - [249 - The Joy You're Waiting For!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/249-the-joy-youre-waiting-for/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: We have an opportunity to pause and express gratitude even in the midst of a difficult year. We can do that genuinely and meaningfully, connecting more deeply with Jesus along the way. Bill and Kristi let you in on a family tradition they’ve practiced for over a decade,… - [250 - Surprise Blessings for Advent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/250-surprise-blessings-for-advent/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Breathe some air into your soul before Advent begins! Bill and Kristi share how God is coming to them as they prepare their hearts for Christ’s birth. Hear their insights and invitations from their meditations using Soul Shepherding’s Advent cards. This creative method makes space for the Lord… - [251 - Enjoying God in Tough Times - A Soul Talk with Sheridan McDaniel](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/251-enjoying-god-in-tough-times-a-soul-talk-with-sheridan-mcdaniel/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill sits down with Sheridan McDaniel, pastor and chaplain, to talk honestly about what it looks like to appreciate God’s presence during stress and challenge. Hear stories of experiencing God’s nearness and compassion in the midst of racial injustice and difficult ministry seasons. Be encouraged to see and… - [253- The Conversation: A Christmas Reading](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/253-the-conversation-a-christmas-reading/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: As a gift to you this Christmas Bill shares his meditation on John 1. He and Kristi use this fresh re-telling of the birth of Christ to help you know and share God’s wonderful love with your family and friends during this Christmas season. Episode Notes: The Soul Talks… - [252 - The Way of Presence - A Soul Talk With Alan Fadling](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/252-the-way-of-presence-a-soul-talk-with-alan-fadling/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill sits down with friend and author, Alan Fadling, to discuss Alan’s newest book, The Way of Presence. Bill and Alan share with candor and insight about the tangible, meaningful, and playful ways God comes to us in the midst of our everyday lives. Episode Notes: Our friend… - [264 - Journey of the Soul (C Stage)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/264-journey-of-the-soul-c-stage/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: The “C” stage, Confidence in Christ, is the first of the CHRIST model outlined in Journey of the Soul. In this stage, we turn from darkness to light and experience the grace of God’s sticky love. Kristi describes a discipling relationship she had with someone in the “C”… - [265 - Journey of the Soul (H Stage)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/265-journey-of-the-soul-h-stage/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi dig into the second stage in Journey of the Soul, the “Help in Discipleship” stage. Putting language to feelings and faith in each stage is important for us and for those we lead. Kristi shares how the language of the “H” stage helped her help… - [266 - Journey of the Soul ( R Stage)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/266-journey-of-the-soul-r-stage/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: In the “Responsibilities in Ministry” stage, we discover the joy of bringing our gifts and talents to make a difference in God’s kingdom. Energy and excitement in serving can be found in this stage and it can also lead to spiritual dryness or burnout. Bill shares his journey… - [268 - Hope For Your Church](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/268-hope-for-your-church/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: As we come into Holy Week, many of us bring with us feelings of discouragement, disappointment, and even despair. In life with Christ, hope is not wishful thinking. It is full of strength and it begins with naming what we’re experiencing and being heard in community. When we… - [269 - Journey of the Soul (I Stage)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/269-journey-of-the-soul-i-stage/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi have an honest and open conversation about how the role of emotions helps us go deeper in our journey with the Lord. Hear from them about what it looks like to walk into the Intimacy with Jesus stage, where we long for God’s presence and… - [270 - Journey of the Soul (S Stage)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/270-journey-of-the-soul-s-stage/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi dive into the next of the CHRIST stages, the Spirit-Led Ministry stage. Hear Kristi process what it looked like to trust the Spirit’s movement and Christ’s presence in the midst of a full ministry season and real-time grief over the loss of her beloved… - [271 - Journey of the Soul (T Stage)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/271-journey-of-the-soul-t-stage/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: In the final of the CHRIST stages, Christ-followers step into Transforming Union with Christ. Those in this stage have their personalities so formed in Jesus, that they live with love for all people. Encounters with others are seen as an opportunity to love God, even difficult ones. Bill… - [272 - Dallas Willard: Spiritual Hospitality as Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/272-dallas-willard-spiritual-hospitality-as-ministry/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi share their personal experiences with Dallas’ spiritual hospitality, which was present, attentive, and responsive. Ministry to others begins with opening up our hearts to others so that they might experience the presence and joy of Jesus. Reflect on your own experiences of spiritual hospitality and… - [273 - Dallas Willard: How to Enjoy Your Ministry](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/273-dallas-willard-how-to-enjoy-your-ministry/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi share the impact of one of their favorite teachings of Dallas Willard, on the joyful presence of Jesus’ spirit in our work and ministry. Whatever the work, God invites us to do it with him, in his presence, through his power. God’s kingdom is available… - [274 - Unhindered Abundance With Ken Baugh](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/274-unhindered-abundance-with-ken-baugh/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill sits down with friend Ken Baugh to talk about his new book, Unhindered Abundance. The deep truths of Scripture join together with emotions and neurology to lead us to deeper abundance in Christ. Bill and Ken share what it’s like to take off the masks we wear… - [275 - Dallas Willard: Speaking and Preaching Without Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/275-dallas-willard-speaking-and-preaching-without-anxiety/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Dallas taught Bill and Kristi to speak publicly with deeper reliance on the Holy Spirit. Bill shares his personal story of great anxiety when he spoke and how he learned to release himself of the pressure to perform and instead abandon outcomes to God. Hear how Dallas Willard’s… - [276 - Dallas Willard: Relax With Jesus Before You Minister](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/276-dallas-willard-relax-with-jesus-before-you-minister/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: As Bill and Kristi continue to honor Dallas Willard, Bill shares one of his favorite stories of Dallas, which led him to uncover a key truth about resting with God. Leaders don’t need to wait until burnout to learn how to experience rest and experience calm and peace!… - [277 - Dallas Willard: Hearing God Before You Speak to Others](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/277-dallas-willard-hearing-god-before-you-speak-to-others/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Hearing from God is available to us in our ordinary, everyday lives! Dallas Willard championed growth in a conversational relationship with God, where we notice his movement and speaking in all things. It’s crucial that ministry leaders take time to hear from God prior to speaking to others,… - [278 - Dallas Willard: The Joy of Blessing Others (Even if They Criticize You)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/278-dallas-willard-the-joy-of-blessing-others-even-if-they-criticize-you/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi continue to remember Dallas Willard’s legacy by telling one of their favorite stories about Dallas. Dallas believed that we are meant to live in the overflow of Christ’s love, to a point where we can even bless others when we are criticized. This kind of… - [279 - Longing for a Father's Love](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/279-longing-for-a-fathers-love/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Taking the time to reflect on the wounds from our parents creates greater space to receive grace from our Heavenly Father. Bill shares the work that he’s done in naming both the gifts and pain he’s experienced from his father and how he has stepped into forgiveness and… - [280 - Act Now to Feel Better Later](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/280-act-now-to-feel-better-later/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Kristi shares a story from early on in her and Bill’s relationship. She took courage from a wise counselor and friend, Dr. David Stoop, to act on a truth about herself that was difficult to believe. Bill and Kristi unpack the importance of processing thoughts and feelings with… - [281 - Forgiving Emotionally](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/281-forgiving-emotionally/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: What does forgiveness look like when you’ve been wounded? Bill and Kristi tackle the complexities of forgiveness by sharing their spiritual and emotional insights and personal stories. Forgiveness is a process that allows God to heal your soul. Learn ways to step towards forgiveness with boundaries, mercy, and… - [282 - Feeling Jesus' Joy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/282-feeling-jesus-joy/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Christ is full of overflowing joy and ready to give it to you! We can’t muster up joy but we can abide in Christ’s love and experience the gift of joy in his kingdom. Through vulnerability, letting go, and receiving Jesus’ delight, we can enter new depths of his delight.… - [283 - Psalm 23 Meditation to Renew Your Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/283-psalm-23-meditation-to-renew-your-soul/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Take a moment to allow the Holy Spirit to minister to you in this time of quiet meditation on the powerful Psalm 23, led by Kristi. Refresh your soul! Episode Notes: To dig deeper into Psalm 23 read the following Soul Shepherding articles and resources. Journey: Visual Devotion… - [284 - The Thing Beneath the Thing (A Conversation with Steve Carter)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/284-the-thing-beneath-the-thing-convo-with-steve-carter/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi sit down with Steve Carter, author of The Thing Behind the Thing, for a powerful discussion on taking intentional steps to deepen our awareness and walk forward in growth and grace. Emotional eruptions, our triggers, are evidence of underlying dynamics that God invites us to explore and… - [285 - Talking With a Spiritual Director](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/285-talking-with-a-spiritual-director/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: The ministry of spiritual direction offers opportunities to experience peace, grace, discernment, and the love of God. A spiritual director listens to you as they’re listening to the Holy Spirit and offers gentle guidance. Bill and Kristi help listeners understand the dynamics of spiritual direction and offer next… - [286 - Empathy in Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/286-empathy-in-spiritual-direction/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Empathy is a key ingredient to hearing from the Lord and experiencing his love while engaging in spiritual direction. A Spiritual Director skilled in offering empathy can create a warm and safe space for you to pay attention to God’s movement in your life. The ability to slow… - [287 - Lectio Divina in Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/287-lectio-divina-in-spiritual-direction/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: The spiritual practice of Lectio Divina can nourish and deepen your connection with Jesus. This way of engaging Scripture creates space for God to transform us and train us in the way of life in God’s kingdom. Hear how Lectio Divina and processing that experience with someone else,… - [288 - An Example of Spiritual Direction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/288-an-example-of-spiritual-direction/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: It’s becoming increasingly difficult to make space and give our attention and energy to organic, deep, face-to-face relationships. Spiritual direction helps to stir up conversations that are prayerful, authentic, and encourage us in our formation in Christ. Hear a real-life example of a chance encounter that turned into… - [289 - Soul Care for Pastors & Leaders](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/289-soul-care-for-pastors-leaders/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: Bill was recently hosted on the 95Network’s podcast by Dale Sellers and we’re sharing it with you! 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In this conversation… - [291 - Empathy & Healthy Faith](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/291-empathy-healthy-faith/) - Listen to This Episode of Soul Talks: “What helps you trust that Jesus has deep compassion for you?” Bill & Kristi share their own experiences to this question, based on the Journey of the Soul: Soul Talk Cards. Feeling Jesus’ empathy and compassion for us in our struggles, both big and small, catalyzes our faith - [255 - When God Breaks Through](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/when-god-breaks-through/) - This episode was recorded in the summer of 2017. God is always present loving us and inviting us to join the wonderful things he’s doing. C.S. Lewis calls this “Narnia.” But if we’re “checked out” emotionally, we miss out. To help you experience the in-breaking of Christ and his Kingdom of the Heavens, Bill tells the story of an alcoholic pastor he helped into recovery. - [256 - The Death & Resurrection of a Dream (Bill's Story)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/256-the-death-resurrection-of-a-dream-bills-story/) - In anticipation of the release of Journey of the Soul, Bill reflects on his journey in waiting on God to fulfill his calling to write. Bill honestly shares the deep and powerful transformation that came through wrestling with the sacrifice and realization of a life-long dream. - [257 - Stepping Up to the Plate (Kristi's Story)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/257-stepping-up-to-the-plate-kristis-story/) - This week, hear Kristi's behind-the-scenes story of writing Journey of the Soul. It's one of sacrifice and surrender, which ultimately led her to embrace God's invitation to write alongside Bill. - [258 - MLK: Growing in Prayer, Empathy, and Justice](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/258-mlk-growing-in-prayer-empathy-and-justice/) - The life of Dr. Martin Luther King inspires and challenges us to seek Christ and fight for justice. Bill and friend John Walton, African-American pastor, discuss the responsibility to offer empathy and care for the oppressed, out of Christ's love. Hear vital invitations and challenges for Christ-followers in the midst of a divisive time in our country and church. - [259 - Dallas Willard on the Journey of the Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/259-dallas-willard-on-the-journey-of-the-soul/) - Dallas Willard inspired the model that Bill and Kristi write about in their upcoming book, Journey of the Soul. 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Open your soul to Jesus - [231 - EQ: Teamwork for More Success](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/231-eq-teamwork-for-more-success/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In this final conversation on emotional intelligence, Bill and Kristi discuss the challenges and the opportunities that come from teaming with others. It can be easy to slip into doing our work on our own, but that's not what God wants for us. No matter your role, Jesus - [230 - EQ: Leading with Empathy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/230-eq-leading-with-empathy/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi continue their series on EQ by highlighting leading with empathy. Empathy is both critical to give and to receive. In this episode, Bill and Kristi role-play a soul talk of a grieving pastor so you can have a taste of giving and receiving empathy. Episode - [229 - EQ: The Energy You Need](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/229-eq-the-energy-you-need/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi continue their conversation on increasing emotional intelligence. In this episode, they explore the importance of activation and what motivates us. Motivation needs to be about our intimacy with Jesus. Our culture tells us it is about self-motivation, but Jesus tells us the ultimate power and - [228-EQ: Managing Your Emotions to Love and Lead Well](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/228-eq-managing-your-emotions-to-love-and-lead-well/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi continue their conversation on increasing emotional intelligence. In this episode, they explore the importance of managing emotions. Bill shares about how he navigated a recent experience in which he needed to manage his emotions. Learn how to increase your courage and wisdom to navigate your - [227 - EQ: Your Emotions are a Source of Wisdom](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/227-eq-your-emotions-are-a-source-of-wisdom/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Self-awareness is a crucial piece in our ability to lead and love others. Repressing our emotions only leaves us with less energy. Seek a deeper understanding of how your emotions are affecting your relationships and watch your capacity to give and receive empathy grow. Bill and Kristi offer tangible - [226 - Calming Your Emotions in Trauma](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/226-calming-your-emotions-in-trauma/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In the midst of trauma, it's critical to examine and process your own emotions when you encounter the pain and suffering of others and become in touch with your own. In this episode, Bill and Kristi help you pay attention to your underlying emotions so that you can keep - [225 - EQ: Emotional Intelligence Starts with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/225-eq-emotional-intelligence-starts-with-jesus/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: Bill and Kristi jump back into our SMART love series--the 5 key links to emotional intelligence. Learn to manage your emotions so that you can join Jesus in extending his love to the world. You'll hear how Jesus, the most emotionally intelligent person to have ever lived, extended - [224 - Help for Depression: One Pastor’s Story](https://www.soulshepherding.org/podcast/224-help-for-depression-one-pastors-story/) - Listen to this episode of Soul Talks: In this episode, Bill invites Pastor David to a vulnerable conversation about the struggles of depression. You'll hear the story of Pastor David's difficult season and the breakthroughs he experienced. God's grace heals and restores! 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(Abba is Hebrew for “Papa” or “Daddy.”) - [Abuse](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/abuse/) - There’s help and healing if you’ve experienced sexual, physical, or emotional mistreatment. - [Addiction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/addiction/) - You can get free of compulsive behavior with alcohol, drugs, food, sex, work, or problem relationships. - [Advent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/advent/) - What a joy it is to prepare our hearts for the coming of Christ! It begins four Sundays before Christmas. - [Anger](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/anger/) - An emotional response to having your will crossed or being hurt in some way. - [Anxiety](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/anxiety/) - You can learn not to internalize stress and become increasingly worry free! - [Be Still](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/be-still/) - Here’s help to be still before the Lord. It’s the way to hear his voice and enjoy his peace. - [Boundaries](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/boundaries/) - Having good boundaries is key to having good relationships. - [Breath Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/breath-prayer/) - A little Breath Prayer from the Bible can make a BIG difference in your life! - [Charles Spurgeon](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/charles-spurgeon/) - [Soul Friendship](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/soul-friendship/) - Safety. Empathy. Christ. That’s the stuff of authentic community. - [Christ's Ambassador](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/christs-ambassador/) - All of us who follow Christ have a ministry of sharing God’s love with the people around us. - [Church](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/church/) - The most important thing happening in your neighborhood is happening in your church. - [Classics](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/classics/) - Guidance on using the classic books on devotion to Christ. Includes excerpts. - [Conflict Resolution](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/conflict-resolution/) - Every significant relationship has conflict — here’s how to resolve it. - [Consecration Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/consecration-prayers/) - These prayers of devotion to the Lord can set your heart on fire! - [Dallas Willard](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/dallas-willard/) - Transforming lessons for life in Christ from our mentor. - [Dark Night of the Soul](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/dark-night-of-the-soul/) - Comfort and guidance for when God feels distant. - [Death](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/death/) - We all must face death, our own and of those we love. Jesus said, “You will not experience death.” - [Depression](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/depression/) - Here’s hope for when you feel empty, discouraged, or bad. - [Devotion](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/devotion/) - The one thing to live for is knowing Christ and sharing him with others. - [Easy Yoke](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/easy-yoke/) - You can live and work in Jesus’ rhythms of grace. - [Empathy for Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/empathy-emotions/) - Feelings and desires can be wonderful servants but horrible masters. - [Evangelism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/evangelism/) - “Preach the gospel always. When necessary use words. ” St. Francis - [False Self](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/false-self/) - Trying to be ideal means you’re never accepted for your true self. - [Family](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/family/) - Love covers a multitude of family dysfunctions. - [Fasting](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/fasting/) - Fasting from food can be feasting on God’s Word. - [Fear](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/fear/) - Everyone has fears to face. Some learn to “take courage” from the Lord. - [Forgiveness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/forgiveness/) - “Forgive as the Lord has forgiven you” (Colossians 3:13). You may need a healing process. - [Grace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/grace/) - Grace is more than “unmerited favor.” It’s God acting in your life to do what you can’t do for yourself. - [Grief](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/grief/) - In your losses don’t deny your sadness — seek God’s comfort. - [Healing Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/healing-prayer/) - Invite Jesus to come and heal your painful memories and wounded places. - [Hearing God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/hearing-god/) - Your life becomes a joyful adventure as you develop a conversational relationship with God. - [Identity in Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/identity-in-christ/) - “In Christ” you have every reason to smile and hold your head high! - [Image of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/image-of-god/) - The most important aspect of you is your heart-felt image of what God is. - [Intimacy with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/intimacy-with-jesus/) - Jesus said, “Abide in me and you will bear much fruit” (John 15:5, paraphrase). - [Jealousy](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/jealousy/) - Instead of being jealous, bring your need to God and share his blessings with your competitor. - [Apprentice of Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/jesus-apprentice/) - The opportunity of your life is to be with Jesus in order to become like him! - [Joy!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/joy/) - “The joy of the Lord is your strength” (Nehemiah 8:10). - [Kingdom of God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/kingdom-of-god/) - “Re-think your life. You can live right now in the kingdom of the heavens” (Matthew 4:17, paraphrase). - [Leadership](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/leadership/) - The best leaders don’t make things happen for themselves — they follow Christ and serve others. - [Lectio Divina](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/lectio-divina/) - Open your heart to God and hear his voice in this ancient way to meditate on Scripture. It’s best done in community. - [Lent](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/lent/) - Join Jesus in his cross to rejoice in his resurrection. Lent (40 days) and Easter are the rhythm of life. - [Lonely](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/lonely/) - Lonely? You can look to Jesus and know that you’re never alone! Christ’s Ambassadors help with this. - [Longing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/longing/) - Longing for God is the breathing of the soul. Without it you’ll suffocate. - [Love for Enemies](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/love-for-enemies/) - Jesus taught, “Bless those that curse you” (Matthew 5:44). It’s about training your heart. - [Love for Neighbors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/love-for-neighbors/) - Share God’s love with the people in your circle of influence. This is the whole of God’s Law. - [Lust](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/lust/) - Lust excites, but gives no joy. It degrades you and others. Only Love can set you free. - [Marriage](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/marriage/) - Husband love your wife. Wife respect your husband. Be like Jesus and you’ll be happy. - [Ministry Stress](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/ministry-stress/) - Ministry stress is inevitable. Stress overload can be avoided. - [Missions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/missions/) - All Christ-followers are called to go on a mission. - [Top Hits](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/new-year/) - The New Year is a great opportunity to renew your devotion to the Lord. (This is better than resolutions.) - [Overeating](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/overeating/) - “The Lord is my portion,” the Psalmist prays. If you know this then you won’t eat for emotional reasons. - [Ambition](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/ambition/) - You are a human being, not a human doing! You’re loved by God for who you are, not what you do. - [Parakletos](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/parakletos/) - The Spirit of Christ is with us as our Strengthener and Friend. - [Parenting](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/parenting/) - Wisdom and grace for parents raising their children to be holy and whole like Jesus. - [Passionate Indifference](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/passionate-indifference/) - With passion seek to be indifferent to all things except knowing Jesus and inviting others to join you. This is true peace. - [Pastors](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/pastors/) - Every pastor and ministry leader needs a pastor to care for them and guide their soul. - [Pastors' Wives](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/pastors-wives/) - Pastors’ wives have special needs and a special ministry. - [Peace](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/peace/) - We enjoy God’s peace (fullness of life) in any situation, not by seeking peace but by seeking God’s kingdom. - [People Pleasing](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/people-pleasing/) - If you feel you have to please people to be happy you won’t be happy — you’ll be anxious. - [Perfectionism](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/perfectionism/) - God’s grace is the only thing that’s perfect for perfectionists. - [Picture Prayers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/picture-prayers/) - Pictures for prayer and meditations on art inspired by Scripture or nature. - [Pilgrimage](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/pilgrimage/) - It’s a blessing to visit sacred places where God has met people in the past in order to seek him anew in prayer. - [Practice God's Presence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/practice-gods-presence/) - Rely on the Holy Spirit to help you to “pray without ceasing” (1 Thess 5:17). It’s the only way to live! - [Praying the Psalms](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/praying-psalms/) - The Psalms are God’s prayer manual for us. These prayers teach all kinds of prayers. - [Burnout](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/prevent-burnout/) - Be renewed. Beat burnout. Here’s how. - [Psalm 23](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/psalm-23/) - The most beloved Psalm illuminates the path of life with the Shepherd of our souls. - [Christian psychology](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/christian-psychology/) - Jesus is the Wonderful Counselor. A good therapist assists him. - [Ray Ortlund Sr.](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/ray-ortlund-sr/) - Taught me (Bill) to “Be all and only for Jesus.” He inspired my spiritual renewal and ministry to pastors. - [12 Step Recovery](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/12-step-recovery/) - 12-Step groups provide the needed support, structure, and education to overcome addictions. - [Renewal](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/renewal/) - Feeling flat? Tired of your routine? Jesus’ arms are open to you. Come to him afresh. - [Run with Jesus](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/run-with-jesus/) - Make Jesus your jogging (or walking) partner. Meditate on Scripture. Pray. Train for godliness. - [Sabbath](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/sabbath/) - Setting aside a day to pray and play with the Lord will help you to live in Sabbath-rest. - [Sanctification Gap](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/sanctification-gap/) - We need to narrow the gap between our head knowledge of Jesus and our actual experience of him. - [Scripture Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/scripture-meditation/) - Here’s help to rely on the Word of God as a life-giving substance to renew your mind and life. - [Scripture Memory](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/scripture-memory/) - Memorizing long passages from the Bible incorporates the flow of God’s life into your body and soul. - [Self-Denial](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/self-denial/) - When we abstain from something we want for a time we make space for greater intimacy with Jesus. - [Self-Esteem](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/self-esteem/) - Live out of your God-created and God-redeemed self to hold your head high. - [Sin](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/sin/) - Sin is rejecting the Lord. It harms the kingdom of God, other people, and ourselves. - [Smile!](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/smile/) - Smile a prayer to God — you’ll discover that in Jesus he’s smiling at you! - [Solitude and Silence](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/solitude-and-silence/) - Practice being alone and quiet with God to be found in him and restored by him. - [Spiritual Development](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/spiritual-development/) - Your life is meant to be a journey of going through stages with Jesus to become more like him. - [Spiritual Direction/Mentoring](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/spiritual-direction-mentoring/) - A relationship in which one person helps another to hear, experience, and follow Jesus. - [Spiritual Disciplines](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/spiritual-disciplines/) - When we use exercises that connect us with Christ, he grows us to be more like him. - [Spiritual Warfare](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/spiritual-warfare/) - Rely on Jesus to overcome Satan’s lies and accusations that would disconnect you from God’s life. - [St Nicholas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/st-nicholas/) - The real Santa Claus is Saint Nicholas and he devoted his life to Jesus. - [Thankfulness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/thankfulness/) - The most healthy and holy thing you can do in any situation is to be grateful to God. - [Transformation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/transformation/) - Real change — really becoming more like Jesus — is possible! - [Trust God in Trials](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/trust-god-trials/) - Don’t wish your trials away — look for Jesus in your midst and learn from him about him and yourself. - [Trinity](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/trinity/) - Father, Son, and Spirit are the community you long for. Each has a special way to love you and others. - [Venture on God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/venture-on-god/) - Stepping into the unknown while looking to the hand of God to move. Joining what God is doing.Ventu - [Unhurried](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/unhurried/) - Living in a hurry is a soul dis-ease that causes physical sickness. Why hurry? Jesus didn’t. - [Watch and Pray](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/watch-and-pray/) - To overcome a struggle, anticipate it and train with Jesus to be different on the inside before the trial. - [Worship God](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/worship-god/) - Give thanks and praise to God always. You and those around you will come alive! - [Stories](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/stories/) - [Pre-Marital Counseling](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/pre-marital-counseling/) - Surveys and articles to help seriously dating and engaged couples - [Cross of Christ](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/cross-of-christ/) - Through the cross Jesus gives us his life and shows us how to live. Our sins are forgiven! We’re reconciled to God! - [Julian of Norwich](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/julian-of-norwich/) - [Augustine](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/augustine/) - [William Law](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/william-law/) - [F. B. Meyer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/f-b-meyer/) - [Thomas a Kempis](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/thomas-a-kempis/) - [Aelred of Rievaulx](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/aelred-of-rievaulx/) - [Secure Attachment](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/secure-attachment/) - [Andrew Murray](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/andrew-murray/) - [Frank Laubach](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/frank-laubach/) - [Thomas Kelly](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/thomas-kelly/) - [Bless Your Pastor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/bless-your-pastor/) - [Henri Nouwen](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/henri-nouwen/) - [Pain](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/pain/) - [Fenelon](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/fenelon/) - [Heaven](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/heaven/) - [Sabbatical](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/sabbatical/) - [Ignatius](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/ignatius/) - [Israel](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/israel/) - [Gospel of Mark](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/gospel-of-mark/) - [St Benedict](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/st-benedict/) - [Sexuality](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/sexuality/) - [C. 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Lewis](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/c-s-lewis/) - [Francis of Assisi](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/francis-of-assisi/) - [The Lord's Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/lords-prayer/) - [Ignatian Meditation](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/ignatian-meditation/) - [Jeanne Guyon](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/jeanne-guyon/) - [John Wesley](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/john-wesley/) - [Hope](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/hope/) - [Brennan Manning](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/brennan-manning/) - [Nature](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/nature/) - [Animals](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/animals/) - [Rest](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/rest/) - [Self-Hatred](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/self-hatred/) - [Trauma](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/trauma/) - [Shame](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/shame/) - [Prayer](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/prayer/) - [Insecure Attachment](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/insecure-attachment/) - [Enneagram](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/enneagram/) - [Speakers and Preachers](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/speakers-and-preachers/) - For speakers, preachers, bloggers, etc - [pastor](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/pastor/) - [Benediction](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/benediction/) - Open your heart to God’s Word of blessing. - [Be Still (Contemplation)](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/be-still-contemplation/) - [Emotional Honesty](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/emotional-honesty/) - [Emotions](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/emotions/) - [gratefulness](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/gratefulness/) - [Gratitude](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/gratitude/) - [Thanksgiving](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/thanksgiving/) - [Coaching](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/coaching/) - [Growth](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/growth/) - [Christmas](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/christmas/) - [Devotional](https://www.soulshepherding.org/tag/devotional/) - 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